Fit For Future Families - April 2011

Chii - it sounds likes a rough way to end up on the pill! Sorry you had to go through that All birth control pills prevent ovulation, and it is possible to ovulate without getting your period. The only way to know if you're not is to 1) track your basal body temperature, or 2) have ultrasound scans done. You may get a lot out of tracking your temp - it can teach you so much about your own body! It needs to be tracked for a few months to see a pattern, so it could be something you could start now, and then when you see the doc you could have a lot of information to help narrow things down.

Good luck and welcome (again)!

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Can I join this group?

I'm Ashley. I'm recently new to MFP. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for a little over 1. We have a 2 year old son and an almost 6 month old daughter.

I've been overweight all my life, and have tried dieting many, many times. I've finally come to the realization that I need to make this a lifestyle change.

Both of my pregnancies were difficult. My last pregnancy was the worst though. I had high blood pressure from 5 months until the end. I had a pre-e scare, and thought my daughter was going to be born at 34weeks. Luckily, my bp was able to be mantained with medicine.

My husband and I are wanting to have one more child. I NEED to lose some weight before we do though. I'm wanting to lose, all together, 120lbs. But I'm looking to lose 60lbs before getting pregnant again. I'm currently 267lbs. We're hoping to start trying within the next 6 months-1 year.

Heather: I'm sorry he will be gone so much longer! I can imagine it would be difficult to have him far away - especially with being pregnant. I pray everything goes well for you

Heather- I don’t know what is going on over there but we love you and I’m happy you came to check in with us :flowerforyou: ! I’m sorry hubby will be gone longer than expected!!! I know that has to be hard, but we are here when you need us. P.S. Your ticker is sooooo fricken cute :bigsmile:

Pam- ER visits are no fun, I'm glad you are feeling better

Ashley- Welcome!

My mantra right now is…Stress, stress, stress, GO AWAY and don’t ever come back any other day...I'm not doing very well meeting the goal I stole from Pam...I'm going to coninue to try

My baby fever is getting the best of me today. All of these young girls(high school age) I know keep complaining on facebook this morning about what a pain it is to be having a baby and I'm forcing myself to bite my tongue. I don't know whether I feel like yelling at one of them or crying. It's so frustrating to want something so badly and know that without about $15,000 and really great results, I can't have it, while so many people that absolutely don't want babies are having them. My hubby is coming for lunch so I'm venting now so I don't do it with him. He wants me to tell him how I'm feeling but I try not to express my frustration about this topic because I know he feels guilty and thinks its his fault (even though he most certainly should no!t). Anyways, I'm sure I'll be over it by the afternoon but its just getting to me that after having to fight so hard three times to beat cancer so my husband can be alive to actually have a family, that we can't have one. Ok, vent over. I just need to focus on saving money, losing weight and bettering myself so we can provide a healthy lifestyle for our baby(s) when it happens in God's timing. I just have to keep reminding myself of that.

My baby fever is getting the best of me today. All of these young girls(high school age) I know keep complaining on facebook this morning about what a pain it is to be having a baby and I'm forcing myself to bite my tongue. I don't know whether I feel like yelling at one of them or crying. It's so frustrating to want something so badly and know that without about $15,000 and really great results, I can't have it, while so many people that absolutely don't want babies are having them. My hubby is coming for lunch so I'm venting now so I don't do it with him. He wants me to tell him how I'm feeling but I try not to express my frustration about this topic because I know he feels guilty and thinks its his fault (even though he most certainly should no!t). Anyways, I'm sure I'll be over it by the afternoon but its just getting to me that after having to fight so hard three times to beat cancer so my husband can be alive to actually have a family, that we can't have one. Ok, vent over. I just need to focus on saving money, losing weight and bettering myself so we can provide a healthy lifestyle for our baby(s) when it happens in God's timing. I just have to keep reminding myself of that.

It's so hard! Teenagers, friends, that person who already has more kids than they want and then whoops--I'm pregnant again--it's really hard when you are on the other side of that fence looking over. Sigh. Deep breath. You and your husband have already overcome so much adversity to get where you are--I have absolute faith that this trial too will resolve itself in time. It just sucks to be in the "in between" time...doesn't it?

Kah, I think you really hit it on the head. It's that in-between time that gets me. But I also realize that there are many couples who have waited a VERY long time for their families so I am greatful that we are just starting the process. I feel like once we do have a child, we will appreciate it so much more and truly understand what a blessing it is to have a child.

On a happy note, the hubby and I had a GREAT conversation last night! We really got to communicate our feelings about the whole process and it was really great to understand how each other feels. Until last night, we had all of our cards on the table to consider as far as options. Since we are still in "the process" of saving money we were still considering both IVF and adoption because they will be equally expensive. On one hand, with IVF we could have our own child but we could save all that money and have the embryo not take. On the other hand, we could adopt and be "guaranteed" (eventually) a child but it wouldn't be our biological child. So, we were exploring all of our options. We had chosen Lifetime Adoption Agency as our focus on that side of the choices in order to get more information and really figure out what we wanted to do. They had a teleconference last night about the 3 main things that you need to know before adopting through their agency, and after listening, the hubby and I had a great discussion about what we really wanted, and we BOTH realized that we aren't ready to consider adoption. We both like the idea of adopting, but when it comes down to it, we really want to exhaust our options trying for our own baby before going that route. For me it was really that I realized that I wouldn't be able to handle the jealousy of the birthmom getting to carry the baby and experience the pregnancy and the ultrasounds...for the hubby, I think he was afraid of taking responsibility of "someone else's" child withot "practicing" on our own, and he felt like he wanted adoption to be a final option, even in terms of having kids after having a biological child. We even took the conversation as far as when we would decide it was time to try adoption and what ages we would consider. Anyways, it was a great, honest conversation and for now, adoption is officially of the table so our official focus is IVF. I think it really always was, but it's OFFICIAL now Yay!!!