What nobody tells you about losing weight
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People suddenly begin to be annoying about your weight loss. As if we're not doing it right, or eating the right things, or doing the right medicine. Always tempted to tell them to worry about themselves and I'll worry about me...16
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fattothinmum wrote: »People suddenly begin to be annoying about your weight loss. As if we're not doing it right, or eating the right things, or doing the right medicine. Always tempted to tell them to worry about themselves and I'll worry about me...
DO IT!! Lol, that's my usual go-to. 'You do you, and I'll do me'.3 -
fattothinmum wrote: »People suddenly begin to be annoying about your weight loss. As if we're not doing it right, or eating the right things, or doing the right medicine. Always tempted to tell them to worry about themselves and I'll worry about me...
I'm always surprised at the number of people who think they know how I'm doing it and how disappointed they are when the find out it is calorie counting. I had a lady the other day tell me that I had inspired her to give up wheat and sugar. I told her that I hadn't given up wheat or sugar and had no intention to. She looked surprised and kind of disappointed and said it must all the walking. I said the walking helps, but mostly it is because I count calories. She seemed so sad. I'll never understand how someone can think that giving up wheat and sugar is easier than counting calories.29 -
One thing that I never realized about losing weight was how much it chances your alcohol tolerance. I'm really surprised at how buzzed I get off of two small glasses of wine.12
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Nobody told me that it would be so hard to accept my new, used body.
When I was fat, there was that one thing that I didn't like about my body. I could tell myself that if I lost weight, I could be pretty and sexy and like how I look. How I looked naked vs dressed was consistent... fat.
I somehow thought if I got back to the weight I was 30 years ago at age 18, I would magically get back my teenage body, and now I would appreciate it! I've lost almost 70 pounds and I didn't get that body back. Instead of looking younger, smooth, and toned I look older, wrinkled, and uneven. Now instead of having one thing I don't like, I have many things I don't like about my body (loose skin, small saddlebags remaining, droopy breasts, bony shoulders and ribs). I look pretty good dressed, but naked is depressing.
I feel sad because I didn't get what I thought I would get when I lost weight, and because I don't have that "promise" anymore that if only I'd lose weight, I'd look and feel good.33 -
fattothinmum wrote: »People suddenly begin to be annoying about your weight loss. As if we're not doing it right, or eating the right things, or doing the right medicine. Always tempted to tell them to worry about themselves and I'll worry about me...
I'm always surprised at the number of people who think they know how I'm doing it and how disappointed they are when the find out it is calorie counting. I had a lady the other day tell me that I had inspired her to give up wheat and sugar. I told her that I hadn't given up wheat or sugar and had no intention to. She looked surprised and kind of disappointed and said it must all the walking. I said the walking helps, but mostly it is because I count calories. She seemed so sad. I'll never understand how someone can think that giving up wheat and sugar is easier than counting calories.
I am not sure giving up wheat and sugar is 'easier' because the first two weeks were very hellish in my case. There is nothing wrong with counting calories. After my disordered eating due to uncontrollable cravings faded in a few weeks to ZERO there was no rhyme or reason to count calories I found because when I tried to pig out on my new macro I would just stop eating when full automatically. I love my food options and it is not restrictive mentally or physically and it gives me improving health for the first time in 40 years.
Keep in mind some that start eating <50 grams of carbs daily claim they still have real cravings. In that case counting may be for life. I take no meds so if one is taking a med(s) that may impact eating clues counting may be "required". That is why I think there is no MAGIC macro that fits everyone. Regardless we all can learn to eat in a way that can give improving health I expect and lower risks from all causes of premature death. Showing our families a new way of eating may be powerful for them long after we may pass.
Perhaps some have not yet come face to face with death and I hope it never comes to that for others. I had to give my kids hope that my past 40 years is not a picture of their future 40 years.
I now understand it was first about finding the correct macro to heal my body so my brain got back in full control of the CI of CICO.
Everyone is different so my macro works for me it but it is medically proven it will not work for everyone. Do not wait until you are 63 to find the right macro for your body's needs today. Macros are subject to changing so just keep listing to your body. The most important thing is use the tools that you know/need today and keep researching new things you learn about from MFP usage If you are new here MFP is improving all of the time and providing more info. I am sure some trends will surface as our many roads to successful weight management are reviewed over time. I currently eat a way known as Very Low Carb High Fat. For how long I will eat this way I do not know but I expect I will be processed food free for life and add back in more whole food carbs as my body recovers from 40 years abuse from over eating processed foods.
