What nobody tells you about losing weight
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I know that people say dairy is bad for women, when in reality, it helps women lose fat quicker2
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Friends are negative sometimes when you turn down something.For instance, my friend asked if I wanted some chocolate, I said no thanks.Her reply: What, you wanna be a stick?
I have a stone to lose....
I hate that when I look at old photos that I allowed myself to put on that weight and be so unhealthy.:/
I avoided looking at photos around then as I didn't want to see myself like that.I have photos on cds for about a year not developed!
On a positive:)
Shoe size gone down again.
Back interested in clothes and how I look.
Always notice guys and gals treat you different when you are smaller in size.
I enjoy running now.
I have become on those those women that go to do their shopping in work out gear:))
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For me the main thing nobody told me about losing weight (not that I actually asked
) was, like so many mentioned before me, being cold all the time. I acctually like that. I love the fact that I can wear cute, thick sweaters and wrap myself in blanket at home. More than that - I love not being sweaty all the time in summer with these huge, wet marks on my t-shirt. Plus I don't mind it because it doesn't mean I'm getting sick or cold more often. On contrary my immunity is better cause I'm healthier.
Next thing (and this one is the worst) is how people will react to you. Some with hate, some with hostile and some even with verbal assault. In this all the most hurtful for me was my mothers reaction - telling me all the time I'm too thin (even when I was still overweight and had to motivate myself thru my mother's comments) and that I look sick and ugly on my face (appearently I have wrinkles around my mouth at age of 25 which I don't see).
On the other hand all great reactions from other people like these huge astonishment on this lady's face when she measureged my waist and could understand how can I wear size M with just 65cm waist (I'm tall so size S has too short sleaves).
Jewelery doesn't fit anymore (bracelets, rings, watches).
Normal chairs starts to actually gives you spare room so you can almost sit in them with someone next to you.
Everything seems bigger.
Shoping for cothes starts to be barable and even enjoyable cause most of the things you try on fits.
The biggest one - you start to love yourself just the way you are. You start to see youself as individual whos maybe not perfect but in some ways lovely and cute.
You stop to mind when someone is looking at you (because you don't instantly think he/she's judging you).
You start to feel that you control your own life.
Enjoying food rather than absorb it thoughtlessly.
Being joyful and happy most of the time.
*kitten* pain every time you sit on something that is not super soft longer than and hour.
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Seemingly the most popular entry: Not being the warmest one in the room anymore. My poor, poor wife, who used to use me as a warming brick at night. Winter is not going to be kind to either of us…
Sleep apnea: gone! (along with the aches and pains that accompanied it…)
The amount of “strangers” in the workplace who notice. One woman I ran into told me that I had a twin on campus. After further discussion, it turns out she was referring to “former” me, thinking it was a completely different person (That was an awesome day….)
Bones sticking out….just plain weird. The bottom of my breast bone (xiphoid process) really freaks me out.
Not playing tug-o-war with my clothes throughout the day (any heavy person knows exactly what I’m talking about) or it’s precursor: stretch-them-out-a-little before you put them on…
Getting through a yoga session and actually feeling refreshed (and not completely sweaty)…also, being able to contort into poses that were previously unavailable to me…still striving towards doing things upside down….!
How much I would enjoy nice clothes, and how dressing up isn’t a chore.
It ain’t all wine and roses: a small but persistent bout with hair loss, loose skin, constantly changing out of sweaty clothes, throwing out clothes that I really liked, resizing my wedding ring. (Small sacrifices all)
...and is it weird that I wanna say "In your face" at my next doctors appointment (November 30th at 2:30, not that I'm keeping track.....)
I would love to have more MFP friends to help keep me honest (it helps just knowing people are out there)9 -
brightresolve wrote: »How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
Yesss!!! I find it so hard to explain this to other people who haven't gone through this all! I also hate when people say "you weren't that big before". Honey, yes I was and we all know it! Don't lie to my face.
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iloveclones67 wrote: »Seemingly the most popular entry: Not being the warmest one in the room anymore. My poor, poor wife, who used to use me as a warming brick at night. Winter is not going to be kind to either of us…
So much of your post is me exactly...but this especially!
My poor husband has been keeping himself warm by cuddling up to me for 31 years and now I'm like a popcicle!
I had to buy some warm pajamas for the first time in my life and I need to get more soon!
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No one told me that I would suddenly become competent:
60 pounds + ago, I volunteered a lot (spent many events on my feet, working the whole time) and was the go-to person to get things done. Now, I am much more particular about how I want to spend my time (more likely to say 'yes' to social engagements and other activities, rather than just pitch-in and do whatever jobs need doing).
Oddly, though, I am finding that the hard-working obese person was rather assumed to be lazy or incompetent, whereas the choosier overweight person is assumed to be more productive and a more valuable contributor.
(So, so strange.)
Can't wait to see what a superhero I am going to be 40 pounds from now!12 -
TeresaMarie2015 wrote: »- That eating healthy, veggies & low fat, lean meats) can mean eating a lot of food - some days I am just tired of eating, and still don't reach my calorie goal.
- Those who have seen me go up and down over the years are not saying anything about my weight loss (and they never say anything about the gains either)
- Working out makes you smaller even when the weight loss is not so great.
- Sometimes your friends need to change to enable your goals (aka no more drinking night out with the girls.)
