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Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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ladybuggnorris wrote: »I'M BAAAAACK!
Confession: I am skipping 100 pages because it is too overwhelming to think I can EVER catch up again!
I have missed you all!
We missed you too! Are you finished painting the house?0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »I am really upset this morning because my degu is dying, I am sure of it now.....he has almost completely stopped eating and now his fur is falling out.....I was up at 4am hand feeding him corn flakes but have to leave for work now and am terrified he is going to die by himself in his cage while I am not home....I can't stop crying......its gonna be a long day, or few days, every time I have to leave the house.....
I'm sorry you're going through this
I've been there with one of my former dogs and it's hellish.0 -
Caught up!
I'm not too worried about this parenting thing. I'm worried about the nitty, grittiness of sleep deprivation and exhaustion that comes with the early days, but beyond ensuring the kid's physical well-being, I feel like the actual 'parenting' part will be okay. I'm a decent person. My husband is a decent person. My parents were decent people and my siblings and I turned out fine. Not a lot of drama, not a lot of scares and we all put up with one another to varying degrees. Sure I expect there will be arguments and frustrations and bumps in the road, but I'm not aiming for perfection as I think that probably doesn't exist.
Am I being too blasé about the whole thing?!
No. Babies, while in the womb feed off of a mother's stress or lack thereof. The more relaxed you are, the better for the baby.
After they are born, they still feed off of the stress level of the people they are around the most. IME, relaxed, easy-going parents seem happier. Still balancing out discipline, of course. But not getting worked up over every little thing, losing your temper, etc. will benefit both you and your baby. During your pregnancy, don't let all the horror stories of others change your attitude you posted above!0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »I looked up diffusers- they go on the end of blowdryers? I always let my hair dry naturally, and never use gel either
No gel, hairspray, or anything... though I probably should get something to protect my hair from the heat when I straighten it.
There are times I like my hair, like when I wake up and think I have ok looking waves for once. The bad thing is I can't brush my hair lest it turn into a frizzy mess. Someone on Facebook actually shared an image that shows what it's like for me. Before brushing and after brushing:
Before I started straightening my hair, I had a friend who would always ask me why I never brushed my hair. I WAS brushing my hair, but it was coming out looking like the picture on the right!!! (but worse)
No, you cannot brush curly hair! Your friend clearly did not know what she was talking about.
And, instead of coloring your hair have you ever considered getting a clear gloss? It doesn't change your color but it adds some body and weight to the hair. Naturally curly hair is a whole different animal and takes practice to see what works for you.0 -
I had my only child at 29. Before that I never wanted kids and never wanted anything to do with anyone else's kids. I got more grief from people after I had one child about not having another. SMDH My daughter is now (reasonably) adjusted 21 year old raising 2 kids of her own. I never regretted not having more kids!
I was complaining to my friend about this the other day. She does not want kids, I'm still on the fence. But I was saying that no matter how many kids you have (or don't have) people are never happy. Don't have any, people want to know when you're having one. Have one - people want to know when you're having your second. And so on. It's very annoying!0 -
Curly hair takes time and practice to learn to work with. Do you have a salon you go to? Or a cosmetology school nearby? I'm sure someone would be more than happy to work with you! Probably someone like myself who had/has curly hair and a mother who did nothing with it when I was younger (NOT saying that is you) and would be glad to help someone else so that they don't go through a childhood with bad hair.
Also, the color of your hair is gorgeous! Love it!
*NODS* My mom had no idea what to do with my hair, and the internet didn't exist yet so there were many, many mornings I would be in a rage because my hair was being uncooperative, so into a ponytail it went.0 -
A clear gloss sounds awesome! I should probaby stop straightening my hair... I can't even imagine the damage I'm doing to it. When I last went to visit my mom she told me that she likes my hair curly and gave me some gel to use while I was there. I'd like to experiment with my hair but I'm always afraid of messing it up further. It also tangles like mad
No, you cannot brush curly hair! Your friend clearly did not know what she was talking about.
And, instead of coloring your hair have you ever considered getting a clear gloss? It doesn't change your color but it adds some body and weight to the hair. Naturally curly hair is a whole different animal and takes practice to see what works for you.
I do LOVE the feeling of getting my hair played with/styled/washed. Anyone in the same boat?
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AngryViking1970 wrote: »Is anyone an only child or have an only child? Am I damaging my kid?
