Non friendly females in the gym.
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I will say hi or whatever on occasion but im not there to chit chat.3
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By the sounds of many people here, it seems that the world is a much colder place than it used to be.3
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I own this tank top in two colors.
I did not read the last pages, but everyone has their own time, their own reasons, their own ways they go about getting their workouts done and anything else in life for that matter. Chit chatting for me is reserved for socializing outside of the gym.
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A simple hello is no problem. I do that everywhere I go.
But I imagine that if I went to the gym again to workout, instead of going on my machine and lifting at home, I would say hi there too. Be pleasant. Try my best not to fart in your direction. 
But I would not have time for chit chatting there. And that chit chatting at the gym would be a distraction from me getting my job done at the gym. I'm one of those people who do better without a "gym partner" because I've tried that before. They flake, be late, make excuses. I don't. And then I would need to hightail it outta there, to get some other things done for the day. 1 -
Iv been going to the gym for years. Just my opinion but ladies just don't seem to be very friendly. Maybe it's just me!
I know we are there to workout but a casual chat would be nice.
So because they don't want to chat with you they are not friendly? What a weird statement.
They could well be the greatest most wonderful human beings in the world, getting on with their workout and life as they want it and they get a nasty label because the OP feels that they should be 'nice' to him.
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At my gym I have become friends with several people, others I just say good morning or hi or whatever. The old guys like to chat a while and the women sometimes as for advice or offer it. Some just smile in recognition. Very few people don't talk at all. But then I live in arguably the friendliest place in the UK lol.1
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Most are probably gun shy as others have pointed out due to pushy males. Others are just cuunts. But some may be just shy, self conscious, or just plain unobservant. I am. I have been called rude, a total B, ant my sister in law called me a cuunt once because apparently someone had been talking to me and I NEVER NOTICED! I swear I do not have the "female" gene that allows us to multitask. I get too focused and tune out the world. You have to stand in front of me and snap your fingers in my face.2
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I don't like to chat with people at the gym. I'm just trying to get a quick run in before class, what do you want from me? It doesn't help that I am literally struggling to breathe here, please don't small talk me.
To be honest though, I'm off put by people talking to me anywhere. I'm just trying to buy groceries or drink my coffee or cross the street, leave me alone. Thanks.0 -
Socialization at the gym for me is saying good morning to the guy at the counter and nodding at the other regulars I know. Then headphones go in and workout. If it's a good workout, talking is difficult. If you want to chat, start slow. Nod and wave for a couple weeks, then you can work in a short conversation after she's acknowledged you.
^^^My mornings ritual as well. Take into account the hubs is there mostly when I workout. I live with the man and hardly talk to him at the gym. It irritates him sometimes but thems the breaks. When I walk in the doors I'm all business. I'm not doing it "to anyone" I'm doing it "for my focus."4 -
The gym is not a social setting.7
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So my question is: HOW LONG IS TOO LONG TO CHAT? 2 minutes? 5 minutes?
Personally I am chatty with everyone in the gym and know almost all people I talk with by first name. But I do know boundaries and only speak with them based on how I've interacted with them in the past.
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NorthCascades wrote: »Why not? Because you dislike one more than the other?
No. Because the interactivity index of the newspaper culture differs drastically from the interactivity index of electronic culture. And as a result, social norms and expectations have changed drastically within the last 20 years. And personally, I don't think the face-to-face interactive norms and expectations today have improved, but have instead devolved.
Let's see. Here's some examples.
1) Making eye contact and regarding eye contact as a courteous norm when speaking or being spoken to.
2) Being able to hear what people are saying without saying "what?", then gritting your teeth and pretending you don't mind that someone is bothering you by actually speaking to you. Because you're not walking around with some narcissistic ear buds in your ears every second you're outside of your own home.
3) The courteous tradition of offering a friendly acknowledgments like "hello" without a long neurotic mental essay of anxiety regarding the consequences of indulging in such;
4) Sustained conversations, partaken in for the simple pleasure of it, without electronic distractions;
5) Making plans to meet socially by simply saying "Let's meet at the local watering hole at 9 o'clock this Friday night, 'kay? Great! See you there!" and it would actually happen without sending 50 compulsive nervous texts back and forth that look like something typed by pre-schoolers;
6) Sending Hallmark cards in the mail to commemorate various rites of passage, or to just say hello I love you or sorry I acted like a jerk towards you, which requires the effort of actually choosing the card, buying the card, handwriting legibly in the card, getting hold of a stamp and dropping it in a mailbox. You know, instead of sending some lazy soulless email.
All these things are falling, or have completely fallen by the wayside.
First rate curmudgeon rant! And you didn't even have to use the woods "get off my lawn." Well done.
What do you think about "electrosmog?" This month's Outdoor Magazine has an article about it, cites a one-off study shoeing that a particular species of frog has a 90% mortality rate when exposed to RF and 4% without? They talk to someone who makes the car that our phones and their towers are killing all the nature7 -
ASAPStocky wrote: »The gym is not a social setting.
A former gym I went to had questions on their membership form as to the reasons why you were there and if you wanted to make friends.
They actually introduced you to similar minded people and encouraged you to train at the same time.2 -
rugratz2015 wrote: »ASAPStocky wrote: »The gym is not a social setting.
A former gym I went to had questions on their membership form as to the reasons why you were there and if you wanted to make friends.
They actually introduced you to similar minded people and encouraged you to train at the same time.
That's interesting actually. I wonder how a gym that was really big on social interaction would work out (no pun intended)0 -
So my question is: HOW LONG IS TOO LONG TO CHAT? 2 minutes? 5 minutes?
Personally I am chatty with everyone in the gym and know almost all people I talk with by first name. But I do know boundaries and only speak with them based on how I've interacted with them in the past.
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Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
This is when you have to read body language and how the conversation is going. Perhaps the person you're talking to needs to just have a long convo to get stuff out perhaps they just want a quick hi. I had this issue with my hardware store guy one time he kept going on and on and on about his bodybuilding but I just wanted to go home. He seemed to want to talk thought so I waited it out1 -
I would think that people who have a common interest would like to at least meet. Doesn't have to be a date. I have a client now who met her current boyfriend because he and I talk all the time and I introduce her to him. They took it from there.Cutaway_Collar wrote: »I feel sorry the guy has been scolded for his OP in a covert way.
Many people are on 100 dating sites and are perennially single looking for the one. The spouse you are looking for is probably in the same hall working out and you missed out because you are too shy or you don't want your workout to be "disturbed".
Then you go home and use 100 apps to find someone who is playing 5 men or 5 women at the same time. And eventually settle for someone less because the age clock is running out.
OP is not a bad looking guy.
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