The meanest thing anyone has ever said.....

Wow! Please don't go back to that idiot. I hope that you really are doing this for yourself. Don't allow anyone to make you feel worthless or unpretty. You have definitely picked the right site to aid you in reaching your weight loss goal. There is a lot of support and encouragement on here, which I know I wouldn't be able to do this without the wonderful people here. Good luck!

Thats the kind of man they invented super glue for. You are soooo much better off now. This is a great site it has helped me loose over 30lbs and my sister has lost over 60lbs. :happy: Life will get a whole lot better with him gone. Good luck

What a jerk! Whatever you do don't EVER take him back. You marry someone because of who they are inside because in the words of your idiot ex "lets get real" our bodies and looks will change over the years. I can't believe someone could say that. Just know that one way or another in this life he will have to eat those words.

I know you can do this for YOU and you will find someone to LOVE YOU not your body. Hang in there!

what a jerk! there's a load of weight already gone with him off your back! & there are lots of other decent men who don't think that way! request on it's way

Hello Everyone,

Today I start my diet. Just like everyone else here....I hope we are successful and make goals. I'm here because my boyfriend last week said to me. I would not marry you at the size you are now. But I know you COULD BE beautiful. Then he said....Let's get real....You can get anyone to "screw you"....but no one will marry you, cause your fat. Well he is now blocked from my phone and I'm not doing this for him. I'm doing this for ME. I don't have tons of friends so I'm looking forward to this website because I know people will understand the struggles that I am facing. I am definately a person who "eats for what's eating me". But I hope by the posts I read from others it keeps me motivated. So good luck to everyone and stay POSITIVE!!!! Pam

dump him! Marry someone who will love you anyway , not just because you are thin!

What a tosser! I am so glad you are strong enough to kick his behind to the curb and if you put half that strength into your weight loss you will be slim in no time. I am so shocked at what he said to you. I have gone up 3 or 4 dress sizes since having my 2 children an if my husband ever said anything mildly like that I would kick him out! You need people in your life that love and support you no matter what. I'm not saying if my husband mentioned i put on a little weight I would go mental as I know he loves me for me and would just say something if he is concerned but omg what you bf said to you was petty , hurtful and way out of line. You will meet some one to love you for you and I pity the girl who gets stuck with him. Good luck with you weight loss journey

So glad you got rid of that W*nker!

The meanest thing (that i can remember) that someone said to me was when i got on the underground and went to sit down in a seat next to some bloke who was sitting there with his legs really wide open. When i looked at him as if to say "can you move your legs please" he just said "no i'm not moving my legs - i dont want to get squashed". I could have died of embarrassment!! I was soooo humiliated! I held it together in front of him tho and some other bloke who heard him called him a tosser or such other expletive. When i got to work i went to the toilet and just burst into tears!!

Will never forget that. Cheers "mate", you really helped my self esteem/motivation. NOT!!

Thats awful, please get rid of that man! and welcome

Hey! can you be my friend?:) I admire the courage you are having for leaving that human being who doesn't even love himself...cuz he's basing how he values people just on the outer appearance... Sad for him.. Isn't it? And great for u for not being married to someone like that! Yay!
See ya beautiful lady:)

That makes me so angry, so Happy you dropped that loser , sending you a request

You can always lose weight. He on the other hand has a much bigger battle becoming a decent human being.
You ARE beautiful by the way. And not just in the self-help book everyone is beautiful kind of way. This dude is not even worth your breath let alone your revenge. Write him off and move on.

holy moly, the nerve of some people...good for you for doing it for you, you are the only one who really matters! Good luck and you can always lean on your MFP buddies here!

I am not going to be one of those women who say her husband/boyfriend "loves" her just the way she is, because that is not true.

This is true.

Physical attraction is important in relationships, as a relationship without it is going to be incomplete. This is just true. Some people dont like blondes, some people like small boobs, or big ones, or ...well, you get the point. Physical attraction is what leads to relationships most of the time. Emotional attachments can lead to physical attraction, sure...but not always. Particularly when you are talking about men. Lets be honest, men are wired to be attracted physically ... women not so much, but men are. They are attracted to different physical traits sure, but its still the way we work most of the time.

So in a strange way, what he said to her was honest. Brutal, maybe, sure...but honest. It's not so much what he was telling her that was bad as it is the manner in which he told it. I mean, at least he was honest about his feelings now...which allows her to make her decision accordingly (i.e., she either wants to be in a relationship where her physical appearance is of utmost importance, or she doesnt).

Alot of us are seriously overweight...I know I am. I'm basically losing weight for two reasons: 1) my health. My dad died at 48 from a heart attack largely related to his weight and smoking. I quit smoking 2 years ago, now I'm working on the weight before I'm 40. 2) My wife. She's very supportive of me and we have a good relationship, but I dont want to become (actually, remain) some big fat slob...that's just not really what she signed on for when we got married 11 years ago. Its not something she has ever mentioned to me, or ever would, but that doesnt mean I dont want her to be happy and want to do all I can to help ensure she is so....and again, physical attraction plays a role (those of you saying it doesnt matter are fooling yourselves: it most certainly DOES matter). There are other reasons, sure, but those are the two main ones far over and above anything else.

What a complete F****** idiot! I'm so sorry you had to suffer through him. Hopefully, you've come out the other side stronger. Friend me if you need support. I'm there for ya darlin!

OMG id be livid!!! I cant believe your own boyfriend said that... goes to show how men think tho unfourtunatly!!! Good luck with your weight loss dear! feel free to add me as a friend!! :flowerforyou: