Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »SusieQ....I'm too lazy to look up the correct name...I just wanted to chime in on how beautiful Oman is. I spent a week there a couple years ago while on vacation and have some great stories to tell. Most people I met were amazing. Funny story number 1: while walking through a mall I witnessed a man in a pale blue dishdasha walk smack into a man in front of me. I chuckled because I thought they were friends. I'm guessing they were not, since a few seconds later my friend comes up from behind me and has been slapped across the face by that same man! Three years later I still laugh about that.
Wow, that sounds so odd! :-O Maybe he was mentally retarded? (Not an insult, I mean it in the medical sense...) I'm so glad you enjoyed your time there!
Most people here probably have no idea what a dishdasha even IS, so welcome to the Oman club!! It's a little bit lonely in here, though, just you and I. 
I know...so strange. I lived in Kuwait and Egypt for almost 5 years....only time that happened. Probably there was something wrong with that man, but I'm happy to have witnessed it. My friend was unharmed, merely startled.0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »This morning I was able to put on a shirt that previously was tight. I was super stoked that it was loose and hung straight down from my chest without clinging to my hips or rear end. Then I became depressed because it seriously occurred to me that I've been trying to look like Sponge Bob square pants and walk like a robot my whole life. My mother told me that only *kitten* showed their hips and my step-father told me that only fat slutty *kitten* wiggled when they walked.
I don't wear red either. Even though I love red and I look awesome in red. I am pale skinned, with dark hair and green eyes. I look spectacular in red and I can't wear it because only sluts wear red. I am now upset and pissed off because I know even if I were to buy something that clings in red I probably wouldn't be able to wear it out of the house. I'd be afraid everyone was staring at me for the wrong reasons. I feel pathetic.
I'm thinking you should try to get past this with baby steps... a little splash of colour here and there to start, some mildly wiggle-generating mid-height heels... and work your way up.
My mother held the odd notion that "only widows wear black" but fortunately that didn't get passed on to me and I wear a lot of black. Oh, and when I was a teen somebody told her that only sluts wear big earrings. That was her one and only piece of advice to me upon starting high school. Lol. (I just put them on after I left the house)
I've never been much for wearing bright colours or fancy patterns since I've always preferred to fade into the background, but I've slowly been adding more vibrant clothes into my wardrobe.
Yes, that is pretty much what I do. Pretty much all of my clothing is a shade of black or grey with some blue jeans thrown in.
I was raised the same way. And talk about double messages - this was in a family where I can guarantee that my mother would collapse into hysterics if she thought I might possibly approach a weight over 100 pounds in high school. This stuff is absolutely freaking psychosis-inducing =P
I can only say that after gradually shedding a lot of the idiocy that had gotten shoved into my poor brain, I finally came around to firmly believing that every woman should own at least one blazing red dress and a good pair of "f*** me" pumps. And then wear 'em for YOURSELF - without regard to anybody else's dumb beliefs or stereotypes.
Good lord. I'm surprised sometimes that so many of us get through this life to turn out as basically sane, basically decent human beings - we get so much toxic crap thrown at us.
Amen! And I'm sorry for all the struggles everyone has endured regarding this topic. One correction, though: ONE pair of f*** pumps?! Oh, honey, I have a closet full of them! Worn with my discreet, professional clothes every day I get lots of use out of all of them and they make me feel fabulous!
I second this! I have a whole collection of beautiful shoes, which, when not on my feet, live in clear plastic boxes, so i can admire them. I have a wall of shoes**. I often wear all black outfits, and set them off with fabulous red shoes (i have about 10 pairs of red ones)
**i may also have a shoe addiction. Please don't ask about my handbags.
For the past several years hubby and I were getting out of debt and accumulating savings so shopping for unnecessary items was a no no. My shoe collection consists of two pairs of casual sneakers, one pair of outdoor gym shoes, one pair of indoor gym shoes, one pair of winter boots, one pair of water shoes, one pair of flip flops (which are in my gym bag for showering purposes because shower floors are gross), one pair of steel toes, one pair of black summer sandals, and one pair of slip on Sketchers that have holes in them for gardening. Oh and I have one pair of black flats that are glued together on the bottom at work and one pair of black slip on heals at work which are very worn to the point they should be replaced.
I just bought my first pair of white sandal heels last week and I got them on sale... I feel so pretty in them.
I admit that when I was at my heaviest, I didn't have the confidence to wear any pretty clothes so I didn't buy anything nice. Buying those white sandals was so liberating.
I confess that I don't understand anybody's obsession with hand bags. It is just a bag!
You go wash your mouth out with soap right now, young lady!
It's not just a bag, it's a gateway drug to hoarding
I would have more of them, but they tend to get bigger, and the bigger they get, the more crap I carry around in them. Every 6 months or so I have to reset and go back to using one that will barely hold just a wallet, phone and keys.
I do that exact same thing. Right now I'm using a bag that is probably the size of an 8X10 notebook, and I can fit quite a lot in. I've actually been proud of myself for not going bigger than this, because I've seen some amazing hobo bags that I could probably fit my child into. I have my small purses hung up, waiting for me to get sick of digging.
My last three bag purchases have been big for me. I'm about ready to go back to my big enough to hold a small wallet, card case, iPhone, smokes and keys.
The digging thing is driving me mental.
I hate big bags. I always lose things. I stay smaller.0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »This morning I was able to put on a shirt that previously was tight. I was super stoked that it was loose and hung straight down from my chest without clinging to my hips or rear end. Then I became depressed because it seriously occurred to me that I've been trying to look like Sponge Bob square pants and walk like a robot my whole life. My mother told me that only *kitten* showed their hips and my step-father told me that only fat slutty *kitten* wiggled when they walked.
I don't wear red either. Even though I love red and I look awesome in red. I am pale skinned, with dark hair and green eyes. I look spectacular in red and I can't wear it because only sluts wear red. I am now upset and pissed off because I know even if I were to buy something that clings in red I probably wouldn't be able to wear it out of the house. I'd be afraid everyone was staring at me for the wrong reasons. I feel pathetic.
I'm thinking you should try to get past this with baby steps... a little splash of colour here and there to start, some mildly wiggle-generating mid-height heels... and work your way up.
