WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2019
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Kelly - sorry to hear about Trentin, I hope everyone is ok. It’s a shame to lose the income but I don’t blame you. I would stick to my guns too.
I think any child in your home has a step up for preschool. You teach them so much.
Just read your update on Trentin, I hope he gets help fast.
Beth - Happy Anniversary! I hope your son’s home gets their act together soon. How difficult this must be for you and for him.
Terri - love the poem
Rori - we rented most of our married lives, when we first bought I painted our main floor trying to add some colour to my life. It only lasted for 2 years before I scaled it back and went with a really pretty cream colour. I found it easier to decorate and change my colours with pillows and artwork with a neutral palette. Now I have a grey living room that has been bugging me. I won’t be surprised if that doesn’t change before much longer.
Margaret - nice paintings!
Rita - I would be panicking if I were you. I am in a panic when I only have to wait a couple of days for a pay. No wonder you are in a funk.
Barbara - we need to do some major Reno’s to our 1970’s single wide trailer. Money isn’t there to do it though. I’m so sorry about Scooter, hugs to you.
Debby - prayers for your daughter that she gets away safely and finally. This brings a tear to my eye as I remember helping a very dear lady leave that situation and it was so tough.
Kim - I love genealogy, I had written a book with my cousin that just passed away. Another cousin and I are trying to get it updated now. The story tellers are leaving us in fast drives it seems. You are smart to stay out of the heat. It will be a few more weeks before we find out what happened to my cousin but her Aunt believes it may have been heat stroke. We are so cool here that leaves are starting to change colour and fall. way too early.
Babrbie - out tv and internet bill is considered our entertainment budget too. Very few opportunities for us to travel or do anything.
I worked on organizing my office today which took getting my supervisor organized so that all of the stuff in my office that goes with her new role was moved as well. I shredded 9 bags of old documents out of 2 bookshelves. Tomorrow I have 3 more filing cabinet drawers to go.
Tonight I went and printed some wedding photos off to display on my clean bookshelf. They will make me happy. I’ll share them in a next post. These are the photographers work.
My hip is in agony tonight. About 5 more weeks before I get benefits so I can start physio.
Tracey In Edmonton
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Wedding pics, my beautiful girls and grandchildren and one family photo.7
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Tracey The wedding photos are beautiful! What adorable grandchildren!! Your bookshelf will be gorgeous!
So sorry about your hip! I know you must be anxious for the PT.1 -
Michele and Tracey thank you!
Our carpet has no nap so it does not pill. I do notice when I vacuum it does fill the canister with fiber. I only need to vacuum it every two weeks. Only thing I spilled on it was water which I soaked up quickly and it dried fine.
Tracey love the wedding photos.1 -
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Tracey - love the wedding photos! Hang in there with the aching hip, kiddo. At least there's light at the end of the tunnel.
Carol - many good thoughts for your brothers-in-law. So hard to watch family struggle.
This is just me rabbitting on about the situation at work, which I woke up thinking about, so skip it if you're not interested.Again, just me putting my thoughts in one place. While I always appreciate y'all's advice, I will genuinely be going into this whole thing with a pleasant face on, and just let the chips fall where they may.
Woke up far too early (3 a.m.) thinking (OK, overthinking) the situation at work. Not to put too fine a point on it, I'm no supervisor's dream employee. At a lot of different levels, I'm ungovernable, which has worked out fine with my current director, because a) she's in Little Rock, and I'm 150 miles away, and b) she's able to ask me, "What support do you need from my level?" and then immediately follow through, and she leaves me alone to get on with my work. We get along great.
I have a bad feeling that I'm Susan's last option, bluntly. If she can't supervise me (which basically consists of leaving me the heck alone), then she's not ever going to be useful to them at director level. However, I've already butted heads with Susan. This would be because Susan used to be the grantwriter, and there are things she thinks I'm not doing the way she would do them. She's correct, but this is because she did them wrong. In some cases, badly wrong, costing the organization more in effort than the grants brought in.
Here's the kicker. I don't HAVE to have this job. I like having this job, but my husband makes enough, and we have enough in savings, that if I need to walk away, I can. I love my job, I love what I do--but won't allow myself to be made miserable. Period. Full stop. End of story. It would, however, be the nuclear option, and I'd prefer not to push that button. I will, if I must, and that's kind of my own ace in the hole (tired of metaphors yet?). I will put up with quite a bit--but won't allow Susan to treat me like she treats the woman who answers to her now.
And because, in the end, we all have to have a sense of humor about this:
OK, I feel better now.
Happy Wednesday!
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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Lisa~you have always come out on top and know you will this time too.
