Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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I confess that sometimes while I am sitting at my computer listening to music I will get a random spurt of energy from nowhere and it is so powerful that I just have to get up and dance around until the feeling goes away. It's actually super hilarious because most of the time it's some really obscure song...and I become really embarrassed. Thank god it only happens when my boyfriend is away hah!0
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[/quote]I dont have tons of friends, but now that my kids are a little older I kind of can't wait to plan a solo weekend away. Other moms have acted like I was nuts when I said that, but I fully trust their dad to take care of them, and I really hate the idea that moms can't take a break every now and then without feeling guilty.
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When my kids were young I used to go off on a weekend twice a year alone. We had moved to a new state and I took off on my weekend leaving my husband in charge as usual. He called me the first morning I was gone totally indignant. Three of the neighborhood women had called to see if he needed any help getting the kids ready for school and one brought breakfast over.
[/quote]mysticlizard wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »
I dont have tons of friends, but now that my kids are a little older I kind of can't wait to plan a solo weekend away. Other moms have acted like I was nuts when I said that, but I fully trust their dad to take care of them, and I really hate the idea that moms can't take a break every now and then without feeling guilty.
When my kids were young I used to go off on a weekend twice a year alone. We had moved to a new state and I took off on my weekend leaving my husband in charge as usual. He called me the first morning I was gone totally indignant. Three of the neighborhood women had called to see if he needed any help getting the kids ready for school and one brought breakfast over.
That is hilariously sad haha. There are a lot of great dads out there. They may not do things exactly the way we do, but they love their kids and can manage without us just fine.0 -
rungirl1973 wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »My sister and I are 7.5 years apart (I am older). We have nothing in common and I seriously think one of us was adopted. We barely talk and have nothing in common. I wish my sister was my friend.
I don't really have much in common with my sister, either but we get alongberlynnwall wrote: »My son's dad is a real douche, he greatly contributed to my PND issues after I had my son (cheating, not contributing to rent and racking up debt in my name, no baby help, verbally abusive, smashed my belongings etcetc). I finally left when my son was 18 months and he has refused to see him since just before his 2nd birthday and he constantly quits jobs so he doesn't have to pay child maintenance.
Confession: I still feel just as peed off about it now as I did in the beginning and I'm not a particularly angry person but I have fantasised about bumping into him and having my say about the whole thing (I have held my tongue for my sons sake).
2nd confession: I feel guilty about still letting confession 1 get to me as it has been nearly 2 years since I left and I think everyone thinks I should just get over it now.
3rd confession: I'm making damn sure that if I do bump into him again (not likely as I had to move counties to get away from him) I am going to look super hot and he will know he didn't break me and me and my son are far better off without him.
Phew it feels good to get that off my chest!
Don't let the anger consume you, but something like that does take a long time to get over - especially when you have a little one who you see being affected by it every day. I unfortunately know from experience. It took me about 3 years to stop feeling deeply upset. I still wouldn't mind if my ex got hit by a car.
It sucks doesn't it? Don't worry, day to day I'm fine and don't think of it, its the nights I can't sleep and the mind wanders or if, for example, child maintenance phone to say they still can't find him in a job *eye roll*
It is less severe than it was so I guess time IS healing, I just want it to heal faster!
Confession - went out today with a friend and my son, have worked hard this week and banked an extra 600 cals for whatever delights lunch might have been and ended up with a sandwich and an apple (didn't fancy anything else once we were there!) So I am perfectly able to stay in my calories today...but I might just have the extra 600 anyway...because why the hell not?
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My kids' sperm donor was also a complete douche and sounds similar to yours. My kids are 21 and 20 now and haven't seen or heard from him in probably 15 years. You'd be most blessed if this happened to you, too. My kids wouldn't recognize their father if they ran into him in the street (not likely since none of us live near him). Sometimes, this is the best possible scenario, sadly. I've apologized to my kids for their lack of a father in their life, it's my fault for choosing so poorly when I was young. They are both older now than I was when I had them.
