Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • LBuehrle8
    LBuehrle8 Posts: 4,044 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    If you are a praying person, I am asking for some right now. If not a praying person, maybe send some good vibes. My sister's sister-in-law is 30 weeks pregnant, after 5 attempts at IVF. On Sunday, she was having issues with her kidneys, so yesterday they decided to go and put in some drains. While under anesthetic, she vomited and aspirated. Due to lack of oxygen, she is now in a coma and has been placed on life support. The family was all called last night and the Dr's basically admitted they were keeping he alive as long as they can for the baby's sake, but there is little to no brain activity. Now a baby that was wished for, for so long, is likely not going to have a Mama. Miracles do happen, and we could really use one today!

    @ladybuggnorris how is your sister's SIL & baby doing?

    SIL has some swelling on the brain, but it is going down. She has a long road to recovery, but they think she will make it. Unfortunately, she had some blood clots in her brain and they had to give her blood thinners in order to save her life and the baby did not survive. We are all feeling very blessed, though, that the wisdom and quick thinking on the Drs' part saved the SIL's life. If they hadn't acted quickly, they would have likely lost both of them. We will all help her on the road to recovery and some day, when the time is right, they can either decide on a surrogate or adoption. One step at a time. Thank you for your continued well wishes!

    Thanks for the update- still in my thoughts!
  • timetochange2015jks
    timetochange2015jks Posts: 23 Member
    I just ate donner kebab meat and chips AND mayo to top it off then found the lowest option out of the kebabs on the add food part just so I dont feel as bad ! Will do and hour of zumba when I can move again lol
  • ladybuggnorris
    ladybuggnorris Posts: 276 Member
    I'm glad my friends succeed with MFP, but I get bummed when they leave and secretly wish they'd fail just a bit so they'd come back. (my friend list is down to barely a single page).

    I love what MFP has done for me and some day (in the very far future) when I reach my goal weight, I will never leave MFP. It will still be very important for maintenance!
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    I love that so many of you are on board with my quiet salon idea. And I agree that I'd love the concept at a dentist's office too. I'm not antisocial or anything, but I don't warm up to strangers quickly.

    My confession today is that I am kind of freaking out about my wedding, even though it's teeny-tiny and there's not much at all to be done now. It's just the whole idea of having to do it. I would have been happy to skip straight to the "married" part and skip the wedding, but we decided we couldn't do that to our parents so I'm suffering through a 25 person event and hoping I don't hyperventilate walking down the aisle or say something stupid or trip or start laughing or something. For the past week I've been absolutely fixated on it and it's not for another three and a bit weeks. It sucks. I'm practically hyperventilating now just typing this, haha.

    And it's probably exacerbated by the fact that I'm hangry as hell because I ramped up the deficit in hopes I won't look at my photos and just see fat arms and too much cleavage. I really hope I can lose five pounds, which makes a pretty big difference at my size, but it definitely means three more weeks of being hungry a lot. Ugh.

    I'd love the quiet anywhere idea...I'm not shy or anything but sometimes I don't feel like small talk or talking in general. The thing I can't handle the most is going into department stores and employees immediately asking if they can help you find something- NO, if I need help I'll ask. I apologize if this is anyone's job and are required to do this but really it iritates the crap out of me :|

    I don't necessarily mind small-talk. I'd prefer that over listening to the person doing my hair gossiping with all of the other girls working in the shop. I'm in there every 6-8 weeks for 2 hours, so I get to know these people a little bit.

    The department stores, I'm torn about. I hate being hit by 3 or 4 people with the "Can I help you find something?" when I just want to browse. On the other hand, I also hate it when I'm LOOKING for somebody to help me and they are nowhere to be found.
  • crissycerny
    crissycerny Posts: 1 Member
    arditarose wrote: »
    I was craving something sweet the other night but had absolutely nothing in the house that would satisfy me except some hot chocolate. So I ate two spoonfuls of the powder. Two spoonfuls. Of the powder.

