WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2019

@KJLaMore thanks for understanding. Kelly, the construction week sounds interesting and fun (?)


yes I was very stressed. good news though. I spoke to board members (including one board president) and they will make sure that our right to attend the meetings remains and is protected. there is an upcoming board meeting on Thursday. The governance in this school is that the board decides and the director executes what the board has decided. The directors are sometimes confused (or power-hungry) and think that they are supposed to be making the decisions. The school owes me 2 months back pay from an incident from 2017. I have written to them about 3 times since may asking them to confirm that - and they didn't ever answer while answering another question in the same mail. this morning I got a mail saying they would be paying me the 2017 back pay in August. my colleague says he things that's because they realise I'm not going to let them go. Another colleague was kicked out (just like me) but didn't stick it out, and feels really bad.

My friend, Shelley, told me about this discussion...think I'll hang and have a listen too.

Chris

I went to the dancing without DH and it went fine, though it would have been more fun with him. It's the last one before the summer break. The teachers are getting married during the break.
I will have to teach DH the routine in a spare moment. Unfortunately DH can't go dancing at the bandstand on Sunday evening as he will be travelling back from another cricket match. Grrrrrrrrrr! I don't think I want to go on my own as it's social dancing, not a lesson.

I'm more or less ready for tomorrow. They are not demanding guests. I don't know the husband very well. DH will be out until they arrive as he is supporting Max for his sports day in the park.

Lisa - I'm sorry about your water heater. An expensive item. We have a man coming about our thermostat on Thursday. Not cheap. I can think of things I'd rather spend money on!

Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxx

@coastalgosgal how nice that your DH is funny. Do you prefer him sans moustache or with moustache, or do you like the change. I can relate about the gym. some days I'm into it and others I'm doing 15 minutes of elliptical (plus short walk there and back) and out of there! There were big fights on FB during the last presidential elections here. I'm sure there was some falling out. I think it's easier to get into a tiff online (and on FB) than in real life. W/ a friend in real life we totally didn't agree and we decided to not go to politics often, as we quickly come to an impass, and we are too old friends to let that be the end of our friendship(so far anyway). I could tell he was just towing the party line and didn't really have a line of reasoning, so I chalked it up to traditional feeling of belonging (family party line or friend party line). On FB it's less nuanced and so public. you diss someone's opinion and it's not in the living room but online in front of dozens or hundreds of potential readers. The public aspect makes it so different. I don't post much at all on FB these days.

@1948Peachy I think I'm discovering how illegal things can be here. Sometimes I tend to think it's a national thing. Most people in France don't seem to bother about it. OR they complain but don't wish to act. I don't think most schools could stay so corrupt in the USA. so I would say that on average, in France, people are more willing to tow the line, even if it's illegal, more than in the usa. But then, no, we hear about all sorts of corruption in the usa too (think years of Harvey Weinstein enablers- to mention a non-controversial one).
I think things are quite old school here, sort of "old boys club" (even if some - not many- of the boys are women). Like I said, the phd student who gets scholarships, jobs, etc, is the student who sleeps with or slept long term with a very senior, well-known teacher, for several years, very pretty, and average level student.
Another top 62-year old guy got booted out with an inside scandal (but not public scandal) due to using the majority of the budget allotted for phds for his own projects and trips. This had a major effect on the school who lost it's partnership with a very prestigious partner. It may have come to light because he had also slept with two young women, in quick succession : one administrative assistant and I think a young student, and one was spurned and jealous, and so revealed some things, or maybe it was another middle-senior teacher fed up with lack of democracy and finances and denounced him.
Most people would not have stayed in the meeting when asked to leave, but I knew my rights and I knew I had some support from the teachers elected as board members and presidents, and I didn't think the direction would physically move me, nor even make a public scene as they would not have much support. Though it was not planned this way, I was probably helped in my resolve by having just learned that my colleague had been booted out. I was expecting a more than 50% chance that the same would happen to me, and I was ready and cool and peaceful as a cucumber.