God has a plan for us all we just dont know what it is...but I have put it in his hands as how to deal with my future
Today is my little guys 2nd birthday.. gonna get him a pup cup(doggie ice cream) and let him celebrate.
was tired after our trip yesterday so went to bed early...and didn't go feed DFIL .. oh well I'm sure Tom took care of it.
will walk the boys and feed DFIL this morning..
just got a text from Tom and I am spitting nails.. they have the nursing home locked up tighter than king tuts tomb, and now they dont want Tom or I going into the pantry to fix his dinner,,
well I am going to speak to the nursing director and make sure he has a fridge and a microwave in his room. they cannot keep us from taking care of his needs as a family and if they try any shady stuff will make a complaint to to state.. don't get me riled up when it comes to family..7 -
Debby - It must be very stressful for you. I'm glad you could offload here. It is a very hard thing your daughter is going through and I wish her all the best. :flowerforyou:
Lisa - I know you will sail through all this. I'm glad I never had to work in an office!
Carol - You do have a challenge with a reluctant spouse. The only way is to work with it. I just Googled 'decorating for traditional rooms' and came up with loads of options. I think my favourite was bright white with one wall in a white and blue sprigged wallpaper. Fresh and bright, but went with the antique furniture.
I don't do Pinterest, or Instagram, but you could go that route.
I read maybe two interior decorating magazines a week online (for free usually). I love it. My problem is I have a decorating blind husband with conventional taste and I have no personal budget for decorating. The house we moved into is very, very 'tired', but I can't see much being done soon. In truth, I'd rather spend my remaining savings on cruises!
I just content myself with dreaming.
We watch maybe three antiques programmes a day together. I have fantasy houses in which I would put the favourite pieces from the programmes. One is my Paris flat, a bell epoque, high ceilinged apartment. One is my Manchester/Manhattan loft, all industrial chic and bare brick. One is my barn conversion. One is my extremely Modernist white seaside apartment with a huge terrace. And the last is my own house, Art Deco/ Arts and Crafts.
When I say to DH , "That would look perfect in my loft", he says "You've got no room left!"
One day I will win the lottery. :laugh:
I absolutely love the house we live in, but I feel very hampered by money/DH.
Cold here today. And rainy. I'm going to make a big chilli. :-)
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx9 -
Good morning beautiful ladies.I appreciate greatly,All of your kind words and sharing your experiences.And I’m sorry for what some of y’all endured and happy that you made it out.I have been watching my daughter sleep this morning,she came home last night. I know she won’t take the offer to stay until she can get out on her own.But at least she was safe last night.I grew up in an abusive house .My husband never abused me or our children,so it baffles me that she would end up in the situation she’s in.Prayers,hugs,and love to y’all ❤️❤️.
Debby In Va9 -
Tracey - Love the photos! So beautiful!
Okie in the TX Hill Country1 -
LuciBThinner wrote: »I can't keep up with you ladies!! I am so many pages behind it is ridiculous! I do want to say that you are all very lovely people, and I enjoy reading your entries.
Barbara I am so saddened for you with Scooter. My dogs are a large part of my life and happiness. I know what you are going through and it is horrible! I am saying extra prayers for you as I type this. Nothing prepares us to lose our dear fur babies.
I was trying to take notes to write to specific entries, but I have misplaced them now and at this hour (11:30 pm) my brain doesn't function well enough to remember what I had wanted to respond to. I know I have been enjoying everyone's pictures!
Pip Your bikini shot reminded me I didn't look that good at my skinniest in high school! Although I don't have any desire to try to get there again (my goal is 50 pounds heavier), it amazes me that you are in such terrific shape. Hoping your shoulder is much better. That break looked very painful!
I am fighting some physical issues brought on by stress and it is messing with my diet and sugar levels. What do I have to be stressed about at this point in my life?? Nothing really. I just was raised with issues that have never been fully worked through and I am still left with depression and anxiety that is difficult to control. Beyond that, I am daily grateful for my wonderful family, children and grandchildren and the beautiful little blessing due in December! Hoping to be able to get through my unkempt house before she is born so that it will be nice enough for a sweet baby to spend time with her Grandma and Grandpa.
Karen I, too, recently went through the colonoscopy drinking party...I feel for you! Icky, for sure! Enjoy the happy place you go to during the exam!
Debby So sorry your daughter and grandson are going through the awful time of getting away from an abuser. I have been there myself, and it is a terrifying and very difficult experience. I am sending prayers for all of you as you have a lot of emotions and extra physical demands during the process!
Thank you, All, for allowing me into your lives and having this great group! I had a brain injury 11 years ago, and reading/comprehension took the biggest toll, so as much as I enjoy trying to keep up, it is a lot slower and tougher than it used to be! Hope everyone has a lovely Wednesday! xoxo
Luci - in the beautiful mountains of NC
that shot isn't a very good one. I have a waist and that doesn't show it.. growing up I was skinny that pic and I guess my size now is what I was in my 30's when I used to be an aerobics instructor. I have been on maintaining mode for years now. I am here just to hang out. don't really have to enter any food or exercising logs really, but ehhhhh might as well4 -
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Tracey - Your wedding pics are lovely and heartwarming. Great memories to treasure. And oh, the grandchildren!