Ah sorry to hear you also suffered with a complete a-hole. I do hope, selfishly, that he doesn't come back but I won't stand in the way if he does, just do my best to protect my son and keep things as simple as possible
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I have no idea how those quotes got so messed up. WTH.0
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Confession: I'm a bridesmaid on April 10th and was shooting for a 4st loss by the time the date rolled round (just my original "deadline" when I first started mfp) and the other day I decided to slow down to 1lb/week as I was starting to find the calories (or lack of) a bit sad, so accepted I wouldn't meet my target, which is fine. As of this morning I only have another 2.5lbs to lose to hit that goal and I suddenly feel really geared up and competitive (with myself?!) to restrict a bit more and hit my target. But....
Confession 2: I went to a wholesalers similar to costco and bought a giant bag of Amaretti biscuits just for me.
Who the hell knows if I will hit that 4st loss or not? I don't care, I have amaretti
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Oh yeah, if you bake pepperoni slices, they become pepperoni chips. a serving size is 14 slices. i ate all the servings. because, pepperoni chips.
Also, I came to work on a Sunday *groan* to get caught up on paperwork that I could have been doing while I was loafing on these forums during the week. I spent the time watching Iron Man 3 on my tablet, I haven't seen it until today.
BECAUSE!!!! Iron Patriot was supposed to be Norman Osborn, not James Rhodes. However, because Sony owns the rights to Spiderman characters, Disney made the Iron man 3 movie with a recasting of the role, which kind of sucks because now they're doing Captain America Civil War and a Norman Osborn Iron Patriot would have been pivotal.0 -
Christen_87 wrote: »I keep eating the leftover cake in my freezer.... turns out its just as good frozen as it is warm and gooey.....every time I think I have it under control I END UP STUFFING MY FACE! Ugh I try to keep the junk food out of the house but with 2 kids and a husband who are not supportive this is getting really hard!!!
If you are making the cake, replace the oil with unsweetened apple sauce. The cake will come out just as moist, doesn't taste like apples, and it will be a few calories less. 0 -
Yep. But becuase my hands are thin people don't notice like they woudl if my hands looked stubby. If someone looks at my wrist they will notice. My friends like taking my rings and putting on thier pinky to see if they can get it to knuckle for entertainment. But when I got a right hand ruby ring from my hubby for my 40th I got a stunning 3/4 carat ruby with diamond halo ( like a diana ring) and it looks like a 1.5 carat would if I had normal hands. So it has it's advantages. But it is shocking how small my fingers are compared to my friends my height. And friends my height AND weight have double sized fingers compared to mine.azulvioleta6 wrote: »Here is a random confession/ fact brough on by reading people talk about finally being able to wear thier wedding rings again.. I have freakishly small hands, skinny and short fingers, and wrists. My ring finger is a 4 and my rings fit at 227 and at 150. Actually my left hand finger my ering is sized to a 3 3/4 so it won't slip off.
I am 5 9 and wear a 9 1/2 shoe and even at goal have a bigger frame esp hips and sholders.
When I shop for rings the salespeople never believe me and resize my hand everytime. BUT rings look great on me since I can wear a small stone and have it look huge LOL My bracelets all have to be kid size since my wrists is like 5 inches.
my husband calls them chicken wrists or my burger king hands (old commerical).
The hardest thing I did when learning to ride my motorcycle (harley softail deluxe)is figure out how to get my hands to operate the control with my tiny finger span.
It sort looks like someone put a much smaller persons hand at the end of my arms.
It must!
I am about your height and shoe size...I have a metabolic issue that is causing my hands and feet to get really thin in order for my body to hold on to belly fat...but I still wear a size 8.5 or 9 ring. I think my wrists are 6.75 inches around. My hands and wrists are proportional to my body, but really without any extra fat at this point.
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tincanonastring wrote: »littled1986 wrote: »Now it's quiet here and I'm kind of embarrassed by my last post.
Don't be. You're amongst friends, even if we're not all here at the moment. I think we all have a secret motivation, even if it's just a little thing.
Yep, that is true. Good for you for sharing and you're right - at least try to find out one way or the other for sure how he feels so that you can move on, wherever that may be.
I plan to find out once I believe I'm lovable again. (I'm not sure exactly how) I think I'm great, except I don't think obese me is very attractive, and looking back I'm pretty sure my feelings towards myself affected our relationship. Now that I've discovered the ancient secret of counting calories for weightloss I can get back to normal weight me, and perhaps things can be mended. If not I might at least feel confident to jump back into the dating pool.
