How to become that skinny friend who eats what they want and dont gain weight
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How come some skinny people eat more than an overweight person and remain the same ?I see so many skinny people stuffing their face constantly and they stay the same all the time.I dont get it do you ? I would love to be one of those people lol
You're only seeing a snapshot of their daily life...6 -
suzannesimmons3 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Because I live with one and I do see them all the time and have friends also who are like this
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Well the roomie doesn't work, and I'm guessing the OP does? So I'm thinking hidden cameras.
I'm thinking op.should spend more.time worrying about herself than her room mate.
Is it just me that thinks of single white female.here
Haha you are so immature .Who said it was my roomate ? And who said I was worried ?Seriously you guys on MFP need to be a bit more educated and maybe read over what I posted again
Here, from page 1 of this thread - your words:Because I live with one and I do see them all the time...
So, who said it was your roommate? You did. Just in different wording.
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TavistockToad wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »
I dont even need to do that .Okay let me tell you what their typical diet is like.Morning breakfast 2 fried eggs 2 sausages 2 rashers 2 pudding 2 slices of toast.Dinner a nine inch pizza with fries and garlic bread.Then a big tub of ben and jerrys later on then a family pack of doritos and a chocolate bar.Then before they sleep they eat sausage rolls more buttered toast and some cookies .Now honestly that has to be atleast 4000 cals
And what do they do all day?
They dont do anything they dont work
So you sit at home with them all day doing nothing?
No I dont .Okay dont believe me then but I know this person inside and out and they have always ate lots of junk food all the time and stayed the same weight
Are they male or female? Males can eat more than women.
Are they bigger than you? A bigger person can eat more than a small one.
Are they healthy? Some people have gut problems and do not absorb all the calories they eat.
Are they you? Some people an simple eat more than others of the same size and sex.
You can't change your genetics. You can be more active and develop more muscle, those will allow you to eat more.6 -
In a controlled environment most people burn roughly the same number of calories when controlled for size and gender. I’ve never once seen a dietary study where one of the participants had a TDEE significantly higher or lower than the average.
The idea that some people just have “crazy metabolism” is pure woo we invent to explain things we’re uncomfortable admitting to ourselves. “Oh that person eats all the time and stays skinny, their metabolism must be super high.”
Noooooo, either that person isn’t eating as much as you think, or they’re much more active than you think.
Energy is the physics of heat. We all have nearly identical body temperature. If somebody actually was burning more calories than you, doing the same activity, while weighing the same or less, then their body temperature would be higher than yours. Simple physics.
There’s no magic genetic trigger that makes a person burn 3000 or 4000 calories a day doing nothing.15 -
Activity level can seem like notNeed2Exerc1se wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »
I dont even need to do that .Okay let me tell you what their typical diet is like.Morning breakfast 2 fried eggs 2 sausages 2 rashers 2 pudding 2 slices of toast.Dinner a nine inch pizza with fries and garlic bread.Then a big tub of ben and jerrys later on then a family pack of doritos and a chocolate bar.Then before they sleep they eat sausage rolls more buttered toast and some cookies .Now honestly that has to be atleast 4000 cals
And what do they do all day?
They dont do anything they dont work
So you sit at home with them all day doing nothing?
No I dont .Okay dont believe me then but I know this person inside and out and they have always ate lots of junk food all the time and stayed the same weight
Are they male or female? Males can eat more than women.
Are they bigger than you? A bigger person can eat more than a small one.
Are they healthy? Some people have gut problems and do not absorb all the calories they eat.
Are they you? Some people an simple eat more than others of the same size and sex.
You can't change your genetics. You can be more active and develop more muscle, those will allow you to eat more.
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Plus honestly, sometimes you feel that people 'don't do anything' but unless they're glued to the TV all day, they're probably still burning calories moving around somehow.
