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@aroze0928 I cannot imagine. I'm so sorry! I hope after your cleaning is done, you can treat yourself to some pampering. You deserve it. Hopefully your husband will realize that misery is not worth it.
23 weeks for me today (Day 161). It's the eve of my husband's 70th birthday. Don't know why exactly, but that is FREAKING ME OUT! We are both so young! Maybe it's because we've both taught teenagers forever, but we just feel and seem young to me. He definitely looks like he's in his 50s. I remember when I turned 50 thinking, "Yeah, but 'old' is not until 65." Well, that milestone will be mine next Thursday. So we're both "celebrating" big ones this week.
I'm being a little flippant about it, but I really am kind of reeling emotionally, on the verge of crying. I don't really understand this. And a drink is just very vaguely tempting, but thankfully not especially tempting as it would have been a few months ago. I know I need to be thankful. As George Clooney said, "The alternative is 'dead,' so you have to be okay with it." But I don't know. Just thinking out loud.
Have a great Sunday, everyone.6 -
Brought myself a journal today to start my big push is after xmas but planning and having more AF days is working well already starting to feel less like a drink!7
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@donimfp YAY on 161 days!!
I can relate to the aging thing...it's like it sneaks up and then blam your old on the calendar, but don't feel old inside!! It IS just a number cause I like to think of each day when I get feeling kinda frieked out about getting older...I just figure we only get to live one day at a time anyway and as long as this 24 hr period is relatively good, it is a blessing to grow old...some people do not get to. 
@aroze0928 I'm glad you were able to resist your "close call with alcohol" You hubby has done great in his efforts to ditch the drink & I'm sure there'll be a lesson learned for him through his drinking faux paus. You are doing fantastic!! 4 -
@aroze0928 that story hits home. I bet he thought it would be different this time... but I guess not. In a way, that was an affirmation of how we don't want that to be us anymore. A sad tale. Hopefully, he will grow from it.
I had a good weekend all sober while they drank like fish. I wondered how they woke up and seemed pretty good. Not hungover. Then, I heard that they put some whisky in their coffee and one friend had vodka in his OJ. Now, I get it.
The amount of Crown whiskey and Vodka consumed was incredible; eye opening for me to be on the other end just an observer.
Now today, I suddenly felt a craving... ex husband declined breakfast with the kids on Xmas morning in reverence to his new girlfriend. Right away, I wanted a drink to escape from my feelings. So, I worked out and will take a bubble bath... and curse him from afar LOL not really but.
I saw a quote the aftereffects of drinking last far longer than the craving.
Tomorrow will be day 100. But for today, I'll just thank God for day 99 AF.9 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »I am getting concerned about Whitpauly. Has anyone seen her on any other thread? Is anyone "friends" with her and can message her? She hasn't been on in a long time.
Interesting that you mentioned @Whitpauly cause I think of her often. I messaged her on June 25 with no reply back...not long after that I checked her on my friend list and she hadn't signed in for awhile (not sure of specific time period, but it was a length of time, months if I vaguely remember correctly)
I just checked now on my friend list it says her last sign in was 2 months ago. So I'm thinking between June 25 & and October, she signed in at some point, but it looks like she is missing in action for the time being. I had told her in my last message that I missed seeing her "another 24." As we all know she was having a really difficult time with Covid and I hope too that she is ok and that she finds her way back to us.
Thanks for letting us know that you messaged her. She may be unemployed due to Covid; remember how mean her boss was if I remember correctly. I hope she is ok.5 -
@mainelylisa I will have to look for that AF beer.
I had an AF beer at a bar while we watched Army Vs. Navy and It had full body and tasted exactly like a real one. I was content with it.3 -
Just checking in... had a long talk with my husband today. He says he is not ready to toss in the towel yet. However, he has given me probably 5 different separation scenarios... it has been oddly calm. He has turned to the bottle now and is passed out in the bed beside me 😞
It will all work out!!!
I feel for you. You are making a wise choice staying sober through this turmoil, so you can have a clear head and make sound decisions for your future.
One thing that kept me going through my relationship trouble (then divorce) was I kept saying to myself "in one year I will be happy that I ......" Because time just keeps marching on and on.
I experienced temporary pain, agony, heartbreak but a year later... peace.7 -
@RubyRed427 Yay for you!!! 100 days!!!!! Awesome! That is such a big milestone to celebrate!
