WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2018

coastalgosgal · April 2018

Suebdew, well it's a learned behavior from being stationed in Japan for 7 years. I think I'm revisiting feelings from past moves. This time round I don't have sons to distract me. Need to appreciate, adapt, and know this isn't like any other moves.
We are explorers!

Thanks ladies for being you! I appreciate you all!
Rebecca

KetoneKaren · April 2018

It is my understanding that one of the reasons soy sauce is often OK for people on a low FODMAP diet is because the beans are already fermented and broken down during the process of making the soy sauce. Not much left that is fermentable. On the other hand, highly gluten sensitive people have to be careful because, as already mentioned, soy sauce usually contains wheat.

Karen in Virginia

klanders30 · April 2018

ugghh a very long day of hall duty/proctoring. Feel bad for the kids, the testing had unlimited time and took upwards of 3.5 hours, imagine a 10 yo sitting at a desk for that long!

Looking forward to a better day tomorrow. NYKAREN

GodMomKim · April 2018

got stung by a bee on Tuesday afternoon and went in to the Dr. today, my arm is swollen and red... grrr! on more benadryl than I had already been taking and a antibiotic too... ice on my arm too!!! hoping this clears up quick.

Kim in N. CAL

TrishasTime · April 2018

Morning everyone

Heather - My graandparents believe that they are newly weds too. They have been married for 77 years. Here is a picture of them taken last week

Allie - I thought when you were talking about 401K - I thought is was money 401,000. However I have come to realise it is something else? Superannuation??

Pip - I hope all goes well

Lanette - Sorry I was in a rush - broke a tooth and was on my way to the dentist. Will do so

Roundbutsound - Welcome to our group

Not having a great time over here, feel as if I have walked under a ladder. First it is the teeth, then I blew up the dishwasher trying to fix it, now the tooth that had the root canal has snapped in half before the permanent crown was on - sigh. I must go out the back to see if we have a money tree growing

Trish from OZ

grandmallie · April 2018

401k yes will be getting most of that..and a 50,000 cash settlement but lawyer will take hers right off the top..have to figure out how to strategize buying the condo and living with what I make and how to afford insurance and how to.make the 401k grow so that I can maybe afford to retire in 10 yrs.

langman22 · April 2018

Allie, glad you are feeling better.

Kim, ouch!

Lisa, can’t wait to see pictures of the new place.

Wendy, retirement here you come!

Hugs to those that need them. High fives for those with a job well done.

Thanks for all your continued support. Working my way out of my blues. Hope to get a date for my MRI tomorrow. Can’t wait to know what’s happening with my ankle.

Off to bed with my book and apple.

Terry in rainy cold VT

TammieRogers33 · April 2018

Six weeks ago I finally went to the doctor to understand why I had so much pain in my shoulders and upper arms. I learned that I had severe osteoarthritis in both my shoulders. I was sent to an orthopedic specialist who shook his head and said, “unfortunately, there’s not much we can do. Your BMI is too high for surgery at this time.”
Fortunately, I had already made that decision - the decision that I will succeed to lose weight – which I think is the only way that we humans really achieve anything. I had planned to achieve my goal for a couple of years. After living in 900 sq feet that we shared with a few Service Dogs in training and my own dogs for far too long, we were finally able to move on. I had felt trapped in that house for years –so we pushed on to pay off the mortgage and save enough to build our dream home. The new house has a therapy pool room off the master bedroom which is the only way that I can exercise since I have severe arthritis in my knees, as well. We live in a very rural area that prohibits us from traveling to a “Gym” for exercise – especially one with a pool. The pool was one of the most important features that I designed into the house.

So, instead of having an emotional crash when the doctor told me he wouldn’t be able to permanently solve my excruciating pain, I was psychologically ready to accept that information because I was already on my journey and I was not going to let anything get in my way. That’s it, really, isn’t it? We need to put ourselves first and when we finally do that, we can reach our goals and pursue our passions and realize our inspirations.
I have lost 24 pounds in six weeks. I am reducing my caloric intake, eating foods that are as close to their natural state as possible (avoiding processed food), avoiding carbs as much as possible, and preparing and cooking my meals at home (in my new kitchen, which certainly helps me feel good). I am also water jogging for 40 minutes (fairly fast – “Eye of the Tiger” song is my go-to beat), and doing some moderate exercise for another 10 minutes in the therapy pool.