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Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!36 -
brightresolve wrote: »How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
Yesss!!! I find it so hard to explain this to other people who haven't gone through this all! I also hate when people say "you weren't that big before". Honey, yes I was and we all know it! Don't lie to my face.
Same! When I had a 31 BMI and was thus, by definition, obese, people would tell me that I'm only a little chubby or that I was "fat in all the right places." Ummmm...... NOT. It's true that I have a pear shape (some say I tend to look hourglassy though), but especially now with before and after pictures at hand, I can clearly see that I was pretty big before. When I dropped my first 10 pounds, I had people telling me that I was already fit now and should stop losing weight (????). NO. I was still overweight at that point.
Idk why people are in such denial about others being fat. Sure, I did not want to be called "fat," and I wouldn't call someone fat; that's rude and uncalled for. HOWEVER, I did not, and still will not lie. Lying is not helpful at all. I was indeed noticeably overweight at that period in my life, so people telling me that I wasn't really that big before completely disregards my hard work (40+ lbs down) to getting healthy.5 -
nobody tells you about having a pannus and what the surgery is all about. Nobody tells you about how people instantly become friendlier towards you and actually start "seeing you" and "looking at you" as opposed to completely ignoring you when you're overweight.4
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You will lose some friends who see you as a threat! Just let them go.....
Saddest and HARDEST part for me! Its still a super sore spot and its been over a year now. But if it had been me, and my fat lonely best friend gained a hell of a lot of confidence, met her future husband, and started lapping me during exercise I may have gotten jealous too.
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Boobietrap1337 wrote: »Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!
YES! The same thing happend to me.... in 1 month, i've gained 10 lbs. Then again, i FEEL SO MUCH MORE ENERGETIC NOW! I am able to EAT in moderation, have an ice cream on some days and not be depriving myself of it! Did your trainer explain WHY the weight gain after 3 weeks of being in a deficit?1 -
This is so very true...... I wasn't complimented by theses friends but I was noticing that they started to be cold towards me and I wasn't invited to hang out with them anymore and when I mentioned that to them they try to make me feel likes it was all in my head and that was nuts... later they became hostile towards me so I stopped trying to hang with them...You will lose some friends who see you as a threat! Just let them go.....
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- It takes a very long time for your brain to realise what size you actually are now and alot of tight spots are not so tight anymore.
- Some people will say you have lost enough weight, dont become a stick, your face wont look nice if its skeletal etc even if you are still in the overweight BMI category and clearly not at target weight.
-Shopping is harder because you have too many options.
- You can be the centre of attention at many group gatherings when people are shocked at your weight loss. Just smile and say thank you.
- Some friends do not take no for an answer when you decline unhealthy foods or eat a salad at dinner. They go on and on and on and on that its only one time and somewhat act offended.
- Many people, once they see you, have a natural reaction to say 'oh im so fat, i need to lose weight too, I cant beleive how big I have gotten". When in reality they are still smaller than yourself and probably a bit intimidated.
- You get a regular period within a few months of healthy eating.
- Plane seats aren't as small as you thought they were.
- You can wear super high heels now without them hurting after half an hour.4 -
Thanks everyone for the motivating posts! I have experienced many of these in the past and these are a great reminder for the difficult days ahead!
Best comment from last loss.... holding a can of veggies up to read ingredients and son commenting, "wow, the Mom has muscles"!
Can't wait to get them back!1 -
Shouliveshappy wrote: »Boobietrap1337 wrote: »Last night my trainer made me get on the scale so he could see how much I weighed. I didn't want to, because I went from eating 1,200 calories to 2,400 calories and I KNEW the weight gain would freak me out. I've been feeling amazing, killing it in the gym, ect. That was good enough for me, but he wanted to put a number on it. He said I'll regret it in a few weeks if I don't. So I got on, and I was ten pounds heavier then I was about three weeks before. I FREAKED out. He reassured me that this is normal for the body to react this way, if I keep doing what I'm doing, my body composition will be so much better. All muscle, no fat. So I killed the workout he gave me, and I went home. I wanted to stop by the grocery store and get ice cream, and just eat a whole tub of it because I was gaining weight...WHY SHOULDN"T I?!?
I then realized that's how I got big in the first place. Eating away my feelings/bad days. So I went home, ate my post workout meal, and felt great curling up for bed. This morning when I woke up, I put on my pair of jeans that were too small on me last Friday, which now fit perfectly. I wore them to work today! So my body is doing the right thing, the scale is not. My NSV is realizing that, and avoiding my ice cream binge. Yay!
YES! The same thing happend to me.... in 1 month, i've gained 10 lbs. Then again, i FEEL SO MUCH MORE ENERGETIC NOW! I am able to EAT in moderation, have an ice cream on some days and not be depriving myself of it! Did your trainer explain WHY the weight gain after 3 weeks of being in a deficit?
At 1200 calories, your body is being deprived of the resources to fuel everyday activities. 1200 is not enough for your days work. It adapted by slowing down your metabolism and conserving what energy it can making you sluggish. This is what people dub "starvation mode".
Now you'be moved to 2400 calories. This is where the good part starts.
Your body is still in starvation mode. The body still thinks you're going to deprive it. It will continue to store the extra calories it can. After a couple of weeks, your body will begin to realise that it has enough energy for day to day and then some. Your have more energy, your metabolism increases all because your body knows it knows it can drop a bit more hard work into those bodily processes. This is when the weight loss begins with a consistant calorie deficit.3
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