    Not a judgement but why didn't you just make the hot chocolate? Not sweet enough?

    i've eaten spoonfuls of hot choco for years. there have been times i even mixed it vanilla ice cream or cool whip or even cold milk. when you want something, you'll figure it out.
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    I just ate donner kebab meat and chips AND mayo to top it off then found the lowest option out of the kebabs on the add food part just so I dont feel as bad ! Will do and hour of zumba when I can move again lol

    I don't know what this is, but my mind went immediately to cannabalism. Donner? Party of one?
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    If you are a praying person, I am asking for some right now. If not a praying person, maybe send some good vibes. My sister's sister-in-law is 30 weeks pregnant, after 5 attempts at IVF. On Sunday, she was having issues with her kidneys, so yesterday they decided to go and put in some drains. While under anesthetic, she vomited and aspirated. Due to lack of oxygen, she is now in a coma and has been placed on life support. The family was all called last night and the Dr's basically admitted they were keeping he alive as long as they can for the baby's sake, but there is little to no brain activity. Now a baby that was wished for, for so long, is likely not going to have a Mama. Miracles do happen, and we could really use one today!

    @ladybuggnorris how is your sister's SIL & baby doing?

    SIL has some swelling on the brain, but it is going down. She has a long road to recovery, but they think she will make it. Unfortunately, she had some blood clots in her brain and they had to give her blood thinners in order to save her life and the baby did not survive. We are all feeling very blessed, though, that the wisdom and quick thinking on the Drs' part saved the SIL's life. If they hadn't acted quickly, they would have likely lost both of them. We will all help her on the road to recovery and some day, when the time is right, they can either decide on a surrogate or adoption. One step at a time. Thank you for your continued well wishes!

    Glad SIL is going to be OK, sorry about the baby. :(
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    arditarose wrote: »
    I was craving something sweet the other night but had absolutely nothing in the house that would satisfy me except some hot chocolate. So I ate two spoonfuls of the powder. Two spoonfuls. Of the powder.

    Not a judgement but why didn't you just make the hot chocolate? Not sweet enough?

    i've eaten spoonfuls of hot choco for years. there have been times i even mixed it vanilla ice cream or cool whip or even cold milk. when you want something, you'll figure it out.

    Oh no! 7 pages too early!!!
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    I love that so many of you are on board with my quiet salon idea. And I agree that I'd love the concept at a dentist's office too. I'm not antisocial or anything, but I don't warm up to strangers quickly.

    My confession today is that I am kind of freaking out about my wedding, even though it's teeny-tiny and there's not much at all to be done now. It's just the whole idea of having to do it. I would have been happy to skip straight to the "married" part and skip the wedding, but we decided we couldn't do that to our parents so I'm suffering through a 25 person event and hoping I don't hyperventilate walking down the aisle or say something stupid or trip or start laughing or something. For the past week I've been absolutely fixated on it and it's not for another three and a bit weeks. It sucks. I'm practically hyperventilating now just typing this, haha.

    And it's probably exacerbated by the fact that I'm hangry as hell because I ramped up the deficit in hopes I won't look at my photos and just see fat arms and too much cleavage. I really hope I can lose five pounds, which makes a pretty big difference at my size, but it definitely means three more weeks of being hungry a lot. Ugh.

    I'd love the quiet anywhere idea...I'm not shy or anything but sometimes I don't feel like small talk or talking in general. The thing I can't handle the most is going into department stores and employees immediately asking if they can help you find something- NO, if I need help I'll ask. I apologize if this is anyone's job and are required to do this but really it iritates the crap out of me :|

    It's even worse when they do it at Walgreens and the grocery store. Do you know how many bazillion times I've shopped here?! If I need help, I'll ask! Yes, this bothers me too, but I also realize employees are instructed to do this. Sorry.
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    I'm glad my friends succeed with MFP, but I get bummed when they leave and secretly wish they'd fail just a bit so they'd come back. (my friend list is down to barely a single page).

    I love what MFP has done for me and some day (in the very far future) when I reach my goal weight, I will never leave MFP. It will still be very important for maintenance!

    I've counted calories on and off pretty much since I was 12. I've never really been overweight, my weight has gone up and down a few pounds when I go through emotional garbage. I just don't understand the idea of getting to goal and quitting...
  • JPW1990
    JPW1990 Posts: 2,424 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    I love that so many of you are on board with my quiet salon idea. And I agree that I'd love the concept at a dentist's office too. I'm not antisocial or anything, but I don't warm up to strangers quickly.

