The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Mine has never been alcohol parents yes mine was drugs I've over dose 6 times I'm done literally...got the vivitral shot too but exercising and cleaning oh eating to is what I became addicted too.. I've always weigh 128 pds I gained 69 pounds I'm finally downto 158 I was 150 few weeks ago I got lazy and actually 150 is normal weight but not a pound more says the doctor..I'd like to get involved if u let me.9
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@feelinfoofoo Warm welcome 🙏🏽 !! Please let us know how you feel throughout the weeks... it’s interesting how everyone seems to experience being AF differently. 👍🏽FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Hi everyone, I have been lurking for a while & been on the less alcohol thread for a while now. Going to pop over to this thread while I'm doing my Alcohol Experiment, I start tomorrow and for 30 days will be AF. I am unsure if I will remain AF after that but there is a chance that that's what i will decide. I seem to have issues with moderating for whatever reason, maybe it's something to do with How my brain works?? I dunno lol. Hoping the AE will help clear a few things up for me.
I am looking forward to AF for 30 days. Won't miss the hangovers and feeling low. If I manage this it will be the longest without alcohol for years.
Thanks for having me guys!
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Wow a great thread. I’ve actually been listening to Recovery Elevator podcast because I found it more helpful than weight loss ones on my journey back to physical health, even tho my substance of choice is food & not alcohol. Sobriety talk & abstinence resonates for me because I also have no off-switch & can’t moderate certain foods.8
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Hi Everyone! Welcome, new folks! We are happy to have you. Many of us met and started out on the less Alcohol page but realized we had to try for AF lives instead of "less". I'm in the camp of "I'd rather have none than one." Which means that I can't stop at one, or two. I will check out Recovery Elevator. Thanks for the tip! I've read/listened to so many great things that everyone here has suggested. It really is helpful.10
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GOOD Morn & WELCOME to everyone who's new here!! Hoping you become old here...in a good way
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Morning all,yep met on the less alcohol thread which is a great thread as well but I mostly post here and alot of times won't even open that one up,just because alot of the peeps on there have been successful at moderation and sometimes I read their posts and get "triggered" in a way thinking I can if they can but I know I can't haha,anyhoo wishes for a Fab AF day! 10
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Wow...great Monday morning read.
@feelinfoofoo - @vermontrebecca6929 - @hollyscherer1125
Welcome! In addition to the awesome ladies in this group, there are a several of guys here too...and we, guys and gals alike, have all been where you are. There are great people and there is great support in this group!
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i moved to california and i started anew. i used to drink quite often in NY but now that im here it's as if i don't have the desire to. I have a drink maybe once every 2 months and it has really aided my fitness! I always have the energy to wake up bright and early in the morning. the thought of a hangover is horrible. who wants THAT!!!???11
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Wow...great Monday morning read.
@feelinfoofoo - @vermontrebecca6929 - @hollyscherer1125
Welcome! In addition to the awesome ladies in this group, there are a several of guys here too...
There are dudes on here??? What the heck????
Day 50 ~ And just like that, Jim was gone. Out of my life again...
Name the misquoted movie, without the aid of Google, and win a FREE COMMENT LIKE!!! Yes, one glorious "thumbs up", just for guessing correctly. All incorrect guesses will receive a derogatory "woo", and be charged £1, or $1.29, or 1.16 Euro...
Spent the weekend with some very good friends, planning out our summer mission work in the Bahamas. Yeah, I know, Bahamas and mission work... it doesnt have the same gravitas as, say, Africa.
Welcome to all the new people! Great to have y'all on this journey with us. Here's to many great AF days ahead!
Feel free to read all my posts in a southern accent, slowly. Get a slack look on your face while doing it...
Fixin' (a southern term meaning "I am preparing to...") to hop on the bike and pedal myself to town, do some CrossFit, then head over and see my parents.
Day 50, feeling freaking awesome!11 -
kevinrfletcher wrote: »Wow...great Monday morning read.
@feelinfoofoo - @vermontrebecca6929 - @hollyscherer1125
Welcome! In addition to the awesome ladies in this group, there are a several of guys here too...
There are dudes on here??? What the heck????
Day 50 ~ And just like that, Jim was gone. Out of my life again...
Name the misquoted movie, without the aid of Google, and win a FREE COMMENT LIKE!!! Yes, one glorious "thumbs up", just for guessing correctly. All incorrect guesses will receive a derogatory "woo", and be charged £1, or $1.29, or 1.16 Euro...
Spent the weekend with some very good friends, planning out our summer mission work in the Bahamas. Yeah, I know, Bahamas and mission work... it doesnt have the same gravitas as, say, Africa.
