What nobody tells you about losing weight
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middlehaitch wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »gradchica27 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »ExistingFish wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
I have been having a quiet giggle at this conversation as I identified with so much of it.
Then, all of a sudden a light bulb went off.
@quiksylver296’s last comment explained why, for the past 3 years I have had a hard time finding bras that fit.
I thought I was a pretty conventional 32 B, C, depending on make, but the cups are always somewhere under my armpits, and I have no side boobs to tame.
What I realize now is that my frontage is a 30 B,C, but my back needs a 32.
Convoluted I know, and won’t help too much with bra buying, but at least now I know the why, and it isn’t getting old.
Happy that a small bralette is good enough for most days.
Cheers, h.
If I were in your shoes, I'd buy bras for the front and wear an extender in the back.
Also, all boob in the fron (vs the side boob thing) you might want to look into polish bras. But that being said, if bralettes work, just rock those. My boobs are all in the front, but when smooshed into a bra I swear they swim into my armpits. But I'm a 28F (UK) so bralettes won't work. I find Polish bras a good fit.3 -
Also, speaking of boobs. It occurred to me in the shower at the gym today that I no longer get a stanky boob sweat smell. When I was bigger, I don't know if it was my size or my diet, when I would sweat on my boobs, it would have a weird yeasty smell (no yeast infections or anything though). Like someone cooked yeast rolls kind of smell.
Haven't had it in a while, just noticed.11 -
I don't know if this has been mentioned (far too many posts to read!) but, not being able to shave your armpits properly due to the deep dips. I've tried and tried but can't get the razor head to get in there. Waxing is a must now 😩7
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I have lost 53 pounds this go around making it a total of 87 pounds. I have gone down several sizes. I still feel fat and have to retrain my brain that it isn't true anymore. I still find myself thinking I should look in plus sizes even though I haven't worn plus sizes for months. I still worry I won't fit in a booth, but I do and sit cautiously on fragile looking chairs. When I try on a 12 and they fit I think they must run large. I am still self conscious when we eat out. The saggy skin, at 64 it doesn't unstretch. Be glad you are young when losing weight. My tailbones hurt more when I ride my bike and I am looking for padded bike shorts. I am cold most of the time. People are nicer. That kind of ticks me off because I am the same person. Those are the not so good things.
The good things, I can feel all my bones. I love the gym and being active. I am starting to love shopping for clothes when before I hated it. I can layer and not look like a stuffed sausage. My joints don't hurt like they used to and I am stronger making work easier. I am an inspiration for those who think they are too old to lose weight. I am starting to recognize myself in the mirror.
I sometimes think I would like to wear my old body for 10 minutes to just remind me of then and now since I have so few pictures and sometimes can't remember. The few pictures I have I can't believe I got that heavy and was still able to be in denial. I am now concentrating on the many positive things and trying to retain my brain to have a better self image then it is used to. After all, I was obese for over 40 years and it has to adjust to the new us.35 -
I sometimes think I would like to wear my old body for 10 minutes to just remind me of then and now since I have so few pictures and sometimes can't remember. The few pictures I have I can't believe I got that heavy and was still able to be in denial. I am now concentrating on the many positive things and trying to retain my brain to have a better self image then it is used to. After all, I was obese for over 40 years and it has to adjust to the new us.
OMG - if I had to wear my old body for 10 minutes a day, I would NEVER gain another pound back... I can remember with my mind that it hurt to just put my feet on the ground in the morning - but, I can't REALLY remember, how awful it was, how invisible I was to the rest of the human race. Perhaps I will have to spend a few moments a day thinking about it... it's just too easy to forget.21 -
sjadev1108 wrote: »-Sometimes this journey is lonely as you realize the people you were around before are negative and subconsiously liked you fat, so you removed yourself.....or they removed themselves because hearing about calories, the gym and your success bothers them....or you just ran out of time to connect between the gym and the grocery and the rest of life.
This is totally true. I have one friend who saw my recent strides and successes and all at once committed herself to eat well and going to the gym... A day later I went to check in with her and she completely blew off the subject. Came into work a few days later (we work together, but only one day a week anymore) and she had polished off an entire jar of peanut butter and a bag of marshmallows in the five hours she was there. Sent her a recent picture from the gym and was blown off again. This friend is one who was all for having me around and talking to me about her diet when she was losing weight about a year ago, and now she's put it back on. I think she's the kind of person that likes to have people around that make her feel better about herself- whether it be because she's doing better athletically (not anymore) or for any other reason that appeases her narcissistic personality.
I do have another friend, on the other hand, that I've known for about twenty years who I fell out of contact with and recently began to bong with once again. She and I check on each other and our diets and talk about what we think could be hindering us if the scale stands still.
