WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2016

Lenora thanks for the tips but what happened last night is I was really sleepy and I hit the wrong button.

Becca I had to laugh at the blow dryer tip for itching as I could just picture your DH sucking on the blow dryer trying to get relief! I sincerely hope they pin down the problem tonight. (((((Hugs)))))

They moved my mom to a rehab facility I'm assuming for physical therapy etc. When one of my sister's was there she had a seizure which had been suspected before. They had upped her seizure meds prior to the l test episode which obviously did not work.Neurologist seeing her today. Sister will update me later. She does seem to be doing better so I am no longer in panic mode.

Completing my Food Diary even if I go over. In June 2011 when I retired I weighed 350. For quite s one-time I have been maintaining at 272. My body seems to like it here but it's in for a Big surprise as I get back into losing mode!

Love and HUGS to all!

Gloria in cloudy humid drizzly WA

Did an express dumb DVD today. The plan for tomorrow is to do Gilad's 45/45 Split DVD

Debbie - welcome! Walking is a great start to your exercise program. Don't get real focused on losing 10 pounds in June. If you don't make it but you feel good, that's the important thing -- feeling good.

Joyce - Vince constantly has Fox network on. If it's not Fox, it's CNN. I am with you, after a while it gets so so boring

Is anyone else having trouble with MFP? It seems to constantly be freezing up on me

Went to go see Dixie Swim Club at the Green Room tonight. It was REAL funny. Let's see, volunteered at the Green Room (can't get over how the tickets for Dixie Swim Club are selling! They added two more shows and one of them is already sold out), then went to WalMart. Vince can't understand why we need to go again, we were (as he feels) just there. Well, we went to the one that he wanted to go to. I needed to go to this one since they carry some things that I needed. Stopped at CVS to get Loki's medicine, home for dinner then back to the Green Room. I really wanted to see Dixie Swim Club, Vince had no desire to see it, I tried to ask another gal and she didn't care to see it, so I went to the IDR (Invitational Dress Rehearsal) by myself, and I'm glad I did. Just got home. They have a volunteer meeting before the IDR, I'd forgotten about that. The lady had strawberries and whipped cream. I just had some strawberries. Other times she's had cakes and things, I've just never had any.

Vince saw the snake again, thank goodness I didn't see it. He's sent an email to someone who comes and evidentally takes it away.

Kim - I'm finding that when I have food that is high in fat, I feel so "yukky"

Pat - lovely flowers

pip - wow! 7th in the state. Congrats

Lynn - welcome! I'm so sorry about your daughter. But it's great that you're supporting your other daughter.

Beth - welcome! Don't get discouraged. See how your measurements are. Sometimes the scale doesn't show a loss but your clothes do

B - welcome to you, too. So sorry to hear about your dad. I think maybe one of your goals should be not to feel so downtrodden

traci - happy birthday to your hubby

APreciousF - welcome! Love your goals

Becca - keeping you and hubby in my prayers. Please keep us updated -- we care very much

Miriam - it seem like just yesterday that you were adopting those girls! Are you SURE it's been 3 years?

Debbie - Vince likes his prepackaged food, too. So does Jess. That's (sadly) a problem

Beth - my kids' high school put on an after prom party, too. They would be basically locked into the gym until 5a.m. The parents went all out decorating, tho. The only way a kid could leave is if they had a note from their parents saying that they could leave. Hope your son has a great time

Alison - I agree with what marian said about you and Tom. Should the marriage fail, it's his fault, this is a learning experience for you

Joyce - how wonderful that you got those recliners!

Michele in NC

Hi all!
Sleepless in Hampshire! Oh well. This too shall pass. I did sleep the esrly part of the night.