    My confession today is that I am kind of freaking out about my wedding, even though it's teeny-tiny and there's not much at all to be done now. It's just the whole idea of having to do it. I would have been happy to skip straight to the "married" part and skip the wedding, but we decided we couldn't do that to our parents so I'm suffering through a 25 person event and hoping I don't hyperventilate walking down the aisle or say something stupid or trip or start laughing or something. For the past week I've been absolutely fixated on it and it's not for another three and a bit weeks. It sucks. I'm practically hyperventilating now just typing this, haha.

    And it's probably exacerbated by the fact that I'm hangry as hell because I ramped up the deficit in hopes I won't look at my photos and just see fat arms and too much cleavage. I really hope I can lose five pounds, which makes a pretty big difference at my size, but it definitely means three more weeks of being hungry a lot. Ugh.

    I'd love the quiet anywhere idea...I'm not shy or anything but sometimes I don't feel like small talk or talking in general. The thing I can't handle the most is going into department stores and employees immediately asking if they can help you find something- NO, if I need help I'll ask. I apologize if this is anyone's job and are required to do this but really it iritates the crap out of me :|

    I don't necessarily mind small-talk. I'd prefer that over listening to the person doing my hair gossiping with all of the other girls working in the shop. I'm in there every 6-8 weeks for 2 hours, so I get to know these people a little bit.

    The department stores, I'm torn about. I hate being hit by 3 or 4 people with the "Can I help you find something?" when I just want to browse. On the other hand, I also hate it when I'm LOOKING for somebody to help me and they are nowhere to be found.

    I'm more entertained by listening to the hairdressers talk than trying to fill the silence myself. My life is boring, I work from home, my hobbies aren't really social, and I've outgrown the going out drinking every weekend stage, so I don't have lots of little stories to tell. Depends on who else is there, though. They censor themselves when some of the older clients are there.
  • FluffySandwich
    FluffySandwich Posts: 1,293 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    confession: it drives me absolutely nuts (ie. totally jealous) when ppl whine about NOT being able to eat 1,000 calories in a day. i never say anthing out of fear of being destroyed in the forums, but it's mind boggling to me. are you living on cotton-balls soaked in vinegar? what am i missing?! tell me how to not be hungry all the time!
    This is me very rarely, when I'm super super stressed. Yesterday I only had an iced cappuccino from Tim Hortons and did not feel an ounce of hunger, just nausea. Not recommended :P

    A while back people were talking about Tim Hortons and feeling like the only Canadians who didn't like it. I'm American, but I agree that they don't have very good donuts. I CRAVE KRISPY KREME UP HERE! I do, however, like their iced capps. Mmm.

  • Momakanga
    Momakanga Posts: 122 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    If you are a praying person, I am asking for some right now. If not a praying person, maybe send some good vibes. My sister's sister-in-law is 30 weeks pregnant, after 5 attempts at IVF. On Sunday, she was having issues with her kidneys, so yesterday they decided to go and put in some drains. While under anesthetic, she vomited and aspirated. Due to lack of oxygen, she is now in a coma and has been placed on life support. The family was all called last night and the Dr's basically admitted they were keeping he alive as long as they can for the baby's sake, but there is little to no brain activity. Now a baby that was wished for, for so long, is likely not going to have a Mama. Miracles do happen, and we could really use one today!

    @ladybuggnorris how is your sister's SIL & baby doing?

    SIL has some swelling on the brain, but it is going down. She has a long road to recovery, but they think she will make it. Unfortunately, she had some blood clots in her brain and they had to give her blood thinners in order to save her life and the baby did not survive. We are all feeling very blessed, though, that the wisdom and quick thinking on the Drs' part saved the SIL's life. If they hadn't acted quickly, they would have likely lost both of them. We will all help her on the road to recovery and some day, when the time is right, they can either decide on a surrogate or adoption. One step at a time. Thank you for your continued well wishes!

    I missed your original post. How heartbreaking. I am glad to hear SIL is going to make it. So sad that baby did not. I will keep them in my thoughts.
  • Momakanga
    Momakanga Posts: 122 Member
    I just ate donner kebab meat and chips AND mayo to top it off then found the lowest option out of the kebabs on the add food part just so I dont feel as bad ! Will do and hour of zumba when I can move again lol

    I don't know what this is, but my mind went immediately to cannabalism. Donner? Party of one?

