Less Alcohol- July 2018- One Day at a Time

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  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @erikNJ I was just thinking about you and your post appeared. Sounds like the ball game was a great time and without beer, no bloating or munchies. I hope you ate an extra hot dog!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @salleewins Thanks for your message. I agree. Let's all be kind to ourselves. Xo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @lorrainequiche59 Thank you, my friend.
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    JulieAL1969 wrote: »
    Last night, I reached out to a friend who is an addiction counselor. I called him crying and said i need you. We talked for a half hour and today I'm meeting him to talk. I think his presence in my life will be helpful. He's taking me to my first AA meeting - I know some people love it and some people don't , but it may be the hope I need. I don't want to live always teetering on the edge.
    P.s. My friend says it takes 3 days for alcohol to leave the system. So, that's good news. i always thought it was ten days.
    @ErynVee great weekend for you! Like someone on our thread says, you are exercising your will power muscle.
    @snoo61 Great job ! You set a goal and was under it. And you probably slept soooo well. Xo

    Good for you! I'm impressed with your courage. Let the adventure begin! :)
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @Ke22yB Great post! I appreciate it. And yes, I am the first to read something and think oh, dear that's not a good sign. BUT I also feel that each one of us knows deep inside the truth- either we are or are not an alcoholic. I know I am one.

    I've even told several friends over the years that I think I'm an alcoholic- but they say to me, "oh no, you're not! just drink water between your drinks. Just set a firm limit- only two drinks. OR You dont drink in the morning, so you must not be an alcoholic ." People mean well, but it didn't do me well to hear those type of affirmations from friends. Because deep down inside, we all know if we are or not.

    That was a sad, funny joke - even though you probably didnt laugh at the time. It hurt.
    Thanks for your post; it means a lot to me.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @donimfp I read his book and am nearly done. He makes good sense. I will re-read too. Because I tend to rush to get to the point and miss some good nuggets of information.

    Excellent metaphor with the prison and poison message.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    SoulOfRusalka wrote: »
    For July, (and probably August), I want to start drinking only on weekends, and only 6 drinks a day then. Friday and Saturday or Saturday and Sunday, all three if it's an especially rough week. :# I hope I'm not too late to join this thread, but I could use the support.
    I am... not so good at the moderation thing. For a couple of months I was drinking 10 shots of vodka a day and not eating much. Good weight loss strategy but people do tend to worry, LOL.
    As today is Monday, that means no alcohol for 4-5 days, starting today... woo. Psyched. Not really.

    Welcome to our thread! Post whenever you want and let us know how you're doing. Also, look at our first page on this July thread for awesome list of helpful hints/topics of interest. Our friend @NovusDies synthesized many of our posters ideas into a brilliant document.
  • kittybenn
    kittybenn Posts: 444 Member
    @JulieAL1969 - thinking of you and sorry you're struggling. You have helped so many people here, including me. SO appreciate you and wishing the very best for you!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    @kittybenn Thanks, you've been with me and the others from the start. You are always an inspiration.
  • kcn2bluesky
    kcn2bluesky Posts: 187 Member
    Just popped in to read the latest updates. @JulieAL1969 You are showing enormous strength by reaching out for help, and by acknowledging the problem you are going to fix. You are in my thoughts!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    kcn2bluesky wrote: »
    Just popped in to read the latest updates. @JulieAL1969 You are showing enormous strength by reaching out for help, and by acknowledging the problem you are going to fix. You are in my thoughts!

    Thank you so much. I really value your kind words. Xo
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    SoulOfRusalka wrote: »
    For July, (and probably August), I want to start drinking only on weekends, and only 6 drinks a day then. Friday and Saturday or Saturday and Sunday, all three if it's an especially rough week. :# I hope I'm not too late to join this thread, but I could use the support.
    I am... not so good at the moderation thing. For a couple of months I was drinking 10 shots of vodka a day and not eating much. Good weight loss strategy but people do tend to worry, LOL.
    As today is Monday, that means no alcohol for 4-5 days, starting today... woo. Psyched. Not really.

    Welcome, you'll find a lot of support and information here. Its a great group of people.
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    KingHurlbutt wrote: »
    Yesterday was my day 1:)

    Congratulations! Check out the first page of this thread for information that NovusDies compiled from previous months. You'll find a lot of support here. Check in whenever you can.
  • erikNJ
    erikNJ Posts: 1,009 Member
    @JulieAL1969 I have a friend who has been sober for awhile (I think 2 yrs) after AA. I personally know nothing about it. But you are taking the first step to figure out if it is for you personally. I look forward to seeing how this works out for you
  • erikNJ
    erikNJ Posts: 1,009 Member
    SoulOfRusalka wrote: »
    For July, (and probably August), I want to start drinking only on weekends, and only 6 drinks a day then. Friday and Saturday or Saturday and Sunday, all three if it's an especially rough week. :# I hope I'm not too late to join this thread, but I could use the support.
    I am... not so good at the moderation thing. For a couple of months I was drinking 10 shots of vodka a day and not eating much. Good weight loss strategy but people do tend to worry, LOL.
    As today is Monday, that means no alcohol for 4-5 days, starting today... woo. Psyched. Not really.

    It is never too late to join us. I wish you good luck in this journey. A number of us are moderate drinkers here. I myself have successfully cut my drinking to Saturdays only, once in awhile there is a second day but not regularly.
    Welcome!
  • andysport1
    andysport1 Posts: 592 Member
    donimfp wrote: »
    @andysport1, hang in there. I can relate to your feeling after Day 10. A "few" times that Day 10 has actually led me to think, "Wow, I did 10 days, so surely now I can enjoy one drink." I've finally learned that is lying to myself, but I do understand feeling very tempted around the 10-12 day mark.

    It's 4 a.m. CDT here in the U.S., so it's 10 a.m. for you now. I hope by now you are feeling much better. Julie often mentions the "6-second" nature of cravings. I hope the last few hours have been good for you.

    I'm up at 4 a.m. after having slept 1 hour. I've been out of touch lately trying to help my mom navigate a situation in which a business partner is taking very unscrupulous advantage of her, and she is having trouble standing up for herself. And yes, I've used wine to "comfort" myself. Stupid. It is not a comfort, and this sleepless night is a tough reminder. So back to non-drinking, which is much much better for me.

    I believe I have discovered that I am not as anonymous as I thought on this board, so I'm backing off a little bit, but I'm certainly following and appreciate all the good thoughts.

    Thanks very much and thanks for sharing your story, I hope you sort things out.
    One day at a time
  • andysport1
    andysport1 Posts: 592 Member
    @snoo61 Thanks, I’m doing ok. Hey well done yesterday.
    @lorrainequiche59, no I don’t write in a journal, but I’ll give it a try
  • andysport1
    andysport1 Posts: 592 Member
    @JulieAL1969
    Omg, you’ve had a tough few days, I can only offer hope.
    Good luck this next few days.
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    andysport1 wrote: »
    Well
    Yesterday was the hardest ever
    I went out very early in the morning just to get away from the possibility of having a drink.
    It worked
    Then at lunchtime my wife had arranged we meet friends at the horse racing, everybody was drinking, then out for a curry with 20 people that all had plenty.

    Even I can’t believe this, I had no problems, I didn’t even want a drink
    Then today I’ve been ok until 1 hour ago when I got a craving, I went and bought a Pepsi and I’m ok now.
    Phew, what a couple of hard days.

    I'm glad you made it through, sounds like a day of wins. ):
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