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SingRunTing wrote: »Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
This, this, this. I'd also taken the habit of trying to seek 'stress blame' and not just accepting that there were changes that needed to be made inside rather than outside. Still got a long way to go here, but definitely on the way up!4 -
I've noticed that the time I spend exercising gives me a lot of time in my own head which has been good at times and not so great at times. I'm sure it's good for me to have that internal reflection, and there are times it makes me feel great but there are also times I still get stuck focusing on the bad in myself. I'm hoping that time (which I didn't ever really take for myself before) will be helpful to my mental well-being overall. I've been fighting with guilt and anger for wasting all the years I did not taking care of myself and have to really focus on being happy that at least I'm doing it now.14
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alancorey1979 wrote: »grinning_chick wrote: »alancorey1979 wrote: »
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
For both I go up the stairs at work. Good days its 32 flights, bad days as high as 45. And to help sleep I lift for about an hour and a half 3x a week and walk every night. Helps that I get to eat more too.1 -
How cold it gets. I have to sit in my car during lunch to thaw out before I head back to work. How you lose people along the way because they're not willing to adapt to your lifestyle. Not asking them to diet or exercise with me but respect that there are things I am trying to avoid in this journey and offering every weekend to do the same thing I have refused before will not make me change my mind.11
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I am teally looking forward to losing weight the only time I losr weight is when I am ill.7
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I sometimes think I would like to wear my old body for 10 minutes to just remind me of then and now since I have so few pictures and sometimes can't remember. The few pictures I have I can't believe I got that heavy and was still able to be in denial. I am now concentrating on the many positive things and trying to retain my brain to have a better self image then it is used to. After all, I was obese for over 40 years and it has to adjust to the new us.
OMG - if I had to wear my old body for 10 minutes a day, I would NEVER gain another pound back... I can remember with my mind that it hurt to just put my feet on the ground in the morning - but, I can't REALLY remember, how awful it was, how invisible I was to the rest of the human race. Perhaps I will have to spend a few moments a day thinking about it... it's just too easy to forget.
On this - my dog was bitten by a snake on a walk last week and I had to carry him back to the house to get him in the car to speed to the vets (He's okay now !).
Point being, he weighs 10.5kg and I appreciate he was more or less a deadweight in my arms, but still, he is 10.5 kg. And I only carried him for about a third of mile.
And people, it was hard !!
A couple of days later and reflecting on it all, I realised I've lost 15kg.
Try lugging a large'ish item a 100 yards - its kind of freaky !24 -
It's kind of a weird feeling, but I'm now skinnier than a woman whose body I had admired a few years back (we still work together). I wouldn't really say it's an NSV because she helped it along by gaining a lot of weight (she's got that "relationship weight" and is getting married soon). It took me a bit to realize that we had essentially flipped as far as weight. I think I'm just so hyperfocused on my body that I don't notice when other people change in weight, and it took me by surprise.13
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I love wrapping my hand around my wrist to check how much weight I've lost in a traditionally "bony" area. Used to be I could only just barely touch finger to thumb, but now I can easily get a grip around my wrist. I kind of obsessively do it when I don't have something else to do with my hands and I wonder if my coworkers think I'm weird during meetings haha.8
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RelCanonical wrote: »I love wrapping my hand around my wrist to check how much weight I've lost in a traditionally "bony" area. Used to be I could only just barely touch finger to thumb, but now I can easily get a grip around my wrist. I kind of obsessively do it when I don't have something else to do with my hands and I wonder if my coworkers think I'm weird during meetings haha.
OHMYGODS
...I have just experimented and discovered that I can wrap my thumb and pinky finger around my wrist. Easily.
I had no idea that was a thing.
Along related lines, definitely nobody told me that my necklaces would become unwearable with half of my outfits. I've somehow gone from needing extension chains on some of them to having even 16" chains dangling irritatingly low on most clothes. Who knew that you could store that much fat on your neck?!10 -
RelCanonical wrote: »I love wrapping my hand around my wrist to check how much weight I've lost in a traditionally "bony" area. Used to be I could only just barely touch finger to thumb, but now I can easily get a grip around my wrist. I kind of obsessively do it when I don't have something else to do with my hands and I wonder if my coworkers think I'm weird during meetings haha.
OHMYGODS
...I have just experimented and discovered that I can wrap my thumb and pinky finger around my wrist. Easily.
I had no idea that was a thing.
Along related lines, definitely nobody told me that my necklaces would become unwearable with half of my outfits. I've somehow gone from needing extension chains on some of them to having even 16" chains dangling irritatingly low on most clothes. Who knew that you could store that much fat on your neck?!
This! When I took my before measurements I was wondering why the heck I should measure my neck since there probably won't be much change there. Really happy I did anyways because I lost 1.5 inches around my neck!5 -
How cold it gets. I have to sit in my car during lunch to thaw out before I head back to work. How you lose people along the way because they're not willing to adapt to your lifestyle. Not asking them to diet or exercise with me but respect that there are things I am trying to avoid in this journey and offering every weekend to do the same thing I have refused before will not make me change my mind.
I haven't lost friends over it, but I remember how angry I was inside when I went home and my wife had got snacks that were totally defeating of the goals. She hid them in cupboards and drawers she thought I wouldn't see them. I realized one day that I had not consulted her on my journey and thus I shouldn't be angry about them. Ultimately, it was up to me to stay within my calorie allowance, get my workouts in, and then I would succeed. If I couldn't learn to live with those snack around then losing any weight would be all for not as I would undoubtedly gain it back when I reached my goal. That was last October, I'm over 85% if the way to my goal and have plenty of time a reasonable weight loss to get there.
I still eat snacks, drink alcohol, but realize it is about moderation and consistency. I'm generally happier overall.25 -
I know that maintenance requires continued vigilance. What nobody tells you is that other people think that once you've lost weight you somehow don't need to worry about exercise and healthy eating. Your "diet" is over in their mind. It's frustrating because the same people that were understanding about diet and exercise habits while I was losing weight now think I'm "obsessive" by having the same habits during maintenance. I realize it's taking them time to adjust to the new me.34
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Your boobs become half their previous size...just saying4
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