    Hehehehehehehe!
  • Wasatcher
    Wasatcher Posts: 40 Member
    A couple of weeks before I came back to MFP I was supposed to go to a party but bagged it. I'd bought a large German Chocolate cake for the party. My confession is I ate it. It took me about a full day but I got most of it down.

    I have no regrets other than now I get the occasional urge to do it again.
  • timetochange2015jks
    timetochange2015jks Posts: 23 Member
    I just ate donner kebab meat and chips AND mayo to top it off then found the lowest option out of the kebabs on the add food part just so I dont feel as bad ! Will do and hour of zumba when I can move again lol

    I don't know what this is, but my mind went immediately to cannabalism. Donner? Party of one?

    lol no its different crap parts of meat that chip shop does sooo tastyy but awful for you !

  • KylerJaye
    KylerJaye Posts: 861 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    confession: it drives me absolutely nuts (ie. totally jealous) when ppl whine about NOT being able to eat 1,000 calories in a day. i never say anthing out of fear of being destroyed in the forums, but it's mind boggling to me. are you living on cotton-balls soaked in vinegar? what am i missing?! tell me how to not be hungry all the time!
    This is me very rarely, when I'm super super stressed. Yesterday I only had an iced cappuccino from Tim Hortons and did not feel an ounce of hunger, just nausea. Not recommended :P

    A while back people were talking about Tim Hortons and feeling like the only Canadians who didn't like it. I'm American, but I agree that they don't have very good donuts. I CRAVE KRISPY KREME UP HERE! I do, however, like their iced capps. Mmm.

    see, i'm the total opposite, i'm a stress eater. a massive stress eater...omnomnom

    i actually....hate krispy kreme *hides*
    i think the glaze is gross.
    we have a regional (i'm in northeast PA) donut chain called curry donuts. they are made of yum, and unlike dunkin, you don't end up with that later of grease goop on the roof of your mouth. woot!
  • xMrBunglex
    xMrBunglex Posts: 1,121 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    JPW1990 wrote: »
    I'm mad at my husband, and I feel bad about it, because it wasn't something he did intentionally. My good leg is down a few inches since I switched meds. My bad calf is still 22", and has only moved a half inch one way or the other. This morning I hit the 50 lbs down mark, and I'm trying to be happy about that, but realistically, if I've lost 50 lbs and my leg hasn't shrunk, that means it's actually gotten worse, and the fat loss is making it even out.

    I was explaining all this to my husband, and he basically ignored all the things I'm worried about, and took it to mean time to play let's compare weight loss. I'm happy for him that he's lost more and is on the last notch on his belt, but seriously, was not the time.

    Men are seriously in another world sometimes. I swear mine doesn't listen to half of what I'm telling him. So frustrating.

    Sorry, what?

    :D
  • FluffySandwich
    FluffySandwich Posts: 1,293 Member
    edited April 2015
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    confession: it drives me absolutely nuts (ie. totally jealous) when ppl whine about NOT being able to eat 1,000 calories in a day. i never say anthing out of fear of being destroyed in the forums, but it's mind boggling to me. are you living on cotton-balls soaked in vinegar? what am i missing?! tell me how to not be hungry all the time!
    This is me very rarely, when I'm super super stressed. Yesterday I only had an iced cappuccino from Tim Hortons and did not feel an ounce of hunger, just nausea. Not recommended :P

    A while back people were talking about Tim Hortons and feeling like the only Canadians who didn't like it. I'm American, but I agree that they don't have very good donuts. I CRAVE KRISPY KREME UP HERE! I do, however, like their iced capps. Mmm.

    see, i'm the total opposite, i'm a stress eater. a massive stress eater...omnomnom

    i actually....hate krispy kreme *hides*
    i think the glaze is gross.
    we have a regional (i'm in northeast PA) donut chain called curry donuts. they are made of yum, and unlike dunkin, you don't end up with that later of grease goop on the roof of your mouth. woot!
    I'm actually a stress eater too, so usually when I don't eat anything it's to the point where the stress is absolutely massive (well, I have also done nothing BUT eat in severe stress). I think I might have depressive phases... I keep thinking I need to get this checked out but I never go.

