DEAR FAT PEOPLE
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Char231023 wrote: »Why was my comment flagged for abuse. I said I was grossed out by someone dipping a burger in a shake. To me just drink the shake with your burger don't dip it in the shake. I didn't say anything about her weight just her choice to dip her burger.
Because people don't understand how to use the flagging system properly and flag comments they don't like rather than flagging comments which actually are abusive or inappopriate.
That is what i figured, but if I did offend somebody by my comment, I would like to know why.0 -
queenliz99 wrote: »Char231023 wrote: »Char231023 wrote: »Why was my comment flagged for abuse. I said I was grossed out by someone dipping a burger in a shake. To me just drink the shake with your burger don't dip it in the shake. I didn't say anything about her weight just her choice to dip her burger.
IMO nothing met the criteria for a flag. You can contact the moderating staff and ask for it to be removed if you would like. I've found varying success, but PM seems to work better than requesting by way of reporting. YMMV.
It not so much that I got the flagged. I just wanted to know why. Although I think those are my first flags.
Maybe someone thought hamburger dipped in ice cream is good and didn't agree with you
Maybe you are right. That thought did cross my mind. For that I am truly sorry to all those that dip you burgers in milkshakes. I shouldn't judge people on their eating preferences.0 -
Well said Morgaen, very good and to the point, NICELY said! 0
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<---- haven't watched any video.
You know what? It is harder for some people to lose weight. That's not an excuse. It means it will be a killer of a grind and constant vigilance to lose weight and keep it off. It still has to be done, it's still CICO, but give the person credit for knowing it is going to be very, very tough.
Shaming is proven to be ineffective. We don't rub dogs noses in it any more, now that we are aware how short their attention span is. They'll slink around in shame for sure, but abusing them won't change the behavior.
What is it with America and the shaming ads? I'm talking other things too, like drunk driving and smoking.0 -
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<---- haven't watched any video.
You know what? It is harder for some people to lose weight. That's not an excuse. It means it will be a killer of a grind and constant vigilance to lose weight and keep it off. It still has to be done, it's still CICO, but give the person credit for knowing it is going to be very, very tough.
Shaming is proven to be ineffective. We don't rub dogs noses in it any more, now that we are aware how short their attention span is. They'll slink around in shame for sure, but abusing them won't change the behavior.
What is it with America and the shaming ads? I'm talking other things too, like drunk driving and smoking.
Shaming and being angry is all the rage. I'm just not sure why. I wish that being kind was the 'in' thing to do. I even wrote a book about it.
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Now I have to go find your flagged post out of curiosity.Char231023 wrote: »It not so much that I got the flagged. I just wanted to know why. Although I think those are my first flags.
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Haha yeah.. that reminds me of my super obese past self when someone used to point out I was fat (and I was VERY fat) my usual reply used to be a cheerful "good to know you haven't gone blind yet". It was so entertaining watching people fumble around not knowing how to reply to that or to the fact that their comment didn't phase me one bit. Good times!0 -
Bronan_The_Brobarian wrote: »Ah dang. There's a McDonald's over there. I know I'm 350 pounds, but they make some awesome burgers. yes my heart aches, yes I have high blood pressure, yes my ankles are swollen, yes I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning, but who cares!! I can get two Whoppers for the price of one salad! So it's McDonalds fault for making burgers cheap and salads expensive! That's why I'm fat. Say what?? I can upgrade to a large for only a fifty cents!! Hell yeah!!
This isn't the right place to flaunt your thin privilege
McDonald's doesn't sell Whoppers!0 -
<---- haven't watched any video.
You know what? It is harder for some people to lose weight. That's not an excuse. It means it will be a killer of a grind and constant vigilance to lose weight and keep it off. It still has to be done, it's still CICO, but give the person credit for knowing it is going to be very, very tough.
Shaming is proven to be ineffective. We don't rub dogs noses in it any more, now that we are aware how short their attention span is. They'll slink around in shame for sure, but abusing them won't change the behavior.
What is it with America and the shaming ads? I'm talking other things too, like drunk driving and smoking.
Shaming and being angry is all the rage. I'm just not sure why. I wish that being kind was the 'in' thing to do. I even wrote a book about it.
I think it's the prevalence of social media. Everyone feels they have to outdo everyone else and post it for the world to see. Like having a whole nation of shock jocks.
Eventually it'll be so old hat that they'll have moved on to something else.*
*Don't correct me on this. I'd like hang on to my optimism as long as possible.0 -
Its her opinion and she is entitled to it by the first amendment, just as you are entitled not to agree with her. Bashing someone for disagreeing with their beliefs is just as ugly as fat shaming.0
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soldiergrl_101 wrote: »Its her opinion and she is entitled to it by the first amendment, just as you are entitled not to agree with her. Bashing someone for disagreeing with their beliefs is just as ugly as fat shaming.
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queenliz99 wrote: »soldiergrl_101 wrote: »Its her opinion and she is entitled to it by the first amendment, just as you are entitled not to agree with her. Bashing someone for disagreeing with their beliefs is just as ugly as fat shaming.
Ok?
Post shaming? Opinion shaming? Ummm. That's all I've got.
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queenliz99 wrote: »soldiergrl_101 wrote: »Its her opinion and she is entitled to it by the first amendment, just as you are entitled not to agree with her. Bashing someone for disagreeing with their beliefs is just as ugly as fat shaming.
Ok?
Intelligent
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soldiergrl_101 wrote: »queenliz99 wrote: »soldiergrl_101 wrote: »Its her opinion and she is entitled to it by the first amendment, just as you are entitled not to agree with her. Bashing someone for disagreeing with their beliefs is just as ugly as fat shaming.
Ok?
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soldiergrl_101 wrote: »Bashing someone for disagreeing with their beliefs is just as ugly as fat shaming.
+1
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chaoticdreams wrote: »
Half of your post is you trying to say why being overweight isn't your fault. Being born as a large baby doesn't make you 'destined' to be an overweight person. Neither does being denied sweets in your home. Making your own choices is entirely up to you, and none of that has anything to do with people shaming you for your weight. Those are two entirely different issues.
I said no such thing. Now you are reaching. I was a fat baby from a medical condition. I got fat in childhood because not only did I eat a full plate at dinner, I would then over consume a box of oreos or cake or whatever was around me because I have a sweet tooth. OVEREATING made me fat. Did you not read the remarks in parenthesis?
I simply said how I got fat and then said people bullying me for being fat did not miraculously make me suddenly become thin.
I read "diabetic mom.....birth weight 11 +.....destined to be big" nobody reaching there.
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Char231023 wrote: »vivmom2014 wrote: »
Good.Domicinator wrote: »Well, there was definitely backlash for this video and she definitely lost a job because of it:
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CB8QqQIwAGoVChMI8rzgz_vuxwIVAfSACh1GOwci&url=http://www.eonline.com/news/694742/youtube-star-nicole-arbour-fired-from-movie-role-for-cruel-fat-shaming-video&usg=AFQjCNFtiVTiymO2cdgNJ56lL1YnoK0xfg&bvm=bv.102022582,d.cWw
I hope the whole thing wasn't done for publicity, though. That might even be worse than a crazy woman using fat-shaming to garner attention.
Aren't they the same thing?? And that's precisely why she made the video.
I think she meant publicity stunt for the movie she was involved in with. Considering it is essentially a movie about not fat shaming people.
It wouldn't surprise me if it was all a publicity stunt for the movie. The movie sounds like an After School Special from the 80's.
Yup. No one knew anything about this damn movie before. Well, how about now?
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