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Yep. But becuase my hands are thin people don't notice like they woudl if my hands looked stubby. If someone looks at my wrist they will notice. My friends like taking my rings and putting on thier pinky to see if they can get it to knuckle for entertainment. But when I got a right hand ruby ring from my hubby for my 40th I got a stunning 3/4 carat ruby with diamond halo ( like a diana ring) and it looks like a 1.5 carat would if I had normal hands. So it has it's advantages. But it is shocking how small my fingers are compared to my friends my height. And friends my height AND weight have double sized fingers compared to mine.azulvioleta6 wrote: »Here is a random confession/ fact brough on by reading people talk about finally being able to wear thier wedding rings again.. I have freakishly small hands, skinny and short fingers, and wrists. My ring finger is a 4 and my rings fit at 227 and at 150. Actually my left hand finger my ering is sized to a 3 3/4 so it won't slip off.
I am 5 9 and wear a 9 1/2 shoe and even at goal have a bigger frame esp hips and sholders.
When I shop for rings the salespeople never believe me and resize my hand everytime. BUT rings look great on me since I can wear a small stone and have it look huge LOL My bracelets all have to be kid size since my wrists is like 5 inches.
my husband calls them chicken wrists or my burger king hands (old commerical).
The hardest thing I did when learning to ride my motorcycle (harley softail deluxe)is figure out how to get my hands to operate the control with my tiny finger span.
It sort looks like someone put a much smaller persons hand at the end of my arms.
It must!
I am about your height and shoe size...I have a metabolic issue that is causing my hands and feet to get really thin in order for my body to hold on to belly fat...but I still wear a size 8.5 or 9 ring. I think my wrists are 6.75 inches around. My hands and wrists are proportional to my body, but really without any extra fat at this point.
That is super tiny. I am 5'11" and I have small wrists at 5.5 and fingers at ring size 5. I can't imagine what a 3 3/4 looks like. However, I have a small frame so all my bones are smallish. My fingers do get bigger when I gain weight though. It's funny how people are different.0 -
lemurcat12 wrote: »LadyAbsynthe wrote: »I hate the rhetoric around food in advertising. "Sinfully rich" and "guilt-free" and all of that *kitten*. (Also, "low fat!" I don't care about fat, I care about calories and sometimes carbohydrates.)
You shouldn't feel guilty about eating a cookie, and it's definitely not a sin to be ashamed of. It's just food. :x
it makes me feel stabby.
So agree.
I also hate it when someone is buying a cookie or something in line ahead of you and feels compelled to make a comment like "just being bad today." I've had this happen a bunch of times and I always just smile and nod, but it drives me crazy. Pretty much only women my age or older, though, so maybe it's getting less common, who knows.
I hate that. And then it makes me feel bad about it if I'm getting a cookie or whatever. And when groups of people (mostly women/girls, honestly) sit around eating chips or something while complaining about how bad it is/how they're going to be fat/etc... it's like I can't enjoy it at all if you're making yourself feel guilty while doing it. Like either I want to not eat my chips or eat them without talking about it and feeling like *kitten* about it
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llUndecidedll wrote: »I sometimes purposely stay on the treadmill longer once someone begins working out next to me. Nothing wrong with a little healthy competition right?
Haha yes! I do this too
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »Here is a random confession/ fact brough on by reading people talk about finally being able to wear thier wedding rings again.. I have freakishly small hands, skinny and short fingers, and wrists. My ring finger is a 4 and my rings fit at 227 and at 150. Actually my left hand finger my ering is sized to a 3 3/4 so it won't slip off.
I am 5 9 and wear a 9 1/2 shoe and even at goal have a bigger frame esp hips and sholders.
When I shop for rings the salespeople never believe me and resize my hand everytime. BUT rings look great on me since I can wear a small stone and have it look huge LOL My bracelets all have to be kid size since my wrists is like 5 inches.
my husband calls them chicken wrists or my burger king hands (old commerical).
The hardest thing I did when learning to ride my motorcycle (harley softail deluxe)is figure out how to get my hands to operate the control with my tiny finger span.
It sort looks like someone put a much smaller persons hand at the end of my arms.
It must!