    Curry donuts sounds delicious for some reason. Just the mix of "curry" and "donut" sounds unique. Do they actually experiment and create some wonky flavors? I want to go to that one place in New York: http://doughnutplant.com/
  • Lefty1290
    Lefty1290 Posts: 551 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    confession: it drives me absolutely nuts (ie. totally jealous) when ppl whine about NOT being able to eat 1,000 calories in a day. i never say anthing out of fear of being destroyed in the forums, but it's mind boggling to me. are you living on cotton-balls soaked in vinegar? what am i missing?! tell me how to not be hungry all the time!
    This is me very rarely, when I'm super super stressed. Yesterday I only had an iced cappuccino from Tim Hortons and did not feel an ounce of hunger, just nausea. Not recommended :P

    A while back people were talking about Tim Hortons and feeling like the only Canadians who didn't like it. I'm American, but I agree that they don't have very good donuts. I CRAVE KRISPY KREME UP HERE! I do, however, like their iced capps. Mmm.

    see, i'm the total opposite, i'm a stress eater. a massive stress eater...omnomnom

    i actually....hate krispy kreme *hides*
    i think the glaze is gross.
    we have a regional (i'm in northeast PA) donut chain called curry donuts. they are made of yum, and unlike dunkin, you don't end up with that later of grease goop on the roof of your mouth. woot!

    Krispy Kreme is sooooooooooooo overrated. The donut shop my mom works at is 1000000000x better.
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    So, the first part of this week, I was at my DD's new school that she will be transferring to in the Fall. She still has 2 years left. Conservatively, this will be $25k per year out of my pocket (we don't qualify for financial aid).

    Confession: I'm bitter. I think school should be free or cheap for ALL students.

    Ok I'm confused... aren't there public schools in Tennessee?

    crosbylee wrote: »
    I am not into the whole competitive parent thing, like who's throwing the biggest birthday party for their five year old. So far I have asked my daughter, what she wants to do for her birthday. It ususally is nothing big, just a simple theme party and then have everyone jump in our tiny backyard pool. She was born in July so it's almost perfect for it. As long as she is happy with the plans, we go with it. Of course, she is considering Chuck E Cheese this year.

    I'm not taking my kids to Chuck E Cheese parties anymore, let alone hosting one, lol. No thanks. My kids are February kids unfortunately so this year we didn't even have a party, I'm not spending $400 for a party anymore (plus I have twins, and they are only allowed to invite the whole class, good luck finding a place that can host up to 50 children!). Looking forward to when they have a few close friends and they can just invite them to the house...

    Chuck E Cheese is the worst. I hate going there. All my kids have birthdays in the colder months, so people always suggest it to me. No thanks. I would rather have a smaller party at my house. My kids are allowed to privately invite certain kids from school, but it has to be done outside of school hours so no one feels left out.

    I (or any of my kids) have never been to a Chuck E. Cheese...EVER. We live in a small village (pop.204) and we have an old school (not a school anymore) that is now the community center. For birthday parties, I rent the gym for $100 and we will either put up a screen/projector and turn it into a movie theater or they can run around and play whatever they want. There is also a full kitchen, so serving food/snacks is easy. It works well and everyone always leaves happy.

    That sounds awesome. I would love it if we could do something like that. I live in a pretty big city, and everything here seems to cost about $200 or more depending on what you do. I have 3 kids, one with a December birthday, so it makes things pretty tight if I have a party somewhere else. Luckily, my kids don't mind having their birthday here. I make it fun while not spending a million dollars.
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    Confession time!

    I avoid letting people I socialize with know that I'm dieting. I'm visibly significantly overweight and I hate having to deal with comments like: Already lean people saying things like "Oh, you're SO LUCKY because when you have THAT MUCH to lose, it just falls off! I've been trying to lose these last 3 pounds for months, etc etc!" (or alternately, "I should diet too, I just feel SO FAT when I get over 110, it's disgusting..."), condescending "Good for you, honey!" type comments, non scientific advice about 'good carbs'/paleo/vegan/faddietoftheday, general discussion of my eating/body/fatness, and how I have "a pretty face" and am "going to be so cute once I lose the pounds!" Somehow just being fat doesn't bring about this conversation, but anyone getting wind that I'm trying to lose weight does.... I don't get it.

