WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2020
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Rita - so sorry about the break-in at the storage unit! My sister's entire neighborhood got scrawled on night before last by kids spraying graffiti, including her car, as well as others, houses, RVs, fences, barns, and she's feeling pretty targeted as well. I have little sympathy for thieves and destructive delinquents--pretty much a waste of skin in my opinion.
Kylia - my heart goes out to your husband and to you. I can't believe you still have the Red Fairy book!
Thank you to whoever mentioned the Nancy Drew books--I read every one I could get my hands on! Plus all the Hardy Boys mysteries, as soon as I found those.
Also all of Louisa May Alcott's Little Women series.
In my mid-teens, a couple of coffee table books fascinated me, I read them until the covers fell off--one was Bloodletters and Badmen, by Jay Robert Nash, and the other was the same huge size book, all about the Hollywood stars from the beginning to the 1950s or so. Both were probably from the mail-order book club my mother belonged to at the time.
Also in my mid-teens, my father also went through an occult phase (don't ask, long story), so The Occult by Colin Wilson was one of many I read regarding Aleister Crowley, Madame Blavatsky, and so on. Not exactly comfort reading, but still, that's what my memory is dredging up.
More frustrations at work... so I'll spoiler it. Not the galloping never-get-overs, but not good timing.So... finished a complex grant that I've been working on for two weeks. It's due next Monday. Worked with all the directors, membership, program and volunteer, to come up with something that would work for the girls who can be reached through online means, plus printed packets for the girls who don't have ready access to the Internet in the more rural areas.
Sent the final numbers out to the directors, and one tells me she wasn't aware the cost of the mailing would be so high, and it wasn't in her expense budget. These budgets were set last year in August and September. Of course this is not in her budget. If we win it, it's being funded by a major funder because of the coronavirus pandemic, which did not exist last September.
What I've finally figured out is that the directors have been told that the only money they can spend in this fiscal year is money in the expense budget that has been approved by the board. It doesn't matter how many times I say, "But I'm also asking for funding to support the project," which will also bump up the revenue side, if it isn't in the EXPENSE budget for this year, I can't apply for it because they can't spend the money.
The shortsightedness of this is breathtaking. And absolutely hamstrings me for applying for any new funding that will show up in the same year. I can only apply for next year. This was not good to hear after hearing that 99% of everything I've already applied for is futile as well. (See last spoiler.)
My husband says, "Stop trying to get anything new for this year, then." Perhaps he's right. And perhaps this only upsets me so much because I'm seeing it as one last stab at fixing a year that feels wasted and useless, when we're just over halfway through.
Love y'all,
Later,
Lisa
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I am a wreck because my husband is a mess. His mom is on a fast downward spiral. She hasn't waken up since early yesterday. Warm thoughts from my circle of lived ones keeping us going. It seems strange to me that while her life is ending, everyday life just plods along....dishes need done, pets need fed, laundry needs done.... sorry....You all really have helped!
Red fairy book- I own! A little worse for wear, but well read. My favorite growing up were Nancy Drew. They were a treat. My brother, sister, and I read anything we could get our hands on. We read the childrens part of the encyclopedias until we wore the pages out. We loved several sets of fairy tale and read aloud stories. I have a few old 1920-1940 books that I pull out occasionally. One is my Uncle's first grade reader. He died from a gunshot wound playing cowboys and Indians when he was just 7. Not really sure how I got possession of his book, but glad I did. I also have my grandmother and mother's bibles. Apparently I am the book keeper. I need to read more....
I am exhausted. Heading to bed. Love you ladies!
Kylia mourning in Ohio
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Kylia - My thoughts are with you. It sounds as if you MIL is going out in the best possible way, in the best place. I hope that is a comfort, though your husband sounds devastated. I used to be very active in raising money for hospices and hope to end up in one if I really need it one day. My beloved friend died there last year and I am confident she had the best possible care. Of course, the end of life is hardest for relatives and friends and I am thinking of your family.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx4 -
"Get to do"s and "chose well"sChose well: Zoom Bethany council, 1 hr weeding, dogs down driveCoping Calendar Day 29: connect with nature, notice life continuing
Bonus: prompted firehouse accountant to coordinate invoice payment with treasurer, snow pea, arugula, mustard and lettuce seeds into egg cartons.
