Is Partying Worth It?
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Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
THIS!!!!!!0 -
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
THIS!!!!!!
My frustration wasn't in respect to the party. I'm not that self-centered.
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billieljaime wrote: »umm you are cute?
as for the party, if you WANT to go then go, if you dont want to than dont.
Honestly I think you would have more fun at a dance club. No real pressure to drink if you dont want to and you can dance your booty off instead of standing around gossiping and watching other people get drunk.
People go to college parties to get drunk, not buy tupperware so be aware that is a factor and be prepared to leave if you think it may not be your cup of tea.
Tell your boyfriend to calm down, it doesnt matter if you go to a party or to the mailbox, anyone is liable to be flirted with at any time. It is only with in your control to reciprocate or not. You cant control others, only your own behaviour. Does he trust you?
did she say she likes dancing? i haven't seen that. i hate dance clubs.
I love dancing, actually. But not in clubs--BF wouldn't go with me anyway and I'm not about to dance with anyone else. BF hates dancing, which is unfortunate--especially when I wanted to join a swing club last year. Oh well, we all have to make compromises.0 -
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
I don't understand this sort of comment.
Just because somebody has a good life and no major issues, doesn't mean they can't ask a question about a minor issue.
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paperpudding wrote: »
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
I don't understand this sort of comment.
Just because somebody has a good life and no major issues, doesn't mean they can't ask a question about a minor issue.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
My point was, in 10 years she will indeed be more "jaded". So, if she already hates being an "adult" (supported by parents while attending college full time and worrying about fashion and parties) she'll undoubtedly enjoy it less as things get a bit more real.
yep, most likely.0 -
malavika413 wrote: »
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
THIS!!!!!!
My frustration wasn't in respect to the party. I'm not that self-centered.
Yeah ok. :laugh:0 -
A nice way to experience a party if you don't want to drink (you'll have plenty of opportunities once you're 21
) is to offer to be a designated driver. You'll have a good "excuse" not to partake and people will appreciate it. ( I'd hope) You will also be able to deal with any peer pressure to "just have one" if you know you're there to be responsible. 0 -
OP is not in USA if I remember correctly.
Perfectly legal to drink at 18 in many countries 0 -
paperpudding wrote: »OP is not in USA if I remember correctly.
Perfectly legal to drink at 18 in many countries
her location says illinois, so it isn't legal to drink.0 -
I can't even wrap my mind around putting this much thought into going to a party.0
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You know what?
Gaining new experiences, making a decision based on what YOU think, figuring out how YOU want to live YOUR life...?
That is what makes it worth it.
But really...
You hang out with friends and have a few beers.
You go home and life goes on.
Partying is worth nothing.
What you experience, discover, and get out of life is worth everything.
You don't want to go because YOU don't want to?
Then don't.
But make sure that no one else is playing a factor in these decisions.
Now is the time to find yourself.0 -
Well if you've never drank in your life and are planning on going to a college party, be careful. Make sure you're with good friends who will take care of you. And don't do shots lol! They'll hit you hard in a couple hours and you won't know a thing that happens till you wake up...which is the dangerous part.
Like some others have suggested, you don't need to drink to have fun. I used to DD mostly before I was 21, and let me tell you, it's entertaining!0 -
Go at least once just so you know what you're missing - which isn't much in my opinion. Then, you won't have to look back and wonder. Make sure you've got somebody you trust to hang out with, and don't get drunk for your first time amongst a bunch of strangers. I think it's actually more fun to NOT be drunk. You can watch all the other animals act stupid. Stay safe and have fun.
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So what happened? Did OP go to a party?0
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Yep, and now her man is so disappointed he's going to leave her.0
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paperpudding wrote: »OP is not in USA if I remember correctly.
Perfectly legal to drink at 18 in many countries
her location says illinois, so it isn't legal to drink.
Oh ok.
I thought she was in UK, must be getting her mixed up with some one else on another thread.
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malavika413 wrote: »
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
THIS!!!!!!
My frustration wasn't in respect to the party. I'm not that self-centered.
Yeah ok. :laugh:
I'm neurotic, yes. Annoying, yes. Self-centered? I don't think so, but then again you don't know me from anything other than this thread.
There's just a lot of things pulling me in different directions. It's not so much about the party than the kind of person I want to be. Here, there's a sharp division between those who party and those who don't. For instance, I'm in a dance show and the leader asked everyone what kind of drinks they wanted. Naive me asked for a bottled water and everyone burst out laughing. It was quite embarrassing. So that part of me says 'get shitfaced like everyone else!' But I wouldn't be able to bear the disappointed look on my boyfriend's face if I admitted to drinking even a little.0 -
paperpudding wrote: »
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
I don't understand this sort of comment.
Just because somebody has a good life and no major issues, doesn't mean they can't ask a question about a minor issue.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
My point was, in 10 years she will indeed be more "jaded". So, if she already hates being an "adult" (supported by parents while attending college full time and worrying about fashion and parties) she'll undoubtedly enjoy it less as things get a bit more real.
