Serial Starters

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  • 1Whitewolf12
    1Whitewolf12 Posts: 6 Member
    Okay..gave up soda, cut back the chocolate. Walk 3500 steps everyday..and 4he scales went up! I'm on the verge of giving up but I just started 10 days ago. Just looking for quick fix and there is no such thing.
  • brennerjlb
    brennerjlb Posts: 720 Member
    Hi! TGIF
    Planning is all good until something gets in the way. Messed up yesterday as work ran long and I did not get to eat my planned dinner and then of course I eat the wrong things. Forgot Day 12 - practice hunger tolerance. I should've been more tolerant of being hungry.
    Did some grocery shopping - so I am planned out for a bit now for meals. Will try and stick to the plan.
    Hello WhiteWolf - you are right - no quick fix. One day at a time. Welcome!
    Hello Sara and Lana. Hope pedi was great today!
    CW 193.8
    HW 207
    GW 189

  • arniedog74
    arniedog74 Posts: 2,086 Member
    edited January 2020
    Hi all! Sorry I’ve been MIA...trying to spend more time building my Scentsy business...I will catch up on posts..just wanna share a feel good story...

    There’s a young man in our town that is a HUGE KC Chiefs fan (football) he goes to every home game he can...he has taken several of his co workers to their first game...this young man is very well known in the community..he sponsors dogs at the shelter I used to work at, until they are adopted and spends time once a week, with that dog... he is a very kind, caring, generous young man, with Down Syndrome. He has worked at the local Wal Mart for 20 years. He was at the AFC championship game, when they won the chance to go to Super Bowl. It’s been 50 years since they have won Super Bowl. A friend of his family, started a GoFundMe page, to raise money to send him to the game in Miami. Within 3 days, they met their goal. Today, he was surprised at work... the local, online news crew was there...they told him, that not only was he going to the game, but Wal Mart bought 5 tickets for him, his 3 brothers and his Dad! And, he gets to go to the Chiefs Super Bowl party after the game and meet his favorite players...Patrick Mahomes and Travis Kelce...I watched the video of them surprising him and I cried like a baby...lol...this makes my heart so happy...sorry for rambling...just had to share a happy story..
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    Dawn - dont apologize for rambling, that is a great story.
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    SATURDAY

    Good morning,

    Went to bed early and was up good part of night, so dog is fed and my alarm is set so I can do my Saturday errands, but I am going to see if I can go back to sleep.

    Found a cream of broccoli soup and will add some cheese to soup and add rest on top when hot, may save me some sodium grams.....

    Wave to all who follow.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member

    Good morning All~~

    Dawn - Thank you so much for telling us that wonderful story! I am so happy for that young man.

    Question for All:
    Do you want me to continue doing the Beck days, stop doing them, or change to occasionally posting a highlight? We are roughly 1/3 into them, and I don't think people are interested in having the content here. Be honest.
    I worry that it has chased some of our regulars away.

    Lana

    256.0 today
    255.0 "highest"
    223.0 June goal
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    edited January 2020
    Lana the regulars will come back when they want to, they know this is an open board and can post when they want. I have lost almost 4 pounds between keeping junk out of my pathway and using Becks book. Dont worry about chasing people away. They may just be very busy.
  • arniedog74
    arniedog74 Posts: 2,086 Member
    Lana- I’m not good at writing things down. But, I like seeing the Beck posts... I stop myself and think about eating, what I’m about to eat... I agree with Sara...keep posting...Thank you and Lynn for doing so...
  • brennerjlb
    brennerjlb Posts: 720 Member
    Hi!
    I too loved Dawns post! That is so great! Made my weekend!
    Sara - congrats on the 4 pounds!
    Lana - I of course am very interested in the Beck book. But also do not wish to have it be something that others aren’t interested.
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    SUNDAY

    Good morning,

    Up early so dog is fed and I will try and get more sleep.

    This thread is called Serial Starters - there is a FB page that is focused on Beck, but some of the people have been on it so long that their posts are also social, so I think we can do both. Very likely our other posters are so busy with things or their life is so complicated that posting is not possible. They may also be waiting to post that they hit a magic # on the scale so we can celebrate. It could be anything. If other people take one of the Beck habits away with them it may start a nice chain of change for them.......

    Groceries, no soccer, broccoli soup and the rest is unknown.

    Wave to all who follow.
  • brennerjlb
    brennerjlb Posts: 720 Member
    Good morning.
    Broccoli soup sounds great Sara! That reminds me I need to figure out what I am going to have for dinner.
    Have a great Sunday.
    Waves to all!
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    Lana I just got your Christmas card back as "undeliverable" - has your address changed?

    Lynn- I have English Muffins or Naan bread in the freezer to go with my soup.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member
    Lana I just got your Christmas card back as "undeliverable" - has your address changed?

    Sara - I am glad to hear that the card at least came back to you. I was sure it disappeared into the ether.....