My mother held the odd notion that "only widows wear black" but fortunately that didn't get passed on to me and I wear a lot of black. Oh, and when I was a teen somebody told her that only sluts wear big earrings. That was her one and only piece of advice to me upon starting high school. Lol. (I just put them on after I left the house)
I've never been much for wearing bright colours or fancy patterns since I've always preferred to fade into the background, but I've slowly been adding more vibrant clothes into my wardrobe.
Yes, that is pretty much what I do. Pretty much all of my clothing is a shade of black or grey with some blue jeans thrown in.
I was raised the same way. And talk about double messages - this was in a family where I can guarantee that my mother would collapse into hysterics if she thought I might possibly approach a weight over 100 pounds in high school. This stuff is absolutely freaking psychosis-inducing =P
I can only say that after gradually shedding a lot of the idiocy that had gotten shoved into my poor brain, I finally came around to firmly believing that every woman should own at least one blazing red dress and a good pair of "f*** me" pumps. And then wear 'em for YOURSELF - without regard to anybody else's dumb beliefs or stereotypes.
Good lord. I'm surprised sometimes that so many of us get through this life to turn out as basically sane, basically decent human beings - we get so much toxic crap thrown at us.
Amen! And I'm sorry for all the struggles everyone has endured regarding this topic. One correction, though: ONE pair of f*** pumps?! Oh, honey, I have a closet full of them! Worn with my discreet, professional clothes every day I get lots of use out of all of them and they make me feel fabulous!
I second this! I have a whole collection of beautiful shoes, which, when not on my feet, live in clear plastic boxes, so i can admire them. I have a wall of shoes**. I often wear all black outfits, and set them off with fabulous red shoes (i have about 10 pairs of red ones)
**i may also have a shoe addiction. Please don't ask about my handbags.
For the past several years hubby and I were getting out of debt and accumulating savings so shopping for unnecessary items was a no no. My shoe collection consists of two pairs of casual sneakers, one pair of outdoor gym shoes, one pair of indoor gym shoes, one pair of winter boots, one pair of water shoes, one pair of flip flops (which are in my gym bag for showering purposes because shower floors are gross), one pair of steel toes, one pair of black summer sandals, and one pair of slip on Sketchers that have holes in them for gardening. Oh and I have one pair of black flats that are glued together on the bottom at work and one pair of black slip on heals at work which are very worn to the point they should be replaced.
I just bought my first pair of white sandal heels last week and I got them on sale... I feel so pretty in them.
I admit that when I was at my heaviest, I didn't have the confidence to wear any pretty clothes so I didn't buy anything nice. Buying those white sandals was so liberating.
I confess that I don't understand anybody's obsession with hand bags. It is just a bag!
You go wash your mouth out with soap right now, young lady!
It's not just a bag, it's a gateway drug to hoarding I would have more of them, but they tend to get bigger, and the bigger they get, the more crap I carry around in them. Every 6 months or so I have to reset and go back to using one that will barely hold just a wallet, phone and keys.
I do that exact same thing. Right now I'm using a bag that is probably the size of an 8X10 notebook, and I can fit quite a lot in. I've actually been proud of myself for not going bigger than this, because I've seen some amazing hobo bags that I could probably fit my child into. I have my small purses hung up, waiting for me to get sick of digging.
My last three bag purchases have been big for me. I'm about ready to go back to my big enough to hold a small wallet, card case, iPhone, smokes and keys.
The digging thing is driving me mental.
I'm getting ready to switch as well. I have the cutest small kelly green purse that I like to use in the summer. The only thing stopping me is that I really like my (large) wallet, and there is no way it will fit in the small bags.
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My two cents are that I think you are breath-takingly beautiful. You have this really charming and adorable beautyJust checking in to say that I'm sorry a few of you are having such a hard time (Italian_Buju, noaddedsugar especially - thinking good thoughts for both of you.) Also that I'm happy for those of you reporting weight-loss success. Awesome job!
I cut back my calories more this week because I'm still feeling fluffy from last month...hopefully that'll all be back to normal soon. Being shortish and small-framed is awful sometimes because every pound is so obvious. Even at five pounds heavier than where I like to stay, I feel like my arms are gigantic and my thighs are rubbing and there's muffintop hanging over my waistband.
It's a good day at work today because we've just switched to a shorter workweek, so I'm out of here at 2PM every Friday now I'll have time to go home and do a couple loads of laundry and clean the bathrooms before anyone else is home, and I am very excited about it because it'll leave me more free time on the weekends if I don't have to do that stuff on Saturday morning.
Erm, pretty sure that's not at ALL what we saw in your wedding pictures! Well, I hope that feeling goes away soon. Enjoy your early Friday off!
That's nice of you to say and was helpful to read today, particularly as I have my photo proofs back and I can barely look at them because of my arms and chest. Should have stayed a little extra thin and just taped my dress to me instead of gaining enough weight to make it fit, haha. Oh well. There are some close ups I can stand where there are flowers blocking my cleavage, so that'll be good enough.
I feel like I missed the lesson they taught every other woman my age about standing with your arms out in photos so the fat isn't squished against your side. All the women in my group photos are doing that hand-on-hip skinny-arm pose and there I am like the great white whale in the middle
Don't be so hard on yourself, you don't deserve that!
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pofoster21 wrote: »TigerNY128 wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »Confession: When I am at work and have to go #2, I take my phone with me so I can't read this thread
I hate when I have to poop really badly & someone is in the stall right next to me.
Is is funny b/c it is so true!!
I also hate (and I am not sure if I have posted this here or in the "Things That Make You Irrationally Angry" thread when there are multiple open stalls and you give yourself some space and someone take the stall right beside you. Okay, this just downright pisses me of when people do this.
Me too! Seriously there are five other stalls open down the line and you take the one right next me? Okay creep-o...
Ugh! Happens all the time at work! I hate it!
I just remembered a study that I heard about in 1st or 2nd year psych about bathroom stall selection... assuming availability of empty stalls, introverts will tend to choose stalls at the ends whereas extroverts will choose stalls in the middle.