    I skip social situations or save up calories so I can eat what other people are eating, just to avoid having these conversations.

    Every day on these boards I read about all the insensitive and rude remarks people make to others and now it's making me believe that any health and nutrition education needs to be supplemented with some manners courses and common sense training. Too bad that will never happen.

    It's so true. People have no filter. I don't understand how so many people missed the lesson that you don't have to say everything that pops into your head out loud, especially if it's unkind.

    It's because people like those run their mouth and then tout about how they 'keep it real' while their sheeple friends give them an 'attaboy' pat on the back. Couth be gone!!!

    Totally. I can't stand it.
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    kclay1021 wrote: »
    I saved calories yesterday EXCLUSIVELY so that I could eat 4 servings of kettle cooked potato chips. Just chose healthier options during the day and got in lean proteins so I wouldn't be low in my protein intake.

    Heck yes. I do that sometimes. Yesterday I saved up so I could eat tacos without obsessively weighing each one.
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    If you are a praying person, I am asking for some right now. If not a praying person, maybe send some good vibes. My sister's sister-in-law is 30 weeks pregnant, after 5 attempts at IVF. On Sunday, she was having issues with her kidneys, so yesterday they decided to go and put in some drains. While under anesthetic, she vomited and aspirated. Due to lack of oxygen, she is now in a coma and has been placed on life support. The family was all called last night and the Dr's basically admitted they were keeping he alive as long as they can for the baby's sake, but there is little to no brain activity. Now a baby that was wished for, for so long, is likely not going to have a Mama. Miracles do happen, and we could really use one today!

    @ladybuggnorris how is your sister's SIL & baby doing?

    SIL has some swelling on the brain, but it is going down. She has a long road to recovery, but they think she will make it. Unfortunately, she had some blood clots in her brain and they had to give her blood thinners in order to save her life and the baby did not survive. We are all feeling very blessed, though, that the wisdom and quick thinking on the Drs' part saved the SIL's life. If they hadn't acted quickly, they would have likely lost both of them. We will all help her on the road to recovery and some day, when the time is right, they can either decide on a surrogate or adoption. One step at a time. Thank you for your continued well wishes!

    I'm so sorry your family is going through that. I hope she recovers well <3.

  • kclay1021
    kclay1021 Posts: 56 Member
    I am a HUGE stress eater and will eat things that are just notoriously "bad" and I want to eat them in large quantities and not in moderation. I'm a hot mess when I'm stressed. . .instead of tackling this issue, I have tackled what is considered "stress" and what I allow myself to get upset about. . . but its probably necessary to tackle the other end of this as well.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    Confession time!

    I avoid letting people I socialize with know that I'm dieting. I'm visibly significantly overweight and I hate having to deal with comments like: Already lean people saying things like "Oh, you're SO LUCKY because when you have THAT MUCH to lose, it just falls off! I've been trying to lose these last 3 pounds for months, etc etc!" (or alternately, "I should diet too, I just feel SO FAT when I get over 110, it's disgusting..."), condescending "Good for you, honey!" type comments, non scientific advice about 'good carbs'/paleo/vegan/faddietoftheday, general discussion of my eating/body/fatness, and how I have "a pretty face" and am "going to be so cute once I lose the pounds!" Somehow just being fat doesn't bring about this conversation, but anyone getting wind that I'm trying to lose weight does.... I don't get it.

    I skip social situations or save up calories so I can eat what other people are eating, just to avoid having these conversations.

    Every day on these boards I read about all the insensitive and rude remarks people make to others and now it's making me believe that any health and nutrition education needs to be supplemented with some manners courses and common sense training. Too bad that will never happen.

    It's so true. People have no filter. I don't understand how so many people missed the lesson that you don't have to say everything that pops into your head out loud, especially if it's unkind.

    So true. And some people don't seem to understand the concept of "it's not what you say, it's how you say it." They may be giving great advice and making excellent points that the OP needs to hear, but by couching it in sarcasm, all that's coming across is rudeness. I'm not advocating sugarcoating anything, but if you can take the time to come up with some snarky reply, then you can take the time to come up with a tactful reply, too.