I would like to add one more thing to Miriam's helpful comments. BE MORE SELFISH. Sounds strange I know, but, unless we assert ourselves and have firm boundaries over how we are to be treated and how we treat ourselves, we are setting ourselves up for stress and more stress. It is fine to help others from a position of loving strength, but unreasonable demands and shabby treatment are not acceptable. Iit is always a balance and the dividing line is not clear cut, but if something is making you unhappy, change it. If you can't change it, do your best to develop acceptance. Above all, ASK FOR HELP. Be clear about what you can and cannot do and make sure everyone knows those limits.
In order to be a productive, happy human being we must respect ourselves. We must say NO. We must say YES to the things that we want. We all have to make compromises in this life, but we shouldn't make ourselves ill doing it.

Sermon over! I like to hear myself speak speak sometimes so that I will listen. :laugh:

Heather UK

Ladies, I'm off to drive DD and "friends" (please let them still be her friends, how I hate girl drama ) to a beach house in Rhode Island, about a 3 hour drive give or take. Should be fun and I am treating myself to some shop therapy at the outlet mall on the way back. I don't do shop therapy much but what the hey! I need to wear clothes with a little more color to them, and a bright shirt or snazzier skirt will lift my spirits, I think

Getting off soda, diet drinks and sugar substitutes was one of the best things I did for myself. Can't stand the taste of any of that anymore, but it did take some time to withdraw from it. Good luck with that Joyce it is worth the adjustment. I've heard that dri nking diet drinks actually increase your appetite, so who knows, getting off them may have other benefits.

The rain is headed east, let's hope it finally leaves Texas and all its residents alone!
TGIF
Karen from NY

Happy Friday ladies!

Good Morning!

Morning, all... working in the warehouse since 3 a.m., but have a lot more to do before I can have another sale. Not killing myself for this one, like I did the last one. I found in the treasures that my sister hauled over for me a marble etching of Pickett's Charge at Gettysburg. It's not been cared for well, have to figure out how to clean the edges of the marble. Thinking about making a side table of it, with glass to protect the etching. Also found a printer's drawer, and have seen a lot of them done as tables with glass tops, building a frame so you can change out the bits and bobs in the drawer. Lots of them store jewelry, as the divisions are quite small. Love all the potential but have to rein the creativity back to what I can accomplish.

Allie - we do love you, and I totally agree with Miriam and with Heather. Your marriage is not a failure, it's an experience. One person cannot make a marriage work forever. A little selfishness would also benefit all of us. We were raised to be all things to all people. My flight attendant days taught me that you have to put your own oxygen mask on before helping those around you. If you don't help yourself, you won't be able to help anyone else.

I beat myself up for quite a long time about my first marriage being my "failure." It was not. It was two people who shouldn't have been together. I was stubborn enough to keep it going for 27 years--but it should have been over in 10. Even those 17 years weren't wasted, they made me who I am now, and put me in the right place to find Corey. But until I looked at him and thought "I'd rather die alone than live with you," I wasn't able to go. I hope you can see it when you finally reach your own breaking point...

Off my soapbox and into the shower!
Love y'all,
Lisa in West Texas

Good morning!

I didn't get to read yesterday so I just caught up. I can't remember a lot of stuff to post individually on, but here are the things I DO remember...

Alison - Other folks beat me to it, but I agree with them--You didn't fail at your marriage. Tom is/did. It took me a little while to get that after my divorce. I wasn't perfect but my ex refused to change in anything and I nearly lost myself completely in trying to change to please him. It took me about 7 years after the divorce to realize that and I'm still working on ridding myself of others' expectations so as to find who I really am. Oh, and Miriam's right even though I know it's a hard thing to swallow. I often wonder how much damage I did to my daughter by sticking it out in my marriage when it should have been over years earlier.

JaneMartin - So wonderful to see your post! I have been thinking about you and wondering how you were getting along. I'm glad your knee surgery is finally scheduled. Please be sure to let us know how it goes!

Jan from Fuquay - Welcome from Burlington! An old high school boyfriend who I found on Facebook now lives in Fuquay-Varina. I grew up in Marion, NC and he moved there at some point--his dad taught NJROTC at our high school.

