JUST FOR TODAY -- One Day at a Time .... Daily commitment thread for 2019

mytime6630 wrote: »

JFT, Frd
1. go to WW meeting Down almost 3# .. have now met my 5# loss!
2. jan challenge -8+ water
3. feb challenge - 1 snack, then brush/floss teeth
4. march challenge - go outside for a walk. Really need to do this!! I walked 4 miles, mostly to relieve stress. But it was FREEZING cold out! Temps said 44, so I wore my winter coat ... but the wind was so strong!! I am home, and was completely exhausted the rest of the nite ... I think the cold just sapped all my energy (what little I had left).
5. mindful eating
6. plan meals for the week
7. work on cleaning house
8. try and finish baby quilt at least
9. work on pc boards .. busy day
10. stay positive. try not to be patient. Not so good at this. I am very worried, yet at the same time angry with our daughter for the lies. All year she kept saying she was well below the limit allowed by disability .. while she was over every month. And all the money is gone ... internet scams, overdraft fees, starbucks coffee.Very frustrating, yet I know it is her illness, so at the same time, my heart goes out to her. So ... letters prepared to deliver on Monday, and just pray for the best, and if not, pray that financially we can bail her out, and she will be moving back with us. A day at a time.

JFT, Sat
1. gym Already done
2. mindful eating
3. jan challenge -8+ water
4. feb challenge - 1 nitetime snack/ brush teeth to stop from eating
5. mar challenge - outside 15 mintes (going to do this shortly and rake up some leaves)
6. plan meals for the week
7. house cleaning
8. help hubby with work stuff - so far behind
9. take daughter with me to Trader JOes, and hope for some talking time. We need to figure out a way for me to manage her money. I do manage the disability money, but hoping she will let me help her with money she earns.. especially if disabiilty stops.
10. do something tonite to relax .... maybe a bubble bath.

Snowflake1968 wrote: »

I have to share a funny Grands story:
Jonah was using Michaela’s toy dishes to make weapons for the Zombie Apocalypse today. Michaela says to him, “Donah” (she hasn’t got the J down yet), I don’t like Zombies they scary.
Jonah says, “it’s ok Micki (I am the only one that calls her Michaela), they aren’t real. I’m just making these in case.”

I rarely share anything with him now because he is so much into the iPad when he’s here. Today he was actually playing! It was so nice to see!

nlmackey98 wrote: »

I went over yesterday, but enjoyed an evening out with my family. I overate at dinner. I noted when I full, but continued to eat. Old habit. Did well with movie popcorn. I ate some, but not like I used to.

Today I’m a bit overwhelmed, The anxiety, fear and depression has been building for the last few weeks. Saint Patrick’s Day is a dark day for me. It’s triggering a lot of negativity and putting a dark cloud over what should be a really good day. This isn’t something I talk about in TRW. Sorry if it’s TMI.

Goals are minimal, but I plan to stay aware of my intake rather than just binging my emotions away.

- Get S & her friend to crew.
- Shower and get ready
- Pick up girls. Take friend home
- Go car shopping
- Pick up other kid after her field trip
- Dinner
- Write in my journal for the first time. Finally bought one.
- Be kind to myself
- Get to bed at a decent time.

PackerFanInGB wrote: »

bookmeister86 wrote: »

Rubbish day yesterday. Work is really irritating at the moment. I'm working on difficult things, with no direction or help, and I don't really know what I'm supposed to be doing. Half my day is meetings, generally about things that annoy me (like yesterday's team meeting where we discussed how we can adapt to the new policy where everyone is going to be forced to work out of the office 2 days a week), so I never progress anything. I feel totally out of control, which I hate, being a control deal and all. People are constantly flapping and dumping problems on me, reducing my control even further as I get pulled away from the few things I do actually know I have to do. And it's increasingly clear that life in the new organisation is just about sucking up to the new management and not about doing a good job or making a difference.

My response to this yesterday? Eating burgers, crisps and chocolate. Bad Sarah.

Yesterday's commitments:

- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan
- Be in the green
- 3+ bottles water
- No alcohol

- No eating whilst standing
- Savour every bite
- Monitor fullness after each meal
- Talk back to sabotaging thoughts
- Give myself credit!

