What nobody tells you about losing weight
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RelCanonical wrote: »no1elseislikeme wrote: »That you will get cold much more easily and quickly. I went from 144 to 119 (though currently 122 and I’m working to get back to 119) and I cannot believe how much more easily I get cold. I know it’s because I lost a lot of my insulation. But still. I didn’t expect this.
And just how good you’re going to feel the first time you can fit into an extra small. I was so happy when I tried on and fit into a Banana Republic shirt that’s an extra small. I did buy it.
A lot of the cold comes from eating in a deficit rather than actual body fat (it has an impact, just not as significant). Having a "diet break" and going to maintenance always warms me right up, no matter where I am with my weight.
I guess what I'm saying is, don't worry, it might not always be this bad!
I agree with this. When I was losing weight I got cold so easily, I had never been that cold so easily before, I thought it was the new normal. But then I did maintenance all winter until this month, and I wasn't excessively cold anymore. I thought I just adjusted, but this makes more sense, I was no longer in a deficit.
I'm losing a few more pounds, but I'm going with such a slow deficit it isn't as noticeable now. Like I'm trying to lose about a pound per month, just very very slow loss.4 -
lleeann2001 wrote: »Umm how.come when you lose weight and you look good some people come to you and the FIRST thing they say is "Are you sick?"
Probably because it takes about a year for your face to tighten back up and not have the slight sag that does look like you may just been sick.
It is the common look after the flu or chemo skin sag.
Also, it happens to be that some people are sick and are offended when they are congratulated on looking better when they are actually dying. A coworker lost a ton Of weight, we all hoorayed for her and with her, and turns out she had major liver disease and was dead in a few months.
This. My mom passed away from a horrible slow death from ALS. People kept congratulating her on her weight loss. She was dying, she lost the ability to eat. It seems like people could tell the difference between disease and healthy lifestyle weight loss, but I suppose it is hard when it's someone else and you only see a small window into their lives.
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farmerpam1 wrote: »Self confidence, pep in the step and seeing bones I never knew I had, are just a few. A love for being active, more like a NEED to be active every day. And clothes are fun to shop for, I go to a second hand shop and come home with a whole new wardrobe! Lots of positives, the only downside, I have one "friend" I've known for years and she's said nothing. Really? I mean complete strangers have commented, cashiers at the grocery, dentist etc, so it's not as if you can't tell I've lost about 40 pounds, I mean I'm barely 5 feet tall! Last time I saw her she was very passive aggressive, laughed because I was wearing a skirt. I've known her since high school and I was always the chubby one, she was tall and slim, but she's not anymore. I realized that my success made her feel like a failure, in her mind. The last time I saw her will be the last time.
That person is not not was probably ever a true friend.
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That when you go shopping and things actually look good on you, you'll question if the store has 'skinny mirrors'.28
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my heart broke when my former best friend saw me when i lost all my weight and then ghosted me after i took her out for her birthday dinner. she had gained a lot of weight since i saw her yet i said nothing. i thought our friendship was based on more than that, as i never judged her.54
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12Sarah2015 wrote: »The last pound is elusive, can't get it off!
I'm having some trouble with the last 5. ugh.13 -
Being cold all the time!! It will be nice in summer
Reducing a bra-size! As a person who had a breast reduction, that was unexpected.
Reduce my snoring, even if I only lost 10kg.
More energy!
Sleep better.20 -
lleeann2001 wrote: »Umm how.come when you lose weight and you look good some people come to you and the FIRST thing they say is "Are you sick?"
Probably because it takes about a year for your face to tighten back up and not have the slight sag that does look like you may just been sick.
It is the common look after the flu or chemo skin sag.
Also, it happens to be that some people are sick and are offended when they are congratulated on looking better when they are actually dying. A coworker lost a ton Of weight, we all hoorayed for her and with her, and turns out she had major liver disease and was dead in a few months.