See, now elsewhere in this forum I'd immediately be taken to task for not providing peer-reviewed citations to back that up, and someone would dig up (and post links to) a dozen studies refuting the findings of the original one, and here I can just toss it out there as an amusing little tidbit of trivia.
and when i read that i think dude! i stick to the ends! this makes sense!!
i was in one of those snarky threads where they were jumping all over this dude for saying he read something in an article, but then couldn't produce it to prove what he said was true and then the mob took over to "prove him wrong." i x'd outta that one pretty fast, but it made me absolutely terrified to post anything.
I always stick to the end. Handicap if I can (and not likely to be needed). I need the space. So there, qualitative research of a few, and there is a professor on this thread so its 'peer reviewed'.
Ha! I think I'm the only prof that has at least admitted it here. So yeah, with my official Dr. Jo hat on, my reviewer recommendation is 'accept'. (Although I'm uber-quant, I study interpersonal political disagreement, so maybe there's a way for me to seem like an authoritative reviewer for this ). 0 -
krissyreminisce wrote: »krissyreminisce wrote: »krissyreminisce wrote: »Confession: I'm starting to get annoyed with eating my two snacks at work. I'd rather ignore the hunger and headaches than eat.
I also have to send my mother a photo of every meal so she knows I'm eating. Though she has asked me twice if I'm lying to her about whether or not I actually eat it. (I do eat my food, btw).
Is the actual food you dislike? The interruption to your work day? Or eating period? I know you are struggling with this so I'm just wondering what specifically the issue is so that maybe we can offer some help. Maybe just drink 2 quick protein drinks in place of those 2 snacks? Quick, easy, yet nourishing.
Remember, you just reached your new PR - the better you take care of yourself the sooner you'll reach your next one!
The only thing about the food that annoys me is I have yet to find something that takes the edge off of the hunger for longer than 20 minutes after I eat it. I'd rather eat nothing than eat something only to be hungry again almost immediately.
But as it stands today, I had a meltdown in front of my dad about how I pretty much can't even say I'm skirting along the edge of an eating disorder, and that I'm in fact beginning to just lose. I skipped dinner last night on purpose (which when my mom found out she was pretty devastated) and I'm just starting to feel apathetic about eating at all. I'm also pissed and sad because I found myself in this place and can't quite seem to climb back out.
I am going to make an appointment with their GP so at least I'll have a doctor (mine up and left for 'personal reasons' and I just never found another).
I also ended up going to urgent care tonight. I may have my first UTI or a kidney infection. I'm on antibiotics and will find out in a few days what my cultures were.
And @Italian_Buju, I'm a few pages behind, but I'm so sorry about your degu.
I kept secretly hoping he'd bounce back. My cat did that when she was 18, looked like she was about to pass, but perked back up until her kidneys finally gave out at 19.
I'll be thinking of you!
Well, definitely UP your water intake! Hopefully whatever infection you have clears quickly. Depending on what types of foods you like and currently eat, I'd suggest nuts or a slice or two of cheese or cottage cheese, maybe? Those things tend to be filling. Fat and protein is the key for me.
I'm glad you're going to a new doctor. I hope they can help. As far as being apathetic towards food and eating, I can relate. I eat for fuel. I don't get excited about food and sometimes I'd rather not eat then go through the trouble of making something for myself. Lazy. But, I know I really like my weight lifting routine and the current progress I've made on the step mill, so I make sure I eat anyway so that I have fuel and energy.
Keep us posted as to how you are and what the doctor says!
I don't even really like eating for fuel. I'm just terrified of gaining the weight back.
But you're still running and marathon training, right? I know this is a complicated and emotional issue, but if you can just convince yourself that it's okay to eat since you are so active I think you will quickly see that you won't gain that weight back.
I do understand the fear. I shared on another thread recently that the only time I carried around extra weight was my Freshman and Sophomore years of high school. I just wasn't as physically active anymore. I lost that weight and have been maintaining for years, but those two short years really affected me. I remember exactly how I felt and that I never want that to happen again.
It took me a while to understand that I have control over that and it's not going to happen again because I'm conscious of it. Give yourself time to adjust to the new you.0 -
AngryViking1970 wrote: »TigerNY128 wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »Confession: When I am at work and have to go #2, I take my phone with me so I can't read this thread
I hate when I have to poop really badly & someone is in the stall right next to me.
Is is funny b/c it is so true!!
I also hate (and I am not sure if I have posted this here or in the "Things That Make You Irrationally Angry" thread when there are multiple open stalls and you give yourself some space and someone take the stall right beside you. Okay, this just downright pisses me of when people do this.
Me too! Seriously there are five other stalls open down the line and you take the one right next me? Okay creep-o...
Ugh! Happens all the time at work! I hate it!
I just remembered a study that I heard about in 1st or 2nd year psych about bathroom stall selection... assuming availability of empty stalls, introverts will tend to choose stalls at the ends whereas extroverts will choose stalls in the middle.
See, now elsewhere in this forum I'd immediately be taken to task for not providing peer-reviewed citations to back that up, and someone would dig up (and post links to) a dozen studies refuting the findings of the original one, and here I can just toss it out there as an amusing little tidbit of trivia.
and when i read that i think dude! i stick to the ends! this makes sense!!
i was in one of those snarky threads where they were jumping all over this dude for saying he read something in an article, but then couldn't produce it to prove what he said was true and then the mob took over to "prove him wrong." i x'd outta that one pretty fast, but it made me absolutely terrified to post anything.
I'm definitely extroverted and I prefer the stalls on the end!
I do too. I also remember reading somewhere that the first stall is usually the cleanest because people tend to bypass that one in favor of one farther from the door. And no, I don't have sources to cite so back offa me!
That's the one I always choose!
I go to the last one, most people don't want to walk that far (if you are in a big bathroom!). Or the handicap if no one is waiting for it. I love that it has its own sink usually. Although the higher toilet can be problematic if you are choosing not to sit down. 0 -
Ha, like we would leave you behind!0 -
So I don't own a page:
Happy birthday to the birthday duo!
I hope @noaddedsugarx & grandma are doing well.
Congratulations to @pofoster21!
Sending happy thoughts to @Italian_Buju.
And both congratulations on the three days and cute puppies to @KylerJaye.
And sorry if I missed anything!0 -
WestCoastJo82 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »TigerNY128 wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »Confession: When I am at work and have to go #2, I take my phone with me so I can't read this thread
I hate when I have to poop really badly & someone is in the stall right next to me.
Is is funny b/c it is so true!!