Carbs direct from nature come with the fiber, etc needed. Carbs that can set on the shelf for two years and still be edible are the ones I plan to stay away from going forward.
The only valid way for one to eat is one that works for you. The N=1 is where it is at.
There are NO MAGIC MACRO for the masses. Give the macro that sounds most interesting a 90 day try and go from there. Keep in mind you make think you are dying especially if carrying a lot of "bad" gut microbes. It was so bad in my case I came in one day and Googled "dying from coconut oil" and what was going on in my case was easy to understand. It was the Herxheimer Reaction.
https://google.com/search?q=Herxheimer&rlz=1C1CHFX_enUS611US612&oq=Herxheimer&aqs=chrome..69i57&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
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The feeling that comes with hesitantly trying on a pair of jeans you've been avoiding because they had become too tight, only to find not only can you fit into them now, they're actually a bit too large!
Realizing that your scale number isn't everything, because even before you reach what you thought would be your goal weight, you feel pretty darn amazing.
Seeing random older photos and realizing how far you've come, even on days when you don't feel like you've accomplished much at all.17 -
LOVE this thread!
-learning to accept compliments
-owning all this hard work that helped me lose 25 lbs
-going the distance and staying motivated means remembering that it took 20 years to pack this weight on and it takes more than 4 weeks to get it back off.10 -
I love this thread, so much motivation to keep going! I just started so I hope to soon be able to post something on here to motivate someone else!!!!!2
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That sitting on the new KC Streetcar would be painful. The seats are hard plastic. I feel every bone in my rear end.9
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Nobody tells you that there are communities that have threads 100 pages long full of helpful tips, insights, and encouragements and are right there to help you fight the battle! You're not alone in this. By some miracle I have lost 80 lbs to date by making smarter decisions. Counting calories and weighing my food. Weight lifting and cardio regularly. Seeing a doctor, utilizing my employees free health coaching program. Having a plan. Review your macros and foods and reflect on how to make better decisions. Mostly, enjoy yourself, it's hard, but doesn't have to be miserable. Crave a candy bar, cookie, or donut? Have one. Then hop right back on the wagon and don't kill your self about it40
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That sitting on the new KC Streetcar would be painful. The seats are hard plastic. I feel every bone in my rear end.
Is that thing done yet? I hate driving through the P&L District and it's all torn up.
I'm always surprised about how much more water I crave when I start drinking more. Like I'm always thirsty now but when I was dehydrated all the time I only craved it once or twice a day. Now I'm constantly filling up my water bottle because I feel thirsty.5 -
That trousers in smaller sizes fit completely different from plus size ones. It wasn't until I dropped several dress sizes that I actually shopped for trousers properly (skirts, then skirts with belts covered the interim period). Apparently, the majority of 'normal size' trousers are supposed to be reasonably snug around your bum! That was a shocker - I've spent years in clothes that just hung as loosely as possibly to cover all that weight! I had to go and buy 'proper' knickers, ones that wouldn't have a VPL. I don't think I've ever had to consider that before! Mind you, I also never had a bum I wanted to show off before!!!
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The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
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benevempress wrote: »Nobody told me that it would be so hard to accept my new, used body.
When I was fat, there was that one thing that I didn't like about my body. I could tell myself that if I lost weight, I could be pretty and sexy and like how I look. How I looked naked vs dressed was consistent... fat.
I somehow thought if I got back to the weight I was 30 years ago at age 18, I would magically get back my teenage body, and now I would appreciate it! I've lost almost 70 pounds and I didn't get that body back. Instead of looking younger, smooth, and toned I look older, wrinkled, and uneven. Now instead of having one thing I don't like, I have many things I don't like about my body (loose skin, small saddlebags remaining, droopy breasts, bony shoulders and ribs). I look pretty good dressed, but naked is depressing.
I feel sad because I didn't get what I thought I would get when I lost weight, and because I don't have that "promise" anymore that if only I'd lose weight, I'd look and feel good.
A lot of this thread reads like "the fantasy of being thin".7 -
I find I take the time to dress better now, even when I'm home all day.12
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I'm almost 40 pounds down, with about 60+ left to lose and I already feel like I don't really know what my body looks like. I still think of myself as 40 pounds heavier even though I know I'm wearing different clothes and feel different. Its very odd!4
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2012retiree wrote: »I find I take the time to dress better now, even when I'm home all day.