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@TheRedQueen1981 when I glanced at your picture I though of Barbara Streisand.3
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Hmm, interesting haha. Not someone I’ve ever been compared to before but I’ll take it as a compliment. I am a singer so there’s that haha.lleeann2001 wrote: »@TheRedQueen1981 when I glanced at your picture I though of Barbara Streisand.
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That you sudenly become funnier or that at least people start laughing at your jokes....10
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Being cold all the time!! It will be nice in summer
Reducing a bra-size! As a person who had a breast reduction, that was unexpected.
Reduce my snoring, even if I only lost 10kg.
More energy!
Sleep better.
I'm so happy my breast size has been reducing as well. They were uncomfortable, though not to the point of considering a reduction. It has also been somewhat easier to find bras, as my size is stocked in some stores now (still too big for most, but not all) and I'm not required to shop online.7 -
becca_rup23 wrote: »That some days you just feel hungry all day! Maybe this is just me but I can do just fine within or very close to my calories goals most days but some days, even with healthy and filling foods, I'm just so so hungry. Today is one of those and I'm just trying to get through!
It’s likely ovulation. I was confused by those days for a very long time and kept wondering if I was doing something wrong. Made me feel so much better when I searched the boards here and found how common it was!
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This isn't really something that nobody told me, but more of something that I didn't think would happen. When you have setbacks like injuries or just health in general, it's so easy to lose track of time and fall back into old habits and gain it all back. I was at my healthiest and fittest when I started with bulging discs in my lower back. At the same time I had to have knee surgery for loose cartilage. I was in physical therapy for around 6 months combined and it's been downhill since. That was a few years ago. I'm ready to get back to healthy me. I miss healthy me so much. No one told me how lost I'd feel and confused at starting this over again with trying to find workouts that are easy on my body but effective at the same time.31
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becca_rup23 wrote: »That some days you just feel hungry all day! Maybe this is just me but I can do just fine within or very close to my calories goals most days but some days, even with healthy and filling foods, I'm just so so hungry. Today is one of those and I'm just trying to get through!
It’s likely ovulation. I was confused by those days for a very long time and kept wondering if I was doing something wrong. Made me feel so much better when I searched the boards here and found how common it was!
Yeah, I didn't realize ovulation could cause cravings as well - it's much easier to handle now that I know it's coming, and I have other physical indicators of ovulation, so it's easy to match up with my cravings.6 -
This is something I struggle with big time. I’ll be doing really well and then all of a sudden, out of nowhere I’ll start to feel ravenously hungry. It’s crazy. I know to expect it and don’t often give into it but I sometimes plan my treat days around then so that I can give in without feeling too guilty. Sometimes I just don’t have the strength to give into it haha.RelCanonical wrote: »becca_rup23 wrote: »That some days you just feel hungry all day! Maybe this is just me but I can do just fine within or very close to my calories goals most days but some days, even with healthy and filling foods, I'm just so so hungry. Today is one of those and I'm just trying to get through!
It’s likely ovulation. I was confused by those days for a very long time and kept wondering if I was doing something wrong. Made me feel so much better when I searched the boards here and found how common it was!
Yeah, I didn't realize ovulation could cause cravings as well - it's much easier to handle now that I know it's coming, and I have other physical indicators of ovulation, so it's easy to match up with my cravings.
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TheRedQueen1981 wrote: »
This is something I struggle with big time. I’ll be doing really well and then all of a sudden, out of nowhere I’ll start to feel ravenously hungry. It’s crazy. I know to expect it and don’t often give into it but I sometimes plan my treat days around then so that I can give in without feeling too guilty. Sometimes I just don’t have the strength to give into it haha.RelCanonical wrote: »becca_rup23 wrote: »That some days you just feel hungry all day! Maybe this is just me but I can do just fine within or very close to my calories goals most days but some days, even with healthy and filling foods, I'm just so so hungry. Today is one of those and I'm just trying to get through!
It’s likely ovulation. I was confused by those days for a very long time and kept wondering if I was doing something wrong. Made me feel so much better when I searched the boards here and found how common it was!
