Things people say when you lose weight
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rossbaker2_sc wrote: »Lol someone recently approached me at work and was like "you must've lost 50 lbs by now, that's awesome"
I laughed and they started apologizing and said they just thought of a big number and sorry if they offended me.
I had to explain that I was within a couple of pounds of hitting 150 lbs of total loss
Wow! And by the way - congratulations on the success!6 -
Wendyanneroberts wrote: »Over time, I have had positive and negative comments on my weight & weight loss. I've learnt to acknowledge positive comments and "ignore" the more hurtful. Knowing that this is my "journey" on a healthier lifestyle, to benefit my life & my health. I no longer let these derail me.
Tracking & logging on MFP for 1,200 days. With a loss of 52lb and successfully maintaining (a healthy weight), for the first time in my life. But it's taken persistence and perseverance. A simple strategy (CI less than CO; weight loss OR CI = CO; maintenance) that works, but only because I've put in the work.
But the one comment I've heard the most, that really bugs me still is "Your so lucky" to have lost weight. They then proceed to tell me how "impossible it is for them to lose".
Blaming a long lists of reasons why. But don't want to hear "how" I've managed to lose. Preferring to believe its no more than "luck" on my behalf, rather than how I've put in the work.
I get that one from just one close friend and it still bothers me. She alternates between telling me I am "so lucky" and telling me I "definitely had a metabolism shift", her way of basically saying I didn't do this myself and counting calories did not play any role in it.
People can be infuriating. I try to let it go, but ugh!!9 -
"Really, 20 pounds? It doesn't really look like it."
Thanks.....22 -
I really don't understand when I say I'm eating a plant based diet people give me the yuck face.10
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Did you buy a bigger shirt?
Are you sick?
Stop drinking huh?
Humm I think I need to change friends23 -
I've had both good and not-so-good responses. One I get the most is that I'm skinny now and need to stop losing weight. I'm down to the last 10lbs, 90lbs down. My uncle recently told me I'm wasting away. I didn't appreciate that though I think he may have meant it in the right spirit. The skinny comment drives me nuts as I want to be slender, but would rather hear I have good muscle tone vs. being too thin.
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I remember I had several people tell me I looked, “disgusting” & “anorexic” when I reached my goal weight of 120. It was very painful for me to hear & made me super depressed. 😔 I started out around 300 lbs and worked really hard to get to where I was. It really screwed with my head because at 5’7” & 120 lbs, I was in the healthy range of the BMI.
I think some people carry their weight differently. While I was losing weight, I had a therapist tell me there was no way I was 200 lbs, that I looked closer to 160. She even went so far as to weigh me & she still couldn’t believe it. I think she thought the scale was broken 😂 I did some bulking of muscle & cutting of fat over a couple years & now look and feel a lot healthier at 150 than I did at 120. 💪😍 my endurance & overall fitness is so much better too!
Looking back, I can understand to a tiny degree why all those people said I looked sickly but I feel they could have expressed it in a more tactful way. Losing weight, gaining muscle, maintaining, & recomp is definitely a journey, not a destination, I’ve learned! 😁20 -
I remember I had several people tell me I looked, “disgusting” & “anorexic” when I reached my goal weight of 120. It was very painful for me to hear & made me super depressed. 😔 I started out around 300 lbs and worked really hard to get to where I was. It really screwed with my head because at 5’7” & 120 lbs, I was in the healthy range of the BMI.
I think some people carry their weight differently. While I was losing weight, I had a therapist tell me there was no way I was 200 lbs, that I looked closer to 160. She even went so far as to weigh me & she still couldn’t believe it. I think she thought the scale was broken 😂 I did some bulking of muscle & cutting of fat over a couple years & now look and feel a lot healthier at 150 than I did at 120. 💪😍 my endurance & overall fitness is so much better too!
Looking back, I can understand to a tiny degree why all those people said I looked sickly but I feel they could have expressed it in a more tactful way. Losing weight, gaining muscle, maintaining, & recomp is definitely a journey, not a destination, I’ve learned! 😁
TBH, I'd be quite surprised as someone so much taller than me at 120lbs, it sounds quite thin. It's 2lbs from underweight, so it is the thinner end of a healthy BMI, it would be like me weighing 95lbs. I'm saying I'd be surprised, but I'd never say such a nasty thing.