Get to do: recycling, Post Office, BiMart, stroll with Barb, Farmers’ Market, Grocery Outlet, Freddie’s, mat work, firehouse mtg minutes, invest 10 mins cleaning Living Rm, carry over 10 mins, Kitchen/Laundry, Guest Bth, finish weeding drive, continue weeding flower bed, mulch flowerbed, prep potato bed for snow peas, dig up snow pea bed for potatoes and greens, prep raised bed for carrots, parsley root, parsnips, radishes, transplant herbs, finish cleaning and start de-rusting Aunt Elsie’s stove, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine.
Reward: inventory seeds, plan garden, order replenishments.on our walk by the college took sample of blue flower to try to identify, noticed a spicy woodsy scent but couldn’t locate the source plantCoping Calendar Day 30: Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time.and that it’s not all about me, when I’ve got my nose is out of joint remember this too shall pass and give it up.Suebdew Riley!
Lisa thank you for grant ing my request. Surprised at your boss’ boss, expected better from her. And frankly, implying your next few months’ efforts will be futile does not model the determined spirit I associate with GS. All I can think is that they are just worn down by the pandemic and its associated restrictions. Pfaugh. Thank goodness you know that you can’t get grants if you don’t apply, and have the grit to keep on keepin’ on. Brava! do you need the mailing $$ to apply for the grant? If not, if you’d only need the mailing $$ IF the grant is approved, would that satisfy the directors and the board? If you do, how much is needed?
Meg gyms reopening? Are there distance or number of people restrictions?
Annie Bejeweled Classic and 1010! on my iphone, but only while waiting for something. Can’t sit at my laptop without at least one round each of Spider and FreeCell solitaires.
Rita hate that “having been broken into” feeling. :sick:
Heather likewise Rori, her DH and brother have been ion my mind and in my heart lately.
Karen in VA Oh, Josephina Ballerina’s smile!
SuziQ your keyboard guardian.
Sue in WA marigolds, geraniums and basil repel mosquitoes? Thanks! What are “fly predators”?
Lanette “when the bars are open…” :laugh:
Katla and Amber your takes on how businesses could reopen while maintaining safe social distances are thought provoking. From your mouth’s to the Governors’ ears.
Michele your back pain is worrisome. Have you had it checked out? Could a PT suggest some exercises/stretches to ease the pain?
Kylia you are so right everyday tasks still need doing while your heart is breaking and the tears won’t stop. Sending thoughts of strength, peace.
Kim welcome back mojo!
Amber JR’s right. Ostriches are today’s dinosaurs!
Nanners thanks for the Strongblade recommendation, I’m a sucker for anything where the mouse is the hero.
Time to snooze.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMODApril: better than March.
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Rita - so sorry about the break-in at the storage unit! My sister's entire neighborhood got scrawled on night before last by kids spraying graffiti, including her car, as well as others, houses, RVs, fences, barns, and she's feeling pretty targeted as well. I have little sympathy for thieves and destructive delinquents--pretty much a waste of skin in my opinion.
Kylia - my heart goes out to your husband and to you. I can't believe you still have the Red Fairy book!
Thank you to whoever mentioned the Nancy Drew books--I read every one I could get my hands on! Plus all the Hardy Boys mysteries, as soon as I found those.
Also all of Louisa May Alcott's Little Women series.
In my mid-teens, a couple of coffee table books fascinated me, I read them until the covers fell off--one was Bloodletters and Badmen, by Jay Robert Nash, and the other was the same huge size book, all about the Hollywood stars from the beginning to the 1950s or so. Both were probably from the mail-order book club my mother belonged to at the time.
Also in my mid-teens, my father also went through an occult phase (don't ask, long story), so The Occult by Colin Wilson was one of many I read regarding Aleister Crowley, Madame Blavatsky, and so on. Not exactly comfort reading, but still, that's what my memory is dredging up.
More frustrations at work... so I'll spoiler it. Not the galloping never-get-overs, but not good timing.So... finished a complex grant that I've been working on for two weeks. It's due next Monday. Worked with all the directors, membership, program and volunteer, to come up with something that would work for the girls who can be reached through online means, plus printed packets for the girls who don't have ready access to the Internet in the more rural areas.