Yeah, I didn't realize ovulation could cause cravings as well - it's much easier to handle now that I know it's coming, and I have other physical indicators of ovulation, so it's easy to match up with my cravings.
I give myself unlimited maintenance days, and I can take them for whatever reason I want, because I've always had issues with hormone regulation, so cravings can come out of nowhere. I have enough of a deficit that I usually go for a pint of low-calorie ice cream or an extra frozen meal, and it helps so so much on those days to have an extra 300 or so calories.16 -
Almost made this it's own thread, thought it'd fit better here.
But anyway, I feel fatter this time around.
I lost fifty pounds about five years ago, gained it back quickly due to some mental health issues (both related to and not related to the weight loss itself). I've lost 40 so far this time and am about 20 pounds away from my original goal weight (though I decided to go lower this time to get more safely into a health weight range).
I'm not really doing anything differently this time, other than going slower and focusing more closely on my mental health, which is part of the reason why I'm writing this out.
But 148-ish doesn't feel as skinny this time around as it did back then. Age might be a factor, but I think it more has to do with the fact that this weight isn't as novel this time around. I was an overweight kid and my current weight is about 25 pounds less than what I weighed in high school, so I don't think I really got to experience a non-obese weight until I the first time I lost. This time, all I remember is how it felt at my lowest, and I keep thinking my body should be at a different point at this weight.
I just thought it was weird that my brain caught up a lot better the first time around, and I think it had to do with the "newness" of being that weight. I didn't hyperfocus on what hasn't changed because so much else WAS changing.20 -
Being cold all the time!! It will be nice in summer
Reducing a bra-size! As a person who had a breast reduction, that was unexpected.
Reduce my snoring, even if I only lost 10kg.
More energy!
Sleep better.
As someone that had a breast reduction myself, I completely relate. After it was done my doctor told me very sweetly that if I wanted to go down even lower (I did but he took me as far down as he legally could) I would just have to lose about 10lbs. I wasn’t even that overweight yet... a little fluff. But it’s true. My breasts is where I lose it first and I don’t mind at all 😂3 -
Being cold all the time!! It will be nice in summer
Reducing a bra-size! As a person who had a breast reduction, that was unexpected.
Reduce my snoring, even if I only lost 10kg.
More energy!
Sleep better.
As someone that had a breast reduction myself, I completely relate. After it was done my doctor told me very sweetly that if I wanted to go down even lower (I did but he took me as far down as he legally could) I would just have to lose about 10lbs. I wasn’t even that overweight yet... a little fluff. But it’s true. My breasts is where I lose it first and I don’t mind at all 😂
Before I lost weight I saw a reduction in my future, now I'm not sure. A lift would be nice but a reduction is no longer "necessary".
I was a 32N. I'm down to a 28H. It's manageable now. That is 8 sizes down. I may actually be a size smaller if I were to buy a new bra, as the cups are starting to feel loose again.9 -
ExistingFish wrote: »Being cold all the time!! It will be nice in summer
Reducing a bra-size! As a person who had a breast reduction, that was unexpected.
Reduce my snoring, even if I only lost 10kg.
More energy!
Sleep better.
As someone that had a breast reduction myself, I completely relate. After it was done my doctor told me very sweetly that if I wanted to go down even lower (I did but he took me as far down as he legally could) I would just have to lose about 10lbs. I wasn’t even that overweight yet... a little fluff. But it’s true. My breasts is where I lose it first and I don’t mind at all 😂
Before I lost weight I saw a reduction in my future, now I'm not sure. A lift would be nice but a reduction is no longer "necessary".
I was a 32N. I'm down to a 28H. It's manageable now. That is 8 sizes down. I may actually be a size smaller if I were to buy a new bra, as the cups are starting to feel loose again.