Welcome to all the new people! Great to have y'all on this journey with us. Here's to many great AF days ahead!
Feel free to read all my posts in a southern accent, slowly. Get a slack look on your face while doing it...
Fixin' (a southern term meaning "I am preparing to...") to hop on the bike and pedal myself to town, do some CrossFit, then head over and see my parents.
Day 50, feeling freaking awesome!
Goodness give me some of your mojo! You sound absolutely awesome
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@kevinrfletcher, congratulations on 50 days!!
My “gangsta” students introduced me to “finna,” a combo of “Fixin’ to” and “gonna.” So now I tell my husband “I’m finna go to the store.”7 -
Hi Friends, I was reading LIVING magazine (Martha Stewart) just now and saw a great mocktail page. I think I need to be more creative and order some of these ingredients listed to spice things up.
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@FeelinFooFoo I can relate. Once I have a drink, I become unable to stop pouring or desiring for another drink. Like Craig Ferguson says in his video when people say to just drink sensibly....He says “I’ll try.......”
I have tried and anytime I do it is a hit or miss. Sometimes, I can hang in there and stop myself after two or three. Other times, I become a demon possessed and lose all senses. Grrrr. I really wish I wasn’t like this. But one of the keys to happiness is “Accept what is. Not what you wish it to be.” I just struggle like you to say “I am never going to drink again.” I just don’t know if I am up to that point yet. Yet.
Welcome to the thread. I remember your insightful comments on the Less Alcohol thread for quite a while. Xo7 -
@whitpauly mojo sent! Enjoy! (EVERY time I say "mojo", I do it in an Austin Powers voice...)
@donimfp, from now on, I'll be "finna"... ok, at least I will try to finna. Old habits die hard.
Finna, in a southern accent. I'm all redneck street over here...6 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »@FeelinFooFoo I can relate. Once I have a drink, I become unable to stop pouring or desiring for another drink. Like Craig Ferguson says in his video when people say to just drink sensibly....He says “I’ll try.......”
I have tried and anytime I do it is a hit or miss. Sometimes, I can hang in there and stop myself after two or three. Other times, I become a demon possessed and lose all senses. Grrrr. I really wish I wasn’t like this. But one of the keys to happiness is “Accept what is. Not what you wish it to be.” I just struggle like you to say “I am never going to drink again.” I just don’t know if I am up to that point yet. Yet.
Welcome to the thread. I remember your insightful comments on the Less Alcohol thread for quite a while. Xo
You're absolutely right--it is a struggle to say "I'm never going to drink again." Perhaps it will help to say " I'm not going to drink today" and give it a while and then see how you're feeling.9 -
MaxInChicago wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »@FeelinFooFoo I can relate. Once I have a drink, I become unable to stop pouring or desiring for another drink. Like Craig Ferguson says in his video when people say to just drink sensibly....He says “I’ll try.......”
I have tried and anytime I do it is a hit or miss. Sometimes, I can hang in there and stop myself after two or three. Other times, I become a demon possessed and lose all senses. Grrrr. I really wish I wasn’t like this. But one of the keys to happiness is “Accept what is. Not what you wish it to be.” I just struggle like you to say “I am never going to drink again.” I just don’t know if I am up to that point yet. Yet.
Welcome to the thread. I remember your insightful comments on the Less Alcohol thread for quite a while. Xo
You're absolutely right--it is a struggle to say "I'm never going to drink again." Perhaps it will help to say " I'm not going to drink today" and give it a while and then see how you're feeling.
THAT is it!! Just for today. None of us can say with 100% certainty we will never drink again. I'd love to have that confidence, but that is not reality. I can only work on it today and then work on it the following day...it is the "work on it" part that will guarantee our success. Some days are harder than others, but if we do the work the rest will follow. It's when we get complacent and self confident that things can slide. AND remember to count our AF blessings when we start thinking that it's all too much work !!!
Nothing worth while comes easy, but the freedom from being enslaved to alcohol is totally worth the hard bits. 7 -
FeelinFooFoo wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »@FeelinFooFoo I can relate. Once I have a drink, I become unable to stop pouring or desiring for another drink. Like Craig Ferguson says in his video when people say to just drink sensibly....He says “I’ll try.......”
I have tried and anytime I do it is a hit or miss. Sometimes, I can hang in there and stop myself after two or three. Other times, I become a demon possessed and lose all senses. Grrrr. I really wish I wasn’t like this. But one of the keys to happiness is “Accept what is. Not what you wish it to be.” I just struggle like you to say “I am never going to drink again.” I just don’t know if I am up to that point yet. Yet.
