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isalsayourface123 wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
I don't know. I think personal stuff shouldnt be shared. Theres just some things that should stay private. Is it wrong to walk around smiling and laughing and sharing things about my kids that I love or appreciate? Do I really need to announce my recent break up...is it ok to post things that bring a smile to my face?
Not sure if this makes sense.
I don't want people to announce every break up and air their dirty laundry. That stuff IS private. I also live seeing people be positive and find the good even in a crappy situation, but that is not how most people behave. Most people either post only the bad and negative or post only the stuff that makes them appear to be perfect.
I am not judging anyone, post what you want when you want and I will either follow or not. I just wish that people would look at the impact they have. Social media is very powerful and is doing a lot of damage.0 -
Tinydancer106 wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
i dont update my Facebook but i’m on there a lot bc of some work i do and theyre definitely pretty pics of unpretty lives
i thought on that a lot, but idk like maybe people are struggling and they see those accts as like a old school photo album of the things they want to remember, like ya, they had a *kitten* day and fought with their SO and got yelled at by their boss but this one good thing happened they are thankful for so they post that bc that’s what they want to remember, and it got nothing to do with looking good for their friends
if that’s true it’s kind of admirable to have a dumpster fire of a life going on in the background and focus on the pretty sunset kwim?
I don't use FB that much, mostly to keep in contact with friends and family. I don't post alot of my pictures but I do take alot of more pictures lately especially with my kids, friends and family. Memories...I don't know how long I'll be around, hopefully for a long time but who knows. For the things I do post, it's not to pretend I have the perfect life or anything, I post them because at that moment I felt very happy with people I love, happy moments haven't happened to me alot lately. As for selfies... I take a bit more of those too lately while I still have my eyelashes and eyebrows 😂 If people don't like seeing it or reading my story they can just unfollow 🤷♀️ People on my FB and IG know damn well that my life isn't always rainbows and sunshines.
I do understand the other side of social media though. As for example: A friend of mine will post things about her husband and pictures and they seem so happy on those pictures but I know her relationship is a wreck... but it's none of my business and whatever makes her happy and feel good is ok with me, it just makes me sad that she's so unhappy and tries to hide it because she deserves so much better.
I get this!! I stopped face book many years ago....for many reasons and I dont know...while I enjoy the fun comradaries and silliness here I so do not miss any other means of social media...MFP with all its perks and bugs is just my cuppa tea....i was looking at my sisters FB page the other day and it was like a big reminder of why I am glad I left all that chaos behind.....😳🙄🤐🤷💜💜💜
Thanks for making social media fun boo!😘💜
I have a Facebook account purely for the cat page I am a part of because it is just so wholesome. I literally have no other interaction on there.
IG is for keeping up with my pals from uni who have moved back to their home countries.
In terms of activity, mfp is the only thing I actually enjoy and don't come away from riddled with anxiety 😂1 -
LiftingSpirits wrote: »isalsayourface123 wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
I don't know. I think personal stuff shouldnt be shared. Theres just some things that should stay private. Is it wrong to walk around smiling and laughing and sharing things about my kids that I love or appreciate? Do I really need to announce my recent break up...is it ok to post things that bring a smile to my face?
Not sure if this makes sense.
I don't want people to announce every break up and air their dirty laundry. That stuff IS private. I also live seeing people be positive and find the good even in a crappy situation, but that is not how most people behave. Most people either post only the bad and negative or post only the stuff that makes them appear to be perfect.
I am not judging anyone, post what you want when you want and I will either follow or not. I just wish that people would look at the impact they have. Social media is very powerful and is doing a lot of damage.
I completely get what you are saying. Not even really sure what I was trying to say😬1 -
George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
Nah, not corrected. You are entitled your opinion and I understand it. I have been seeing the wider impact. I DO want people to do what makes them happy, but there is a lot more to it than that in my mind. WHY does it make them happy in certain situations? I also think there is a big difference between posting the good and posting what you are trying to play off as good (ex: my man bought me flowers every week for a month, buuuuuuuut I won't tell you it is because he knocked up the babysitter).
I could write a novel on this, but I won't bore everyone.
There's a lot of this right here on mfp 🤐
Damn like straight up knocked up, or computer love knocked up 😂3 -
I think of marriage and think of maybes, I don’t knows. I’m unsure if I’d want to do it all over again. I do know I’m ready to mingle and laugh at the nonsense or embrace what feels comfortable.
I can’t believe how many years, I placed others feelings before my own needs. I’m finding the importance in teaching my children, to set boundaries (in friendships and relationships) for hopes of not having to sort that out, as an adult.4 -
eatpolerepeat wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
Nah, not corrected. You are entitled your opinion and I understand it. I have been seeing the wider impact. I DO want people to do what makes them happy, but there is a lot more to it than that in my mind. WHY does it make them happy in certain situations? I also think there is a big difference between posting the good and posting what you are trying to play off as good (ex: my man bought me flowers every week for a month, buuuuuuuut I won't tell you it is because he knocked up the babysitter).
I could write a novel on this, but I won't bore everyone.
There's a lot of this right here on mfp 🤐
Damn like straight up knocked up, or computer love knocked up 😂
Lots of epregnancies 😏
So the lost boys, must be those emails that didn’t make it 😂😂5 -
I go on fb literally once a day and that's at night when I'm in bed and I go through all my apps. I started watching Limetown last night. Hooked! That is the only reason how I will spend more than 2 minutes on it now.2
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Lol not specifically that, just that kind of shadyness3
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
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laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
Maybe it’s because I’m actually friends with my people on Facebook, but i am willing to cut them slack I don’t give to strangers. And they do the same for me. If I post something stupid or whatever they know me and know my intentions and they are willing to overlook my foibles. I may be a jerk sometimes but I’m THEIR jerk. Yes, now I’m typing it out I see it really comes down to relationships.5 -
eatpolerepeat wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
Nah, not corrected. You are entitled your opinion and I understand it. I have been seeing the wider impact. I DO want people to do what makes them happy, but there is a lot more to it than that in my mind. WHY does it make them happy in certain situations? I also think there is a big difference between posting the good and posting what you are trying to play off as good (ex: my man bought me flowers every week for a month, buuuuuuuut I won't tell you it is because he knocked up the babysitter).
I could write a novel on this, but I won't bore everyone.
There's a lot of this right here on mfp 🤐
Damn like straight up knocked up, or computer love knocked up 😂
Lots of epregnancies 😏
😂😂😂 you're awesome .. So stealing this one beautiful😜🙌1 -
laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
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George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
Nah, not corrected. You are entitled your opinion and I understand it. I have been seeing the wider impact. I DO want people to do what makes them happy, but there is a lot more to it than that in my mind. WHY does it make them happy in certain situations? I also think there is a big difference between posting the good and posting what you are trying to play off as good (ex: my man bought me flowers every week for a month, buuuuuuuut I won't tell you it is because he knocked up the babysitter).
I could write a novel on this, but I won't bore everyone.
There's a lot of this right here on mfp 🤐
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Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤10 -
Monday Blues and thinking about the progression I have made doing Calisthenic workouts.0
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_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....6 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....
Yes.. I rather not open up that can of worms again. 😘7 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....
Yes.. I rather not open up that can of worms again. 😘
I'm sorry, I certainly dont want you to open that unnecessary can again. You just enjoy your day 💕2 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....
Yes.. I rather not open up that can of worms again. 😘
I'm sorry, I certainly dont want you to open that unnecessary can again. You just enjoy your day 💕
You too pretty lady 🤗❤2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Where’s the angry guy?
haha......
probably somewhere else, taking butthurt to the next level.1
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