I'm an only child (accident) but my parents are hardly a shining example of proper parenting (see previous confessions) so I think being an only was the least damaging aspect of my upbringing.
I do wish that I had siblings. Most (although not all) people I know have terrific relationships with their siblings and I envy that.
However, what I HATE is people who find out you're an only and immediately say, "Oh you must have been sooo spoiled, only children are always spoiled". Yeah. Right.
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thankyou4thevenom wrote: »I confess I am taking my dog to be neutered on Friday. I don't feel bad at all. In fact I am really looking forwards to seeing how many things he walks into while he's wearing the cone of shame.
(I'm awful I know)
Nothing wrong with seeing the bright side of a situation
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I was complaining to my friend about this the other day. She does not want kids, I'm still on the fence. But I was saying that no matter how many kids you have (or don't have) people are never happy. Don't have any, people want to know when you're having one. Have one - people want to know when you're having your second. And so on. It's very annoying!
I hate that! I also hate it when people throw out the platitude, "I never knew what it was like to truly love until I had children" Efffff that!! I have a lot of friends / family that are child-free by choice or by chance and they know how to love just as well as I do! Ugh.0 -
No, you cannot brush curly hair! Your friend clearly did not know what she was talking about.
And, instead of coloring your hair have you ever considered getting a clear gloss? It doesn't change your color but it adds some body and weight to the hair. Naturally curly hair is a whole different animal and takes practice to see what works for you.
So true. So true.0 -
One of my best friends is an only child and she turned out terrific. Very, very intelligent, witty, and mature. I don't think being an only child makes you damaged at all. I do love my siblings, though... even if sometimes I compare myself to my sister and feel inadequate
(she's beautiful and has the most gorgeous singing voice). 0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »
Well, I am glad you did not leave......I am also an outspoken person and it hit a nerve when it seemed like you were upset that someone was diabetic or that it was not a serious condition (which is how I interpreted your first comment, and I really appreciate that you apologized for that).....I am sensitive about certain subjects (like I have said before), and that is one of them, because I literally spend all day, every day managing my diabetes (I take a MINIMUM of seven insulin injections and test my blood sugar levels about ten times per day).
And I have had people around me that think it is not a big problem because I do not look sick all the time.
Meanwhile what they do not know is that it is a full time job to make sure I am not sick all the time, and sometimes even when I do not look sick I am dying inside because of all the long term problems I have because of it, and that I can never just not think of it when doing literally ANYTHING or just grab something quick to eat without making sure I have complex carbs AND protein at once to help slow it down and do the math about how many carbs are in that, subtract any fibre, and half of the sugar alcohol, if any, and then do some division to figure out how many units of insulin I need to inject to offset it, or that I can't even work out without making sure I adjust those numbers for the meal right before my work out and if I forget or do not know I am going to be doing activity in that time period, it makes things way more complicated, AND that I seem to have some kind of doctors appt every single week (this is why I opt for Tuesdays off and work some Saturdays instead, so many appts with all different kinds of DRS)......UGH.....ok rant about diabetes over lol......still glad you are here @lilaclovebird
I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of that. I do appreciate you taking the time to explain it and shed light on an aspect of this disease that does get overlooked and minimized.0 -
I've also seen the suggestion of eating at the maintenance for your goal weight (which you'd get from calculating your TDEE then, rather than your current weight). You can then custom set your goals for that number of calories. In theory you should very slowly lose until reaching goal.raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »Is that just setting MFP to maintain or do you do any calculating? I think I'm going to try that for a bit so I can get a grip on things.
I'm now 12lbs from my goal and considering doing this if I start to struggle, or even just for a little break.
raelynnsmama - let me know if you need help with the numbers figuring. I have a fairly good grasp on how it all works.
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raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »Is that just setting MFP to maintain or do you do any calculating? I think I'm going to try that for a bit so I can get a grip on things.
I don't know why this keeps cropping the end of things I post! I said I don't snack just because I have the calories.
I did no calculating, just set it to maintenance and still track my exercise.0 -
Aww, poor puppy. My friend had a cat that she took to get neutered and when they came back he jumped straight off their 5th floor balcony.
Keep a close eye on him in case he's suicidal - you know what men are like about their bits. Talking of which, I've just made an appointment for my husband to discuss getting neutered.
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Daily confession.