Welcome to the thread. I remember your insightful comments on the Less Alcohol thread for quite a while. Xo
If I'm on a date night with my partner the wine is sitting on the table, winking at me like the 3rd person on the date. I'm probably not even giving my partner my full attention as I have an internal dialogue, me and the wine bottle !! The wine is saying, "Drink me, pour a nice big glass, you know you want me." And I'm like "Well, yeah, but I want to try take it easy, I don't want a hangover tomorrow." Then after Iv had like 2 glasses it's game over. Something changes and I can talk myself into drinking almost anything. Starting with my genuine thought of, let's take things easy, and my logical mind, I don't want a hangover. To suddenly I'l be into the rest of the bottle and already eyeballing where else the next drink is coming from. Something interesting on the AE, before I began, i tried the 'taking a break between drinks' prior to actually starting the experiment. First time ever taking a break. And what was more shocking to me. After my first 2 drinks, the 3rd just felt like I drank for the sake of it. I was drinking to get drunk. But will I be Able to transfer that same skill into my normal drinking life, and stop at 2?? Or will I have to be AF? This is my time to find out.
The saddest part, not giving my partner my full genuine attention and instead being focussed on alcohol. That alone surely tells me that I have some kinda issue.
Following the Alcohol Experiment was a game changer for me @FeelinFooFoo. Annie Grace has done her research and once you learn the facts and the tools she teaches, it's pretty hard to ignore them. I also thought I loved the taste of alcohol, but with a tiny few exceptions, I did drink just to get drunk most of the time, it wasn't about the taste. I just read her books, too and she makes some excellent points about moderation being a no go for her. Considering all the harm it does and how it can lead to the obsessive thoughts about alcohol and when you get to drink, I just don't see the point anymore. When I started out, I planned to be dry for 30 days and then go into moderation...but here I am, ready to go into my 5th month AF. I haven't made any statement about how long I'll be AF and I don't know if it will be forever, but I do know I am not ready to break this streak for a glass of wine that I'm not even sure I really want anymore.6 -
@FeelinFooFoo Yes, we are here for each other. And it is wonderful that your partner is fully supportive!5
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@lorrainequiche59’s post about “doing the work “ raises a question for me. Right now I don’t mind doing the work. I expect it to be work. It’s day 32, so very early in the game. But when, if ever, does it stop being work? Will there ever come a day when alcohol doesn’t cross my mind? I realize some people go to regular AA meetings years and years after they quit drinking. That sounds awful to me. Maybe someone with some years under your belt can chime in? Am I doomed to thinking about alcohol daily for life???7
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@donimfp, I can't speak to drinking, because I'm only on day 51, but one time, about 12 years after I had quit smoking, I was wearing an old leather jacket that I had owned forever, was standing there talking with someone, and caught myself fishing in the chest pocket for my pack of Marlboros... for me, quitting drinking has been harder than quitting smoking.
Keep fighting the good fight. I truly believe it's all worth it. Geez, I was killing myself with booze, so, yeah, it's worth it.
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PrettyJawLine wrote: »i moved to california and i started anew. i used to drink quite often in NY but now that im here it's as if i don't have the desire to. I have a drink maybe once every 2 months and it has really aided my fitness! I always have the energy to wake up bright and early in the morning. the thought of a hangover is horrible. who wants THAT!!!???
Right?! I had to get up this morning @ 4:30am to drive a few hours to an account out in the sticks... was thankful not to wake up feeling like $h!t... I could really get used to this. You know, even after just a glass or two of wine I’d wake up groggy. Don’t miss it7 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Hi Friends, I was reading LIVING magazine (Martha Stewart) just now and saw a great mocktail page. I think I need to be more creative and order some of these ingredients listed to spice things up.
Thanks so much for sharing this @RubyRed427 ! I enjoy mocktails.. especially ones with super healthy raw ingredients. Makes me feel like I’m fueling up my body and treating it well.
I wanted to share something with the group... I previously shared that I was a win-o and thoroughly enjoyed wine culture and how much I’ll miss that. I recently restocked my wine rack with beautiful bottles of bubbly grape juice and other yummy sparkling juices. I drink them out of my wine glasses and add various fruits depending on my mood. It really makes me happy to be able to keep that part of the culture of wine drinking with me. I’ve read/heard mixed feelings about “romanticizing” the culture around drinking... for me it’s important to enjoy my food and drinks and I want to blend in, especially with my friends who are still drinking, I wouldn’t want to make them feel uncomfortable or bad. I don’t see the harm in mocktails, especially since people are coming out with really unique, delectable and healthy kinds!
