Less Alcohol- July 2018- One Day at a Time
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Am with @JulieAL1969 and @salleewins on the treats. We can't cut ALL the fun stuff out of our lives. I'm actually a bit hooked on those new Trader Joe's Girl Scout thin mint knockoffs - "Dark Chocolate Mint Coins." I measure out my daily allotment in a little bowl in the refrig, LOL. I enjoy every single one of those eight, very small cookies!
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@jaime920 - Welcome! We have all been there with the frustration and throwing in the towel. I love this thread called "What's Your Most Recent NSV" - https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1275030/whats-your-most-recent-nsv#latest
Very inspirational - and cutting down on alcohol for sure is an excellent NSV (nonscale victory).4 -
For those of you looking for something sweet and a liquid treat may I suggest:
https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/246986/tiki-cooler/?internalSource=recipe hub&referringId=1822&referringContentType=recipe hub&clickId=cardslot 40
It is a very summer holiday NA drink. It is a touch sweet for me but that is probably because I am accustomed to having the alcohol in it.4 -
Today was Day 8
I know I am not being very supportive but I do appreciate seeing all of you making progress
You'll be supportive when you can be. In the meantime you have my support. 8 days is amazing. I'm glad you're back, I missed your humor.
And just so you know, my progress doesn't exist. I'm backsliding, for about a week now. Life happens, death happened, I didn't deal as well as I would like. You are not alone.
Thank you for the kind words. The thing is we're still here, we still come to this place, that itself shows we are self aware and fighting. We may not win all battles but we shall win the war. Sorry for your loss, here for you.
You're right, the fight continues. I look forward to realizing its become a journey instead of a war. We can all get there, we have each other.3 -
Oh no, I don't give up on having treats. The problem is that I am eating too many at times. I buckled down yesterday again after all those lower fat Oreos and diet Pepsi,lol. Anyways I plan to make the following with Stevia for the holiday. I am going to grate the ginger today and have everything ready for after an 11 hour shift. https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/247355/ginger-beer. No alcohol.3
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Hi everyone! I was super excited to stumble upon this group! I have been sober for 1,235 days, which is just over 3 years and 4 months. In the introduction post there were some great references to books and blogs, I would also suggest, specifically for women, Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp and for anyone interested in being sober for the long term or for someone wondering if their relationship with alcohol may be less than healthy, Being Sober: A Step-by-Step Guide to Getting To, Getting Through, and Living in Recovery by Harry Haroutunian.
Looking forward to following this group!!11 -
@amiclon Welcome! We could learn a lot from you. I did read and learn from the book Drinking: a Love Story. That was the first book I read in January. So happy you are celebrating 3.33 years sober. Amazing! Keep your suggestions and comments coming! Xo3
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Today was Day 8
I know I am not being very supportive but I do appreciate seeing all of you making progress
You'll be supportive when you can be. In the meantime you have my support. 8 days is amazing. I'm glad you're back, I missed your humor.
And just so you know, my progress doesn't exist. I'm backsliding, for about a week now. Life happens, death happened, I didn't deal as well as I would like. You are not alone.
Thank you for the kind words. The thing is we're still here, we still come to this place, that itself shows we are self aware and fighting. We may not win all battles but we shall win the war. Sorry for your loss, here for you.
You're right, the fight continues. I look forward to realizing its become a journey instead of a war. We can all get there, we have each other.
Sometimes it's a peaceful journey and at other times its an internal battle with yelling and arguing (all inside ). Today, I'm fighting with myself. I am actually feeling sorry for myself. We just arrived at my annual vacation spot. And I longingly looked at the bar and grill where last year I spend many hours with my cosmo and chardonnay. This year will be different. But the best part is I'll save a lot of money and have no headaches or hangovers on the trip.
Also, I'm with my sister who is alcohol free for ten years and she said she'll help me and make some new traditions on the trip without alcohol.
For the people who suggested Nomo app. I LOVE it! I think it's better than Dry January. And on Nomo you can get an accountability buddy and chat with her. There's even an SOS setting you can hit to talk to someone or your buddy. Very clever.7 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
Thank you, you too!1 -
I think between the diet break and the holiday my alcohol brain managed a comeback yesterday and I was tempted a little. The arguments in favor of drinking were weak and I definitely do not want to re-associate things like holidays, birthdays, and vacations with drinking so it was a firm no. For me drinking does not add anything to those days it sucks hours away from them making them pass faster... why did I ever want that to happen?
It kind of got me thinking and I started playing a little game in my head trying to find a rather mundane activity that was still better (healthier mentally and physically) than drinking on a special day off or holiday. "Sitting on the porch watching cars go by is a better use of my time off than drinking" and things like that.
Hopefully everyone who wants to be AF today will be. Since I don't want to drink on a holiday I feel confident I will be joining you and then tomorrow will be the next "one day at a time."
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It's true @NormInv Day 10 is a pivotal time point. I remember buying a bracelet at day 10 because it seemed I passed a major hurdle.
I am feeling better today emotionally. Yesterday, i was sad and weepy for the strangest reason. I arrived on our vacation and it was a Fourth of July celebration- every one was at the outdoor bar drinking, seemed everyone had a wine or beer in their hand but me. I felt like a pouting child. I simply didn't allow myself to drink and I was feeling left out. I saved myself about 4-5 drinks which would have been my normal vacation intake.
Today, I woke up feeling accomplished and over the mopey feeling. I had no headache. Ate healthy salads for lunch and dinner yesterday and no snacks. I probably saved Myself 500 calories yesterday or more!
