WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2017

hey ladies,
Just a short check in today. To day is my no tablet day, so I'm a bit out of sorts. Not checking in with that thing! I walked Annabelle this morning, she sniffed all the wet grass, and had quite a wet face when she galloped back to her momma! She is a character! When I got back to Prudence's place I helped her call a bunch of apartment complexes that accepts assistance vouchers. There were 5 apartment complexes where the phone number wasn't valid, which is frustrating, being that the listings came from the Resources lady at the Senior center. I shall have to tell her about that! Also if she moves she just needs a 1 bedroom, on the ground floor. She talked to me about wishing to pay me for all that I am doing. She quoted me a price of $100 a month. I told her, I only walk Annabelle, and do her pills. That $50 would be fine but I wasn't really comfortable with that either. My husband says that once she starts paying me, that I would be doing so much more. I have told Prudence that I am not really comfortable with doing her bills, because I am not really balancing her checkbook. I told her she needs to have the resource lady find someone to put all her bills in automatic payment mode. But then that could only happen if she was having someone go with her to the grocery store, because she can't read her register to know how much she has.

I sang yesterday, at the senior luncheon, and for Prudence. At the senior center it was humorous, because I didn't quite hit my HIGH note of the song. I had an inkling that I wouldn't because I had started the song a bit high to begin with! So all thru the song I am thinking, I am not gonna hit it....oh dang! I joked to them that I should've pinched myself then I could've hit it!

Rec'd a call from my middle son, saying I was the best mom ever, he is such a sweetie! I rec'd a call from my sister that just got married, and she loved the card I had sent her. In the card I had thanked Claire for saving my sister, that she bloomed after she met him, and also that our relationship got better. I made her cry. I told her I crammed all the love I could into that dang envelope!

Well my pasta is ready time for lunch. Love ya alls!
Becca
Oregon

Lanette – Sorry for the mix-up; DOS is 41 today; DH and I have been married (will be) 45 years on August 20; I am 66 to clear that up. Or else, I started really young, or he is a child of my DH’s and I am his ‘trophy wife’. Well, there are almost 10 years between our ages; but, not a ‘trophy wife’ … just his 3rd – which was the ‘charm’. DYS will be 39 on August 31st. I lost my first baby before I was 24; had Trey at 25, and Will at 27. I’m a relatively young Nana; son was 19 when Taylor was born. First marriage did not last even 2 years; now he’s been married 18. Will, youngest son, was 36 when he and Tami married 2 years ago. She has an 11-year-old daughter by ‘ex’.

They’ve talked about I.V.F., but, the drugs she has to take makes her hair break off, so she came off them. Now, they are talking about maybe looking for a house at the Lake; although he has a place on a lake. He still has it as a ‘perk’ of his job as a Wildlife Biologist on a hunting preserve about 2000 acres; plus they have another 22 acres on the smaller lake (on a slough). Their ages might not make them good candidates for I.V.F.; and, it is extremely expensive where they live because the nearest specialist are either in Jackson, MS or Baton Rouge, LA – and she would have to take daily shots (in the stomach) and they would have to go up to Jackson every other day for tests and making sure the ‘timing’ is right. She’d have to have a couple of stitches in her cervix because of some previous surgery. So, I am not looking to have another ‘baby’ in the family. I no longer ask any questions. They either will, or they won’t. As far as Will is concerned, Mallory, is his daughter and he tells her all the time that he did NOT marry her to have children; he married her because he had ‘fallen in love with her and Mallory’. He does refer to her as his ‘step-daughter’ or ‘my wife’s daughter’, just “Mallory”. She calls him Will; but, did not understand why her last name wouldn’t change when they got married.

Yeah, I am really saddened with the news about my friend. She says she doesn’t even know if she will take and treatment. Doesn’t want all the side effects and sickness. I just wish she could have some peace without all the stress she lives under.