Sent the final numbers out to the directors, and one tells me she wasn't aware the cost of the mailing would be so high, and it wasn't in her expense budget. These budgets were set last year in August and September. Of course this is not in her budget. If we win it, it's being funded by a major funder because of the coronavirus pandemic, which did not exist last September.
What I've finally figured out is that the directors have been told that the only money they can spend in this fiscal year is money in the expense budget that has been approved by the board. It doesn't matter how many times I say, "But I'm also asking for funding to support the project," which will also bump up the revenue side, if it isn't in the EXPENSE budget for this year, I can't apply for it because they can't spend the money.
The shortsightedness of this is breathtaking. And absolutely hamstrings me for applying for any new funding that will show up in the same year. I can only apply for next year. This was not good to hear after hearing that 99% of everything I've already applied for is futile as well. (See last spoiler.)
My husband says, "Stop trying to get anything new for this year, then." Perhaps he's right. And perhaps this only upsets me so much because I'm seeing it as one last stab at fixing a year that feels wasted and useless, when we're just over halfway through.
Love y'all,
Later,
Lisa
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Do you know much money? I would contribute if you would tell me the name and address of the director whose expense budget is inadequate.
Karen in Virginia
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Last work stuff, I promise:Sorry about wading through my work stuff with y'all - but really appreciate the fact that you're here, because it is helping me work through it. Finally figured out after my last two posts that I became far too emotionally invested in this one grant in order to try to rescue what feels like my failure for the remainder of the year. Not a good idea, that, not least because it's probably got less than a ten percent chance of winning, if that.
Regarding the budget issues, I've believed all my life that I can buck the system--but it's possible that it's finally time to stop. This CEO has been here eight years, and it's very much the culture she's developed. I need to either work within it or leave. From past experience, attempting to change these kind of ingrained behaviors that come from far above your own level are like hitting yourself on the head with a hammer--because it feels so good when you stop doing that.
I think I've finally stopped. And the writing helps. As Oldster said: "Writing alters our perception of reality and amends our mental equilibrium."
Thanks for listening.
Later,
Lisa in AR7 -
Karen - thank you, dear heart, but not necessary. We're talking about $48,000 - not exactly pocket change. And honestly, would not change the budget discussion even a little bit. That expense is still not included in the budget, as that budget was set last August. It was apparently chiseled into stone tablets. See my last post.
Thank you so much for the thought, though.4 -
morning ladies~
have the boys , all snuggled in and having my cup of tea.. I am hoofing around with the boot on my foot, very cumbersome but at least it wont get bumped...
I am watching Little house..
and will work around here today...5 -
And just so y'all know my cheese hasn't completely slipped off my cracker, I am doing other things than work. This was from the weekend:
Hmm... it's possible I'm in my blue period.
Lisa in AR11 -
Hi Gals,
Lisa – hang in, all I can tell you is my camp non-profit is stupid in it’s own way too! We have housing for 120 people and there are two groups – fire/emt/police and our local battered women and child shelter who need housing, the first responders to have a place away from family to keep their family safe and the shelter to get mom’s and kids out of bad situations. Both willing to pay, but not at the rental rate which includes full overhead and profit. BUT neither group wants all the extra’s that come with full overhead. And our board will not approve either because it’s not enough money. Driving us lower levels of the non-profit batty! The non management staff has been picketing – virtually. It’s pretty funny to see how a bunch of tech literate 20 year olds picket. They hacked the zoom board meeting and popped in and out with hand made signs… I think we’ll wear them down.
Old white men have trouble thinking outside the box.
Kim from N. California
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Kim - thank you, dear. Old white men, yes, but honestly, any entrenched administration is hard to de-trench. Glad to see you have your mojo back too! Mine is coming out from the under couch, where I kicked it a while back. Feels like the rainclouds have moved out, honestly. Feel like an idiot for dripping emotion all over y'all, but again, it helped me adjust my thinking.
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Nanner - Thank you for all the flower pics and info. That area next to the sea front is definitely a hot, dry desert. I can't imagine much else growing there!!!
It's part of a neglected garden I run around, on a raised terrace. Just didn't know the name. My grandmother taught me the names of flowers, so I am pretty good at most things.
Love Heather UK XXXXXX3 -
Welcome Newbies!!!