    My address in NYC has not changed at all, but I am supposed to be having all of my mail forwarded down to North Carolina. That card should have come to me down south. However, all too often, the various USPS workers in NYC put things in the wrong place or some voodoo happens, and I don't get my mail.

    There should have been nothing in my NYC apartment mailbox when I went up these past two weeks, but it was full of mail. I was hoping your card was in there, but now we know what happened to it.
    Thank you for sending it!!! 😘

    As for Beck, we will resume our attack tomorrow!!! 😁

    Waves to All~~

    Lana
  • InspiredBrunette
    InspiredBrunette Posts: 43 Member
    Hey 👋 that’s me LOL
    Back for the third time
    In 2012 i lost 50 lbs
    In 2017 i lost 65lbs in 6 month’s
    Back in 2020 to reach my original goal of 120 lbs
    26 lbs to go!
    Add me if you’re looking for a supportive friend
    I’m in it for the long haul even after i reach goal! ❤️
  • Twiley510
    Twiley510 Posts: 377 Member
    Lana,
    Regarding the Beck process, I enjoy reading about it. I don't follow it, but I do have interesting conversations in my head about some of the topics you post. Thank you and keep doing it!

    I'm half-heartedly attempting to get my health together. Weight loss is needed, but not my focus. I have to start eliminating inflammatory foods again. My mental state is slowly returning to a decent rationality. Hoping I can begin again and actually succeed this time. Even saying weight loss is not the focus doesn't eliminate it as a goal or a measure of success.

    Quite proud that I "only" gained 30 of the 70 back. I have managed two New Year's in a row under 200 lbs. I have a conference in March and will see some ladies who saw me at my best. I have to try to get near there, so here's my lofty goal:

    HW 222
    CW 183
    GW 160 by March 12
    (Six weeks to lose 23 lbs. Got this!)

  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    MONDAY

    Good morning,

    Quick note, need more sleep. Finding myself up middle of night for too long.

    First meeting with Psychiatrist, hope it goes okay. That person decides if I go back to work next week.....

    Weight down total of 4.8 since taking medical leave and using Beck. I know its a combo of the two, but down is down and that is a nice change.

    Tracey! Working on it at any level is a plus, keep going.

    Wave to all who follow.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member
    edited January 2020
    🔵 Beck Day 16.1 - Prevent Unplanned Eating (pg 149) This is the NO CHOICE lesson.

    Beck says: "at times you've struggled when you were tempted to eat something you shouldn't. You probably had a dialogue in your mind that went something like this: I really want to eat this. But I know I shouldn't. But I really want it. I'm not supposed to have it. But I feel like having it! I know it's not on my food plan, but I don't care. I'm going to have it anyway."

    "This internal argument can create tension, which is emotionally and physically uncomfortable. You'll be tempted to relieve this tension by eating. Once you make the decision to eat, you may find that your discomfort immediately subsides--even before you reach for the food."

    "You can do other things, though, to reduce your discomfort. Just as deciding to eat can reduce tension, so can deciding NOT to eat."

    "Firmly saying NO CHOICE decreases both the struggle and the discomfort."

    "You made a plan, and you'll follow that plan--no ifs, ands, or buts."
    - - - - - - - - - - - - -

    Lana's opinion: I cannot prevent unplanned eating if I don't have my day's food plan already in place.
    It's important to do Day 14 and have a plan for the day, every day.
    Save daily plans that worked for you, to make future planning easier.

    We will do more on this tomorrow! 😉
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    Okay, Psychiatrist is nice lady who will sign me off for the next 8 weeks and I have homework to do which is fine by me.

    I got new meds I need to pick up and will pick up some chocolate chips to eat with bananas and peanut butter after dinner.

    I am just so relieved I dont have to go to work next week, but I do have to call my Sup and let her know.....

    NO CHOICE for me means I have to eat more dark greens and less extra food (think side of bread of desserts).
  • brennerjlb
    brennerjlb Posts: 720 Member
    edited January 2020
    Hello!
    Tracey! hello again and great job on the steps to get back to the right state.
    Lana - wow. Big one. I think of the unplanned eating this weekend. Dumb. Why? because it was there and yes I did all that rationalizing. Cookies in my coffee, they were good, but not planned. No choice No choice No choice. Here we go!
    Sara - Good luck! I hope the appt goes well. Even more important to feel good about this type of Dr. because your mental health is so VERY important!
    Welcome Inspired! You got this!
    CW 193.0
    HW 207
    GW 189
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    okay cant type and think at the same time - think side of bread and desserts.

    Unplanned days are dangerous for munching.....
  • hickchic67
    hickchic67 Posts: 802 Member
    Doctor put DH on metformin and told him to start eating better, less carbs, less fats. That is a big plus for me because that means a significant decrease in junk foods in the house. It also means I can cook healthier and he cant complain (even though i know he still will).

    This weekend was not great food-wise. I did not stay within calorie budget by any means. My next big step is to get back into the habit of working out after work, before I head home. I used to do it nearly every workday. I want to get back to that point. Have to make sure my leg and back are healed though.