I also hate (and I am not sure if I have posted this here or in the "Things That Make You Irrationally Angry" thread when there are multiple open stalls and you give yourself some space and someone take the stall right beside you. Okay, this just downright pisses me of when people do this.
Me too! Seriously there are five other stalls open down the line and you take the one right next me? Okay creep-o...
Ugh! Happens all the time at work! I hate it!
I just remembered a study that I heard about in 1st or 2nd year psych about bathroom stall selection... assuming availability of empty stalls, introverts will tend to choose stalls at the ends whereas extroverts will choose stalls in the middle.
See, now elsewhere in this forum I'd immediately be taken to task for not providing peer-reviewed citations to back that up, and someone would dig up (and post links to) a dozen studies refuting the findings of the original one, and here I can just toss it out there as an amusing little tidbit of trivia.
and when i read that i think dude! i stick to the ends! this makes sense!!
i was in one of those snarky threads where they were jumping all over this dude for saying he read something in an article, but then couldn't produce it to prove what he said was true and then the mob took over to "prove him wrong." i x'd outta that one pretty fast, but it made me absolutely terrified to post anything.
I always stick to the end. Handicap if I can (and not likely to be needed). I need the space. So there, qualitative research of a few, and there is a professor on this thread so its 'peer reviewed'.
Ha! I think I'm the only prof that has at least admitted it here. So yeah, with my official Dr. Jo hat on, my reviewer recommendation is 'accept'. (Although I'm uber-quant, I study interpersonal political disagreement, so maybe there's a way for me to seem like an authoritative reviewer for this ).
See? MyFitnessPal detractors beware. We crossed the T-s and dotted the I's. We are officially sanctioned.0 -
Almost to 800 pages. Not sure if I will be around for that, things are slowing down in here, and I have to leave work at dot of 5 today, so if not, I will stop at some point for a moment of silence on reaching page 800. In advance or arrears remains to be seen...
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That's what he needs [/quote]
I do my best to be there for him, at 25 he doesn't have either one of his grandmothers and only one living grandfather, and it's rough on him. He tells me all the time to be thankful I still have the grandparents I have. My maternal grandmother (Mema) is still with us, I don't see my step-grandma or only living grandpa because they cut my parents and myself out of the family (long story), my bio grandma (paternal) committed suicide in 1983, and my granddaddy (maternal grandfather) passed from cancer in 2004. I still have my great-grandma (Mama Tucker) here at the young age of 96, and my husband tells me everyday to never forget just how blessed I am to still have her and my other grandparents. Believe me, I haven't forgotten at all.
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Definitely agree, all you can do is be there for him. I'm in a similar situation to your husband by the sounds of things, as someone who had lost her 3 remaining grandparents to cancer by the age of 20, I can promise you that sometimes just being there for him is better than any words of comfort you could give. Or at least I know it was true for me that just having emotional support was worth more than anything to me. And it's true what he says, treasure every moment you have with them, although I'm sure you already know and do that Love and thoughts go out to everyone who has shared their heartbreaking stories on this thread. 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »Just checking in to say that I'm sorry a few of you are having such a hard time (Italian_Buju, noaddedsugar especially - thinking good thoughts for both of you.) Also that I'm happy for those of you reporting weight-loss success. Awesome job!
I cut back my calories more this week because I'm still feeling fluffy from last month...hopefully that'll all be back to normal soon. Being shortish and small-framed is awful sometimes because every pound is so obvious. Even at five pounds heavier than where I like to stay, I feel like my arms are gigantic and my thighs are rubbing and there's muffintop hanging over my waistband.
It's a good day at work today because we've just switched to a shorter workweek, so I'm out of here at 2PM every Friday now I'll have time to go home and do a couple loads of laundry and clean the bathrooms before anyone else is home, and I am very excited about it because it'll leave me more free time on the weekends if I don't have to do that stuff on Saturday morning.
Erm, pretty sure that's not at ALL what we saw in your wedding pictures! Well, I hope that feeling goes away soon. Enjoy your early Friday off!
That's nice of you to say and was helpful to read today, particularly as I have my photo proofs back and I can barely look at them because of my arms and chest. Should have stayed a little extra thin and just taped my dress to me instead of gaining enough weight to make it fit, haha. Oh well. There are some close ups I can stand where there are flowers blocking my cleavage, so that'll be good enough.
I feel like I missed the lesson they taught every other woman my age about standing with your arms out in photos so the fat isn't squished against your side. All the women in my group photos are doing that hand-on-hip skinny-arm pose and there I am like the great white whale in the middle
Oh my gosh, STOP! You looked gorgeous!
ditto and if you did what you describe you would look like Paris Hilton. Totally fake.
x3 You were beautiful in the photos you posted here! Look back on them with a smile, and focus on how great of a day it was. You got married!0 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Apologies for the binge posting, but I am now caught up. I tried doing the multi-quote thing once before, so there was only one post from me, but then i lost all the posts i quoted and replied to before i could hit send.
Gonna ask you all for a little advice. I go to the gym daily and mostly i tend to do cardio (treadmill) stuff, because i really like the high calorie burns my HRM gives me. But i need to do some strength stuff. I don't really know where to start and i'm too shy to ask. I thought I'd buy the NROLFW and see if i could do that. What do you think? What do you guys do?
Hello! I'm so sorry I missed this post! I started on NROLFW and I did the first stage, which was fine, but when I got to the second stage, I kind of felt like I had taken a step back because I had to learn a whole new set of moves and I didn't know how heavy I could start the weights with, so I gave up. I'm now on Strong Lifts 5x5 which is SOOOO much simpler! Only 5 exercises and you feel like you are progressing every gym session! Depends how confident you are in the gym. I felt like a complete idiot because I was trying moves I had never done before with the New Rules. The book is good for general information about strength training though, so you could still get the book and then decide? I wouldn't say the book was a waste of money. I regret nothing.
I did download the stronglift app, but i don't really get it.....?
This may have already been answered, but...
You do bench, rows and squats on Day One.
Then deadlift, OHP and squats on Day Two.
Then go back to Day One, rinse and repeat.
Take two rest days a week, at least. I only do SL 5X5 three times a week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
ETA: If you don't know how to do one of the lifts correctly, Youtube it.Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example
). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
Awww. I'm the same way... or at least I try to be. Some recipients are easier than others, and I could never achieve that standard with my mother for some reason. OTOH I've given my dad some really cool things that he absolutely loves.