I was on the NOMO app today and saw a woman posted that she is on this AF journey alone and has no one to help her. I want to reach out to her and tell her about our thread. I am once again sooooo thankful I have you guys to depend on. I love reading your posts. @NovusDies Seems that we both do a lot of self talk which is very helpful. The old me would have succumbed to the holiday temptation of drinking. The new me does a ton of self talk about why I shouldnt.6 -
It was from @JulieAL1969's list of general tips which I think she learned from her copious amounts of research.
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »It's true @NormInv Day 10 is a pivotal time point. I remember buying a bracelet at day 10 because it seemed I passed a major hurdle.
I am feeling better today emotionally. Yesterday, i was sad and weepy for the strangest reason. I arrived on our vacation and it was a Fourth of July celebration- every one was at the outdoor bar drinking, seemed everyone had a wine or beer in their hand but me. I felt like a pouting child. I simply didn't allow myself to drink and I was feeling left out. I saved myself about 4-5 drinks which would have been my normal vacation intake.
Today, I woke up feeling accomplished and over the mopey feeling. I had no headache. Ate healthy salads for lunch and dinner yesterday and no snacks. I probably saved Myself 500 calories yesterday or more!
I was on the NOMO app today and saw a woman posted that she is on this AF journey alone and has no one to help her. I want to reach out to her and tell her about our thread. I am once again sooooo thankful I have you guys to depend on. I love reading your posts. @NovusDies Seems that we both do a lot of self talk which is very helpful. The old me would have succumbed to the holiday temptation of drinking. The new me does a ton of self talk about why I shouldnt.
Congratulations! Way to reward your "tomorrow you"! If you haven't already, telling that woman about this thread is a great idea.1 -
@JulieAL1969 I do find self-talk helpful. I am also done believing that alcohol enhances certain experiences which, in the past, was probably my most powerful lie.
Good job yesterday keeping the adult in charge even when the inner kid was acting up. That doesn't sound like it was an easy day. You are definitely right. In the not so distant past we would have both had drinks in our hands yesterday.2 -
I am also done believing that alcohol enhances certain experiences which, in the past, was probably my most powerful lie.
YES, we are all "conditioned" to believe lies when it comes to alcohol. The only thing that alcohol "enchances" in me is my ability to forget & to say stupid things I would never normally say without alcohol clouding my good judgement. I have had so many wasted experiences because I wasn't available mentally or emotionally because alcohol took me hostage through most of it.
SO thankful to be AF!!!! To be present for my life is WAY better than being preoccupied with numbing myself with alcohol. I do NOT want to be overconfident in saying this, but I believe I am ready to commit to this now. I've been working my way here through a lot of lapses in my drinking. The only difference between then & now is my thinking is definitely changing. Thanks in a large part to the support & all the really good references that I'm taking advantage of on this thread. to all the supportive people here3 -
Not certain what I am doing wrong when I quote someone & then my comment is contained in the quote. Any suggestions....not that it matters, but just wondering.0
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Not certain what I am doing wrong when I quote someone & then my comment is contained in the quote. Any suggestions....not that it matters, but just wondering.
step 1: put the wine down....4 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Not certain what I am doing wrong when I quote someone & then my comment is contained in the quote. Any suggestions....not that it matters, but just wondering.
step 1: put the wine down....
that cracked me up!1 -
step 1: put the wine down....[/quote]
I know I'm a bit of a techno-tard!! Thanks for the suggestion though
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Just an FYI for the previous comments about sugar cravings, there is an MFP blog article on that very subject indicating it could be a nutrient deficiency or lack of rest etc....interesting article worth reading. Hope it's helpful.4
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Not certain what I am doing wrong when I quote someone & then my comment is contained in the quote. Any suggestions....not that it matters, but just wondering.
You have to make sure the quote is closed with the /quote in brackets before your post. You accidentally deleted it. I don't mind though. When you do that it makes it look like I had all of those intelligent thoughts.4 -
Nice, nice, nice @JulieAL1969 - that was a big hurdle to overcome yesterday and you DID it! Holidays and social occasions are still really hard for me.2
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Ali MacGraw on Losing Steve McQueen: 'I Wish We Could Have Grown Old Together Sober' - People
https://apple.news/AmSM1WShCSiOo3P-Cl_o5zg
The headline caught my eye. Sad.1 -
I'm in again for moderation. I'm sorry that I haven't been posting. I had to take a break from worrying about my eating, tracking, and losing, so I was a MFP minimalist for a spell. I didn't take a break from doing them, just worrying about it all.
I just finished reading all of June and there were some beautiful posts. When I get another minute I will catch up on July! Peace to you all on your individual journeys.
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Not certain what I am doing wrong when I quote someone & then my comment is contained in the quote. Any suggestions....not that it matters, but just wondering.
You have to make sure the quote is closed with the /quote in brackets before your post. You accidentally deleted it. I don't mind though. When you do that it makes it look like I had all of those intelligent thoughts.
LOL Here goes....THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. It worked before, I just wasn't sure how. Anyway, I've got it now. The hug was from me btw....here's another one
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Just an FYI for the previous comments about sugar cravings, there is an MFP blog article on that very subject indicating it could be a nutrient deficiency or lack of rest etc....interesting article worth reading. Hope it's helpful.
Interesting. Thank you!1 -
Tonight at this vacation spot, I saw the bartender from last year walk by. He said "hello- where you been. Will you be stopping in?" I dont know what came over me but i said "No not this year, new year, new me." He looked bewildered. LOL
I realize now I sounded weird and he has no idea what I'm talking about. Well, it made me laugh. Xo9 -
I think I shared something similar in January, but look at the dramatic drop in resting heart rate after I first cut back and then went dry....today was Day 10 dry....it just proves alcohol is poison
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@NormInv That's eye opening - wow. You're so right.3
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