Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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nigerski68 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »nigerski68 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »salembambi wrote: »HawtTamale wrote: »I refuse to have sex with the lights on for fear the man I'm with will see my body and be so repulsed he'll refuse to have sex with me.
ugh i feeel you![:\](https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
I have to ask both you ladies WHY?? He loves you, right? So he loves your body!! If he was repulsed by you, he would not be with you now!!
I've been with my husband 25 years, we have a 23 yr old son and my husband loves me dearly. Most times he's wonderful and I wouldn't trade him for the world. He insists that he doesn't care about my weight, he loves me and how I look doesn't matter, blah blah blah. In 25 years he's never seen me naked. Not one time. Even with having a child and nursing me through cervical cancer three years ago. He'd be ecstatic to shower together or get to leave the lights on but I refuse. I hate my body so much and I KNOW he would be absolutely disgusted with me and never admit it.
This is incredibly sad.
Not saying that in a judging way, but wow. That's got to be an awful way to live, for both of you.
You're right, it is. It's something I hope to work on. I know it doesn't make sense and I know he loves me. My brain knows it. But that fat girl that was always teased and always hating her body says otherwise.
I hope you figure this out some day. My guess is that it is not really about weight. What if you get down to *magical goal weight* and still don't feel comfortable?
Have you ever thought about getting some counseling?
I can relate to the feeling of not being comfortable in your own body. My stomach is awful due to some medical things that I have to deal with. That's where ALL of my remaining body fat is, and it's the only place where I have loose skin. I also have 10 surgical scars on my abdomen. I won't look at this part of my body in the mirror at all...but for sex? I don't know...I guess I just let it go and don't worry about it.
With somebody you trust who you have been with for 25 years? I just can't imagine being so afraid. You shouldn't have to live that way.0 -
I am bringing a 2/3rds of the way empty suitcase with me when I go to Tucson tomorrow. I plan on indulging in some power shopping when I am away from home. Husband doesn't ask because he doesn't want to know.0
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I publicly applaud my boyfriend's weight loss but secretly I'm super jealous that it only took him four or five months to lose 10kg whereas it took me over a year.0
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snarlingcoyote wrote: »I am bringing a 2/3rds of the way empty suitcase with me when I go to Tucson tomorrow. I plan on indulging in some power shopping when I am away from home. Husband doesn't ask because he doesn't want to know.
What can you power shop for in Tucson?
Suitcase full of Talavera?0 -
My confession is that I can't let different foods touch each other on the plate.
Last night I had a piece of chicken, some mashed potato, peas, and carrots. I had to very very carefully spoon the peas onto the plate so that they didn't roll away and get into the potato or go under the chicken, and if that had happened, I would have carefully picked them out. I then eat each type of food one at a time in a certain order: vegetables first (carrots first, then peas), then the potato, then the meat. Meat is always last.
I do not know what this says about me.
Did your parents have a thing about making you eat your vegetables? I ate like that for years, and it started because I had to eat 2 bites of whatever vegetable when we had them, so I'd eat them quick to get them over with. It went on from there.0 -
My confession is that I can't let different foods touch each other on the plate.
Last night I had a piece of chicken, some mashed potato, peas, and carrots. I had to very very carefully spoon the peas onto the plate so that they didn't roll away and get into the potato or go under the chicken, and if that had happened, I would have carefully picked them out. I then eat each type of food one at a time in a certain order: vegetables first (carrots first, then peas), then the potato, then the meat. Meat is always last.
I do not know what this says about me.
That you haven't had kids! They'll mess up that plan no time soon. Imagine holding a toddler on your lap while trying to keep your plate orderly.
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »snarlingcoyote wrote: »I am bringing a 2/3rds of the way empty suitcase with me when I go to Tucson tomorrow. I plan on indulging in some power shopping when I am away from home. Husband doesn't ask because he doesn't want to know.
What can you power shop for in Tucson?
Suitcase full of Talavera?
Ahhh. . .you don't see the appeal. For 2 nights, the only thing I will have to come home to is a hotel room. I can spend that time shopping for me, me and me.
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »nigerski68 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »nigerski68 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »salembambi wrote: »HawtTamale wrote: »I refuse to have sex with the lights on for fear the man I'm with will see my body and be so repulsed he'll refuse to have sex with me.
ugh i feeel you
I have to ask both you ladies WHY?? He loves you, right? So he loves your body!! If he was repulsed by you, he would not be with you now!!
