The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Drinking definitely causes anxiety for me, also, even though the lying alcohol promises me it will "cure" the anxiety. My goal is to find healthful ways to reduce stress and anxiety. Meditation does help. For me, floating in the cool river is about the best remedy. Alcohol is NOT it, but it sure is tempting.
@FeelingFooFoo, my ex-husband did a PhD at University of Edinburgh, so I got to spend 4 years there. We even adopted a wee Scottish red-headed boy while there. He's now 36 and has a good ol' Texas twang instead of the adorable accent he had when we met him at age 6. Enjoy the Festival! What an amazing time to be there. I'm sure there will be lots of AF options, too.6 -
I'm cool as a cucumber when the alcohol is in me but as it starts to burn off I'm a nervous,shaky mess! After awhile off it anxiety tends to fade away4
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nighthawk584 wrote: »Facing my anxiety now without alcohol as a crutch, is a powerful & proud feeling.
Good for you!!! Yes it is empowering to gain control over something we never thought we'd be able to control. I need to apply this to my eating issue!!!! Is there specific ways that you cope with your anxiety now that you've stopped masking it with alcohol?4 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »nighthawk584 wrote: »Facing my anxiety now without alcohol as a crutch, is a powerful & proud feeling.
Good for you!!! Yes it is empowering to gain control over something we never thought we'd be able to control. I need to apply this to my eating issue!!!! Is there specific ways that you cope with your anxiety now that you've stopped masking it with alcohol?
Believe me, I had/have an eating issue too! I still take one pill that levels my brain chemistry out, but does not affect my everyday functions and does not ZONK me out. I was drinking 2-3 drinks plus taking meds per day just to leave my house. It hasn't been easy and I still struggle every day, but am gaining more confidence with getting my body back in shape and that is my focus. I was 280 last April and am now 217.8 as of today. I wish there was an easy answer to tell you. One step, one calorie, ONE DAY at a time.4 -
@FeelinFooFoo I was wondering if you've ever really observed others who are drinking when you are not. The reason I ask that is because this round of being around others' drinking while sober, I wasn't so focused on my end of things as to how I was going to resist the plentiful drinks, but on how it was influencing others to act and trying to notice if their drinking was making the evening more fun for them and to be honest, I do not think that to be true in any way...in fact, at times, I would notice someone who was quite inebriated looking at me, but it was as though they were trying really hard to focus and I tried to remember that feeling of being "out of it", but pretending I wasn't "out of it". One thing that really stood out to me in particular is the vulgar language coming from someone who normally wouldn't speak that way and it was just so unattractive. There were a lot of fun moments, but they were interspersed with some very inappropriate behavior that clouded the fun. There was not one moment when I wished I was free to do what they were AKA overdrinking!! In fact, it only served to reinforce my commitment to remain AF.
I also believe that my sobriety is helping with my grief in ways that alcohol just is not capable of doing...in fact, alcohol delays the grief and just adds another layer to other unresolved grief....and then we become like rats on a wheel, slowly...or quickly...spinning out of control...
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@FeelinFooFoo Forgot my suggestion to you in the blurb above LOL If you decide to remain AF for your bro's b'day, try really watching people as the alcohol takes effect....it could be an eye-opener for you and you might begin to think of the connection of alcohol to specific events as less of a temptation for you...it's worth a try.3
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Morning friends,ugh Lorraine,you probably wouldn't like to be around me in real life cuz I cuss like a sailor even without alcohol 😆 I hafta catch myself when I'm cutting hair cuz I just say whatever sometimes,no bueno! FeelingFooFoo, I think when you did the AE it really opened your eyes on the alcohol and how to avoid it,seems like you're really thinking things through when it comes to al,that's great! On the AA post yesterday I have tried it a few times, it's just not for me but I'm glad some people love to go,I have nothing against anything that works to stop drinking! Wishes for a fabulous AF day for us all💗3
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I love reading all of your comments and I agree with them!