I get very disappointed in myself when I draw a blank, though.
Currently debating getting my SO some tool he saw in a pawn shop but wouldn't buy because he couldn't get the guy to knock $25 off the price. Apparently it will sit in the store forever because it's so obscure no one will want it. The object of the gift is twofold -- one, he will be surprised when he goes back there again to try for a price reduction and it's sold; two -- finding out that he's the new owner, eventually. The only thing that's stopping me is the fact that I have to hang onto it until Christmas, as that is the next gift giving occasion for us.
Anyway. No one has ever put that much effort into buying gifts for me either. And I hear you on "actually really hurts". But I eventually realized that some people just don't see it the same way... for them, "gift giving effort" isn't necessarily an expression of love or a measure of caring, they have other ways of showing it.
It doesn't hurt to check out Love Languages (forget who the author is but there's stuff online). It talks about different categories of how we express love, and how someone may be expressing it toward us in their "language" but we don't get the message because we don't have the same language.
I'm another one who spends hours trying to find awesome gifts and i am always disappointed by gifts i receive.
Last year's gifts i bought:
My boyfriend's birthday : a weekend at our favourite remote cottage in the Brecon Beacons, on the weekend that my girlfriend had bought him birthday tickets to see Lee Evans in Cardiff.
My girlfriend's birthday: An infinity triangle necklace that she had admired, but refused to buy. 12 deep blue roses, that are almost impossible to get (took me a month to track down).
For christmas: The main gift was joint - a 4 day trip to amsterdam. I'd booked and paid for flights and hotel, back in August last year - the trip was in March this year.. I also bought an amsterdamn guide book, a board game we'd been eyeing up, their favourite chocolate and a bottle of scent each, as well as other small things like socks with their favourite characters.
For my birthday i got: A plastic book light for my kindle. Thats it. nothing else. I cried. I've had my kindle 6 years and never yet felt the need for a clip on light. I have no idea why that was thought to be an appropriate gift. I was totally gutted by this gift. (not relevant, but their gifts to each other on their birthdays were a) most expensive and b) something they wanted). I also know that said gift was bought on the day of my birthday. I felt not only was this a cheap shoddy gift, but it showed they really didn't put much thought into it, about me, what i would like/want. and buying it on the day....it was worse than petrol station flowers.
For christmas i got some nice gifts, only one thing that i said i actually wanted (A song of Fire and Ice set). But all of my gifts were bought when they went out shopping on boxing day. I couldn't help but feel such an after thought. The reasoning was it was really the only time they had to go shopping together, and i'm really hard to buy for.
I'm not going to put so much effort in this year. i know that sounds petty. I loved their reactions to my gifts and i really wanted them to have those things.....but when compared to what i got, the negative feelings far outweighed the positive.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »I am taking my little boy in to the vets in an hour to be put down. I know its the right thing to do, the vet agreed, yet I feel terribly guilty and still am wondering if I am making a mistake....
I know things like this get better with time, but right now it feels like my heart has been ripped out and stomped and I don't know how I will ever recover...
R.I.P. little rodent boy
So sorry for your loss! Hugs!!!
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I'd be sad to leave this original thread behind, but count me in, too!
if you all leave and go somwhere else, please let me know, otherwise i'll get left behind. i never look in the forums, i just click on my favourites and click into this thread
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pofoster21 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »Just checking in to say that I'm sorry a few of you are having such a hard time (Italian_Buju, noaddedsugar especially - thinking good thoughts for both of you.) Also that I'm happy for those of you reporting weight-loss success. Awesome job!
I cut back my calories more this week because I'm still feeling fluffy from last month...hopefully that'll all be back to normal soon. Being shortish and small-framed is awful sometimes because every pound is so obvious. Even at five pounds heavier than where I like to stay, I feel like my arms are gigantic and my thighs are rubbing and there's muffintop hanging over my waistband.
It's a good day at work today because we've just switched to a shorter workweek, so I'm out of here at 2PM every Friday now I'll have time to go home and do a couple loads of laundry and clean the bathrooms before anyone else is home, and I am very excited about it because it'll leave me more free time on the weekends if I don't have to do that stuff on Saturday morning.
Erm, pretty sure that's not at ALL what we saw in your wedding pictures! Well, I hope that feeling goes away soon. Enjoy your early Friday off!
That's nice of you to say and was helpful to read today, particularly as I have my photo proofs back and I can barely look at them because of my arms and chest. Should have stayed a little extra thin and just taped my dress to me instead of gaining enough weight to make it fit, haha. Oh well. There are some close ups I can stand where there are flowers blocking my cleavage, so that'll be good enough.
I feel like I missed the lesson they taught every other woman my age about standing with your arms out in photos so the fat isn't squished against your side. All the women in my group photos are doing that hand-on-hip skinny-arm pose and there I am like the great white whale in the middle
Oh my gosh, STOP! You looked gorgeous!
ditto and if you did what you describe you would look like Paris Hilton. Totally fake.
x3 You were beautiful in the photos you posted here! Look back on them with a smile, and focus on how great of a day it was. You got married!
Thanks, everyone - I swear that wasn't a fish-for-compliments thing, honestly. I'm just very self-conscious about those two areas in particular and those are unfortunately the areas hanging out of wedding dresses as a rule So looking at the photos mostly just makes me cringe-y. It's not a big deal, we had a great wedding and I'm happy about everything we did, and I'm not a big photo person anyway...it's just going to be annoying when my mother hangs up ten of them at her house and I have to see them every time we're over for dinner. But I didn't get married for the sake of the photos, so...whatever, I guess.
And to be fair, I did NOT post any of the photos where you're looking directly at four inches of cleavage, so all my whining can't quite be understood.0 -
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smashley_mashley wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »I wanted to throw my two cents in re GoT. I loved the books and the series does not do it justice. I refused to watch the series for three seasons but then hubby (who hasn't read the books) said it was time. I am livid that story lines are being left out and, in the case of this season, are being changed all together. But I guess you have to make concessions when you are trying to cram a 700 page book into 10 one hour episodes.