I've been with my husband 25 years, we have a 23 yr old son and my husband loves me dearly. Most times he's wonderful and I wouldn't trade him for the world. He insists that he doesn't care about my weight, he loves me and how I look doesn't matter, blah blah blah. In 25 years he's never seen me naked. Not one time. Even with having a child and nursing me through cervical cancer three years ago. He'd be ecstatic to shower together or get to leave the lights on but I refuse. I hate my body so much and I KNOW he would be absolutely disgusted with me and never admit it.
This is incredibly sad.
Not saying that in a judging way, but wow. That's got to be an awful way to live, for both of you.
You're right, it is. It's something I hope to work on. I know it doesn't make sense and I know he loves me. My brain knows it. But that fat girl that was always teased and always hating her body says otherwise.
I hope you figure this out some day. My guess is that it is not really about weight. What if you get down to *magical goal weight* and still don't feel comfortable?
Have you ever thought about getting some counseling?
I can relate to the feeling of not being comfortable in your own body. My stomach is awful due to some medical things that I have to deal with. That's where ALL of my remaining body fat is, and it's the only place where I have loose skin. I also have 10 surgical scars on my abdomen. I won't look at this part of my body in the mirror at all...but for sex? I don't know...I guess I just let it go and don't worry about it.
With somebody you trust who you have been with for 25 years? I just can't imagine being so afraid. You shouldn't have to live that way.
Speaking as a man...
Confidence is sexy. Period.
Give me a 175 lb woman who is confident in her body and ready to throw down over a 100lb woman who is and wants to cover things.
And in a relationship... The trust required to "let it all hang out" warts, fat rolls and all, is part of what builds intimacy IMHO.
You should take a few shots and let it go. It will bring you closer together.0 -
momspective wrote: »I went on a cruise with my husband last month. I gained ten pounds, he didn't gain an ounce. I was so pissed I told him I had a UTI and couldn't have sex for ten days.
I laughed so hard at this, the dogs came over with concerned looks on their faces.
I've eaten premade frosting out of the jar before. I also eat cookie butter out of the jar. In fact, that's how 1.5 jars of cookie butter got consumed in this house... all but the 1/2 jar I used in a recipe.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »My biggest confession re exercise - my one, huge, massive stuimbling block to exercise is my husband. He isn't sabotaging me, he's totally supportive but he's not keen on doing exercise himself, and we're so ridiculously co-dependant that I'd rather just be with him than be out doing any exercise. We're like teenagers, and if I wasn't one of us, we'd make me want to puke. So yeah. I skip exercise so I can mush out with my beau.
My husband and I were like that when we were dating, but we both like the gym. When he lost access I gain a bunch of weight, because I always wanted to stay with him.
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stacerracer wrote: »I hide stuff in my car. chips. chocolate in the winter......eat it then don't log it. idk why because its only affecting me.. its like i think just because nobody saw me eat it it didn't happen. I also smoke and afraid to quite again cause last time I gained 40 lbs. excuses is all they are and I can't stop making excuses
signed.
the queen of excuses.
I have now been smoke free for 547 days! I am using vapor. I was smoking a little over a pack a day and started my vapor at 24 mg of nicotine. I am now down to 4 mg of nicotine. It was hard, but I find the vapor helps, especially when in the car. It is the habit that is hard to break. Plus, I don't have to go outside to "smoke". Especially when it is really cold or really hot outside.
The hardest part is wanting to quit. I didn't want to because I enjoyed smoking. But my mom mentioned one day that my son's jacket smelled like smoke but I never smoked around him and always outside. It was just from hugging him or being around him after I smoked. I decided then I needed to quit.
It is hard, but if you want to, it is possible!!
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This happened to me while I was running my first 10k. Again, no bathrooms on course. Ugh, why does running make the grossest things happen?
Better question: why are there no restrooms on the route?!?!
This happened to one of the girls in Boot Camp when we had our final timed 2 mile run. We were both close to the maximum time allowed. It was a stressful time and I think I am the only one that saw. I felt bad for her, but we all did things in Boot Camp we couldn't help!
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ejuliano85 wrote: »
This happened to me while I was running my first 10k. Again, no bathrooms on course. Ugh, why does running make the grossest things happen?
Better question: why are there no restrooms on the route?!?!
This happened to one of the girls in Boot Camp when we had our final timed 2 mile run. We were both close to the maximum time allowed. It was a stressful time and I think I am the only one that saw. I felt bad for her, but we all did things in Boot Camp we couldn't help!
Ah, distance running. The only hobby where nipple bleeding and soiling yourself are part of the fun!0 -
I watch the documentary "hungry for change" at least once every 2 weeks to try and keep myself motivated and remind me of the crap we call food. Some bad weeks Ill watch it twice.