- 45 minute lunch break
- Meditate
- Catch up on emails
- Stay positive
- 2+ of French book, article, podcast
- Finish work by 7pm latest
- Holiday planning/ 7 habits
- Gratitude journal
- Lights off by 11

I need to somehow pull this back and stop getting so upset by it all, or at least stop responding to being upset by eating/drinking. My weight is not going downwards and in fact it's slightly creeping upwards. I'm super good on lots of days but I have too many days where I slip off the rails and go way over.

Not quite sure how to fix it, will give it some thought over the next few days. I'm reading the 7 habits of effective people at the moment, which is really good and has some really relevant things to say about focusing on what you can control, and having a clear sense of your priorities so that you can figure out what isn't and isn't important easier. Lots of it is relevant to me - will have a think about how I can apply the habits within my life.

Initial thoughts are:
- Spending some time in reflection at the start of each day, identify the one thing I want to get done that day above anything else and doing it
- Get ruthless about rejecting meetings
- Switch to working 9 in 10 days rather than 4 in 5. The hours I have to work when I do in 4 in 5 are just too long and I think it wears me down (and leaves me vulnerable to binging at the end of the day).

Will look at applying these and then see what else I can do.

Boy, does this bring back memories of my previous job! When I think of how many hours I spent trying to fix everyone else's issues at work and not getting my own work done, creating a circle of working day and night, I am sincerely surprised I didn't make myself sick. I feel so much more in control of my life now.

I truly hope you find peace for yourself too. I have heard of the book you are reading but haven't had the opportunity to read it. It was actually required reading at my previous employer for anyone in a leadership position. Another book they all had to read was "Who Moved the Cheese" (something like that...)

I spend time in reflection in the morning when I'm feeling like everything is spinning out of control! It was one of the things I had to incorporate back then. I list my top 3 priority to-do's and I stick to it, even if it is something as simple as making a phone call that I've been putting off. I tell colleagues that I am not able to help them today unless emergent, but that I'd be happy to help them tomorrow--that I have tasks due that I must complete. I block time off on my Outlook calendar so nobody can send me a meeting invite.

I think I am going to go to our library this weekend and look for the book you mentioned. I'll bet it has things that would help not only at work, but with conflicts in life in general!

Hugs to you, my friend... xoxo
P.S. Is it MY turn to come over THERE and punch someone for you?

toaljasa wrote: »

I want to do a spotlight today...on our wonderful leader, Joan!, @mytime6630

I know I speak for all of us when I say how grateful we are that you not only thought of starting JFT, but that you actually took the next step and got it going!

Joan is right there in the trenches alongside us, going to battle, to reach a goal of good health emotionally and physically. Although she can be quite swamped and has issues at home that drain her she is still on here to give her encouragement, her love, and support. She is honest and open in telling us her struggles with her weight and emotional eating and when she falls off the wagon. And when that occurs, she gets right back up, dusts herself off, and hops right back on.

Your determination is contagious, Joan. And thank you for setting the tone of this group, that has made it a warm, cozy, and inviting place.

This is such a unique group of (right now) women. Joan, as far as I know, has not had to post a list of rules, of do's and don't's. We are a compassionate group. It's a bit of a haven of peace; a restorative place where we can reveal our vulnerabilities without fear of being knocked about. We know if we vent about the world we live in, or we reveal heartache and pain we will find lots of support and commiseration. Our suggestions and concerns are expressed gently, in a way that builds up instead of tearing down. We rah-rah each others' successes, weight-related or not. This all takes place, despite the fact that we come from all different places, different backgrounds, different ages, different faiths, political stances. Have you ever stopped to marvel at how we all get along?

I think one of the keys is Effort. We make an effort to be kind. We make an effort to choose our wording. We make an effort to accept the person as she is without condemning. We make an effort to respond with grace or not at all. We recognize that gentle correction is not the same as condemnation. But we realize that it takes work to keep our little haven, a haven. Because we know how ugly the world can be and it's oh-so-lovely to just be able to come inside, grab a hot drink, and be loved on and experience peace and joy, even in the midst of despair and chaos.

I think one way we can show our thankfulness is by continuing to make that effort to keep our little haven intact. Kindness, overlooking offenses, and pleasant words can be hard work at times! But, for the sake of our little group, and for respect and gratitude to Joan, let's keep at it! (And who knows? Maybe we can take this effort out into our little corner of the world and start a movement! )

Love you all.