My husband's daughter's boyfriend broke up with her on Mother's Day and she is "living" with us now. I put living in quotes because since last Tuesday, she's stayed the night once or twice, the rest of the nights (she works evenings) she doesn't bother coming home or even calling to say she's not going to be home. I understand she's an adult being 19, but I also expect her to show us some gratitude and respect for taking her and her cat in when she didn't really have anywhere else to go. Although, she must have SOMEWHERE to sleep since she's not sleeping in our house.
I am fully miffed about the whole thing because I feel like she is using us to store her stuff and take care of her cat. I have asked my husband to talk to her, but I'm sure he won't since he doesn't like confrontation and she's just now coming into our lives after not being allowed to see us for the past 14 years and he doesn't want to do anything to jeopardize that.
I am upset and hurt and don't know what to do.
Tough situation but you got to talk to her. Tell her you're really happy to have her with you but if she's going to stay at your place, she needs to take care of her pet and tell you if she's not coming home... I mean, I've never had a roommate but I'd expect them to let me know if they were not coming home for the night too, or I would probably worry...Italian_Buju wrote: »I am really upset this morning because my degu is dying, I am sure of it now.....he has almost completely stopped eating and now his fur is falling out.....I was up at 4am hand feeding him corn flakes but have to leave for work now and am terrified he is going to die by himself in his cage while I am not home....I can't stop crying......its gonna be a long day, or few days, every time I have to leave the house.....
I'm sorry
That's just heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. Losing a pet, no matter how or when, is always so hard.
I have an indoor/outdoor (mostly outdoor) cat that I haven't seen in almost 2 weeks. We live in kind of a wooded area so I think an animal got him. I was thinking something happened last week when I didn't see him, but now that almost a whole week has passed and I still haven't seen him, I'm pretty sure he's gone for good. He was my boy and I'm sad I'll probably never get to hold him again.
I'm sorry too. My cat disappeared for a while when I moved to the US (I didn't want her to go out but my husband had 3 inside/outside cats so there was no way to just keep her inside). It was awful. My next cats will be indoor cats for sure.
Confession - I had a huge lunch on purpose, hoping it will keep the hunger at bay until dinner. You know my hormones are wacky when I'm not even craving sweets.0 -
Aww, poor puppy. My friend had a cat that she took to get neutered and when they came back he jumped straight off their 5th floor balcony. Keep a close eye on him in case he's suicidal - you know what men are like about their bits. Talking of which, I've just made an appointment for my husband to discuss getting neutered.
I did. It's a very simple procedure with zero impact sans a few days recovery. Aside from now shooting blanks, that is. lol0 -
Aww, poor puppy. My friend had a cat that she took to get neutered and when they came back he jumped straight off their 5th floor balcony. Keep a close eye on him in case he's suicidal - you know what men are like about their bits. Talking of which, I've just made an appointment for my husband to discuss getting neutered.
LOL! My husband is talking about going back under the knife to undo that. Funny, we can't get on the same page. Way back in the early part of this Confession thread, I think I mentioned that I wanted to have another child with current husband but was probably not going to happen. It's mostly because we're both in our 40's (I'm 41, he's 44) and he'd had the V before we met. I decided it wasn't worth it and dropped it. Now, he's talking about going to the doctor and discussing options. Ha!0 -
I was complaining to my friend about this the other day. She does not want kids, I'm still on the fence. But I was saying that no matter how many kids you have (or don't have) people are never happy. Don't have any, people want to know when you're having one. Have one - people want to know when you're having your second. And so on. It's very annoying!
Yep. And if you have more than 2 people will say you have too many. There is always someone with an opinion about what your uterus should/should not be doing.0 -
Caught up!
I'm not too worried about this parenting thing. I'm worried about the nitty, grittiness of sleep deprivation and exhaustion that comes with the early days, but beyond ensuring the kid's physical well-being, I feel like the actual 'parenting' part will be okay. I'm a decent person. My husband is a decent person. My parents were decent people and my siblings and I turned out fine. Not a lot of drama, not a lot of scares and we all put up with one another to varying degrees. Sure I expect there will be arguments and frustrations and bumps in the road, but I'm not aiming for perfection as I think that probably doesn't exist.
Am I being too blasé about the whole thing?!
