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Lol not specifically that, just that kind of shadyness3
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
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laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
Maybe it’s because I’m actually friends with my people on Facebook, but i am willing to cut them slack I don’t give to strangers. And they do the same for me. If I post something stupid or whatever they know me and know my intentions and they are willing to overlook my foibles. I may be a jerk sometimes but I’m THEIR jerk. Yes, now I’m typing it out I see it really comes down to relationships.5 -
eatpolerepeat wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
Nah, not corrected. You are entitled your opinion and I understand it. I have been seeing the wider impact. I DO want people to do what makes them happy, but there is a lot more to it than that in my mind. WHY does it make them happy in certain situations? I also think there is a big difference between posting the good and posting what you are trying to play off as good (ex: my man bought me flowers every week for a month, buuuuuuuut I won't tell you it is because he knocked up the babysitter).
I could write a novel on this, but I won't bore everyone.
There's a lot of this right here on mfp 🤐
Damn like straight up knocked up, or computer love knocked up 😂
Lots of epregnancies 😏
😂😂😂 you're awesome .. So stealing this one beautiful😜🙌1 -
laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
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George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
Nah, not corrected. You are entitled your opinion and I understand it. I have been seeing the wider impact. I DO want people to do what makes them happy, but there is a lot more to it than that in my mind. WHY does it make them happy in certain situations? I also think there is a big difference between posting the good and posting what you are trying to play off as good (ex: my man bought me flowers every week for a month, buuuuuuuut I won't tell you it is because he knocked up the babysitter).
I could write a novel on this, but I won't bore everyone.
There's a lot of this right here on mfp 🤐
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Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤10 -
Monday Blues and thinking about the progression I have made doing Calisthenic workouts.0
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_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....6 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....
Yes.. I rather not open up that can of worms again. 😘7 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....
Yes.. I rather not open up that can of worms again. 😘
I'm sorry, I certainly dont want you to open that unnecessary can again. You just enjoy your day 💕2 -
r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Keep_on_cardio wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
The dark side of social media is the perception of perfection. We have all been guilty of it, even those of us who don’t have shame in posting the funny bad moments such as photos of toddlers behaving badly. From fabulous foods to glamorous vacations we all have been guilty of posting something that portrayed a moment of happiness within our lives. But the truth of the matter is, it’s only a portion of the story. The best part obviously, but that doesn’t mean our lives are always perfect.
As a society we need to learn to take social media for what it’s worth. Understand that behind the displayed perfection are flaws. I wish everyone would post a little more about the bumps in the road. We see all the fabulous moments, but in reality it’s only a snippet of truth. Behind the wonderful vacation was the hours of packing, fighting with the kids, delayed plane rides, rude locals, crappy hotel rooms. Those are the in between moments that we aren’t posting.
I mostly post articles about meat recalls and female orgasm but I get what you’re saying.
Then again.
If you’re going on a fabulous vacation and you’re complaining about the packing or the substandard hotel room, I’m going to think you’re an ungrateful brat. And if you’re my friend, I’m going to tell you so in as nice a way as possible.
I want people to express their joy whenever possible and share their sorrows as well of course. But we all need to extend a little grace.
That was merely an example but I agree that we need to be more balanced in what we are posting. Personally I don’t think using social media is the place one should seek out martial advice or air out serious personal life struggles. I find there are many people that use social media as a way to obtain negative attention and pitty from strangers by not being completely truthful about the situation to begin with. It all come down to perspective.
I’m not so sure if it comes down to grace for others rather than grace for ourselves. I feel that it may be our own expectations that destroys us.
I find it unfortunate, when we want to hold others up to our personal opinion on what to share and or not publicly. Some people don’t have the funds to see a therapist weekly. 🤷🏻♀️ Theres life blogs, therapist also suggest a pen and paper to write things out. I think there’s healing, in releasing real feelings and thoughts. The audience will for sure be a mix of DO NOT SHARE, the ones who pretend not to see and then talk about it with others and then there’s those who actually get it.
I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself when I share my marriage coming to an end, it’s not for pity or have people think I’m miserable. I’m not miserable, I’m happy within myself and have beautiful children. I’m thankful for the father of my children and I want him to be happy too.
I agree. I've been accused here of lying about my illness and I'm sure some people think I'm sharing for a pitty party (shame on them) but that's never been the case for me. I don't care anymore, those who choose to judge don't know me and don't deserve to. I share my story because sometimes it feels good for me to share it. I have a blog, I also share my story on my other social media sites and I've been told that they inspired people.
Some people rather deal with things on their own and that's ok too. But for me, finding out that my cancer came back and had spread to other organs of my body has been devastating and also eye opening to me concerning alot of aspects of my life. Yeah... I can get negative, who wouldn't. But I've had messages from people who told me that I inspired them and telling me that they're happy to have me share my ups and downs about my journey because they're going through the same things and the same feelings as I am concerning this awful disease. Me sharing my story with people is and will always be in Hope's that someone out there reads it and know that they're not alone. I am also NOT unhappy.... angry? Yeah I'm angry that this is all happening to me but I still wake up and try to put a smile on my face.