If I can continue to lose 2 pounds a week, I will be able to have shoulder surgery in November, at a safer BMI. That is my goal, and I do not see any reason that I cannot achieve it barring some sort of very unusual emergency situation.

I am not a very social person, and I would not normally post something like this. I usually work independently and do not ask for help or support. But, I decided to check out the message board section and saw the thread for women over 50, so I thought I would do something out of the ordinary and make contact.
Here’s hoping we are all successful in achieving our goals and living our best lives.

grandmallie · April 2018

Hidee Ho Tammie boy that pool sounds awesome !!! Keep up the good work.

pipcd34 · April 2018

well KIRBY said the MRI didn't show any significant change so they are going to refer him to a neurologist to get more insight. THANKFULLY all that is free as an employee of VM. the main curiosity is how this is going to continue to affect him as he gets older, will it get worse? will I end up having to get him an electric bicycle?? who knows

pipcd34 · April 2018

stat for the day:

manual treadmill- 14.37min, 169mhr, 1mi-149c
Apple Watch- 160c

Poerava14 · April 2018

Kylia: Sympathy on the loss of your friend. I do hope you can wrap up the repairs at the rental. Been there, and just hate property-stress.

Becca: Blooming camellias deer and lots of beautiful new rooms to decorate...oh you lucky gal! So happy for you and the guys. Most deserved.

Lisa: Safe travels west for you and Corey.

Machka: Continued waves of energy beaming your way. Thank you for taking precious minutes to update us.

Barbie: I love Bernie's white 'toes'!

Lanette: Love what you wrote about fitness. Totally agree. When is that teleporter supposed to get out of the shop????

Katla: Gorgeous grandkids! Hope you'll treat us to more pix. Wonderful to hear that DH is doing better since modifying diet.

Wendy: I've been retired for a full 6 weeks and love it, love it, LOVE IT. Not having to live life around someone else's schedule is truly liberating.

SueBDew: Great to hear that the surprise party was a success. Bravo.

Evelyn: Your gson is a cutie!

Mary: Ewwwww! Poor Shep.

Pip: Holding a good thought for Kirby.

Terry: (((hugs))) Chin up, you'll get through this slump. We all have to navigate through rough patches sometimes.

TammyRogers: Welcome and keep coming back. This is a very supportive group that chats about just about everything except religion and politics. Must be wonderful to have your own private therapy pool. Keep it up.

I'm reading "The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober" by Catherine Gray. (Thank you, Heather) I am 99% AF, but my DB is binging again. Alcoholism runs in my family, and in speaking with his GF I can tell how the disease has her caught up in a sworl. Won't go into gory details here, but for those of you who pray, please keep them in mind.

My foot injury is healing quickly. Still won't hammer it on the treadmill, but getting more casual walking everyday and using the recumbent bike and rower in the gym. These nice spring days have been too nice to stay inside, so Mars the leash-loving cat has been getting extra walks outside.

Stay well friends. We can do this.

Rori
Colorado Foothills

sloshmog · April 2018

Now retired and age 72. I made a commitment to start again with a good diet, as a new way of life. Also, I am adding exercise--about 5 days a week. I hear it is good to vary the kind of exercise you do. So I am alternating weight/strength training with classes in yoga and pilates. Good luck to everyone. It helps to see others working the program at my age.

SophieRosieMom · April 2018

Tammie - your house with the pool sounds perfect! You are well on your way to better health and it sounds like you have your plan and you are working it. Good for you! Welcome! Where are you from? - State, general area is fine ;-).

Trish in OZ - your grandparents are so sweet... 77 years of marriage, what a couple tough youngsters. Sounds like you are in a genepool that lives a long time whether you are ready or not, lol. Sorry to hear about your tooth troubles! Our broken dishwasher has been that way for 6 months. I didn't mind handwashing dishes since there's only the two of us plus it warmed my hands during the winter.