Nah. I will say though that based on nothing but my time on pregnancy message boards (tip: do not go to a pregnancy message board, the craziest people spend all day there) most first babies seem to be easy. That's how they trick you into having another one. My oldest was the easiest baby in the world. I found myself thinking "why do people complain about this?". Five years later when I had my daughter, I found out how bad it could be. My daughter has also taught me to be a lot less judgmental about parenting styles. I parented her in the same general way as my son, and she is 400% more willful, stubborn, possessed by demons... I feel like I shouldn't have to say this - but I love her so much and she is also amazingly creative and funny in addition to possibly being the devil.0 -
Great guys, now I have that song stuck in my head.0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »I am really upset this morning because my degu is dying, I am sure of it now.....he has almost completely stopped eating and now his fur is falling out.....I was up at 4am hand feeding him corn flakes but have to leave for work now and am terrified he is going to die by himself in his cage while I am not home....I can't stop crying......its gonna be a long day, or few days, every time I have to leave the house.....
Oh no! Another fur baby sadness on our thread. I'm so sorry. Even if you aren't there, I know he knows you love him and that you are with him at all times.0 -
I'd say discuss it with the hubby, firmly. Come to an agreement then as a unified front take your requirements to your step-daughter with him taking the lead. And if needed, give her the (insert: subtle/stiff) reminder you both are doing her the favor. Sure there may be some heartburn on both sides but it should clear the air for everyone involved. *cross fingers*
I agree, thank you!
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I don't think I can come up with a response to how much I admire you for this. This is amazing and pretty much made me speechless, but I had to quote and acknowledge it. Charlie is truly blessed. Thank you for what you are doing and for sharing this with us.
this. you are an amazing person.0 -
Honestly, I just really do not like children, especially babies. I have a very difficult time relaxing around them and avoid being alone with them at all costs.
When I had to watch a relative's kid, I couldn't even eat around them.0 -
*NODS* My mom had no idea what to do with my hair, and the internet didn't exist yet so there were many, many mornings I would be in a rage because my hair was being uncooperative, so into a ponytail it went.
i'm completely convinced that my hair is so thin/scraggly/hideous because my mom repeatedly had me get perms when i was a kid. i was the only white kid with an afro in my school....0 -
overlook237 wrote: »I get some of my best insights right when I wake up in the morning and my mind is clear. This morning, I woke up angry because I realized that there are a lot of people in my life that I allow to walk all over me. I'm angry with them and with myself for letting it happen. I want to confront them but since it'll come out of the blue, I know I'll look like a crazy person, so all I can do is sit here and be angry about it (and wait until they try to pull that crap again so I can confront them). I'm the worst at confrontation but I realize that I'm sick to death of being treated like this and upset that I've let it happen. I also realized that I've wasted so much time trying to be whatever I think people want me to be - and how it's never enough for them anyway - and that just makes me feel unbearably sad.
I'm 35 so I might be a bit ahead of schedule for a "mid-life crisis" but that's what this seems like. Or maybe it's just the by-product of actually feeling emotions and not numbing myself with food like I've always done in the past. Regardless, right now my emotions are all over the place, but I'm hoping that once I have a good cry, I'll feel more focused about who I am, where I want to be in my life, and how to get there.
Not a confession, really, but if I didn't get this out, I'd probably have an epic meltdown.
Yes, to the bold. Yes, it is and that is a HUGE victory! Feeling your feelings is the only way to deal with and resolve them. Numbing them makes them never go away.
My suggestion to the anger you noted above: compartmentalize it. You know it's there, you found the source, you even know your resolution (when the time arises). Put it away in a "file" in your brain and access it when you need it. No need to carry it around with you actively.0 -
Was so tempted to binge on leftover popcorn that I threw the popcorn in the trash and sprayed air freshener on it! Furthermore, I was still tempted to binge on SOMETHING so I had to leave the house! The urges are strong sometimes 0
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I was complaining to my friend about this the other day. She does not want kids, I'm still on the fence. But I was saying that no matter how many kids you have (or don't have) people are never happy. Don't have any, people want to know when you're having one. Have one - people want to know when you're having your second. And so on. It's very annoying!
This! People still ask us all the time when we're having another one. Our daughter turned 13 in February. I would think it's safe for them to assume that time is never. That shipped has sailed. Or any other term you choose to use to say NO, we're not having anymore now STOP ASKING!!!
I had a C-section after 27 hours of labor and only getting to a 4 1/2. I didn't want to do the whole birth thing again. I loved being pregnant, if I could just do that and someone else could HAVE the babies, I'd sign up for that.
And now that my husband's daughter has started coming around, we really have 2 kids, even though I only had to give birth once.
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It just needed to be said...
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