Questions Answered:
1. Where are you from originally? Born and raised in Michigan (with very quick moves to NY, CA, and NJ inserted). Moved to Florida to raise my children, moved to North Carolina to care for my parents.
2. Do you eat breakfast? If so, what did you eat today? Usually have oatmeal, occasionally Cheerios. Lots of other days, Greek yogurt. Did not eat breakfast this morning.
3. Do you prefer to dine in, carry out, or cook at home? Love my brother’s cooking but only get that on trips to MI. Do not like to cook so I guess I prefer dining at restaurant.
4. Favorite Girl Scout Cookie? Was Thin Mints, but I have not had one in years.
5. Do you listen to music when you work? Always love music…retired so I do not work. Love loud music when cleaning.
6. What is your favorite sonic drink? Strawberry lemonade (but we do not have Sonic in town)
7. What is your favorite board/card game? Monopoly with the grandchildren, Euchre (although people here do not play) so Gin Rummy and Solitaire.
8. What are your favorite podcasts? Pretty much anything…I love learning
9. What is your dream sandwich? Cuban
10. What makes you gag? Cleaning vomit
11. What are your hobbies? Playing violin, playing with Baby Iris, camping, hiking, learning, relaxing
12. What is one thing that can make your day instantly better? Seeing my grand baby!
13. What was the best vacation/trip you ever took and why? Central and South America in high school – I was able to learn a lot of new culture, grow up a bit, and appreciate what I had at home that I took for granted
14. If you were an animal, what animal would you be? A retired greyhound living with a loving family
15. At a party, where can someone find you? Dancing or talking with friends
Penny I am with Heather…I want some of your bread! It looks delicious!
Barbie I want Jake’s pizza! Man, that looks good!!
Rebecca I will have to do some mental work to be able to try that. I must do something…snacking and quarantine is messing with my eating!
Suzi Your outside work is really looking great! What a beautiful place for you to enjoy!
Ginny I’m glad you will be able to celebrate your Son’s birthday/Mother’s day with him and his GF. I know you will treasure the time together.
Allie Sorry you are having to wear a boot. Glad you got it though…it is amazingly effective when needed.
Heather It took me a while to get alcohol free – too used to the young people using “As F**k”
Kylia Congratulations on reaching your goal!!! Your day looked very productive when you thought it was not, but sometimes we need to write it down to realize we really got things done!
Pip Oh! The picture of the pups with puppy Yogi!! So adorable!
Luckee_Me Great looking doggies!
Barbie Your pups are great, too!
Rebecca Athena is so precious! Loved how she just scooted along when she dropped!
Karen Love your little pups! I call those “pretend dogs” because we are used to the really big kind around here. LOL
I like my coffee (preferably French Vanilla) medium creamy and my tea without.
Children’s books: I learned to read with McGuffey’s Readers (way too young) and loved all Dr. Seuss books.
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Love, Health, and Safety Luci in WNC2 -
Enjoyed my Zoom with 'the girls'. We chatted away for 45 mins. I'm the only one without a second home to fret about in these times. Don't want one either!
Lifts the spirits to see them, though my difficult friend is getting restless and she is the one most at risk from comorbidities.
I'm just keeping on keeping on. Still happy, but I'm thinking of ways of seeing the kids at a distance before they go back to school. Parents willing.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx4 -
Hello here is a decent article on the situation in France. In addition the French government has been rather dishonest and constantly changing it's tune. It says that they(we) have seriously lacked tests and masks, and that some towns and regions are taking steps that the centralized government hasn't done. For example they were only testing 1200 people a day when the pandemic was clearly full blown. They say 3000 but it's not what they were saying back then. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/29/world/europe/coronavirus-france-masks.html1
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@Heather what is an IP? I don't mind the smell of chicken stock. Why not have 1 spicey one non spicy version?0
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nice classes again today. i could see the students getting tired at the end of the 3h zoom class (w 15 min break). i think it is the duration of the confinement rather than the class (i think) cause it's the 1st class that's been like that. it was ok though.2
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While weeding a park planter yesterday, got a call that some items had been found. My DH’s portable table saw he was most upset about and 1 of 3 routers. Figured out it was some kids.
While weeding found these. Anyone know what they are?
RV Rita
Also found a scorpion!
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