The middle agers group. (Upper 30s,40s & 50ish folks)
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Hello, I'm in my upper 30s and recently joined MFP. All of the accountability is helping me stay more focused than working on my goals without it.1
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I used to be the one talking at home. After years and years not getting response or the response what I was looking for, I stopped. He is a quite person by nature. I don’t want to talk anymore. It is not a problem for him. I feel lonely. He has been sleeping in the other room for 8 years. I wish I could sleep in his arm again. I am also stressful as I am in charge of kids stuff, school works and all activities.
I was in your position little more than three years ago. Take a good conversation, or a letter, whatever works best, and really talk about your thaughts and expectations. I did that with my wife, and then six months later when I decided I needed to get out, I could refer to that conversation, that I had laid the problems out there and really givven her a chance to change some things (it was everything from me doing all cooking, cleaning, driving the kids etc (we both had full time jobs) to affection and interest).
Finally it actually turned out great, I met my new wife soon after, she realized she had to change when I wasn't around anymore. Now we are both in good relationships, and the two children are really happy (they live with me every second week).
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Hi I'm 51. Spent all last year with a couple of injuries and ended the year with back surgery. Had plenty of time laying around feeling sorry for myself making 100 excuses and eating. 2018 is time to wake up to myself. 33lbs heavier than I was 2 years ago and keen to get back there.2
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I'm middle aged, don't feel it but judging by my birth certificate it must be true. Feel free to add me, always looking for quality friends rather than quantity!0
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Versicolour wrote: »In short, I don’t say anything interesting myself. Yes I didn’t do my part. I don’t know where to start.
Maybe start with writing him a letter. Tell him how lonely you feel and what you want from him. More than likely he doesn't know. Also tell him how you see the relationship turning out if it continues this way. Either it will open up the channel for a serious discussion, or he will ignore it and you will have your answer.
Different people express love in different ways. Perhaps his feelings are getting lost in translation?
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Hi pls add me. Been doing MFP for 2 months and decided to reach out to the community. I've lost 6 kgs (thats about 12 pounds) over the 2 months through calorie counting with MFP and exercise.1
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Thank you Versicolour, thank you karsei01. I will take action and talk to him soon. I am scared if it doesn’t turn good. My kids are only 5 and 7.
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Thank you Versicolour, thank you karsei01. I will take action and talk to him soon. I am scared if it doesn’t turn good. My kids are only 5 and 7.
It is better to know. My kids are 6 and 10 and they are coping as well as can be expected with my divorce. Actually, the 6 year old is coping much better0 -
I am having middle age crisis. We don’t talk more than two sentences other than who is picking up kids from school. I met a guy in gym. Nothing happened yet. What should I do?
Just sit down and be honest with him about how it feels. He might feel the same way or not even notice. Either are good things as they can then be addressed and you can move on together, or whatever. You might be surprised at how good it can make you feel. If you feel like he doesn't want to listen, that's when you have a choice to make. Stay strong, understanding and faithful to the work you have already put into your relationship, but don't be a doormat. Good luck!0 -
Good Afternoon Middle Agers
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Hello from Texas. 80 pounds down from 356# in May of 2017, looking to drop around another 30 or so. Just joined here last week, so my diaries and WL to date doesn't show in my profile, but changes will happen soon....
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Versicolour wrote: »Thank you Versicolour, thank you karsei01. I will take action and talk to him soon. I am scared if it doesn’t turn good. My kids are only 5 and 7.
It is better to know. My kids are 6 and 10 and they are coping as well as can be expected with my divorce. Actually, the 6 year old is coping much better
Thank you. Kids are most my concerns. I tend to think more than what I need to. I am scared when thinking about house, bank account, and my future life. I wasn’t born here so my pool will be very small. I will try my best to improve our relationship. Otherwise I will be miserable.2 -
Omnimous69 wrote: »I am having middle age crisis. We don’t talk more than two sentences other than who is picking up kids from school. I met a guy in gym. Nothing happened yet. What should I do?
Just sit down and be honest with him about how it feels. He might feel the same way or not even notice. Either are good things as they can then be addressed and you can move on together, or whatever. You might be surprised at how good it can make you feel. If you feel like he doesn't want to listen, that's when you have a choice to make. Stay strong, understanding and faithful to the work you have already put into your relationship, but don't be a doormat. Good luck!
Thank you. He probably didn’t realize the problem.2 -
Just turned 51 last month and am loving it ! Am fitter than I was at any time in my 40's and now have the time and patience to be able to do all that I want to.
Losing weight, getting fitter and enjoying every minute of it. Yes I have the odd stumble or two but I get back up, dust myself down and carry on.
Feel free to add me as more friends equals more motivation and help for all.1 -
Happy Hump Day middle agers Let's get out there and hustle today!!! 2
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Heyyyy, 39 here, add me if you like!0
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48 and back on MFP after an extended leave. Been vegan since Sept 2017 but could not care less what anyone else does. Whatever works for someone is what’s best for them. I’m down 45 lbs with better cholesterol and sugar levels than in years, so for now I am sticking with this plan.
Would love to have some friends on this latest adventure. Will try reaching out but would also appreciate an add from anyone.
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Good morning middle agers 2
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37 (well, almost 38) here.... started logging and getting more conscious about my health recently. Would love some friends on here for mutual support in our journeys. Feel free to add me.
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If you could move to any country.... what country would you move to and why would you move there?0
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How is everyone doing today? It is hump day!!1
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Hi Add me 32 here0
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51 and working my down (up in this context?) to high school swimming weight of 230 lbs. 35 lbs to go! Using Core Performance Essentials for low impact strength building, Wii Sports for indoor cardio and will start biking and walking once temps rise a bit more.0
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Ok had s pretty good day .good luck to all the 30s 40s 5os etc. Let's keep it up.1
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40 years young and looking for additional support/motivation. I'm not the best food logger- working on improving that, but I'm on the right track. Feel free to add me as well!0
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