I am about your height and shoe size...I have a metabolic issue that is causing my hands and feet to get really thin in order for my body to hold on to belly fat...but I still wear a size 8.5 or 9 ring. I think my wrists are 6.75 inches around. My hands and wrists are proportional to my body, but really without any extra fat at this point.
I am 5'9", wear a size 11 women's shoe. At this point my wrist is not padded and is easily 6.5". My wedding/engagement rings, which I could not get OFF for years as I gained weight, now come off normally, but strangely do not fit on my right ring finger, are (I think) a size 7. I am down to a 38 band on my bras, but given the size of my actual ribcage, 36 will be the smallest, if I lose the other 60 to 70lbs I want to.
Confession: My in laws are in town and my mother in law acted shocked that I am planning to lose more weight, even though I'm size 18(barely)in pants. She is normal weight, though odd shaped, so I am not sure how I feel about it. Also, though a nice woman (my f-i-l is nice too), I am irritated by them, even though I've been at work half the time they've been here.
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Confession of the day, I have lived with my boyfriends mum and sister for nearly seven years now. Currently sitting in our bedroom (where we live, eat and sleep) all I can hear is his mum huffing and puffing and complaining. About what, I don't know, but it makes me want to burn this house down so I don't have to live here anymore. And before someone says 'you don't have to live there' currently where I live and work we will need at least £30,000.00 just for a deposit on a house. That doesn't include furnishing or paying fees. Does this make me want to bury my face in a chocolate cake? Yes. Yes it does. But instead I go swimming or walking, purely to get away from it all.
Apologies, that was more of a rant than a confession, and due to my previous post (no friends) this is the only way I can feel better without getting a can of petrol and a lighter. Thank you!0 -
Confession: When the confessions on the thread get serious I want to show sympathy/empathy, give support and advice but I'm rubbish at it. I get really awkward and don't know what to say. So I'm not ignoring them - I just don't know how to respond appropriately. (I'm even worse in real life.)
^^ this
You are not alone. Sometimes my husband says I lol mad and it's just because I feel awkward as I don't know what to say or do. Or I hesitate.0 -
Confession of the day, I have lived with my boyfriends mum and sister for nearly seven years now. Currently sitting in our bedroom (where we live, eat and sleep) all I can hear is his mum huffing and puffing and complaining. About what, I don't know, but it makes me want to burn this house down so I don't have to live here anymore. And before someone says 'you don't have to live there' currently where I live and work we will need at least £30,000.00 just for a deposit on a house. That doesn't include furnishing or paying fees. Does this make me want to bury my face in a chocolate cake? Yes. Yes it does. But instead I go swimming or walking, purely to get away from it all.
Apologies, that was more of a rant than a confession, and due to my previous post (no friends) this is the only way I can feel better without getting a can of petrol and a lighter. Thank you!
I have shivers just thinking of having to live with my mom. I totally get it...
We went out for lunch... ended at a brunch buffet (to be fair, we didn't realize it was a buffet before we actually got a table). Ate too much and should really have done without the extra half slice of French toast and mini cannoli. I'm not that much over really (basically undid one day of deficit, as I highly doubt I'll have room for dinner), but I'm just stuffed. So I'm going to go to the gym to burn some of it off (it was supposed to be my rest day), and I'm just hoping it won't make me puke.0 -
Confession: I don't eat ice cream for the ice cream, I eat it for the mix in. Last night I ate all the chocolate covered peanuts out of my husband's rocky road ice cream and all the cookie chunks out of the cookies and cream ice cream. I haven't done something like that in years, because I generally just eat some chocolate, but last night I was too lazy to buy some. I told him and he laughed at me.0
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Italian_Buju wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
__________________________________ladybuggnorris wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »-I used to make fun of cats but now we own two of them and I'm a "closet" cat person.
Cats are wonderful. You just have accept that they own you and it's all on their terms. I love dogs but am rarely home so can't have them. I adore my cats. And they adore me. I never understand people who don't like cats. (No judgement just lack of understanding).
Confession: I not only do not like cats, but I hate them. I am allergic to them, which doesn't help, but I know that is not their fault.