If I have a night out with the girls *drinks* I count half the wine for one day, and the other half for the next. Those days I have to not eat much to make up for the excess cals.
I have stopped hanging out with the girls because our social events revolve around food and booze.
I often eat at night. I wake up hungry all the time. AND It sucks. Worst is I often get into the peanut butter (all natural kraft) AND I EAT IT BY THE SPOONFUL!
Sometimes when I'm seriously craving sugar, and have nothing, I will take Smuckers Strawberry Jam by the spoonful. Shameful I know.
I have had digestive issues for years AND was labelled IBS until I discovered gluten-free and yeast free diet. Since I feel fantastic, BUT I AM TIRED Of people saying "it's just a fad". Its not. Its a new life for me! I secretly wish they could spend a mnth gluten intolerant, and be forced fed gluten and yeast and know what its like to feel like a 9mnth pregnant woman, with serious abd pains, that u feel like u want to burst AND know what its like to *kitten* fire on a regular basis. I think then the judgment would stop.
I also cant stand it when skinny people complain their butt looks big or asks if a certain piece of clothing makes them look fat. I think these people are just looking for reassurance and compliments. SOMETIMES I feel like saying "yes it makes u look fat and huge and u better get a butt tuck or something" lol. BUT I'm not really that mean. Just annoyed.
I hate it when my doctor tells me I need to lose weight, Like I am somehow lazy or no willpower. I have avoided seeing my family doctor simply because I didn't want to hear his broken record report again saying my BMI is still too high. Thing is I have radically changed my diet and lifestyle and kick *kitten* in the gym. I hate how "numbers define us". What digs me the most is I'm sure I can jog faster and longer than he probably can.
I had also stopped taking my cat to the vet for general every 6mth checkups because they had told me she was fat and I felt like a bad mother. My cat is on a calorie reduced diet as well AND has successfully lost 2lbs safely over the last year. *she is healthy and well* *and gets her vaccinations and check ups regularly* no one freak. NO animal abuse here lol.
I secretly always believed I was single because I was fat.
That turns out to be not the case at all. I was single because I didn't let people in, or I let the wrong men in.
I sometimes fantasize about eating junk food. all the bad stuff. while I chew on celery sticks or eat spinache salad.
Even though I am curvaceous and have a high BMI I love my body.
This feels good to let it all out!
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dougpconnell219 wrote: »ejuliano85 wrote: »
This happened to me while I was running my first 10k. Again, no bathrooms on course. Ugh, why does running make the grossest things happen?
Better question: why are there no restrooms on the route?!?!
This happened to one of the girls in Boot Camp when we had our final timed 2 mile run. We were both close to the maximum time allowed. It was a stressful time and I think I am the only one that saw. I felt bad for her, but we all did things in Boot Camp we couldn't help!
Ah, distance running. The only hobby where nipple bleeding and soiling yourself are part of the fun!
Nipple bleeding?? What kind of distance running is that???0 -
I do this! hahaMissAmulet75 wrote: »I sometimes fantasize about eating junk food. all the bad stuff. while I chew on celery sticks or eat spinach salad.
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ejuliano85 wrote: »dougpconnell219 wrote: »ejuliano85 wrote: »
This happened to me while I was running my first 10k. Again, no bathrooms on course. Ugh, why does running make the grossest things happen?
Better question: why are there no restrooms on the route?!?!
This happened to one of the girls in Boot Camp when we had our final timed 2 mile run. We were both close to the maximum time allowed. It was a stressful time and I think I am the only one that saw. I felt bad for her, but we all did things in Boot Camp we couldn't help!
Ah, distance running. The only hobby where nipple bleeding and soiling yourself are part of the fun!
Nipple bleeding?? What kind of distance running is that???
I've always been told that marathon runners can have thier nipples chafe until they bled. That's why there is some sort of glide gel they wear.0 -
dougpconnell219 wrote: »ejuliano85 wrote: »dougpconnell219 wrote: »ejuliano85 wrote: »
This happened to me while I was running my first 10k. Again, no bathrooms on course. Ugh, why does running make the grossest things happen?
Better question: why are there no restrooms on the route?!?!
This happened to one of the girls in Boot Camp when we had our final timed 2 mile run. We were both close to the maximum time allowed. It was a stressful time and I think I am the only one that saw. I felt bad for her, but we all did things in Boot Camp we couldn't help!
Ah, distance running. The only hobby where nipple bleeding and soiling yourself are part of the fun!