    Absolutely. Delivery is very important. I also can't stand when someone KNOWS that they are being snarky or overly blunt, but they feign ignorance and pretend like they weren't being rude at all. Ridiculous.

    Or they frame it as "just being honest". Honesty does not have to be in the form of nasty meanness to get the point across.

    People are generally (okay, not all!) receptive to helpful information when it's presented kindly.
  • KylerJaye
    KylerJaye Posts: 861 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    confession: it drives me absolutely nuts (ie. totally jealous) when ppl whine about NOT being able to eat 1,000 calories in a day. i never say anthing out of fear of being destroyed in the forums, but it's mind boggling to me. are you living on cotton-balls soaked in vinegar? what am i missing?! tell me how to not be hungry all the time!
    This is me very rarely, when I'm super super stressed. Yesterday I only had an iced cappuccino from Tim Hortons and did not feel an ounce of hunger, just nausea. Not recommended :P

    A while back people were talking about Tim Hortons and feeling like the only Canadians who didn't like it. I'm American, but I agree that they don't have very good donuts. I CRAVE KRISPY KREME UP HERE! I do, however, like their iced capps. Mmm.

    see, i'm the total opposite, i'm a stress eater. a massive stress eater...omnomnom

    i actually....hate krispy kreme *hides*
    i think the glaze is gross.
    we have a regional (i'm in northeast PA) donut chain called curry donuts. they are made of yum, and unlike dunkin, you don't end up with that later of grease goop on the roof of your mouth. woot!
    I'm actually a stress eater too, so usually when I don't eat anything it's to the point where the stress is absolutely massive (well, I have also done nothing BUT eat in severe stress). I think I might have depressive phases... I keep thinking I need to get this checked out but I never go.

    Curry donuts sounds delicious for some reason. Just the mix of "curry" and "donut" sounds unique. Do they actually experiment and create some wonky flavors? I want to go to that one place in New York: http://doughnutplant.com/

    unfortunately, no. they keep it pretty normal.
    but even as normal, they're still delicious and their coffee is pretty badass too!
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    I'm shocked by how mean people can be.

    I remember loving high school, I've never really had anybody say anything mean and hateful to me in my whole life (with the exception of some d-bag exes).

    Then, I hear stories from my husband and my kids about things that were said to them at school, and I'm shocked. And now here, I'm hearing that my experience is the odd one. :/
    I have another friend that lives in Atlanta that has the same experiences. People will come up to her out of the blue and say hateful things. I just don't understand people.

    Yes, I earned my nickname Pollyanna.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    JPW1990 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    JPW1990 wrote: »
    I'm mad at my husband, and I feel bad about it, because it wasn't something he did intentionally. My good leg is down a few inches since I switched meds. My bad calf is still 22", and has only moved a half inch one way or the other. This morning I hit the 50 lbs down mark, and I'm trying to be happy about that, but realistically, if I've lost 50 lbs and my leg hasn't shrunk, that means it's actually gotten worse, and the fat loss is making it even out.

    I was explaining all this to my husband, and he basically ignored all the things I'm worried about, and took it to mean time to play let's compare weight loss. I'm happy for him that he's lost more and is on the last notch on his belt, but seriously, was not the time.

    Congratulations! The issues with your legs sound very painful, though. Are you dealing with edema? Or something else? Sorry. Hope it gets better whatever it is.

    Sort of - it's lymphedema. My lymph system is fubar, and it's lymphatic fluid backed up in my legs. I was rocking compression socks before it was cool :p Mine's the genetic kind, and it can't be cured, so the best that can be done is keeping it controlled and hoping the parts that are working stay working.

    I have primary lymphedema too (right leg). And I've sort of grown to like the compression stockings.. except in summer when everyone else can wear cute sandals.

    Have you ever tried having Vodder lymph drainage massage done? I'm curious if it has any beneficial effect, before I shell out the money.
  • bripowell11
    bripowell11 Posts: 6 Member
    My scale is tared to 5 pounds above zero.

    It makes me feel better that I get to subtract 5 off the reading.