Eta: I am really happy that you're happy and decided to do what's best for you and your kids ❤
Some has accused you on here for faking your cancer? Even after all the gifs you post of you during treatment? That's one sad person....
Yes.. I rather not open up that can of worms again. 😘
I'm sorry, I certainly dont want you to open that unnecessary can again. You just enjoy your day 💕
You too pretty lady 🤗❤2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Where’s the angry guy?
haha......
probably somewhere else, taking butthurt to the next level.1 -
I'm always shocked at how cruel people can be.3
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GymGoddessGoals wrote: »I'm always shocked at how cruel people can be.
I only find myself shocked when it's the opposite actually. Cruelty has become the expectation.5 -
George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »GymGoddessGoals wrote: »I'm always shocked at how cruel people can be.
I only find myself shocked when it's the opposite actually. Cruelty has become the expectation.
Right?
just look at Germany in the 30's & 40's & Japan's lil' Imperial visit to Nanking, China around the same time.
also: Armenia.... Ukraine.... Cambodia & Rwanda (to name a few)0 -
It's the first time I stepped into the mall since I went shopping for the kids halloween costumes. It's Christmas everywhere 😮 Everything Halloween is on sale... hope people will like halloween costumes for Christmas 🤷♀️🤣6
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Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
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_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »It's the first time I stepped into the mall since I went shopping for the kids halloween costumes. It's Christmas everywhere 😮 Everything Halloween is on sale... hope people will like halloween costumes for Christmas 🤷♀️🤣
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GymGoddessGoals wrote: »_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »It's the first time I stepped into the mall since I went shopping for the kids halloween costumes. It's Christmas everywhere 😮 Everything Halloween is on sale... hope people will like halloween costumes for Christmas 🤷♀️🤣
I had never thought about that before. What a novel idea for my niece and nephews.
I mean..I probably won't get one for my mom 🤣 but my niece and nephew love to dress up, thinking making something fun out of it for them.3 -
_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »It's the first time I stepped into the mall since I went shopping for the kids halloween costumes. It's Christmas everywhere 😮 Everything Halloween is on sale... hope people will like halloween costumes for Christmas 🤷♀️🤣
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Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
You are just a dream. So kind and encouraging. Please share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Lord knows I've overshared on here enough times. You have so much to offer people and I know everyone here appreciates you ♥1 -
Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
You are just a dream. So kind and encouraging. Please share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Lord knows I've overshared on here enough times. You have so much to offer people and I know everyone here appreciates you ♥
I don't like it!
... not one little bit.
He's making the rest of us look bad.
although, to be fair, we were looking pretty *kitten* before he showed up.
okay... never mind
go ahead, mister positive..... sheesh; rub it in.5 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
You are just a dream. So kind and encouraging. Please share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Lord knows I've overshared on here enough times. You have so much to offer people and I know everyone here appreciates you ♥
I don't like it!
... not one little bit.
He's making the rest of us look bad.
although, to be fair, we were looking pretty *kitten* before he showed up.
okay... never mind
go ahead, mister positive..... sheesh; rub it in.
To your credit, you make me genuinely lol a lot!3 -
Pouches of food1
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Motorsheen wrote: »Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
You are just a dream. So kind and encouraging. Please share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Lord knows I've overshared on here enough times. You have so much to offer people and I know everyone here appreciates you ♥
I don't like it!
... not one little bit.
He's making the rest of us look bad.
although, to be fair, we were looking pretty *kitten* before he showed up.
okay... never mind
go ahead, mister positive..... sheesh; rub it in.
I hope you know how much I look forward to all your posts. They brighten my day. And you're better than you give yourself credit for. 😊😎4 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
You are just a dream. So kind and encouraging. Please share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Lord knows I've overshared on here enough times. You have so much to offer people and I know everyone here appreciates you ♥
I don't like it!
... not one little bit.
He's making the rest of us look bad.
although, to be fair, we were looking pretty *kitten* before he showed up.
okay... never mind
go ahead, mister positive..... sheesh; rub it in.
To your credit, you make me genuinely lol a lot!
Exactly. That's what I look forward to so much. It's fantastic. 😊2 -
isalsayourface123 wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »Hip_to_be_square wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »LiftingSpirits wrote: »CanesGalactica wrote: »Kinda sorta realizing how uninteresting I am and that that probably contributes to why I am so isolated and alone. I can't be like all those curated stories you see on Instagram or the super polished stories on Facebook. That's not the kind of life I have. I don't do interesting things and I keep to myself. Always have, always will.