Nipple bleeding?? What kind of distance running is that???
I've always been told that marathon runners can have thier nipples chafe until they bled. That's why there is some sort of glide gel they wear.
Well, for chicks it doesn't even take marathons if you're wearing the wrong bra.0 -
Today I was 100 calories over my limit (I didn't want to be in the red and I didn't work out today) so I logged 30 minutes of calisthenics - which were actually 30 minutes of sweeping and mopping the floor -.0
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I got the staff in my American hotel to make pancakes how we have them in Britain for me for pancake day. They found the batter recipe online and had a practice run first. Me and my colleague both had seconds!0
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Today, I ate 120+% of my daily fiber needs in one sitting...
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Ha ha. How did you know?!
I was so embarrassed today.0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »
My confession: I am not religious at all, bordering on slightly anti-religious. Still, it bothers me that people are not being allowed to discuss Lent on this site. As long as they are not assuming that everyone has the same practices, it seems like a valid diet-and-fitness-related discussion.
We are not allowed to discuss Lent?0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »
My confession: I am not religious at all, bordering on slightly anti-religious. Still, it bothers me that people are not being allowed to discuss Lent on this site. As long as they are not assuming that everyone has the same practices, it seems like a valid diet-and-fitness-related discussion.
We are not allowed to discuss Lent?
Can we still discuss lentils?0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »Carlos_421 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »It seems like some Protestants do observe Lent. I know that Lutherans do, because I take a Zumba class at a Lutheran church and we have to change our schedule due to Lent-related activities for six weeks. I'm pretty sure that Anglicans do too.
My confession: I am not religious at all, bordering on slightly anti-religious. Still, it bothers me that people are not being allowed to discuss Lent on this site. As long as they are not assuming that everyone has the same practices, it seems like a valid diet-and-fitness-related discussion.
You're right. Lutheran and Anglican churches, while Protestant, are not as far removed from Catholicism as other denominations such as Pentecostal, Baptist, Methodist, etc. and still maintain a lot of the same traditions.
I didn't realize Lent was taboo on here. There's been other threads that discussed religious fasts unrelated to Lent so I don't see what the big deal is.
My next confession: I talked about religion (sort of?) on MFP.
Yep--two Lent-related threads were closed yesterday. One of them was not even heated or contentious at all.
I'm also a bit weirded out by the "don't use any languages other than English" rule. It seems strange to me that a respectful discussion in another language is taboo.
Other than that, I confess that I like it here.
You can't post in other languages?? What is going on here? I was not aware of either of these things......
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I farted in a library once. I blamed it on the librarian0
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nigerski68 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »salembambi wrote: »HawtTamale wrote: »I refuse to have sex with the lights on for fear the man I'm with will see my body and be so repulsed he'll refuse to have sex with me.
ugh i feeel you
I have to ask both you ladies WHY?? He loves you, right? So he loves your body!! If he was repulsed by you, he would not be with you now!!
I've been with my husband 25 years, we have a 23 yr old son and my husband loves me dearly. Most times he's wonderful and I wouldn't trade him for the world. He insists that he doesn't care about my weight, he loves me and how I look doesn't matter, blah blah blah. In 25 years he's never seen me naked. Not one time. Even with having a child and nursing me through cervical cancer three years ago. He'd be ecstatic to shower together or get to leave the lights on but I refuse. I hate my body so much and I KNOW he would be absolutely disgusted with me and never admit it.
NO, he would not be disgusted with you! NO!
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momspective wrote: »I went on a cruise with my husband last month. I gained ten pounds, he didn't gain an ounce. I was so pissed I told him I had a UTI and couldn't have sex for ten days.
I laughed so hard at this, the dogs came over with concerned looks on their faces.
I've eaten premade frosting out of the jar before. I also eat cookie butter out of the jar. In fact, that's how 1.5 jars of cookie butter got consumed in this house... all but the 1/2 jar I used in a recipe.
What is cookie butter? BTW - great profile photo!0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »momspective wrote: »I went on a cruise with my husband last month. I gained ten pounds, he didn't gain an ounce. I was so pissed I told him I had a UTI and couldn't have sex for ten days.
I laughed so hard at this, the dogs came over with concerned looks on their faces.
I've eaten premade frosting out of the jar before. I also eat cookie butter out of the jar. In fact, that's how 1.5 jars of cookie butter got consumed in this house... all but the 1/2 jar I used in a recipe.
What is cookie butter? BTW - great profile photo!
Imagine if peanut butter was made with ground up cookies instead. Now wipe the drool off your chin 0
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