I'm off for my tip to my parents' after work. I have to stop and buy gas on the way out but then should be able to hit the road. In addition to taking my now nine-year-old grandniece out to dinner and to the Livermush Festival, I have had three confirmations from high school/childhood friends who plan to be there. We will need to figure out where to meet up. I'm thinking seriously about stopping off in Hickory to pop in to see another guy I went to school with. He has to work today so can't go to Marion tonight, but he invited me to stop by his workplace on my way by. I talked to Makaela yesterday afternoon and she sounded really excited about going out with me by herself.

Becca, Joyce, and Barbie, you are all in my thoughts as you deal with your respective husband's health issues.

Off to work I go....

Carol in NC

Joyce: I've been drinking unsweetened sparkling water or coffee sweetened with stevia. I've found a stevia product that I like best. It is SweetLeaf Sweet Drops Vanilla Creme. No calories, and no aspartame, sucralose, or other artificial sweetener. Good luck finding something that is healthy and palatable. (((HUGS)))

Heather: Your comments about being more "selfish" make sense to me. I've found that I have to look after myself carefully or I'm neither good for myself nor those I love. It is the essential reason I set a goal to have fun every day. The "fun goal" has changed my life in very positive ways and doesn't take away from those I love.



Yoga today and a social event later on. I'm meeting a dear friend for late lunch, and then we're going to a retirement celebration at the school where we both taught for several years. Three people I worked with are retiring, and I want to help them celebrate their new futures.

I've been thinking about Becca and her DH. I know they had a late appointment for testing at OHSU in Portland yesterday. I hope things went well.

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

Tibetan proverb: "The secret to living well and long is: Eat half, walk double, laugh triple and love without measure..."

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

Janetr and pip34 – We have a strict leash law (in town and also in the county). Man that lives 5 or so miles away from us had a lot of sheep; and, 3 pit-bulls (down the street) killed or maimed every one of them one night, came back 2nd night and he shot at them. Big stink in town about it. He had reported the dogs roaming around and they would not come out and do anything about it. One day we saw a lame goat, llama, pit-bull, lab, and French Periennese (sp) [herding dog] coming through our property. We called the animal control, they came out; because they had had several calls about them during the week. Under the right conditions, pit-bulls mights be friendly and loving; but, I don’t trust any of them. I don’t trust too many ‘big dog breeds’ … they are usually very territorial and one- or two-person dogs. The pack of strange animals belonged several miles away; owner called and told ‘if they return to our property, all would be shot’; he came and got them thankfully. With young children playing in yard did not know what the herding dog might do it they got between them and their charges.

DDnL#1 started 'new' job on Tuesday, after walking out on a job she had had almost since they were married last Thursday; yesterday she 'quit' it and came home. I guess today, she'll be sitting at the SSAdmin Office to get a copy of hers and MDGD SS cards so she'll have hers when she applies for another job; and DMGD can get her 'learner's license'. I told her that I'd 'flip burgers' before going back to the original job; she had already gone back to them once. It's not going to change or get any better for her. Her self-esteem has taken a huge hit. More than $$$, they need 'benefits'. They 'need' that 2nd income, too.

Found out yesterday that DYS took DDnL#2 to a 'specialist' (OB/GYN) and they ran dye through her reproductive pipe works and discovered that both Fallopian tubes are blocked; so their only other option for have a baby would be 'in vitro fertilization'. MD told her that to unblock them; he'd have to cut her from one hip to the other; and, the surgery is too dangerous and not always successful. She wants so badly to have a child with DYS; but, we told her last night; we had a family ... Will loves and treats her daughter as if she was his own. We'd be praying for them whatever decision they make. $15K is a lot of money for each attempt. I've know people who have had it and it worked first time around. DH's daughter had it done; successfully, although we have not seen her in nearly 10 years (her choice, not ours). Also 2 of them had a multiple birth; one with twins and the other with triplets. Maybe that is why both son and I have had dreams of twins or triplets. I don't know if they are going to go this route or not. They have pretty much run out of options other than IVF. Please keep them in your prayers. Thanks.

Lenora

Morning peeps-
60 mi as of this morning 340to go

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Heather - I know you will have a terrific trip. Oh how I would love to be coming along. Take care and have fun.

Janetr okc