Our neighbors cats are always in my yard, my flower beds are full of *kitten* and one will not even grow anything in it anymore because the cats have pissed in it so much. Every spring, when the snow melts and I have to go clean up two five-gallon pails of cat poo, I silently plot their deaths.
The neighbors don't do anything about it, no matter how much we complain. My husband is the mayor and the only thing they can do about it is set up cat traps and charge a fee for them to get their cats back.
I effing HATE cats!It is the neighbours you should be directing your anger at, but I get it. There used to be a couple cats in my neighbourhood that would piss in my front garden. I get mad at the owners because they should have some consideration and control their animals. I take measures to ensure my pet is contained and cleaned up after, so should everyone else!
Confession: I weighed out an actual serving of mini eggs last night. So disappointing. Ignorance really is bliss, because ignorance = more mini eggs.
ETA: I don't know why the quote thing isn't working right.
My cats are indoor. I would wig out at them being outdoor cats I would be terrified they would get hit by a car. All are fixed and use litter boxes. And are so excited when I get home and snuggle up and purr like freight trains after they have eaten. I love having cats.
I do not understand people that let their cats outside, it is so dangerous for them!
Well, it depends. I grew up in France, where a lot of people leave their cats out. When I got my cat, I lived in a tiny apartment, but when I moved to the US with my now husband, he had 3 indoor/outdoor cats... I couldn't exactly stop my cat from going out. Plus now that we have kids, let's say that I'm glad I don't have to freak out every time they leave the doors open. At least when I started letting my cat outside I was with her at first to make sure she didn't do anything stupid... when a cat bolts out and freaks out because he's never been out, it's way worse. She's older now anyway and only goes out two minutes at a time, and doesn't leave the front yard. But 5 years ago when we moved to an apartment for a year and we had to leave her inside, she peed everywhere.
My next cats will be indoor cats though (I'll have to buy some screens for the windows and change the back screendoor, but heck). Not that I'm worried they'd get hit (we always lived on very quiet streets), but because I don't want young cats wrecking havoc in my neighbors' yards... But I'll have two... I think a cat inside alone would be bored. Hopefully by then the kids will be old enough to close the doors.
My confession, um... I bought 12 donuts for 7 people yesterday, and I had 1.5, and put the leftover in the fridge because I don't like cold donuts (arguably, some had cream anyway and should be in the fridge overnight). So at least I'm not tempted now... but I'm considering a trip to the bakery to get a cupcake or something..
Also it's my first rest day in like 3 weeks and I'm feeling guilty.
When I was a kid, we always had cats and I have seen so many dangerous, I have lost cats to cars, poison, and even attacks from other animals. Since I moved out on my own 20+ years ago, my cats have been indoors, I learned from my parents mistake. There are so many dangers out there, not just cars. Right now I just have one kitten and a degu. I just make sure she has lots of toys and stimulation as much as I can. I leave the TV on for them too while I am gone to work so they are not just sitting in silence all the time.0 -
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Definitely this. For various reasons I've always felt the odd one out and that friendships I have made have faded/been cut off. Not only does this mean it's more difficult to make friends - the more I put in the harder it will hurt when it ends - it also means I've grown pretty independent. I go on holiday alone, go to gigs alone, go to the cinema alone, go on excursions to art galleries/hiking/museums/new places alone. Sometimes I like it - I can do what I want... but I do feel ALONE.
I have a bunch of great, great friends (not trying to rub it in or anything) and I still like to go and do things on my own. Not having to consider "will everyone be able to eat something at this restaurant?" Or "if i invite my homies will i get stuck paying for their broke butts?" do great things for my psyche. Besides I really like being by myself. I am plotting on a one person vacation to Arizona, and am notorious for seeing movies by myself with a 40 stashed in my purse. I go to bars alone and read books while sipping martinis. More power to you for not depending on others to have some fun. Every person that is capable of being on their own will eventually make a great companion because you know who YOU are and what YOU want.
I totally agree. When I used to go to bars, I would go on my own sometimes, I mean, you always meet people there anyway. And one of my favorite things now is to go to the movies on my own. Sometimes I won't even tell anyone I plan to see something to avoid someone wanting to come lol. I travel all day on my own at least one of my two days off, just doing my own thing! I even will go for lunch at a nice restaurant on my own, read a book or whatever.....I love it!0
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