There are plenty of real conflicts in my life. Granted, I'm very lucky for what I have--but when you're depressed it's difficult to see those things in times of stress. I wrote that comment out of exam frustration--finals are around the corner here. (No, I'm not thinking of going to parties during finals week, that would be stupid).0 -
sensitivefool wrote: »You know what?
Gaining new experiences, making a decision based on what YOU think, figuring out how YOU want to live YOUR life...?
That is what makes it worth it.
But really...
You hang out with friends and have a few beers.
You go home and life goes on.
Partying is worth nothing.
What you experience, discover, and get out of life is worth everything.
You don't want to go because YOU don't want to?
Then don't.
But make sure that no one else is playing a factor in these decisions.
Now is the time to find yourself.
I guess I don't really know what I want to do. I'm used to making these sorts of choices for other people. I don't really have a lot of strong opinions, I generally just go with what people want me to do.0 -
yes. ALWAYS party...0
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malavika413 wrote: »malavika413 wrote: »
Dude, you're a full time university student. You have two married parents who are probably supporting you. You are of normal weight. You assumedly have good health. You describe having a quality boyfriend who values you. And your major concern expressed in this thread is whether or not to go to a party.malavika413 wrote: »The point is, I'm really not all that young. I'm an adult and I already hate it. In 10 years I'm going to be even more jaded.
Yeah. Don't worry. Someday life may actually throw you a curveball or expect you to solve a real problem. Or something. <OMG>
THIS!!!!!!
My frustration wasn't in respect to the party. I'm not that self-centered.
Yeah ok. :laugh:
I'm neurotic, yes. Annoying, yes. Self-centered? I don't think so, but then again you don't know me from anything other than this thread.
There's just a lot of things pulling me in different directions. It's not so much about the party than the kind of person I want to be. Here, there's a sharp division between those who party and those who don't. For instance, I'm in a dance show and the leader asked everyone what kind of drinks they wanted. Naive me asked for a bottled water and everyone burst out laughing. It was quite embarrassing. So that part of me says 'get shitfaced like everyone else!' But I wouldn't be able to bear the disappointed look on my boyfriend's face if I admitted to drinking even a little.
I wish I had these kind of problems... :yawn:
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Oh my god, loosen up and go to a party. Try alcohol. Dump your overprotective bf.0
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And for the record, you don't have to be one type of person. You can go to a party and get shitfaced one night, and work hard the next. Just do what you want to do.
I'm not saying you have to love partying or drinking. It might not be your thing. But you won't know if you don't try.
Plus- better to get it out of your system now rather than have a mid-life crisis. Do your partying (in moderation ) at the age you're supposed to or you might regret it.0 -
I think you should be honest with your BF about wanting to go to a college party just to see what it is like. You shouldn't let him control you so you need to feel you have to hide anything from him. Go with a trusted girlfriend(s). If you have never touched alcohol, perhaps this isn't the place to experiment, just for safety's sake. Wear whatever you want to wear that makes you feel good about yourself. Be smart. Be safe. Do what YOU want to do. Live un-apologetically and don't let anyone tell you how to live your life. Good luck and I hope you have a wonderful time! 0
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ALWAYS PARTY0
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malavika413 wrote: »
Additionally, I'm not sure what the boundary is in dressing 'cute', and dressing 'like a slut'. I feel I'd make a mistake if I tried, so I tend to stick to sweaters.
also fyi there's no such thing as "dressing like a slut" k thanks bye0 -
amy0louise wrote: »Oh my god, loosen up and go to a party. Try alcohol. Dump your overprotective bf.
I don't want to dump him. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me!0 -
malavika413 wrote: »amy0louise wrote: »Oh my god, loosen up and go to a party. Try alcohol. Dump your overprotective bf.
I don't want to dump him. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me!
Even though he doesn't let you make any decisions for yourself? Sounds great....0 -
TavistockToad wrote: »
Even though he doesn't let you make any decisions for yourself? Sounds great....
this. everyone's gotta be free to make their own decisions. one side doing everything isn't a relationship its a dictatorship, no offense.
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TavistockToad wrote: »malavika413 wrote: »amy0louise wrote: »Oh my god, loosen up and go to a party. Try alcohol. Dump your overprotective bf.
I don't want to dump him. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me!
Even though he doesn't let you make any decisions for yourself? Sounds great....
Once again, he has never forbidden me from doing anything. He merely expressed his opinions regarding partying and alcohol. In fact, he's a lot less protective than some guys I know. I danced on stage yesterday and there was a booty-shaking part to the dance, and ALL his friends were saying "how could you let her do that? Don't you have any control over her?!" And he said "It's her life, her body, her decision. I thought she looked great on stage and I was happy to be there to support her."
The decisions are always mine--I just don't want to disappoint him because he's always so good to me.0
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