We’ve got a toilet in the ½ bath that has a crack in the tank; and, I ‘hate’ the one we always use, because it sits so low. I use the handicapped toilet when there is one available. I have slide off the one we have so many times that it isn’t funny. On one side is a magazine holder with sharp edge; on the other side is my lingerie cabinet. Then I wake Louis up ‘cussing like a sailor’ and he wants to know if I am ‘ok’. I’ll be ‘ok’ when he buys a taller toilet for the one off the MBR and they can move this one, in the other bathroom.

Janetr – I’m sorry about your sister and hope they are able to get things under control. At least she is out of ICU, so that is a ‘positive’. Getting her meds might take a little longer; but, at least they think they can do it, then she can go home.

Becca – I think my DDnL#1 would (or is) dangerous when it comes to her checking account. She never understands why the bank(s) show her as being over-drawn. I do, because when she uses her debit card, the receipt gets thrown in the car; and, then it might get taken out with all good intentions and they get thrown away or otherwise misplaced. She banks at the same bank as I do (because she has gotten mad at other banks for ‘bouncing’ her checks. Trey is not on that account with her; but, she is on his account at another bank. Since Trey is on one of my checking accounts, I told him that ‘if’ she EVER wanted him on her account; he’d have to come off mine ‘first’ before doing so. The first time they cross-referenced his SSN to my account and took $$$ out to put in her account there would be an @$$-stomping! I put my DC purchases in my register as soon as I get back to my car; but, I also wrap them around the car, so I won’t forget to do it. I called him a little while ago and said that in 42 more minutes he will 'officially' be 41. He said, 'Dang, I am still 40; so you had me at 5:31pm'? Yep, right on the dot! Will was born at 8:31am - by the afternoon my neighbors were all up at the hospital having a party with me, OB/GYN said I could have 1 glass of wine. They had been into the wine a lot earlier. Often wondered if they had a "DD"; probably not.

Karen in Virginia – I don’t play the FB games ‘if I have anything else to do’; they are very addictive; but, I don’t play in a group. Just myself. Too competitive and I would never put the laptop away.

Felicia – We don’t like armadillos because of them churning up the grass looking for grubs. They are faster than you’d think they’d be on those short little legs; but, I guess their armor slows them down. Invariably when one gets killed on the highway, someone places a can in it upturned feet, so that he looks like he is drinking it. I think their rear legs are just a tad longer than the front ones, that is why it is so easy to pose them with a beer or soda can.

Take my car in on the 26th. I need to call him Monday because I had my weeks mixed up (because I had not marked off the days). I usually put a "/" for my AM meds; then complete the "X" when I take my evening meds. I just called the body shop; I did not realize that Louis was going by there. Trey will drive it in and go to work with his Dad and then Louis will take him by to pick it up. I hope he is able to straighten the running board and not charge me an ‘arm & leg’. Not making a claim on it because Agent said they might ‘rate’ me higher (would be 3rd claim in less than 18 months) or could ‘drop’ me. We’ve been with the same company for the nearly 45 years we’ve been married.

Does anyone on her know how to ‘delete’ an exercise from your ‘list’ or at least make ‘corrections’ to it. I don’t want to click on one; because I got angry and typed in a bad word. How can you tell how many calories you’ve burned if it is a strength type of exercise, like lifting dumbbells?

Lenora

lhscapil wrote: »

Happy Friday ladies!
Cheri - look at the shirt on Albie. Is it a "Thundershirt"? We put something like that on Sophie during the 4th of July/thunderstorms to help calm her down.
Have a great day!
Lanette
SW WA State

It is a small doggie shirt actually. A real thundershirt was out of her budget. It works like one tho'! She puts it on at bedtime and anytime during the day when he is whining incessantly. He quiets down instantly and then wanders a bit before literally falling over. It's a hoot to watch. Been doing that since she got him from a friend as a kitten.