I've been slowly but surely organizing every drawer and cabinet in our house, room by room. It feels SO good to do this, and I'm amazed at both the forgotten treasures I'm finding and at how much useless stuff needs to be either trashed or donated. Anyway, just by coincidence, the spot on my list to de-clutter today was my little writing desk in our bedroom. I hardly ever actually use it. It's just a pretty antique desk I bought at an auction when I lived in Scotland. Well, that desk is where all my old journals have landed. Going back to 1983! Obviously I didn't stop and read them all, but I dipped in here and there. I did slowly re-read about the first birthday I spent with my husband, before we were married--his 41st on Dec. 14, 1991. It was sweet. It feels like that was yesterday, yet when I read it I feel like we were such precious "kids" (I was about to turn 36). So no mourning here . . . just reflecting on how much we've been through good and bad in 30 years. I told him I'm figuring we have another 30 in us, but whether God is figuring like I'm figuring is a mystery. My wish today is that I could ever make anyone feel as loved as my husband makes me feel. I realize that's a blessing not to be taken for granted.
Sorry for the rambling reflectiveness today. Thank goodness I have to go to work tomorrow!9 -
@donimfp You have a beautiful love story! I loved reading your reflective entry.5
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Thank you @lorrainquiche59 and @RubyRed427. ❤
Ruby congratulations on the 100 days! What a weekend! You did it girl! Youll have a nice Xmas breakfast with the kids no matter what!!5 -
@RubyRed427 That mantra about "In one year I will be happy that I_______"is very inspiring! Thanks for sharing.
@donimfp I am extremely jealous of your ability to tackle every drawer. I have more junk drawers than not. Last night I found a credit card while looking for a book in my bed side table that I had no clue where it had gone. I think I will combine these two things, Ruby and Doni's, and hopefully have an organized house in a year!
Today's gratitude: sitting on the sofa with my dogs, enjoying my pretty tree and a cup of coffee with no hangover. I will never not be grateful for a hangover free morning.9 -
I am finding now I am cutting down it's the smell of alcohol that puts me off!6
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I was on an instagram sober girl's site and she posted a video; she was quite emotional because not only is she focused on sobriety but also works with those who are alcoholics. Anyway, she was saying how the new Tropicana campaign/hashtag is about "mommy needing her juice". And it glorifies how you can sneak your alcohol in your OJ- you deserve "mommy time".
I have to agree with the instagrammer; it is quite disgusting that they would encourage and suggest moms need alcohol to make it through the day.
Second comment: I saw a glass for sale in a gift shop that said "F&*k my liver, let's drink".
I guess when you're on this end of addiction (like me), these things are more sad than funny.
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Tropicana Helps Parents Find a Moment of Brightness with a Mimosa
#TakeAMimoment in the closet, in the basement, and even in the bathroom
Eighty-seven percent of moms and dads agree that parenting has become so hectic this year that sometimes they just need a moment for themselves. In fact, nearly half (49%) admit that they hide out in the bathroom to get it*.
Tropicana helps parents find a moment of brightness - wherever and whenever they can - by creating incognito mini fridges filled with the makings for mimosas, to provide parents with the ultimate "Mimoment" for themselves.
The brand has partnered with busy parents Gabrielle Union, Molly Sims, and Jerry O'Connell to share the importance of taking a moment for yourself while still taking care of your family.
(PRNewsfoto/Tropicana)
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Tropicana Helps Parents Find a Moment of Brightness with a Mimosa
#TakeAMimoment in the closet, in the basement, and even in the bathroom
Eighty-seven percent of moms and dads agree that parenting has become so hectic this year that sometimes they just need a moment for themselves. In fact, nearly half (49%) admit that they hide out in the bathroom to get it*.
Tropicana helps parents find a moment of brightness - wherever and whenever they can - by creating incognito mini fridges filled with the makings for mimosas, to provide parents with the ultimate "Mimoment" for themselves.
The brand has partnered with busy parents Gabrielle Union, Molly Sims, and Jerry O'Connell to share the importance of taking a moment for yourself while still taking care of your family.
(PRNewsfoto/Tropicana)
THAT is disturbing!!
@RubyRed427 I must have missed your milestone...Congrats 100 days...you GO girl!!5 -
I got the first of a few bottles of wine from a client today that are gifted to me through the holidays. My friends husband died a few days ago...he had been sick & battling prostate cancer for a few years & now his battle is over. SO, I re-gifted the wine to my friend and dropped it off this evening. She is a moderate drinker, no issue with the drink. When I re-gift wine it is only to those who do not have a problem...that is my rule!
I am so sick to death of death...it's been a long couple of years and so much sadness.
This too shall pass but right now it sucks!!!8 -
@RubyRed427 That is totally disturbing. I too, am disgusted by signs/napkins,etc. that glorify drinking. Someone gave me one once and it immediately went in the trash. That whole OJ mimosa thing too is also gross.2
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@RubyRed427 That is totally disturbing. I too, am disgusted by signs/napkins,etc. that glorify drinking. Someone gave me one once and it immediately went in the trash. That whole OJ mimosa thing too is also gross.
The mimosa things is encouraging us to drink in secret, hide our booze, lie, etc.
It is also saying our reward is alcohol for working hard.
That was my reward for a decade and I dont want that to be my reward any longer.
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