I enjoy the series, but I try to look at it as it's own thing with the same cast of characters, because there are definitely things I'm annoyed by (and some I like more).
Also, I'm totally holding out for Stoneheart even though everyone is swearing they dropped the storyline. I refuse to accept it!
I've heard the same thing too. I don't understand how they can drop the storyline when we don't even know what GRRM is going to do with it yet. How do we (or HBO) know that it might be a key turning point in the novels that may change the tide of the impending wars?
the producers do know what GRRM intends to do with it. They've met with him numerous times and he has given them the story arcs of all the characters in case he dies (his words).
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orangesmartie wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Apologies for the binge posting, but I am now caught up. I tried doing the multi-quote thing once before, so there was only one post from me, but then i lost all the posts i quoted and replied to before i could hit send.
Gonna ask you all for a little advice. I go to the gym daily and mostly i tend to do cardio (treadmill) stuff, because i really like the high calorie burns my HRM gives me. But i need to do some strength stuff. I don't really know where to start and i'm too shy to ask. I thought I'd buy the NROLFW and see if i could do that. What do you think? What do you guys do?
Hello! I'm so sorry I missed this post! I started on NROLFW and I did the first stage, which was fine, but when I got to the second stage, I kind of felt like I had taken a step back because I had to learn a whole new set of moves and I didn't know how heavy I could start the weights with, so I gave up. I'm now on Strong Lifts 5x5 which is SOOOO much simpler! Only 5 exercises and you feel like you are progressing every gym session! Depends how confident you are in the gym. I felt like a complete idiot because I was trying moves I had never done before with the New Rules. The book is good for general information about strength training though, so you could still get the book and then decide? I wouldn't say the book was a waste of money. I regret nothing.
I did download the stronglift app, but i don't really get it.....?
This may have already been answered, but...
You do bench, rows and squats on Day One.
Then deadlift, OHP and squats on Day Two.
Then go back to Day One, rinse and repeat.
Take two rest days a week, at least. I only do SL 5X5 three times a week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
ETA: If you don't know how to do one of the lifts correctly, Youtube it.Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
Awww. I'm the same way... or at least I try to be. Some recipients are easier than others, and I could never achieve that standard with my mother for some reason. OTOH I've given my dad some really cool things that he absolutely loves.
I get very disappointed in myself when I draw a blank, though.
Currently debating getting my SO some tool he saw in a pawn shop but wouldn't buy because he couldn't get the guy to knock $25 off the price. Apparently it will sit in the store forever because it's so obscure no one will want it. The object of the gift is twofold -- one, he will be surprised when he goes back there again to try for a price reduction and it's sold; two -- finding out that he's the new owner, eventually. The only thing that's stopping me is the fact that I have to hang onto it until Christmas, as that is the next gift giving occasion for us.
Anyway. No one has ever put that much effort into buying gifts for me either. And I hear you on "actually really hurts". But I eventually realized that some people just don't see it the same way... for them, "gift giving effort" isn't necessarily an expression of love or a measure of caring, they have other ways of showing it.
It doesn't hurt to check out Love Languages (forget who the author is but there's stuff online). It talks about different categories of how we express love, and how someone may be expressing it toward us in their "language" but we don't get the message because we don't have the same language.
I'm another one who spends hours trying to find awesome gifts and i am always disappointed by gifts i receive.
Last year's gifts i bought:
My boyfriend's birthday : a weekend at our favourite remote cottage in the Brecon Beacons, on the weekend that my girlfriend had bought him birthday tickets to see Lee Evans in Cardiff.
My girlfriend's birthday: An infinity triangle necklace that she had admired, but refused to buy. 12 deep blue roses, that are almost impossible to get (took me a month to track down).
For christmas: The main gift was joint - a 4 day trip to amsterdam. I'd booked and paid for flights and hotel, back in August last year - the trip was in March this year.. I also bought an amsterdamn guide book, a board game we'd been eyeing up, their favourite chocolate and a bottle of scent each, as well as other small things like socks with their favourite characters.
For my birthday i got: A plastic book light for my kindle. Thats it. nothing else. I cried. I've had my kindle 6 years and never yet felt the need for a clip on light. I have no idea why that was thought to be an appropriate gift. I was totally gutted by this gift. (not relevant, but their gifts to each other on their birthdays were a) most expensive and b) something they wanted). I also know that said gift was bought on the day of my birthday. I felt not only was this a cheap shoddy gift, but it showed they really didn't put much thought into it, about me, what i would like/want. and buying it on the day....it was worse than petrol station flowers.
For christmas i got some nice gifts, only one thing that i said i actually wanted (A song of Fire and Ice set). But all of my gifts were bought when they went out shopping on boxing day. I couldn't help but feel such an after thought. The reasoning was it was really the only time they had to go shopping together, and i'm really hard to buy for.
I'm not going to put so much effort in this year. i know that sounds petty. I loved their reactions to my gifts and i really wanted them to have those things.....but when compared to what i got, the negative feelings far outweighed the positive.
i don't think it's petty.
i would have been absolutely devastated as well, and have been in similar situations in the past.
because really it's not about the gift, it's the thought and effort behind it and put into it.
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Agreed. But I am not a major contributor, so I don't want to do it unless most agree.
i might be too late, but i agree to being unstickied. I agree that this thread shouldn't really be stickied, its not a newbie information thread. Plus it may garner us unwanted attention
**i appreciate i am several pages behind, so this may all be moot
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noaddedsugarx wrote: »It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.
Today she had a bad fall from the top to the very bottom of the stairs. She hit her head and has suffered bruising and bleeding to the brain and fractured her skull in two places along with breaking her elbow. The Doctors say there's nothing they can do but to wait it out and see if the bruising on her brain heals itself within the next 48-72 hours and her condition is going to get worse before/if it gets better. If it does heal itself they don't know what her level of function will be after.
I'm sick with worry and there's nothing I can do. It was 12 hours in hospital before she got seen by a specialist after lying there drowsy with a confirmed bleed on the brain!
I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. It is not your fault. You couldn't have known or foreseen. and you do need to be able to get dressed/go to the bathroom.
Hugs to you, i hope she is recovering well
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xMrBunglex wrote: »I confess that I about died Monday when I saw that Faith No More had just booked a show at Red Rocks in September...Got my tickets on Wednesday - 25th row! (sold out this morning.)