Pip - glad Kirby's MRI didn't show anything but like you said, if it had you'd have some answers. Does Kirby take vitamins? Reason I ask is that I think nerve problems can be the result of low B vitamins (don't quote me). There are blood tests a person can have that shows the vitamin and mineral levels in a person's system but not all of them are covered by regular insurance. B12 is or can be. Hope the neurologist can track things down for him. Does this nerve thing bother him cycling right now? (((HUGS))))

Lenora - thank you for all of that reverse mortgage information. This group has been very educational about how they work and what the pitfalls are. Sorry to hear your DS's wife is having job troubles. I remember when she was looking for a job and found this one. Maybe she'll think hard about what the boss told her and take it to heart. Women co-workers can be mean and nasty without even trying to be, lol. Some of my favorite jobs were working mostly with men! And I think a lot of gals feel that way.

Mary - are you going to take Shep to the vet? That infection he had or creepy crawlies sounded bizarre! Good for your DH hitting a new low on the Keto challenge! And you are doing great as well! You are our kettlebell queen!

Rori - glad your foot is on the mend. And Mars is getting his walks! What can they do for Morton's neuroma? I still have a little bother in my left foot but hate to think of getting another cortisone shot. I have resigned myself to the fact that as we get older, we're not going to get rid of every ache and pain that comes along, just have to learn to be friends with them, lol. And not let them get too pushy. Sorry to hear about your brother. Is his GF attending Al-Anon? Helped me through some rough times. They are in my prayers.

The guy at the shop said the teleporter is sidelined until the part comes in. I asked him if it was coming from Mars and he nodded "yes". Good gravy.

Hope we don't have to wait for Elon Musk to pick it up and bring it back. I'll be ready to do some time travel by then! Back to the future, ladies!

Welcome newbies by the way!

Hugs all around!

Lanette
SW WA State

Katla49 · April 2018

Becca: Not sure where your house is on Whidbey but we went to a wonderful arts and crafts fair at a community center there once upon a time, and came home with a few pretty things, plus full of good food and nice memories. It may have been the South Whidbey Community Center. There are wonderfully talented crafters who were selling all sorts of things and a lovely sense of friendliness and community spirit. I'll bet you will fit right in once you have a chance to catch your breath and time to explore. :bigsmile:

(((Kim))) Feel better soon. I hope the swelling goes down asap. :flowerforyou:

(((Trish from Oz)))

Tammy: I wish you best luck. You seem to have the determination to succeed, and that is more than half the battle.

Rori: I'll keep your DB & his family in my prayers. I'm glad to hear your foot is doing better.

DH & I just had a wonderful dinner of steamer clams and are now going to go outside to walk some of it off. It has been a good day.

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

barbiecat · April 2018

This is day 3 for remembering to do a plank. I used to do them every day until the problems with my legs sidelined me in 2016. I waited a year after my surgery to try again, but kept forgetting to add it to my routine. Now I am inspired again. I used to be able to hold it longer, but have started with one minute and will continue that for awhile and then increase it by 15 seconds and stay with that for awhile.

Rori, Bernie was part of a litter of kittens born to a stray that a friend adopted. I wanted a black male, but the only black cat in the litter was female and my friend told me that she had had great luck with cats with white feet so I chose Bernie. He has been a wonderful pet. He was born in 2006.

Here is Bernie with his mom and litter mates. You can see him on top of everybody with his white feet showing.

lilnoramitchellandre · April 2018

Lanette - I've always had male bosses; and, it was the secretary of the Senior Partner who was a B****. She tried her best to nail me every time he was in the office. I think it pissed her off that I got a 'bonus' (which I took as a raise) instead of a lump sum (more money that way over time). I had only worked there 1 week (5 days) and stood at the copier for 8 hours a day for those 5 days. But, he had something she did not know about and when she called me into her office; I thought surely I was going to get 'fired' after he listened to her chew me out. He called me into his office and pulled out a blue sheet of paper (which was the carbon copy of a letter she had sent out when he wasn't in his office). He handed it to me and told me to read it; then, I looked up at him - not really knowing what to say and he called her into the office. He looked at me and asked 'how many errors' do you see? Seven. In a one sentence letter ... what was so bad was that she put his first name as his middle name. He turned to her and said, 'you've been working for me for what? Twenty years?' ... then he told me that Richard was MY boss and I only had to answer to him. Then he told me that whenever he was in his office without a client I could walk through it any time I wanted to (closer to the restroom that way). When he had a client come in, I got up and closed the door between his office and mine ... then he would open it back up when they left.