The wife of my friend with advanced lung cancer has put me on their WhatsApp group. We have exchanged emails.
They start treatment next week. She is hoping to get up to us in October if he is well enough.
I feel very sad.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx6 -
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Some of you may remember that I was trying to put together a list of quick stress relievers because I wasn't pleased with the ones I found ... ones which assumed that people had all kinds of time and could go off for massages and 3 week vacations and all sorts.
So ... this is what I've compiled so far. Feel free to make more suggestions!! For my list they need to be easily incorporated into a busy day.
1. Go outside. Fresh air and nature have been shown to reduce stress and anxiety. Get some sun. Vitamin D is a powerful mood booster.
2. Exercise. Do more of it to feel better mentally and physically.- If you sit a lot, stand up once an hour.
- Take a walk during your lunch break.
- Walk as part of your commute.
- Set up exercise equipment at home to be able to get a bit of exercise.
- Stretch to relax your body and mind.
- Try progressive muscle relaxation to feel relaxed from head to toe
3. Get more sleep.- Sleep mask
- Headband
- Earplugs
- Separated beds
- Hot water bottle
- Nice new pjs
- Lavender
4. Read a book. Even just a little bit on weekends before bed.
5. Pamper yourself: get a haircut, dye your hair, do your nails, try a new makeup.
6. Food & drink.- Drink green tea. It contains an amino acid that can reduce stress.
- Drink your favourite teas, but don’t drink caffeine after 5 pm. A flavoured chamomile is relaxing.
- Eat some antioxidant-rich dark chocolate to lower stress hormones in your body. Honey and mangoes are also supposed to be stress-relieving foods.
- Get more omega-3’s from sources like salmon and avocado. They can reduce stress and anxiety for people who like them.
- Bake something nice … like lava cake which takes about 30 min to make in total.
7. Relax.- Rub your feet over a golf ball or other textured ball. You can get an impromptu relaxing foot massage by rubbing your feet back and forth over a golf ball.
- Drip cold water on your wrists. When stress hits, head for the bathroom and drop some cold water on your wrists and behind your earlobes. There are major arteries right underneath the skin, so cooling these areas can help calm the whole body. Good for calming hot flashes too.
- Take a break from computers and social media for a day or two. Give your eyes a break.
- Try some deep-breathing and progressive relaxation exercises to start your day.
- Be Alone. Not everyone can get to a cabin the woods or an empty beach (as nice as that would be!), but five minutes of alone time can help you collect your thoughts and clear your head.
- Try a diffuser. Aromatherapy can be an effective stress-reliever.
8. Prepare.- One thing at a time.
- Write it down so you don’t forget. Use calendars.
- List of to do and list of done.
- Stop procrastinating. It’ll just make you more stressed later.
- Simplify. Get someone else to do it.
- Prepare for morning the night before.
- Avoid tight fitting and scratchy clothes.
9. Listen to music while commuting or working. The right playlist can boost mood and increase energy.
10. Talk it out. Sharing your stress with a therapist or loved one can be very therapeutic.
11. Pet or play with an animal.
12. Look at cat pictures and other cute animals.
13. Do a Crossword Puzzle or Sudoku. Brain games that require lots of concentration can help take our mind off whatever’s worrying us.
14. Hug someone. Studies show physical intimacy is a great coping mechanism.
15. Laugh.
16. Change the channel. Look at things from a different perspective.
17. Stand up for yourself. Sometimes we need to put our foot down and say, “I’m doing this for me.”
Machka in Oz6 -
Machka - a sort of pre-meditation works for me. It's what I use to lower my blood pressure when they start to put the BP cuff on me, as I have a little bit of white coat hypertension. I try to focus one eye at a time on the end of my nose, and breathe in for a long, slow count of five through my nose, and then long, slow count of five out through my mouth. Works every time... and by the time I've done two of those full in-and-out breaths, my blood pressure is where it ought to be, and I'm fairly relaxed. Easy 30-second relaxation technique.
Lisa3 -
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TV- I use Internet more so Youtube,Netflix subscription,y we have tv but I’m not big on that less education more girls in bikinis anymore. Daughter only has internet y Netflix she’s happy even downloaded any free tv apps to YouTube. We stream it to the TV from our phones even y internet.We only got the cable because it was included in the Internet y cell phone package free. Some like Hulu to newer ones. Hubby finds something cheaper he makes them beg for our Buisness.