My question to you all... do you feel uncomfortable romanticizing the drink?8 -
@kevinrfletcher, thanks. I totally agree that fighting this good fight is worth it. I’m just hoping that eventually it won’t feel so MUCH like a fight.
Each morning as I drive out of my garage down the alley to the street to begin my short commute to work, I pray for the day to come. For months each prayer began with my saying “please help me not do this to myself again this evening. Please give me strength today in spite of myself,” or words to that effect. Now my prayer begins “Can You believe it’s Day 32?? THANK YOU!”
Yes, it’s completely worth it. I’m just hoping day 132 might be a little less of a struggle. If it’s not I’ll still take it over the alternative.11 -
@lorrainequiche59’s post about “doing the work “ raises a question for me. Right now I don’t mind doing the work. I expect it to be work. It’s day 32, so very early in the game. But when, if ever, does it stop being work? Will there ever come a day when alcohol doesn’t cross my mind? I realize some people go to regular AA meetings years and years after they quit drinking. That sounds awful to me. Maybe someone with some years under your belt can chime in? Am I doomed to thinking about alcohol daily for life???
I don't have years under my belt but I do know this from my own experience of 11 months AF, It does get easier, but there are days or times where it isn't so easy and I have to work at it. For the most part, this is my way of life and every time I successfully resist the hard times, it equips me for the next one. I'm thinking day 132 will be less of a struggle for you. You're doing awesome. DAY 32 Woo Hoo!!!! 8 -
@kelagurl I don't think having a creative drink in a lovely glass is romanticizing wine drinking necessarily. It makes me think of someone who is trying to eat mindfully and it is suggested to pay attention to your meal setting by making it attractive, actually sitting at a table and using nice dishes, even lighting a candle to enhance your meal satisfaction.
If it makes you happy and adds to your enjoyment of drinking something non-alcoholic & healthy then I say GO FOR IT!!9 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »@kelagurl I don't think having a creative drink in a lovely glass is romanticizing wine drinking necessarily. It makes me think of someone who is trying to eat mindfully and it is suggested to pay attention to your meal setting by making it attractive, actually sitting at a table and using nice dishes, even lighting a candle to enhance your meal satisfaction.
If it makes you happy and adds to your enjoyment of drinking something non-alcoholic & healthy then I say GO FOR IT!!
I agree! Why should those beautiful crystal glasses be reserved for a substance that has caused us pain? Our non-alc drinks deserve the royal treatment.8 -
There are so many different ways to stop, but I think fellowship means a lot ... getting out of one's self ... friends with the same mission mean a lot! Thank you for all your help8
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Here’s a positive for being sober: Last night about 8:45 p.m. my daughter calls and asked me to go and get her prescription before the store closes. So I hopped in the car and went. The bottom line is because I dont drink at home anymore; i can drive any time I need to. What a blessing not to have to worry “Am I ok to drive....?” Have a great day. I slept so awful; I actually felt like i was drunk and had a racing heartbeat, etc. Here’s to a smooth hump day! Xo9
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I am almost unpacked...one box of games & greeting cards which are just going to go into another container anyway so they can just stay put for now...a couple of pics to hang and I am DONE!! OH, besides having someone hang my candle chandelier which is very heavy...i have done it myself in the past but am opting for a big strapping man to assist this round...AND the infamous bedroom blinds need to be installed...I finally got the hardware couriered to me the other day. NOW, it is just a matter of waiting for help...another thing I could likely do, but will wait for a power tool...rather than my manual screw driver!!
Although.....I might try to tackle it this aft....we'll see...!
Yesterday was a day off and I got a ton done, partly cause I was up at 4:30 a.m. (I think it's my new wake-up time lol). I am off today also, but have several errands and it is pouring in my part of the world...I am so thankful AGAIN that I got in here early because if not, I'd be up to my .... in boxes still. I handed in my keys for the other pad yesterday so I'm officially living in one place...woohoo!!
You KNOW I'm thinking 'bout your upcoming move @RubyRed427 and am with you in spirit. AND yes the driving anywhere, anytime is a great perk to being sober!
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@kevinrfletcher I also quit smoking years ago and I agree with you; quitting booze is MUCH harder. Obviously smoking is frowned upon and there are fewer and fewer places to do so; it was just getting to be a pain in the caboose. On the other hand, drinking is glorified and expected, even though it probably kills as many people as tobacco. Go figure. I am so proud of everyone here. We are all doing the best we can and muddling along together.7
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