That, and sometimes people eat junk but don't really have meals so the calories are just not as bad as you think at the end of the day.suzannesimmons3 wrote: »Sunnybrooke99 wrote: »My brother is one of these. His secret? He only eats once a day, and sometimes only ever other day. For whatever reason, he just doesn’t get hungry, and won’t eat unless somebody reminds him to. He’s been like that his entire life.
Seems like that would make it difficult to get adequate nutrition. Poor guy! I'd not trade my love and enjoyment of food for anything.
He’s definitely not the healthiest person I know, I’m trying to change than. But whatever it is, he doesn’t have the in-built desire for food that I, and most of us here I suspect, have. For him eating has always just been something he does to keep from dying.
The funny thing? He’s a manager at a restaurant, and occasional chef.
Wow that's a very interesting career choice for someone who doesn't really like food! I suspect you're right - I know my love of food has contributed to my being here.
I actually wonder about this a lot. I’ve only recently learned that not everyone LOVES alcohol the way I do. I’ve never understood how defensive people get about “junk” food, when for me, it’s just not the logical decision. I wonder if it doesn’t give me the extremely good feelings, but it does for other people. Sure, I like butter, but it’s nothing for me to eat a baked potato plain, if I want to cut calories. I’m also someone who doesn’t eat when stressed. The idea nauseates me. On the other hand, I seriously don’t want to cut out alcohol no matter how logical it is.
Oh I'm 100% convinced that some people just don't like food the way that others do.
I LOVE food. That's why I'm here, I mean, one of the things I love the most in life is having delicious foods. I would plan trips just to get to taste the food there, for example, and would have no issue driving one hour to go a specific restaurant or try a new bakery (I'm usually disappointed in those)... I'm quite sure that most people would think I'm crazy to do that...
Somehow the idea seems to offend some people though, when I imply that maybe the reason that they can eat things easily in moderation is because they don't like food as much as I do, but we all love different things to different degrees, how is that a crazy concept? And that's your point with alcohol. I don't care for it. I have a drink maybe twice a year. I have no problem cutting it.
But I've had those 'how can you stay so skinny while eating so much' comments (I've never been skinny but whatever). They just didn't know that I kept a deficit all week to make room for that party, and that I force myself to walk 15k+ steps a day.
I'm weird...im a fatty that doesn't really like "food" I got fat eating biscuits and chocolates and avoiding all the food stuffs. Too many calories in biscuits sadly.
I totally understand how that would work too. On days when I'm not really in the mood to eat anything specific but too lazy to cook, it's too easy to end up eating high calorie/no preparation stuff like breakfast biscuits, fast food etc.1 -
Why are ppl questioning you so much lol. I live with ppl who STUFF themselves with tons and tons of food and remain the same. Activity level you ask? None. Don't question me because I live with them haha.
The EASY answer is that they plain just burn more calories than they eat. Believe it or not, most people that can eat a lot, eventually gain weight because somewhere along the way, they reduce their physical activity, but not habitual eating habits.
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[img]http://tickers.myfitnesspal.com/ticker/show/928/5851/ Lol no they don't burn, barely anything at all actually. I am 100% sure, well you can keep questioning I guess lol no one will believe[/img]3 -
During a business dinner, one of my coworkers joked that I "eat like a trucker" and I must have an "amazing metabolism" to not gain weight.
I just nodded and laughed along, but I should have told him the truth - I practice intermittent fasting and usually only have one meal a day - especially if I know I'm going to a restaurant that day.8 -
Parting thought. If these people who could "eat anything" and still stay skinny really did exist, and in sufficient numbers that everybody seems to know one, scientists would have rounded up a bunch of them to study by now to figure out what hormone their body was producing that made them that way and bottled that *kitten* up for mass production, a long time ago.22
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Sunnybrooke99 wrote: »My brother is one of these. His secret? He only eats once a day, and sometimes only ever other day. For whatever reason, he just doesn’t get hungry, and won’t eat unless somebody reminds him to. He’s been like that his entire life.
Seems like that would make it difficult to get adequate nutrition. Poor guy! I'd not trade my love and enjoyment of food for anything.