The more and more I examine it, the more and more social media (not being social, but media that *is* social) bums me out. Most of it is fake or highly curated to omit anything negative. Sure, sure, the filters are fun and there are parts I enjoy (like hanging out and bullshitting here), but a lot of it is just.. well, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Social media bums most people out even if they don't realize it. We have a weird culture now. One I am not so much a fan of. I have friends posting on FB like their lives/relationships/kids are perfect when in reality they are a *kitten* show. And you know what? I love them even with a *kitten* show life. I don't know why they feel the need to pretend. It makes me sad. All the filters make me sad. When will who we REALLY are be good enough?
100%.
Social media has been bumming me out for decades at this point. I barely go on FB now and the only reason I have an account still is because I have family there and they aren't going to use things like Skype or aren't going to text me (different generation). Most of what friends/family post isn't terrible, but it's a lot of dumb memes or *ugh* political stuff and I end up snoozing people for half a year because of it.
Honestly? It's the inability of people to open up and ADMIT that their life isn't all rainbows and sunshine and to be okay with that. Only curating and showcasing the highlights of your life like you're in some sort of *kitten* movie. And what's worse is that I have witnessed the shift. I've been on and around computers enough to witness how the culture went from starting drama and creating a *kitten* show of "unfortunate events" to this wholesome, Country Homes and Gardens type magazine front. And it's all just that: a facade. They aren't fooling anyone except themselves, but they feel they can't be anything else. To be otherwise is to incur judgment and spite from your peers.
It's just.. yeesh. On the one hand, there are a lot of cool things about living in society today. On the other? There are so many negatives that I kinda just want to pack up and go be a hermit in the woods until I die.
Absolutely. It is so weird because on one hand you have people saying "It's okay to not be okay" and encouraging mental health and all that YET you have people trying to hide from reality and putting on these masks.
I don't go on FB much anymore because of it. I use it primarily to find out about events that I will likely never attend 🤣 But IG is the same way. How many people post the ugly stuff? Not many. The people who do are usually the type who find it impossible to find positive so they just get eye rolls anyway. I just wish people were more real. The fake ones make the real people feel incompetent or unworthy and that's so screwed up.
The fake ones are easy to spot from a mile away. One of my biggest pet peeves is when ladies have an Instagram account with almost exclusively selfie poses in yoga pants. It reeks of self-importance & is a total eye-roller On the other hand, airing the negatives of your life serves no positive purpose on social media. But you can still be authentic without being negative.
I disagree. Especially for younger people.... Not too long ago a very well known celebrity came out that she struggles with depression and it made a huge impact on young girls. Some people need to know they are not alone. Everyone needs to see that just because you are rich, famous and have a good relationship doesn't mean you don't have your own internal struggles.
The whole issue with social media is it makes people feel like they are the one with a problem. If everyone they know only posts the positive stuff and vacation photos they think that those lives are perfect.
I don't post a lot of negative crap on FB, but I don't post much to begin with. I am not talking about people posting "woe is me" but it IS okay to not be okay every minute of every day. People who are doing it just to show life isn't a fairytale, not the people who do it for a pity party.
Anyway, just my opinion
I stand corrected. I guess you can air some of the minuses without throwing the 'wow is me' pity party but just to be authentic.
I don't know. I think personal stuff shouldnt be shared. Theres just some things that should stay private. Is it wrong to walk around smiling and laughing and sharing things about my kids that I love or appreciate? Do I really need to announce my recent break up...is it ok to post things that bring a smile to my face?
Not sure if this makes sense.
Sometimes if you accidentally post personal stuff you can go back and turn it into potatoes3 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Spent quite a bit of time catching up a bit on this thread.
The conversation has been really good and I really appreciate how genuine the responses have been. It's one of the things I love about these forums.
I'm a simpleton and I probably idiot too hard at times for many people here because I'm sure overshare more than a lot of people prefer. I don't share for self-serving purposes and I hope it's never misconstrued as something I'm looking for sympathy/pat-on-the-back for.
It's taken me a long time to have the self-confidence to not only try and believe I've got any worth to someone else, but even more help others discover that about themselves.
I find it incredibly heartwarming when you all share more of your lives with me. I feel honored and it makes me appreciate you all the more that you'd allow yourself to be that vulnerable.
I totally get the perspective of not sharing everything and I agree. I also find to build meaningful relationships I have to be willing to step out and share part of myself and be willing to allow others to misjudge/malign or whatever may come as a result of putting myself out there. I know that's not appealing to some people and it's absolutely your right.
I know for me, it's a chance I'll continue to take to be able to encourage you. I hope you all know I mean that as genuinely as I possibly can.
Seriously, thank you all for being you. It's a privilege to share in this with you. I think you guys are all fantastic. 😊
You are just a dream. So kind and encouraging. Please share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Lord knows I've overshared on here enough times. You have so much to offer people and I know everyone here appreciates you ♥
I don't like it!
... not one little bit.
He's making the rest of us look bad.
although, to be fair, we were looking pretty *kitten* before he showed up.
okay... never mind
go ahead, mister positive..... sheesh; rub it in.
I hope you know how much I look forward to all your posts. They brighten my day. And you're better than you give yourself credit for. 😊😎
there you go again....
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