    Scales ticked a bit upwards. Not thrilled about that.

    CW 168
    HW 216
    GW 150
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member

    Sara - I'm glad that your psychiatrist has you out for 8 weeks. It just feels like a change that you will benefit from.

    Kathryn - Ah, sorry about DH's meds, but you are right - now you can get the junk out and the healthy food in.

    Tracy - I'm glad that you could stop by, but I am worried about your losing 4 pounds per week. That seems drastic!?

    Lynn - I restarted my diet again today, but I need a sign that says NO CHOICE that I can print up. There's very little online in images....Can you make something for us?

    🏝The Cabana Boys are scratching their heads about the NO CHOICE. I'm glad that that doesn't apply to foot massages and pillow fluffing. 🌴

    Waves to all who stop by later on~~

    Lana
  • Twiley510
    Twiley510 Posts: 377 Member
    edited January 2020
    Tracy - I'm glad that you could stop by, but I am worried about your losing 4 pounds per week. That seems drastic!

    Lana

    TUESDAY
    Thank you for your concern, Lana! It does seem like a lot. However, my usual pattern is an 8-12 lb loss the first week. I retain a lot of water when I don't eat right. As Dr. Berry says, "They don't call them carboHYDRATES for nothing."

    Hopefully, after this week, I will only have 11-15 lbs to go. Off to a good start. Down 1.6 lbs since yesterday.

    SW 222
    CW 181.4
    GW 160 by March 12

  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member

    Tracy - you are right: that is funny about the carboHYDRATES!!!! 🤣

    Lana
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member

    🔵 Beck Day 16.2 - Prevent Unplanned Eating (pg 149) This is the NO CHOICE lesson.

    pg 151 Beck:

    "Sabotaging Thought: I deserve to be able to eat what I want.
    Helpful Response: If I want all the benefits of being thinner, I cannot eat whatever I want without planning. I have to make "I deserve to be thinner and feel good about myself" a much higher priority than "I deserve to make spontaneous choice about what I eat."

    "Sabotaging Thought: I don't think that I can accept the fact that I can't eat spontaneously.
    Helpful Response: I've been giving myself choices about what, when, and how much to eat for a long time, so it feels natural and right to do so.
    On the other hand I have to face the fact that spontaneous eating doesn't work for me.
    The more often I say NO CHOICE to myself, the less I will struggle."

    "Once I accept the fact that I have to give up spontaneous eating, dieting will be easier."
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    Good morning,

    Sorry I am late, dog let me sleep in. On new meds and soon the wee hours insomnia should go away. I am up for 3-4 hours.....

    Lana thank you for the Beck posts, my Psychiatrist knew of the Book and who Judith Beck and her father were. Much of her homework in along the same lines but exercise and socializing.

    Tracey keep up the good work.

    Will stop by later after some more sleep......
  • brennerjlb
    brennerjlb Posts: 720 Member
    Hello
    Was with my dad today at hospital. He has been having some afib issues so he had to get a heart shocking. He is terribly unhealthy. Diabetic, over 300 pounds, on dialysis 3 times per week because his pain meds and recent heart valve replacement killed his kidney function. So yah...motivation to use the NO CHOICE, but so very hard to see him failing so much. He is not doing his PT, he pretty much exists to go back and forth to different drs and dialysis. Sigh. Anyway...he made it through so one day at a time. I am only rambling about this because YES I will work out a NO CHOICE sign and try and post it here. Might not be for a couple days, will have to catch up at work a bit.
    Today was an unplanned day at its finest, but honestly did not do bad. I brought fruit along. Had a chicken salad at the hospital. They had the chicken swimming in some sort of sauce and then put that over lettuce, cabbage, etc. So it probably had too many calories and salt, but it wasn’t the worst choice. Likely wont eat much for dinner as honestly not very hungry.
    So anyway...I will chose to NOT eat what I want and to make it a no choice night. NO wine, no snacks.
    Have a great evening
    Lynn
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    Hey we got our ability to "disagree" again on the boards. Hmmmm....

    Lynn, do something for yourself tonight - warm robe, hot tea/coffee favorite movie - these kind of days are so exhausting they hit you at all levels. There are people who wont even go to appointments, so your father gets credit for going. How can you reward yourself other than food? Music/go out to see movie/pedicure?

    Peanut butter/banana and dark chocolate has become my dessert lately. Just is.

    Wishing all a good night.
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,395 Member
    WEDNESDAY

    Good morning,

    Up for dog will try and get sleep - new meds and I am not sure if I got any sleep last night.......

    Wave to all who follow.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,994 Member

    Good morning Sara~ I hope that you got more sleep for yourself. That's so important.

    Lynn - Sending you hugs for what you are going through with your father. It is very hard.
    Forget the No Choice sign - you have got way too much on your plate!

    Wednesday mornings I walk with the Meetup ladies walking group - time to get in the shower....

    BBL

    Lana

    253.2 today
    255.0 highest
    243.0 end of March goal