My favorite band in the entire universe. THE. ENTIRE. UNIVERSE.
I was so sad when they called it quits in '98 & thought they'd always just be music that I would throw on & wax nostalgic for the hard-partying 90s. When they did get together and perform in later years, it was always overseas.
Now it's 2015, they've got a new album out (solid B+ as far as reunions go) and they're playing at M************ RED ROCKS. 5 minutes from my house. If you couldn't tell, I am FAR BEYOND STOKED.
Is it a one off at Red Rocks or a legit tour?
Legit tour: http://www.fnm.com/tour-dates.shtml
My wife & I were going to take a trip to see them in Dallas or Raleigh, but we held off...thank god. The last show was Sept 8 in Seattle, until they just announced the Red Rocks show & the Chicago festival. They've been adding dates here & there for the last month!0 -
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orangesmartie wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Apologies for the binge posting, but I am now caught up. I tried doing the multi-quote thing once before, so there was only one post from me, but then i lost all the posts i quoted and replied to before i could hit send.
Gonna ask you all for a little advice. I go to the gym daily and mostly i tend to do cardio (treadmill) stuff, because i really like the high calorie burns my HRM gives me. But i need to do some strength stuff. I don't really know where to start and i'm too shy to ask. I thought I'd buy the NROLFW and see if i could do that. What do you think? What do you guys do?
Hello! I'm so sorry I missed this post! I started on NROLFW and I did the first stage, which was fine, but when I got to the second stage, I kind of felt like I had taken a step back because I had to learn a whole new set of moves and I didn't know how heavy I could start the weights with, so I gave up. I'm now on Strong Lifts 5x5 which is SOOOO much simpler! Only 5 exercises and you feel like you are progressing every gym session! Depends how confident you are in the gym. I felt like a complete idiot because I was trying moves I had never done before with the New Rules. The book is good for general information about strength training though, so you could still get the book and then decide? I wouldn't say the book was a waste of money. I regret nothing.
I did download the stronglift app, but i don't really get it.....?
This may have already been answered, but...
You do bench, rows and squats on Day One.
Then deadlift, OHP and squats on Day Two.
Then go back to Day One, rinse and repeat.
Take two rest days a week, at least. I only do SL 5X5 three times a week, Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
ETA: If you don't know how to do one of the lifts correctly, Youtube it.Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
Awww. I'm the same way... or at least I try to be. Some recipients are easier than others, and I could never achieve that standard with my mother for some reason. OTOH I've given my dad some really cool things that he absolutely loves.
I get very disappointed in myself when I draw a blank, though.
Currently debating getting my SO some tool he saw in a pawn shop but wouldn't buy because he couldn't get the guy to knock $25 off the price. Apparently it will sit in the store forever because it's so obscure no one will want it. The object of the gift is twofold -- one, he will be surprised when he goes back there again to try for a price reduction and it's sold; two -- finding out that he's the new owner, eventually. The only thing that's stopping me is the fact that I have to hang onto it until Christmas, as that is the next gift giving occasion for us.
Anyway. No one has ever put that much effort into buying gifts for me either. And I hear you on "actually really hurts". But I eventually realized that some people just don't see it the same way... for them, "gift giving effort" isn't necessarily an expression of love or a measure of caring, they have other ways of showing it.
It doesn't hurt to check out Love Languages (forget who the author is but there's stuff online). It talks about different categories of how we express love, and how someone may be expressing it toward us in their "language" but we don't get the message because we don't have the same language.
I'm another one who spends hours trying to find awesome gifts and i am always disappointed by gifts i receive.
Last year's gifts i bought:
My boyfriend's birthday : a weekend at our favourite remote cottage in the Brecon Beacons, on the weekend that my girlfriend had bought him birthday tickets to see Lee Evans in Cardiff.
My girlfriend's birthday: An infinity triangle necklace that she had admired, but refused to buy. 12 deep blue roses, that are almost impossible to get (took me a month to track down).
For christmas: The main gift was joint - a 4 day trip to amsterdam. I'd booked and paid for flights and hotel, back in August last year - the trip was in March this year.. I also bought an amsterdamn guide book, a board game we'd been eyeing up, their favourite chocolate and a bottle of scent each, as well as other small things like socks with their favourite characters.
For my birthday i got: A plastic book light for my kindle. Thats it. nothing else. I cried. I've had my kindle 6 years and never yet felt the need for a clip on light. I have no idea why that was thought to be an appropriate gift. I was totally gutted by this gift. (not relevant, but their gifts to each other on their birthdays were a) most expensive and b) something they wanted). I also know that said gift was bought on the day of my birthday. I felt not only was this a cheap shoddy gift, but it showed they really didn't put much thought into it, about me, what i would like/want. and buying it on the day....it was worse than petrol station flowers.
For christmas i got some nice gifts, only one thing that i said i actually wanted (A song of Fire and Ice set). But all of my gifts were bought when they went out shopping on boxing day. I couldn't help but feel such an after thought. The reasoning was it was really the only time they had to go shopping together, and i'm really hard to buy for.
I'm not going to put so much effort in this year. i know that sounds petty. I loved their reactions to my gifts and i really wanted them to have those things.....but when compared to what i got, the negative feelings far outweighed the positive.
Yep. We always say "it's the thought that counts" so NO thought counts for a bigger slight.
Here's my gift horror story, this is the Pompous @ss Ex. He complained bitterly at every opportunity leading up to my birthday about having to buy me a birthday gift, how hard I am to buy for, blah blah. I told him he doesn't have to buy me anything, he refused to accept this, saying that I'll hold it against him forever if he doesn't, "all women are like that". His sister had a baby shortly before my birthday so we were in a store to choose a gift. I was inspecting the plush animals to find one rated as safe for < age 3 and saw one that was really cute (but not safe for an infant), pointed it out to the ex. We wander around a bit more and I pick up a pack of Christmas cards (yes, I send them) that I intend to purchase. He grabbed them out of my hand and said, "Give me those, that'll be your birthday gift." I was standing there dumbfounded. Then he ran back to the plush toys, grabbed the one I'd mentioned earlier, and bought that too. (No baby gift, however)
The worst part was he hadn't checked the price on the stuffed toy, so he got a bit of a surprise at the checkout. After we left the store he said to me in a disgusted tone, "I just spent $50 on your present??"