Last night I went to bed early around 10 o’clock on a Saturday night. I had my window open and throughout the night I heard different young people arrive home probably from a night out on the town. I felt like the mother in the shoe listening. At about 3 AM I heard a couple of guys come from an Uber I I assume, because they stated how expensive that ride was. And then they all laughed and said they sure wish they could have some Taco Bell now.The irony is I was totally sober but up all night because of drinking.4 -
Morning friends, RubyRed sorry your sleep was messed up cuz of noisy drunks! A few Christmas eves ago our then neighbors pulled an all nighter (thought makes me cringe) they were so loud out in their garage drinking all night! Loud,none of us got much sleep so I feel for you,first day of school already today here in Vegas,I can't believe it! Feeling FooFoo,yep lots of new adventures AF are indeed possible ❤️ waves to all and wishes for a happy and healthy AF day3
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Hi Everyone: I'm feeling blah...no comments from me other than that...this too shall pass...I feel kinda numb...who needs alcohol?? LOL I'm naturally numb today... No alcohol needed. Just remembered I have AA tonight. Don't want to go but AM going!! So much for no comments from moi eh?......
Hope all's well with all here5 -
Hey there! Today my dissolution was granted. Husband was gracious and kind; we didn't cry which is good. I noticed he wore a blue shirt which is my fav color. I'm just sitting here alone tonight (not lonely) but feel like "now what?" Luckily my parents, daughter and German relatives are headed to Niagara Falls for two days. That will take my mind off of my new reality. School starts Monday again. I think I am looking forward to it! I want to get back to normal living where there are routines. I'll start Monday taking care of myself more health wise. I am feeling blah too @lorrainequiche59.6
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@RubyRed427 and @lorrainequiche59 I feel blah too. Maybe it's the end of summer blues. I am also going to re-commit myself to better eating and exercise. I found a 15 minute quick workout on demand last night and forced myself to do it even though I didn't want to and guess what? I felt better after. It's no myth exercise makes us feel better emotionally. I have been more off the wagon than on and that's going to end too. I'm tired of this broken record of drinking, guilt, depression repeat. I KNOW I feel better when I've been sober. Just taking it one day at a time.6
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@RubyRed427 and @lorrainequiche59 I feel blah too. Maybe it's the end of summer blues. I am also going to re-commit myself to better eating and exercise. I found a 15 minute quick workout on demand last night and forced myself to do it even though I didn't want to and guess what? I felt better after. It's no myth exercise makes us feel better emotionally. I have been more off the wagon than on and that's going to end too. I'm tired of this broken record of drinking, guilt, depression repeat. I KNOW I feel better when I've been sober. Just taking it one day at a time.
Hang in there Jen! You are back on track and take one day at a time ! ❤️2 -
End of summer blues here too, seems like it all just flew by! Jen yep take it one day at a time and it will fall into place,that's really all we can do❤️ waves to all and I hope we all have a nice AF day!3
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Prosecco isn’t my favorite - it’s too sweet. But I’m happy you did what you felt in your heart and didn’t overdo.
This morning I sit at my hotel
Window looking at the Canadian Falls. Wishing all a happy sober day!
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Ruby what an amazing picture! Just beautiful!
We went out with another couple last night. Both the men had one beer each and the women had water only. When we got home my husband told me he was proud of me and wished he hadn't had even that one beer. I'm on day 3 and feeling strong. My skin already looks better than it did 3 days ago so that is encouraging. Have a great AF day, Everyone!8 -
Morning friends,woo hoo Jen on just having water❤️ don't you sometimes feel you can hang with drinkers and still have just as much fun? I was hanging with my mom and laughing just as much or more than her while she was drinking and I was just hanging, FeelingFooFoo,I've never had prosecco but I relate to your past behavior of eyeballing to see how much is left😵 RubyRed you're taking your divorce great and I admire your strength! Waves to the rest of the crew and wishes for a great AF day for us all!5
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Checking in this week. 121 days alcohol free. Thinking of dropping the THC. I need to get things right in my mind because even though I'm sober, I feel like something's not right. I just can't feel positive or happy about myself. Annoyingly unfulfilling days lately despite being sober, alcohol free and moving in a good direction. I want the right things, but I just feel really numb, depressed and I have no energy all the time. I don't even have energy for lazy things, it feels like I have zero strength. I've been drinking tons of caffeine and relying on it, maybe I should drop the caffeine too and see if that helps. I feel like I need to be addicted to something, so I'd really like that to be exercise and health.8
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@IWillTakeBackMyLife, from personal experience I can tell you that a good therapist with whom you “click” can be an extremely valuable resource for helping you sort out your feelings and issues. If you haven’t already done so I hope you will consider this. You deserve your best life.7
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@IWillTakeBackMyLife You sound clinically depressed. Please speak to your dr about anti depressants. They are so helpful for so many people, including me. I'm so proud of you for staying off the booze. We are here for you.4
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