Allie - I'm not sure I quite follow you on what you mean by 'doing what's right' ... wouldn't you be 'throwing good money after bad' if you pay the 'reverse mortgage' and be giving them personal information that they could use to your disadvantage? Talk to an attorney - did he have a Will? Did is say that you (and your brother) would need to pay off his debts? If the 2 of you got 'insurance proceeds' that is NOT (at least not in Georgia) a 'part of the estate'. It is meant for a spouse to have for living expenses to spend anyway they deem necessary. Not to spend it paying off bills they did not have any part in making. Such as 'credit card' debt. Credit Card Companies charge you exorbitant interest and they don't care if you pay them off or not; banks the same way ... they'd rather you only be able to pay the interest only, that's how they make 'their' money. Banks don't stay open just to be there to handle our money - they need to make money to stay open and pay 'overhead'. Allie - TALK TO AN ATTORNEY. Don't take my advice, definitely don't take TomCat's, get all possessions 'out of the house' before you find a pad lock on the door. You did not 'sign off on this reverse mortgage' ... they cannot 'make you pay it'. I guess that is why Florida is the BEST place to live and file a 'bankruptcy' because they cannot take your house away from you. You keep talking all the time about 'trying to do the "right" thing' and you will end up in bankruptcy court yourself. But, like I said, 'don't take my advice - I'm not an attorney - and if I was ... I would not be able to practice in the state you live in (Connecticut). Granted, they might have laws to the effect that survivors are responsible for the debts of a parent, sibling, or child. But, do whatever it is that you 'seem to think is the 'right' thing to do'. You're going to do it anyway.

Sorry, ladies ... "I'm outta here."

Lenora

exermom · April 2018

Did Michelle Dozois’s Pure Strength DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a 20-40-60 workout on the treadmill.

Okie – I like to add honey to plain yogurt. Also, I’ve found that if you freeze fruit (say blueberries) and then thaw them in the yogurt, they have some “water” from freezing which when the fruit melts it leaves a “juice” in the yogurt

Carol – you NEVER had a colonoscopy!!! NEVER???? I have to ask – why????

Becca – can’t wait for the video.

Okie – I prelog my dinners for the following week and breakfasts if I know them. I do like to prelog before I eat dinner so I know if I’m over calories or not. Sometimes I think I’m not and it winds up that I am. Other times just the opposite

Barbie – what show are Bessie and Bernie watching? Must be something really interesting.

Terry in VT – please be kinder to yourself. Betty has a great suggestion. I really believe exercise helps with depression. I’m talking intense exercise.

Supposed to volunteer at the Green Room today then it’s “cut the grass” time. Tomorrow is supposed to be real nice, I’d like to get the pool opened. But I did promise these gals at Newcomers that I’d go on a field trip with them, so hopefully we can get the cover off the pool today (that part Vince needs me for) and tomorrow Vince can start getting the chemicals adjusted.

Lanette – very insiteful about benig “fit”. You are so right, that’s how I felt in my youth, too and how I feel now. I’m at the point of “if you don’t like my body – don’t look. I feel good and my numbers are good, to me that’s what counts”.

I just realized that one of the plants we planted last year really doesn’t bloom until May. I wanted something that bloomed early. Well, I can plant daffodils and that’ll take care of it. We did plant some smaller plants in front that are blooming, so that helps a lot

Personally, I’d love to travel and I’m not pickey where. Only thing is I know that I don’t want to go myself and Vince has no desire to do any traveling. So looks like I’ll be home yet again. Glad I have my pool

Suebdew – so glad that the party was such a success!

Janet– welcome!