Grandmallie- If need be do what I did bring stuff from home piping hot! Had to do that since they wouldn’t hand feed my churchmember she had zero family! My Aunt y me took turns brought her mash potatoes to soft foods. I even got her silverware that would have helped her they took it away! Didn’t have it they claimed.We kept her comfy when they tried to chase us off we stayed put until she died in her sleep a few years later. She enjoyed my Daughter visits the most y we brought her a stuffed animal 🧸 which her roommate stole I’d just take it back each time lol 😂. I finally bought the room mate a toy too she left it alone. I let her keep the Bear after she passed it was taken by the roommate the minute the coroner took her. Lol 😂 she had a shrine of stolen bears 🐻 so I figured write the roomie name on the Bear in permanent pen 🖊 let her keep it m since she loved them so much kept them so nice.
Michele NC- I never thought about keeping a wrapper to give him but wouldn’t help anyways he’d be too embarrassed to pull it out.Gave him a lightbulb once he wouldn’t take it out so brought back the wrong size 3xs said he wouldn’t pull a old worn out lightbulb in front of people! (He cares more about what folks think that he will admit by a lot) (I don’t care I’ll scratch in public come in empty my purse out on a self check out machine to get every penny to lighten my purses weight...that way I keep my bills! ). I got no shame lol 😂.
Colonoscopy lower y upper GI since I was born after talking to a Tech for it they said they push drinking it all down,but between us (lol exactly how he worded it) if you pooped yesterday y today you can get away with drinking half. It’s more to clear you out if constipated to do a full dose. 1/2 for a regular bowl movement regiment. I couldn’t stomach miralax but don’t see why it wouldn’t if it worked in the past should still work but some doctors check to see if you filled the prescription if Their buggers.
I also don’t look my best under weight
Look okay to myself at skinniest
Feel great at a normal range
Feel frumpy over weight
Baked skinless Chicken breast 4oz,tea 4oz,water,cornbread make with egg whites y unsweetened almond milk,Pam cooking spray,margarine y olive oil,a package of my favorite Idaho flavored potato mix like roasted garlic y parmesan. Hearty meal around 400cal very filling. Needed a home cook country meal feel today
RvRita- Been there had a job take
1 1/2month where none of us got pay think they held some back for when we left cause they were closing their doors making a smaller building move to save themselves after Obamacare act hit them hard (lost a lot of customers y couldn’t afford insurance for everyone in a tiny small population hill country town). Had another job keep making excuses I held on but only got paid $350 after full time no tips for months so walked out no notice because they never gave me notice that I was working for free! Hubby agreed walk out! Another Job payed me but then wanted it all back had to quit so I could spend my time fighting it because they would take it out of my taxes if I didn’t had worked a year there! Smallest towns don’t have the best jobs since regulators are in the big city who are busting their cities balls first.
Tracy - They all were so cute y beautiful dressed!
Debby VA - Abusers start off sweet y a dream come true then slowly sour.By the time they sour usually a baby is born which means leverage for the abuser. Every woman fear even if it’s not financial support is Custody battle with the abuser getting visitation without you present to protect them or the abusers family as supervisors since they will allow the behaviors even with them standing there. My rapist got partial custody so I understand those fears greatly he did hurt her. Luckily custody battle was over 3yrs battle the judge made it hard for him to see her. He never saw her again since age 7. My fear is her ending up in a bad relationship or a future grandkid since you never know. My husband in my 30’s turned abusive at the end after I uncovered his secret life. The abuser may have been raised by an abuser themselves instead of being the victim was accepted taught how to abuse by an even sicker individual!
Amber Tx
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Terri: I love your poem. So well said, and I agree with every word. :flowerforyou:
Margaret: I haven’t smelled perfume on anyone in a long time. My deodorant is even unscented. I think you are wise to minimize manmade chemicals in your life.
RV Rita: I am doing my best to stay out of the stress zone, too. My DH is also getting ready for surgery. Sending good thoughts your way. :flowerforyou:
Pip: Happy 2700!!! You are a star!
Yvonne in TX: You seem to be doing very well. WTG!!! I’ve had to take myself off of alcohol because I don’t manage it well. One leads to another. I don’t get loaded. I get memory problems and my weight goes up like a rocket.
Beth: The chicken pozole salad looks wonderful!! YUM!
KJ: I’ll be putting Trenton in my thoughts and prayers. I hope they’re able to get to the bottom of the problem and help him to feel better. I think your suspicion of the meds is likely spot on.
Rori: Post pics when you can.
Meg from Omaha: I’m glad you had a good trip and a good visit with Rori and your DH. :flowerforyou:
Barbara: I’m so sorry to her that you will have to say goodbye to Scooter. Losing a fur-baby is so hard and heart wrenching.
Karen in VA: You are correct that colonoscopy prep is wretched. Been there, done that, and I don’t have to do it again for a while. Thank goodness! DH went through it recently. His insides are healthy. Now he needs to see about back surgery. Poor guy. :ohwell:
I haven’t seen all the posts, but DH needs my attention, so I will have to come back later. Have a great day.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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