No, cancel that -- the WORST part is that I stayed with this tw@t for another year or so afterward, for more of the same.
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pofoster21 wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »This morning I was able to put on a shirt that previously was tight. I was super stoked that it was loose and hung straight down from my chest without clinging to my hips or rear end. Then I became depressed because it seriously occurred to me that I've been trying to look like Sponge Bob square pants and walk like a robot my whole life. My mother told me that only *kitten* showed their hips and my step-father told me that only fat slutty *kitten* wiggled when they walked.
I don't wear red either. Even though I love red and I look awesome in red. I am pale skinned, with dark hair and green eyes. I look spectacular in red and I can't wear it because only sluts wear red. I am now upset and pissed off because I know even if I were to buy something that clings in red I probably wouldn't be able to wear it out of the house. I'd be afraid everyone was staring at me for the wrong reasons. I feel pathetic.
I'm thinking you should try to get past this with baby steps... a little splash of colour here and there to start, some mildly wiggle-generating mid-height heels... and work your way up.
My mother held the odd notion that "only widows wear black" but fortunately that didn't get passed on to me and I wear a lot of black. Oh, and when I was a teen somebody told her that only sluts wear big earrings. That was her one and only piece of advice to me upon starting high school. Lol. (I just put them on after I left the house)
I've never been much for wearing bright colours or fancy patterns since I've always preferred to fade into the background, but I've slowly been adding more vibrant clothes into my wardrobe.
Yes, that is pretty much what I do. Pretty much all of my clothing is a shade of black or grey with some blue jeans thrown in.
I was raised the same way. And talk about double messages - this was in a family where I can guarantee that my mother would collapse into hysterics if she thought I might possibly approach a weight over 100 pounds in high school. This stuff is absolutely freaking psychosis-inducing =P
I can only say that after gradually shedding a lot of the idiocy that had gotten shoved into my poor brain, I finally came around to firmly believing that every woman should own at least one blazing red dress and a good pair of "f*** me" pumps. And then wear 'em for YOURSELF - without regard to anybody else's dumb beliefs or stereotypes.
Good lord. I'm surprised sometimes that so many of us get through this life to turn out as basically sane, basically decent human beings - we get so much toxic crap thrown at us.
Amen! And I'm sorry for all the struggles everyone has endured regarding this topic. One correction, though: ONE pair of f*** pumps?! Oh, honey, I have a closet full of them! Worn with my discreet, professional clothes every day I get lots of use out of all of them and they make me feel fabulous!
I second this! I have a whole collection of beautiful shoes, which, when not on my feet, live in clear plastic boxes, so i can admire them. I have a wall of shoes**. I often wear all black outfits, and set them off with fabulous red shoes (i have about 10 pairs of red ones)
**i may also have a shoe addiction. Please don't ask about my handbags.
For the past several years hubby and I were getting out of debt and accumulating savings so shopping for unnecessary items was a no no. My shoe collection consists of two pairs of casual sneakers, one pair of outdoor gym shoes, one pair of indoor gym shoes, one pair of winter boots, one pair of water shoes, one pair of flip flops (which are in my gym bag for showering purposes because shower floors are gross), one pair of steel toes, one pair of black summer sandals, and one pair of slip on Sketchers that have holes in them for gardening. Oh and I have one pair of black flats that are glued together on the bottom at work and one pair of black slip on heals at work which are very worn to the point they should be replaced.
I just bought my first pair of white sandal heels last week and I got them on sale... I feel so pretty in them.
I admit that when I was at my heaviest, I didn't have the confidence to wear any pretty clothes so I didn't buy anything nice. Buying those white sandals was so liberating.
I confess that I don't understand anybody's obsession with hand bags. It is just a bag!
You go wash your mouth out with soap right now, young lady!
It's not just a bag, it's a gateway drug to hoarding I would have more of them, but they tend to get bigger, and the bigger they get, the more crap I carry around in them. Every 6 months or so I have to reset and go back to using one that will barely hold just a wallet, phone and keys.
I do that exact same thing. Right now I'm using a bag that is probably the size of an 8X10 notebook, and I can fit quite a lot in. I've actually been proud of myself for not going bigger than this, because I've seen some amazing hobo bags that I could probably fit my child into. I have my small purses hung up, waiting for me to get sick of digging.
My last three bag purchases have been big for me. I'm about ready to go back to my big enough to hold a small wallet, card case, iPhone, smokes and keys.
The digging thing is driving me mental.
I hate big bags. I always lose things. I stay smaller.
I sometimes feel like I have half of my house in my bag, but not the one I currently need! Mary Poppins! I got into a habit of putting car+house keys in my pocket so I don't have to spend ages looking for them every time0 -
OMG! I finally made it to the end. I have spent a month trying to catch up in time and I've done it! I'm inordinately proud of this. First I promised myself I'd read 'em all before posting...I have rejoiced and cried and been angry and perplexed with everyone else. I have shared the pinecone diet, two spoons of hot chocolate and other items with random family members...while none of you know me yet I feel like part of the family already.
Confession 1: for the past week or ten days I have not recorded my food because I did not want to lose my place in this thread.
Confession 2: in the past I was all about the gym and loved it. Now I'm trying to master the food and hope to get off my lazy butt soon and join a gym again. I have many pounds to lose so I need to change in ways I can stick to for life.
Confession 3: I'm unemployed by choice because of a bad work situation and a blessing in the form of my sister. More on this another time.
Confession 4: I may have to rejoin the world now that I'm caught up.
Oh...this may be attached to a post or thirty since my iPad kept deciding to reply before I was ready...sorry.
Welcome!!
Little trick to keep up with the thread AND log food - have 2 tabs open on your browser, one with the thread, one with your diary
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Well despite everyone saying they don't want to use it, a lot of us have joined the group! 42 members at last count, including some names I don't recognise, so that's cool - new people!
If anyone wants the info, it's here:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/106593-confession-is-good-for-the-soul
I reckon we keep it in case things change for the worse here on this discussion. So far all looks good though.0 -
Jealous, that's awesome, sounds like you had a great time!
It was fantastic,thanks! We go every year for a week, 5th time this year. Our girls love it and we have time to slow down,chill and spend some family time :-)0
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