Exercised, went to the soup kitchen, then the post office, then Lynette’s office, then volunteered at the Green Room, then bought gas, home to cut the grass and then……wait for it…..started opening the pool!!! Covers off, washed and put away, started shocking the pool. This is the first time ever we ever had a critter in the pool when we opened it. I think it might have been a groundhog or something. Anyway, when Vince went to take it out of the pool, it started breaking up – it was so decomposed. And did it ever smell!

Tomorrow I’m supposed to go to this place, Clines, with the Newcomers. Basically, they have something like 5 acres of different things you can buy. Like one gal got this “hand” for her garden. It’s a mold that a welder uses. Interesting…… Anyway, while I’m gone Vince said that he’d do the weedwacking and probably start getting the leaves out of the pool.

Wendy – great plank time!

Margaret – you said that it’s illegal to hang anything from your mirror? I assume the handicapped placard is exempt from this

Becca – fantastic stoves. What kind of supplemental heat do you have?

Trish – wow! 77 years. I’m in awe. You poor dear! Things have to get better

Tammie – I know you can lose the weight because you have a great incentive. Welcome to a great group!

Lynette – Elon is probably bringing the part for the transporter back in his Tesla

Michele in NC

janetr7476 · April 2018

Trish from OZ - wrote "Not having a great time over here, feel as if I have walked under a ladder. First it is the teeth, then I blew up the dishwasher trying to fix it, now the tooth that had the root canal has snapped in half before the permanent crown was on - sigh. I must go out the back to see if we have a money tree growing"

I can certainly sympathize about your tooth. I had one break in half while driving home on a 12 hour trip from from older sister's funeral. I had just lost my wedding rings in the middle of no-where Kansas and crying my eyes out about that when the tooth broke. Dentist put a temporary crown on it until she could schedule me for a permanent crown. As soon as the numbness wore off I realized cold water, salad etc were sending shooting pains through the tooth. A week or so later hot foods began doing the same thing. Eventually constant pain in the entire side of my face. I went back to dentist yesterday, she adjusted the crown to sit lower and said if the pain wasn't resolved we would have to take off the crown, do a root canal and replace the crown. It feels better today but still some pain and definitely cold foods/liquids are painful. Ugh

We can go exploring together for that money tree.

Janetr OKC

PS - I just posted a wedding picture of my sister and BIL on Facebook in honor of their 50th anniversary today. She's the fourth of my sisters to celebrate 50. The only one that didn't died of a stroke before they reached 50. Then there is me, the youngest, married for the third time. Third time's a charm!!

wildhorsewendy · April 2018

Terry, this is for you, and for anyone else who needs encouragement to hang in there:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkp-U36c_wo

janetr7476 · April 2018

Hmmm, can't get my picture to upload. Oh well tired of messing with it tonight.

Lover you ladies,
Janetr OKC

cityjaneLondon · April 2018

Hi there!
Woke up early stressing about getting my book print ready. Grrrrrrrrrr! I'm dealing with stuff like weird blank pages and chapters not starting on a new page. I am not a typist, so I'm shooting in the dark. Yesterday I was on my third upload when it just shut down on me all together. I hope it's ok when I go back in.
I am going to lunch today with a girlfriend and then we will go for a run together. I've still got to clean my shoes from the muddy ditch episode on Wednesday.

She had her new (October) induction hob blow up on her last week. The inspection, after a week, said it would take 28 days to repair! !!!! Needless to say she is all over Facebook and Twitter and has emailed the managing director. They have picked the wrong person for bad customer service!
She wanted to cancel, or take me out, but I said cold food was fine.

We are both 95% AF at the moment too.