Oh, me too! I have so many clothes it is wonderful!1 -
seekingdaintiness wrote: »The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
This is not my experience- and not most people's on here. Maybe you are too low on calories? I am not feeling deprived at all.50 -
- OK, so Protein Farts....OMG they might kill people. It had to be said.
- Walking past a reflective surface and not realizing that is you in the reflection and dang she is HOT!
- Being an inspiration to my friends and co-workers, so that we all do mini cardio and weight lifting sessions together every morning. Great way to get your day started!!
- ENERGY!!!!
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seekingdaintiness wrote: »The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
You have lost over a 100 lbs so you have been successful, but there is a better way.dramaqueen45 wrote: »This is not my experience- and not most people's on here. Maybe you are too low on calories? I am not feeling deprived at all.
+1
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seekingdaintiness wrote: »The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
Oh dear. As Nuke_64 has written, you've successfully lost so much weight, so that's good, but perhaps it is time to reevaluate your strategy? I'm mostly an introvert, and I've never been the biggest social butterfly, and I very rarely eat out, but my weightloss has not negatively impacted my social life in any way. If going out to eat is the issue for a decreased social life, remember that many places have nutrition facts online, and for those that don't, you can use what you've learned in calorie counting to make a reasonably close estimate. Also, you do *not* have to eat everything. If you only have, say, 100 calories left in your budget, eat 100 calories worth of what's served and take the rest home. Here's a very short and handy podcast that gives all the tips and tricks to staying fit while having a social life: http://podbay.fm/show/911042029/e/1449133200?autostart=1
Visit the Recipes and Food and Nutrition discussions here and use Google to find ways to make your food taste better.
Many people here on MFP experiment with their macros until they find a protein, carb, fat, and/or fiber goal that keeps them full. If all else fails, find some activity or hobby that'll keep your mind off of hunger.
Best wishes on your journey!12 -
MimiOfTheLusciousLawn wrote: »beautifulwarrior18 wrote: »mstiffluvspink wrote: »The fact that eating all this wonderful healthy food gives you GAS! All I do is FART and it smells HORRIBLE!....Cmon I cant be the only one LOL
Actually I have no gas when I eat healthy. Opposite for when I eat like crap.
Best side effect ever, no gas!
Sadly, in trying to eat the fiber I'm supposed to (25 grams), I have found it causes lots of gas. So I bought a thing of generic Beano and take that whenever I eat something significantly high in fiber. Cuts it down. Doesn't eliminate the farting but less of it.0 -
benevempress wrote: »Nobody told me that it would be so hard to accept my new, used body.
When I was fat, there was that one thing that I didn't like about my body. I could tell myself that if I lost weight, I could be pretty and sexy and like how I look. How I looked naked vs dressed was consistent... fat.
I somehow thought if I got back to the weight I was 30 years ago at age 18, I would magically get back my teenage body, and now I would appreciate it! I've lost almost 70 pounds and I didn't get that body back. Instead of looking younger, smooth, and toned I look older, wrinkled, and uneven. Now instead of having one thing I don't like, I have many things I don't like about my body (loose skin, small saddlebags remaining, droopy breasts, bony shoulders and ribs). I look pretty good dressed, but naked is depressing.
I feel sad because I didn't get what I thought I would get when I lost weight, and because I don't have that "promise" anymore that if only I'd lose weight, I'd look and feel good.
I'm fortunate in that I didn't have that much weight to lose. To date I've lost 33 pounds. So I do have a skinnier body nearly like I was as a teen. (I'm 44.) But this makes me think about my husband. He's technically obese. Presently, he's not working to lose weight. But if he did, he'd have a lot to lose, enough that he would probably have loose skin. Does it shrink back over time? If you lose weight more gradually does it shrink with the fat?1 -
beautifulwarrior18 wrote: »
Yes, it's up and running and free. So I quit paying $60/month for parking and tolerate the sore behind as I commute to and from work on the streetcar.
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seekingdaintiness wrote: »The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
This hasn't been true for me. Well, the social life thing is no different. Didn't have much of one before, don't have much of one now. But I'm not hungry all the time and I do eat yummy stuff. I don't deprive myself of anything. I just change how much or how I eat it.