He’s definitely not the healthiest person I know, I’m trying to change than. But whatever it is, he doesn’t have the in-built desire for food that I, and most of us here I suspect, have. For him eating has always just been something he does to keep from dying.
The funny thing? He’s a manager at a restaurant, and occasional chef.
Wow that's a very interesting career choice for someone who doesn't really like food! I suspect you're right - I know my love of food has contributed to my being here.
I actually wonder about this a lot. I’ve only recently learned that not everyone LOVES alcohol the way I do. I’ve never understood how defensive people get about “junk” food, when for me, it’s just not the logical decision. I wonder if it doesn’t give me the extremely good feelings, but it does for other people. Sure, I like butter, but it’s nothing for me to eat a baked potato plain, if I want to cut calories. I’m also someone who doesn’t eat when stressed. The idea nauseates me. On the other hand, I seriously don’t want to cut out alcohol no matter how logical it is.
Oh I'm 100% convinced that some people just don't like food the way that others do.
That's probably true in my case. I've often thought that life would be so much simpler if we could just take a nutrition pill first thing in the morning and be done with the whole eating thing.
I'm not into cooking, and the texture and flavour of most food is "meh" at best, and often rather disappointing, if not completely horrible. My stomach just feels better if it has something in it. This is probably why I can eat more or less the same food just about every day. I've got a collection of inoffensive food items which I eat over and over.
(And regarding alcohol ... I've tried different things at different times and it ranges from tolerable to completely awful. About the only alcoholic beverage I could stand to drink two in a row of is a Long Island Iced Tea -- it's the only one that tastes reasonably good. Otherwise, I'd simply rather not have it. Water tastes better.)1 -
I guess I'm that skinny friend who always eats. Colleagues have been asking me how I can stay slim as I always seem to be eating. it's all perception though. I put my 5 slices of wholegrain bread on my desk in the morning, together with a pile of fruit and/or veggies. and yes, I'm always eating something. But thing is: this pile of food is just around 720kcal, and people can't see what I eat at home.5
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I'm that person who eats a lot at events etc., and still stay fit. I'm told that I'm lucky, have great genetics or an awesome metabolism.
But what people don't see is the hard work and discipline I put into my workouts everyday early in the morning and sometimes during the evening too.
Or how I ate lighter that day and saved the bulk of my calories for that meal (intermittent fasting). Maybe I banked calories earlier that week for that event.
Also most don't realize that I am not drinking calories or that I am eating smaller amounts of everything or a whole lot of a couple of things. This makes it appear that I am eating everything in sight when I'm not.
I don't give responses or explain myself. I just smile and change the subject.15 -
I am that person who can eat and eat and eat and stay relatively small....IT SUCKS!!!! I have to eat double sometimes triple what most ppl eat and work out even harder so that i can gain weight10
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How come some skinny people eat more than an overweight person and remain the same ?I see so many skinny people stuffing their face constantly and they stay the same all the time.I dont get it do you ? I would love to be one of those people lol
Newsflash: they probably don't. They may not constantly have the super-palatable high-calorie foods around, and thus may partake extra at potlucks/other occasions where you see them.
Or alternatively, they may be training for a triathlon or play in a sports league or have a physically demanding job, or ... (ie they can eat a lot because they aren't sitting on their *kitten* all day).1 -
Lol no they don't burn, barely anything at all actually. I am 100% sure, well you can keep questioning I guess lol no one will believe
Questioning should be done because there are other people who lurk here that will see this and may think they have a friend the same way. It's still CICO when it comes to weight loss/gain/maintenance.
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PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »suzannesimmons3 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Because I live with one and I do see them all the time and have friends also who are like this
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Well the roomie doesn't work, and I'm guessing the OP does? So I'm thinking hidden cameras.
I'm thinking op.should spend more.time worrying about herself than her room mate.