My sizing isn't quite on the same level, but I echo your first sentiment. I used to think I might one day need a reduction... Don't think that's necessary anymore, but a lift or some kind of reshaping might be nice.6 -
Well, today is 60 pounds gone. Having a hard time coping with “smaller me”. It kind of hit me today when my trainer just about forced my chin up to make me look at myself in the mirror. I can’t bear to see myself. I still feel fat, make the same old apologetic fat jokes, etc.
I was very surprised in that instant. It was like seeing a stranger. I was the first time I had thought of myself as (dare I say it?) thin.
I keep thinking, naw, “thin” was the 120 I weighed when I got married, and 161 just doesn’t “sound” thin, and these smalls I’m wearing are just the result of vanity sizing.
As I sit here typing this, I still feel like same old same old “me”, as if nothing’s changed, right? It’s just all so confusing. When I first got on MFP, I read the posts and secretly thought Body Dismorphia was BS. It’s a thing, y’all. This whole weight thing, the beating myself up for being up or down, the refusing to look at myself in the mirror, to see or acknowledge the changes in my body, wanting to crawl under a rock when someone says something nice, it all makes my brain feel so disassociated with my body.33 -
TheRedQueen1981 wrote: »lleeann2001 wrote: »Umm how.come when you lose weight and you look good some people come to you and the FIRST thing they say is "Are you sick?"
Probably because it takes about a year for your face to tighten back up and not have the slight sag that does look like you may just been sick.
It is the common look after the flu or chemo skin sag.
Also, it happens to be that some people are sick and are offended when they are congratulated on looking better when they are actually dying. A coworker lost a ton Of weight, we all hoorayed for her and with her, and turns out she had major liver disease and was dead in a few months.lleeann2001 wrote: »Umm how.come when you lose weight and you look good some people come to you and the FIRST thing they say is "Are you sick?"
Probably because it takes about a year for your face to tighten back up and not have the slight sag that does look like you may just been sick.
It is the common look after the flu or chemo skin sag.
Also, it happens to be that some people are sick and are offended when they are congratulated on looking better when they are actually dying. A coworker lost a ton Of weight, we all hoorayed for her and with her, and turns out she had major liver disease and was dead in a few months.
I don’t understand why a couple of people thought this comment is ‘woo’?
Because it’s awful to congratulate approaching death. Irony - finally look great too bad it’s because you are dying....that’s why I said woo - its terrible6 -
I'm thicker through the middle now than when I was the same weight in college, 25 years ago. The unexpected cool thing (what qualifies as my 'what nobody told you') is that everybody thinks I look amazing now, as compared with by family members and girlfriends who maintained steady weights but now in their 40s are self-evidently thicker through the middle (fat-to-muscle ratio has shifted over the years even if weight hasn't changed much). It's a weird psychological tricke middle aged and 'getting hotter' as opposed to looking like you're starting to be middle aged ...17
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12Sarah2015 wrote: »The last pound is elusive, can't get it off!
I'm having some trouble with the last 5. ugh.
You'll get there. Took me three months to lose four kg, but the results are amazing!4 -
that I would plateau and be stuck the past six months staying on count!15
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That you will look back at your clothes and think : "Did I really wear this? Did I really look like that?" and that this will continue while you are losing weight.7
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That your clothes will get longer. I am tall and now at 40+ have a few dresses and trousers that I thought are too short. As I lost few pounds, they are not as short any more.19
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long_for_me wrote: »That your clothes will get longer. I am tall and now at 40+ have a few dresses and trousers that I thought are too short. As I lost few pounds, they are not as short any more.
Ah, but as you buy new clothes they will get shorter! Apparently if you're a UK10 (US 6 or 8), you want everyone to see your knickers.11 -
I realize this differs a lot from person to person, but.. yes period/pms can cause fluctuation, but being on track and getting more exercise has made it way less impactful for me! Turns out it was probably just changing my hunger/cravings during those times so I would not lose weight but just go back and forth between the same few pounds.
Anyway now that I've been more accountable and not seeing it as an excuse I've actually lost before/during/after and I'm very happy about that!7
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