They have given me grief off and on for about 5 years. (pervious to that all was fine). The new director was ill-advised and stood for an illegal position, and he has the unfortunate characteristic of digging his heels in even when very wrong, rather than recognising his mistakes. He's very well-off, and well-connected. During a long period (at least 6 years) the elected representatives at the school (board members and union members) weren't doing their job in this school, and were appeasing the direction, in exchange for favours or lack of threats, and so the direction allowed themselves more and more to do whatever they wanted. I read that the ministry said in the minutes of a meeting, that high level ministry official said that the boards (made at least 60% of elected teachers, administrators and students) are the decision-makers, and the director's job is to carry out what the boards decide, but that they have to remind directors of that repeatedly, as many try to affirm their will as a way to affirm their power. Oddly though the guy I the ministry who said this totally supported some very corrupt behaviour. I witnessed it 1st hand.

If I were 30 I think I would maybe move back to the usa but health care is an issue. it's low-cost for good health care here.

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Pg. 29 done

Well breakfast lunch and dinner with DFIL today. Glad I could be there.
I fewl.bad for Tom he has arthritis in his feed and had been taking high dose naproxen for pain and it started nothing his stomach so they changed it to gabapentin and he has been on it a week and it's not even touching the pain.so Dr said double up on it.. hope that works.. never want to see anyone in pain..
I contacted a few agencies one needs caretakers bathing toileting etc... not what I want to do
Will cook clean shop or take them to drs appointments etc.. so will go either thursday or friday morning to check it out and apply.. I need out of that dentist office toot sweet

M – am proud of you. I KNEW you’d do great

I’ve been in contact with the Newcomer group in Greensboro. Eileen seems to be having a hard time with the move from NJ to NC. I know the Newcomers really helped me. I figure if I get all the information, then I can just say to her “we’re going”. Or at least I hope I can! It’ll also be interesting for me to see how they are run. Like the gal said that right now they are on vacation. I wonder why we couldn’t do that? Well, I really don’t care at this point. I just go when I feel like it.

Chris – Keep coming back and you’ll see what a wonderful bunch of women are here. Feel free to just jump in if we’re on a topic that is of particular interest to you

Philicious – welcome! We’re glad you joined us. What part of FL are you in?

Michele in NC

LisaInAR wrote: »

Rita, glad you're ok!

Rebecca, glad you're doing better... You're such a lovely person, inside and out. I got rid of everyone on Facebook except family. And a few of them are about to get the ax as well...

Pip, I would like to be reincarnated as your dog. You give them all amazing, loving lives.

KJ, loved the steel tub, brought back memories. Enjoy your time with Joaquin!

Both scopes showed no tumors, no ulcers or ulcerations, no polyps, so yay! Biopsy results back in two weeks... But the doc expects those to be fine. So my earlier troubles were essentially a gut infection that cycled out of control.

Just exhausted, still, and my husband's been pampering me ever since we got home. Most unusual! He got to help the plumber install the water heater this afternoon. Expensive, but worth it.


Love y'all,
Lisa in AR

wouldn't that be awesome??!!!

Lisa AR- That’s great news.

I’m eating the chocolate bars tossed out at me.Yeah Hubby got 3 chocolate bars when I read what I was reading out loud Godiva brand the orange dark chocolate just ate it not that great like other flavors.Indigestion for it even JR turned it down he loves Godiva. So good thing the other 2 is regular Godiva dark chocolates. Huge headache went over my salt intake got to be more careful about that.
Amber Tx

Rebecca y Machka - Bet your right! Try asking your friend directly by phone .Some if the phishing ones take over the chat messenger even had a friend it sent me a message after she clicked a link y everyone litterely has a whole conversation as if she was a “rake” saying go to a 💋 XX site if you know what I mean.She had clicked something about college or student loans bam 💥 everyone in town was shocked 😳. Here it wasn’t her so was able to get everyone to understand she didn’t write it by posting my chat with the bot! Litterely it was me asking the Bot who are you to well 😐 ummm your not Ashley she’s not into Women sooooo who are you. It was writing back answers that didn’t match my questions.Cant remember how she fixed it tho.Machka if it is phishing y phishing bots how can it be fixed now of days?
Amber Tx