Is it just me that thinks of single white female.here
Haha you are so immature .Who said it was my roomate ? And who said I was worried ?Seriously you guys on MFP need to be a bit more educated and maybe read over what I posted again
You said you live with the person. Your mom? Your wife? Sister? What difference does it make? I'm not sure why I assumed female, but if it's a guy, that's another reason they can eat more.
And it's not nice insulting people just because you're not getting the answers you're expecting. That's, erm, immature.
Where did I insult someone ? Immature is that the word you think is an insult.The truth hurts doesnt it but anyway I have the answer now so you dont need to waste your time arguing with some stranger on the internet that you will never know LOL17 -
Why are ppl questioning you so much lol. I live with ppl who STUFF themselves with tons and tons of food and remain the same. Activity level you ask? None. Don't question me because I live with them haha.
Hahaha I know right can a question not be asked on here anymore or something ?Some people think
they know absolutely everything when they dont .It was proved when I read through so many different answers.19 -
jcstevens86 wrote: »I am that person who can eat and eat and eat and stay relatively small....IT SUCKS!!!! I have to eat double sometimes triple what most ppl eat and work out even harder so that i can gain weight
Don't you have a thread about trouble bulking where it came out that you don't log your calories... at all?
I was like you - or thought I was. Rail skinny almost my entire life and then I decided I wanted to lift and I wanted "bear mode" so I started to bulk. Had moderate success and gained to about 180 (I'm 6'1) and hit a wall. I couldn't figure it out, as I was eating "triple what most ppl eat" and was working out on a good program, lifted heavy, and never cheated myself in the gym.
Well, I discovered MFP about a year ago and started logging. What I also discovered is that I wasn't eating nearly as many calories as I thought. Most days I wasn't even breaking 3K. I started to up my calories any way I could, including drinking a majority of them at times. Miracles of miracles... I started gaining again. I've had to up them a few times in the last year and now have to eat about 4.5K to gain, but then again ... I'm also 240# now and in dire need of a cut.
Anyhow, my point is that it's not only those on the outside looking in that overestimate calories consumed for skinny people... it's often the skinny people that do that same thing. It's the reason there are so many "hard gainer" threads that pop up around here.15 -
rainbow198 wrote: »I'm that person who eats a lot at events etc., and still stay fit. I'm told that I'm lucky, have great genetics or an awesome metabolism.
But what people don't see is the hard work and discipline I put into my workouts everyday early in the morning and sometimes during the evening too.
Or how I ate lighter that day and saved the bulk of my calories for that meal (intermittent fasting). Maybe I banked calories earlier that week for that event.
Also most don't realize that I am not drinking calories or that I am eating smaller amounts of everything or a whole lot of a couple of things. This makes it appear that I am eating everything in sight when I'm not.
I don't give responses or explain myself. I just smile and change the subject.
In my experience, even if you try to tell people, they won't believe you.
It's easier for some people to think they missed out on getting a "skinny gene" than it is for them to accept that people can create habits and routines that allow them to manage their weight.10 -
PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »suzannesimmons3 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »Because I live with one and I do see them all the time and have friends also who are like this
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Well the roomie doesn't work, and I'm guessing the OP does? So I'm thinking hidden cameras.
I'm thinking op.should spend more.time worrying about herself than her room mate.
Is it just me that thinks of single white female.here
Haha you are so immature .Who said it was my roomate ? And who said I was worried ?Seriously you guys on MFP need to be a bit more educated and maybe read over what I posted again
You said you live with the person. Your mom? Your wife? Sister? What difference does it make? I'm not sure why I assumed female, but if it's a guy, that's another reason they can eat more.
And it's not nice insulting people just because you're not getting the answers you're expecting. That's, erm, immature.
Where did I insult someone ? Immature is that the word you think is an insult.The truth hurts doesnt it but anyway I have the answer now so you dont need to waste your time arguing with some stranger on the internet that you will never know LOL
Yes, calling someone immature, especially where it's not warranted because YOU lack understanding on the topic and people are trying to HELP YOU understand, is definitely an insult. Quit projecting.17
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