Cheri
in steamy College Station, TX

coastalgosgal wrote: »

hey ladies,
Just a short check in today. To day is my no tablet day, so I'm a bit out of sorts. Not checking in with that thing! I walked Annabelle this morning, she sniffed all the wet grass, and had quite a wet face when she galloped back to her momma! She is a character! When I got back to Prudence's place I helped her call a bunch of apartment complexes that accepts assistance vouchers. There were 5 apartment complexes where the phone number wasn't valid, which is frustrating, being that the listings came from the Resources lady at the Senior center. I shall have to tell her about that! Also if she moves she just needs a 1 bedroom, on the ground floor. She talked to me about wishing to pay me for all that I am doing. She quoted me a price of $100 a month. I told her, I only walk Annabelle, and do her pills. That $50 would be fine but I wasn't really comfortable with that either. My husband says that once she starts paying me, that I would be doing so much more. I have told Prudence that I am not really comfortable with doing her bills, because I am not really balancing her checkbook. I told her she needs to have the resource lady find someone to put all her bills in automatic payment mode. But then that could only happen if she was having someone go with her to the grocery store, because she can't read her register to know how much she has.

I sang yesterday, at the senior luncheon, and for Prudence. At the senior center it was humorous, because I didn't quite hit my HIGH note of the song. I had an inkling that I wouldn't because I had started the song a bit high to begin with! So all thru the song I am thinking, I am not gonna hit it....oh dang! I joked to them that I should've pinched myself then I could've hit it!

Rec'd a call from my middle son, saying I was the best mom ever, he is such a sweetie! I rec'd a call from my sister that just got married, and she loved the card I had sent her. In the card I had thanked Claire for saving my sister, that she bloomed after she met him, and also that our relationship got better. I made her cry. I told her I crammed all the love I could into that dang envelope!

Well my pasta is ready time for lunch. Love ya alls!
Becca
Oregon

That was short?

Becca my mom had a woman come in to help her for a morning before she went into a home. It was through an agency, but I know it was at least $15 dollars an hour, so it was at least $60 a day. The woman were not skilled nurses. They did light house work, made her breakfast and lunch, and tended to a few of her needs. Your time is valuable I know you want to help her, but don't sell yourself short. When my mom was in the nursing home it was $8,000 to $10,000 a month. I would not be comfortable doing her bills either. Hopefully social services can set her up with the services she needs and then you can just be her friend. It sounds like that what you want to be. The money and things she is asking you to do cloud that friendship.
Margaret

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janetr okc - so glad to hear your sister is better and out of ICU. Sending prayers that she will be home soon.

DH left on fishing trip this morning with a bunch of buddies. Won't be back until Sunday night or maybe Monday night. Hope they have a good time. I'm getting the house cleaned up, putting the baseboards back on, and cleaning the oven and fridge.

Hugs ladies. Take care of yourselves.

Paula Y.

Michelle, do you have a resistance band? Not the kind that look like rubber bands, but the kind that looks like a bungee cord with handles on each end. This packs easily and you can do a complete workout with it. It's what I plan to take with me when I need to go to my daughter's to babysit in a couple of weeks.

Allie – Seems like someone told me this; but, is that man standing next to you TomCat?

Pip – Compared to my posts … yes, it is ‘short’. Whoa, … that is some ‘tall’ grass. Watch out for snakes. Where is that? Surely not at your home. Beach lot maybe?

Joyce – Paid off all our personal credit cards and going ‘cash only’. After we added up how much 'interest' we were paying ... WHOA!!!!! Louis still has 2 cards that he uses in his business; but, only in case of emergencies. Normally he gets 1/3rd of his quote up front and buys paint and other supplies with it and to make sure that he has payroll until they are midway through. He usually has 2 jobs going on overlapping - inside and outside work. He doesn’t ask for money for jobs that he isn’t ready to jump on. I don’t buy anything ‘online’ and I don’t do ‘online banking’. Of course, my ‘checks’ drop into my checking/savings account on certain days; so my statements come out after that.

Katla – I sing “Alto”; so I know I don’t carry a ‘tune’. Sure wish I could actually sing "Soprano." I am amazed at how long and high some of the contestants did on “The Voice”.