Definitely could have expressed their concern in a tactful way, the words they used were not appropriate to describe a person at all, even if you were underweight.13 -
I remember I had several people tell me I looked, “disgusting” & “anorexic” when I reached my goal weight of 120. It was very painful for me to hear & made me super depressed. 😔 I started out around 300 lbs and worked really hard to get to where I was. It really screwed with my head because at 5’7” & 120 lbs, I was in the healthy range of the BMI.
I think some people carry their weight differently. While I was losing weight, I had a therapist tell me there was no way I was 200 lbs, that I looked closer to 160. She even went so far as to weigh me & she still couldn’t believe it. I think she thought the scale was broken 😂 I did some bulking of muscle & cutting of fat over a couple years & now look and feel a lot healthier at 150 than I did at 120. 💪😍 my endurance & overall fitness is so much better too!
Looking back, I can understand to a tiny degree why all those people said I looked sickly but I feel they could have expressed it in a more tactful way. Losing weight, gaining muscle, maintaining, & recomp is definitely a journey, not a destination, I’ve learned! 😁
I agree, being thin and being "anorexic" are completely different things and while they might not have been completely out of line in getting a little concerned, as it sounds like you were close to being underweight, there are much more tactful ways to express it. In fact, depending on their relationship with you, the only tactful thing is to not say anything. We all have our struggles and for some, it's just more visible, but that doesn't leave people open to comment on it.6 -
The problem with you being disciplined and losing weight is that we become a constant reminder to everyone else that they are not being disciplined and losing weight.47
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I had several people tell me that I inspired them to make healthier decisions. That really made me feel great!29
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I get called an "inspiration" sometimes. I'm glad for that.
Some people act envious. One remark was a grumbled, "I think I'm finding the weight you're losing."
And then there is the teasing. "Your clothes are getting loose on you. Did they stretch out, or something?" I suppose it's similar to the joke about somebody getting their "ears lowered" rather than their hair cut, but it kind of ticks me off.9 -
As someone who doesn't make personal comments to anyone generally (other than maybe I like your dress or that's a lovely haircut ) I really don't like receiving personal comments myself. I find them impolite and intrusive. However, I did get a "wow" from a colleague I haven't seen in a while this week. I quite liked the wow.
She then totally ruined it by asking exactly how much weight I had lost.
The fun thing was I could honestly say "nothing since we last met".
I think maybe people you meet rarely (in this case once or twice a year) have a mental polaroid of you, and it takes a while for them to change the picture in their heads, which is why the comments keep coming for a few years, even when you're in maintenance.13 -
"You've lost weight, haven't you? I can see your face is slimmer." - My grandma.5
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MrsBradyBunch wrote: »I get called an "inspiration" sometimes. I'm glad for that.
Some people act envious. One remark was a grumbled, "I think I'm finding the weight you're losing."
And then there is the teasing. "Your clothes are getting loose on you. Did they stretch out, or something?" I suppose it's similar to the joke about somebody getting their "ears lowered" rather than their hair cut, but it kind of ticks me off.
That's hilarious! I would have told them, "Now it's your turn to chuck it to someone else. Hot potato." 20/20 hindsight and all that.13 -
I am reminded of my yoga teacher, who was from France - but nonetheless stunned me one day when he said: Some people have really fat thighs, some people have fat stomachs. Others are fat in the butt or have fat arms. But you are lucky. You are fat all over. LMAO. Thanks Francois...34
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Cbstewart88 I sure hope you quit that tactless SOB’s class and kicked him in the *#!!*#% before you walked out the door.10
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cbstewart88 wrote: »I am reminded of my yoga teacher, who was from France - but nonetheless stunned me one day when he said: Some people have really fat thighs, some people have fat stomachs. Others are fat in the butt or have fat arms. But you are lucky. You are fat all over. LMAO. Thanks Francois...
That is kind of funny and awful at the same time!
Actually though, my mom's sort of said that to me before too. "You may be heavy but it's well proportioned" was her usual comment, which did not offend. She was always the type of person to be really skinny up top with very large hips/thighs. Now that she's older, her weight's distributed more evenly.9 -
You look awesome! Hey skinny.
You're disappearing.I'm glad to see you eat food.4
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