I have Rich Chocolate Boost shakes for lunch. 240 calories, 3 grams of fiber and other vitamins and minerals. I have cold cereal (sugary stuff, yeah) for breakfast. I have today a Ghirardelli Chocolate Peanut Butter cookie for a snack. 150 calories, I think and 5 grams of Fiber. I have Fiber Now granola bar. Tasty. Really! Tastes like a chewy chocolate granola bar. 10 grams of fiber, 140 calories. I eat whatever my husband has cooked for dinner (and he's not dieting) and then try to figure out how to log it. If I have room, I might have dessert. We've got leftover birthday cake, or I have some chocolate pops from Aldi in the freezer. Just 60 calories a pop.
I keep Reese's Pieces in the car. I generally eat 10-15 on my morning commute and 10-15 on my evening commute. 5 pieces is just 19 calories.
All that and I'll still be right around 1500 calories. Very livable. I don't feel hungry all the time. I started at 147.4 pounds last April (2015) and weighed in today at 114.0.7 -
benevempress wrote: »Nobody told me that it would be so hard to accept my new, used body.
When I was fat, there was that one thing that I didn't like about my body. I could tell myself that if I lost weight, I could be pretty and sexy and like how I look. How I looked naked vs dressed was consistent... fat.
I somehow thought if I got back to the weight I was 30 years ago at age 18, I would magically get back my teenage body, and now I would appreciate it! I've lost almost 70 pounds and I didn't get that body back. Instead of looking younger, smooth, and toned I look older, wrinkled, and uneven. Now instead of having one thing I don't like, I have many things I don't like about my body (loose skin, small saddlebags remaining, droopy breasts, bony shoulders and ribs). I look pretty good dressed, but naked is depressing.
I feel sad because I didn't get what I thought I would get when I lost weight, and because I don't have that "promise" anymore that if only I'd lose weight, I'd look and feel good.
I feel the same way- I've lost 30 lbs so far- and frankly it was EASY (started on Jan 1 and was losing about 2 lbs per week). I could have kept going forever on 1200 calories (1200 cals is a LOT of food when you eat very clean). I wanted to reach my goal of total body perfection by the beginning of June (another 16 lbs) and could EASILY have done it. But then I started to see the beginning of loose skin, etc and got freaked. So now I have slowed it WAY WAY down and am going to focus more on starting a weight training program. I am terrified of getting the "haggard" look in my face. It was a huge disappointment that I could not reach my goal as quickly as I wanted to- and that I may not ever get the body that I want. But I'm going to do the very best I can- and am still 100% committed.
Thanks for posting. It's good to see that someone else feels the same way.
To end on a positive note: I am 61 years old- feeling much better than I did before- am much more energetic and my chronic knee pain is all but vanished- and get copious compliments daily on how great I look.9 -
Has anyone else already mentioned arm pits being smaller??? Trying to shave these crazy things and they like cave in now, i gots skinny in my pits!!!! I didn't know they were fat, but i suppose they were too! LOL15
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seekingdaintiness wrote: »The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
This hasn't been my experience. In fact, I'm eating much more now than I did when I was heavier (while still keeping my calories in check) and honest to God, I have never once felt a pang of hunger (I've lost 30 lbs since Jan 1). I hope you can find support to help you find foods that leave you satisfied and happy- and a circle of friends who support you in "real" life as well as virtual. I'd also say that "slow and steady wins the race". Perhaps you are cutting back too radically on your cals, and that's why you're hungry? You can still lose weight at a slow, steady pace- which not only is much more pleasant, but is something you can keep up for the long haul. You can do it! Best of success & health to you6 -
NewMEEE2016 wrote: »seekingdaintiness wrote: »The misery and loneliness you feel because you have no more social life.
The constant, grinding hunger because to actually lose weight and keep it off long term means never being able to eat anything that tastes good or anything in a quantity that will leave you satisfied ever again.
This hasn't been my experience. In fact, I'm eating much more now than I did when I was heavier (while still keeping my calories in check) and honest to God, I have never once felt a pang of hunger (I've lost 30 lbs since Jan 1). I hope you can find support to help you find foods that leave you satisfied and happy- and a circle of friends who support you in "real" life as well as virtual. I'd also say that "slow and steady wins the race". Perhaps you are cutting back too radically on your cals, and that's why you're hungry? You can still lose weight at a slow, steady pace- which not only is much more pleasant, but is something you can keep up for the long haul. You can do it! Best of success & health to you
Completely agree! Slow and steady and if you eat the right foods in the right combinations yiu will not be hungry:)2
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