Becca – I agree that you should not get ‘involved’ with paying her bills for her because it will only give her cause to ask you to do other things for her. She is an older woman and she does need some help. I know we tried to keep our mother at home as long as we could; but, when it was apparent that she wasn’t paying her bills when they came due and was having things turned off. My oldest sister took her home with her (she had had a fairly significant stroke, preceded by smaller, less noticeable ones). Grew up in a small town and Daddy was a prominent attorney in town … so I guess she believed that everybody knew her and they’d get around to calling her about an unpaid bill. Sister only had MBR downstairs and Mother was heavy and sat in their recliners (where she slept). They ended up having to buy new chairs because when she went to sit in them, she ‘plopped down’ and the springs were bad. When we first put her into the A.L.F., she knew about where she was because she was right across the street from the Church they belonged to … and she knew she lived only 2 short blocks. She wanted to ‘go home’ every time we visited her. The entire block she owned had earlier been sold to the Methodist Church and they rented the house back to her with the understanding she could stay there as long as she did not need a full-time nurse (or upon her death). They’d walk her over to the Baptist Church when she felt like it. She still enjoyed teaching her Sunday school class. Then they A.L.F. moved and she stopped ‘begging to go home’. In one of her more lucid moments, Suzanne told her that she no longer had a home to go to. Friendships, borrowing money from family, and money don’t always go together. Something will always suffer. Your friendship is probably more important because you are steering her in the right direction to get the help she needs as an older person.

Barbiecat – Thanks. RATS!!!!!

Lenora

Hello Ladies!

So I went to the gym again today! My knees were protesting earlier, but I know this is what will eventually get them stronger. My plan is to go 3x during the week ... weekends are just too crazy! I went into both the women's workout room and the regular gym today. I'm slowly getting my confidence back.

Allie ... be careful ... a silent Tom doesn't sound like a safe Tom.

Food choices/hunger ... I'm in agreement that some foods definitely keep you fuller for longer periods of time, even when eating at a deficit. Eggs and bacon for breakfast keeps me until mid to late day ... Toast or cereal has me gnawing on my knuckles by mid morning.

Beth near Buffalo

Hi Gals,

Just a heads up – I know I finally am posting again, but I have a house guest for the weekend, a garden tour to lavender fields in the santa rosa, ca area on Monday, then the following Friday, Saturday, Sunday I am off on a long weekend vacation to the central coast of CA to visit a friend. I have a dog sitter staying with Levi. So I’ll be in and out…

Someone asked about being hungry… I often am too, but if I really pack in the veggies then not so much, I find sometimes I don’t pack a big enough lunch and that’s a hard go to not tuck into something that is a non-heathy choice. I am a moderator in food, and have a huge sweet tooth, so find I have to work to keep that under control, and a sweet fruit can help. This time of year, a “basket” of raspberries will do the trick, pricy but so much heathier than a candy bar or milk shake – and if I am over calories but it is because of raspberries/peaches/apricots it is much easier for me to accept than if I succumbed to a not that good fast food milk shake… HECK even a home made awesome milk shake is easier to accept. All that said, I do try to drink 8 + ounces of water or tea before I am sure I am hungry.

I have to share I have new neighbors, our homes are pretty close to one another – but we do have fences – most everyone in California has 6 foot fences around their back yards. Anyway the house on one side has been a rental for 15 years, and there’s been all sorts in there, the last ones made it about 6 years, and while they were nice enough the yard was a nightmare, and they were not neighborly, just neighbors. The owners sold and the new folks – a stay at home retired dad (58) a baby (1) and a wife (30) with a high powered tech job… are so NICE! They are out in the yard, they visit without being a pain, just all in all a great thing. But I do have to laugh as the man is trying to look younger I guess, as he has dyed his grey hair yellow-blonde (the roots show) and grown it on the long side some times in a VERY short pony tail… It makes me smile when I see him – I want to giggle but that would be rude.


Smiles

Kim from N. California