DH has his new cricket season starting today. It is not very good weather for sitting around all day, so he will be going wrapped up for the Arctic! So the next four days he will be out all day. I do miss him. I don't have my own car, so I'm a bit isolated out here in the countryside. I have my book to sort out and today I am busy. My friend is coming to pick me up and bring me back. Yesterday he went out shopping to make sure we had enough supplies in the house, especially fruit and vegetables and he prepared some more stewed fruit (apples and blackberries). He does all the fruit. He also does all the washing up and cleaning up in the kitchen after I make the meals. And makes the tea and morning coffee.
Now I'm going to take him up his morning cup of tea so he can get an early start. He makes his own lunch for the cricket. We will still be doing our usual 600 on the machines and mat with weights before he goes off.
I wish I could get this angel of mine to agree to Lasting Power of Attorney. He can be very stubborn. :laugh: Machka's husband's accident brought it to the fore for me. I have no access to his money at the moment if anything should incapacitate him. I mustn't postpone it until it's too late.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

dreamwriter · April 2018

Made it to page 37 and should get to bed now.

Joy today - Filed my AISH papers. So glad to have them done.
Also I had a very long phone visit with a dear friend.

Tomorrow I am looking after Harmony. Boss is coming for a sleepover weekend. Keira has a dance competition in Red Deer and the kids are going to have a visit with some friends there.

Sharon in Lethbridge hoping for sunshine.

spikeyhair · April 2018

Kate UK

LisaInAR · April 2018

Ah, ladies... I'm awake, and it's finally that day. Love y'all,
Lisa in NC for only a few more hours. Tupelo, Mississippi, tonight.

cityjaneLondon · April 2018

Lisa -

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

klanders30 · April 2018

Hooray Lisa Happy journey to your next adventure with Cory.

Time to remotivate myself, it will be 76 degrees today so I've no excuses! I've got to get the lawn fertilized and start picking up branches and debris in the backyard.

NYKAREN

grandmallie · April 2018

Yea Lisa~ safe travels , cant wait to hear about your trip....I know how hard it is to say good bye to the grands...
Lenora~ we did get a probate attorney it took us up until a week or so ago to raise the 5 grand for the retainer.
my son is still in the house until the beginning of May... and then he will be moving...
we are trying to shovel out, or I should say my brother is, we will get a dumpster next and get all the junk out and then have a auctioneer come in and take the rest of the stuff... and then that will be it

trisH_7183 · April 2018

LISA I used to always wake early on a travel day.
Often times,would find DH already shaving & almost ready to hit the road.
Safe roads & good weather.

KATLA try Amazon for granulated lime.

Yesterday was perfect for errands.We were all over the place.I returned 2 pairs of shoes for different reasons.
One rubbed my little toe.Second pair was too long.....flopping up & down on heel. Both pair were same size.

TERRY glad you are feeling better.Whatever,it’s in the past & time to look forward.

JANET Tired of e mail to MFP help & not hearing back. Most of my info is messed up
since they were hacked. Pictures haven’t worked for a good while.

HEATHER every time either of us is in hospital,they ask if we have a medical will in records.
Otherwise,neither could be in the loop for medical decisions if needed.

When we started traveling full time for several yrs,having a regular will done was
one of the first “very important” things we did.
Very reassuring ........as none of us know what tomorrow might bring.Both DDs took
our example to do the same.

One has been going thru months
of medical care,long hospital stays,rehab etc for SIL.Didn’t know,still doesn’t......if he will
live.When he was “out”......she had to make the decisions.Complicated stuff! Good luck in getting it settled.

DH mowed grass yest. He’s always ready to mow. Today is another sunny 70’s.

Trish Oh .....works for me.

KJLaMore · April 2018

Good morning all! Friday dancing here! Woo-hoo! Just a quick shout:
Pip- Fingers crossed that the MRI shows something that can be fixed. I agree with you, finding nothing answers nothing.
Lisa- Happy trails and safe travels!
Katla- Careful with the garlic in asian food. It is in a lot of it! Your grand kids are darling!
Sharon- WAs that your little blondie grand son? He is adorable!
Meals-All of our meals are eaten at the kitchen table (we don't have a "formal" dining room). Even if we get take out, we usually sit at the table and eat. If DH is asleep or not home, and DYS and I get take out, we will put a movie in and eat in the living room. There is something wonderfully freeing about eating chinese food on the couch.
Welcome new ladies! Love hearing your back stories and can't wait to watch you make things happen!

I spent part of last night skimming through "You Are A Badass", to give me a little motivational push for the next step in life. It is not what I thought I would be doing; but it needs to be done. More on this later.

ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

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