The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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https://nattygal.com/2021/01/15/six-sensational-mocktails-for-dry-january-or-any-time/
Look how good these look!2 -
@RubyRed427 That mock Boody Mary looks like a meal! Yum!4
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »
Drinking alcohol, I found, played into all my negative feelings....it held me back.
Isnt that the truth. Not a fun place to be always wallowing in self pity. Dwelling on the past. Just an overall sense of heavy misery. Thanks for the reminder.4 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »https://nattygal.com/2021/01/15/six-sensational-mocktails-for-dry-january-or-any-time/
Look how good these look!
Every one of these looks good! I'm going to try the Moscow Mule today. Thanks for the link!2 -
Yesterday a bunch of factors came together to make me feel as though I had been drinking even though I hadn't. First, we had carpeting installed which meant excessive banging of mallets plus I couldn't leave the house or really move around much so I was pretty innactive until around 4 pm, when we went out and had a massive tray of nachos and 2 AF beers. Came home and had tons and tons of candy. Slept horribly and in that state between awake and asleep I thought, "Did I drink? Did they switch my NA to real beer? (Even though it was in a bottle so no). My husband said he felt gross too and chalked it up to all the candy. Just goes to show how our bodies are really affected by these things; what we eat and how much we move. I'm dieting and Saturday is my cheat meal day but honestly, after that, I think I may pass that up. I felt like crap last night and still a bit now.8
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Went scrapbooking with three ladies this weekend. Last night, they made beautiful old fashioned drinks and pear vodka was on the counter the whole time. I watched the vodka level shrink as the day wore on. I still stayed the course. They did shots over me and clinked their glasses. I think my sobriety muscle grew enormously. I could have caved at any minute but I didn't. Boy, I wanted to have an old fashioned. Sigh.
My one friend drank several drinks and talked non-stop. OMG it was getting on my nerves because we were in a small room, so I just had to listen to the same stories over and over. She woke up this morning feeling dizzy, she said.
I woke up refreshed and worked out.
The sacrifices we make at night are well worth it in the morning.11 -
I'm proud of how far you have come, @RubyRed427
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@RubyRed427, you are a rock star!!
I've been doing really well. Day 10 since nightmare relapse. Oddly enough, my biggest temptation came tonight (last night now) when I was watching the wonderful Masterpiece Theatre "All Creatures Great and Small" (a great stress reliever in these troubled times, along with the preceding Masterpiece Mystery "Miss Scarlet and the Duke). Anyway, there was a cozy scene of two characters innocently playing some board game and each drinking a small, civilized glass of sherry. That looked so good. When I lived in Edinburgh, I loved it when someone would offer a glass of sherry (and at that time, just one was good enough for me). I had to talk myself down by reminding myself that those days of the innocent one little glass are long gone. But I fixed a grapefruit juice and tonic with lime and was soon fine. My go-to tactic at the moment is "Playing that movie to the end," and the end is not pretty.9 -
I was telling @JenT304 that my sister called me craving so badly for alcohol and she’s nearly 11 months sober. So I guess the cravings sneak up and tap you on the shoulder but I’m happy she called. Call someone when you’re craving and you can just chat - it’s so isolating sometimes to be on a sober journey but maybe we are just needing a friend that isn’t named “vodka” 😀5
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My good friend and next-door-neighbor who is 7 years sober said during these last weeks she has had to fight cravings like she hasn't in years. I firmly don't believe we are doomed to a lifetime of daily battles. If I thought that, I think I might just go ahead and drink. However, it is enlightening to learn that those from-time-to-time cravings can evidently strike out of the blue no matter how long it's been. Good to know. Good for your sister, @RubyRed427. I'm sure it's nice that she now has you as someone who can completely relate.6
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Went scrapbooking with three ladies this weekend. Last night, they made beautiful old fashioned drinks and pear vodka was on the counter the whole time. I watched the vodka level shrink as the day wore on. I still stayed the course. They did shots over me and clinked their glasses. I think my sobriety muscle grew enormously. I could have caved at any minute but I didn't. Boy, I wanted to have an old fashioned. Sigh.
My one friend drank several drinks and talked non-stop. OMG it was getting on my nerves because we were in a small room, so I just had to listen to the same stories over and over. She woke up this morning feeling dizzy, she said.
I woke up refreshed and worked out.
The sacrifices we make at night are well worth it in the morning.
That is so awesome!!! That is a great feeling waking up sober and being able to accomplish what u need to during the day! And even a greater feeling that you stayed strong!!4 -
When I lived in Edinburgh, I loved it when someone would offer a glass of sherry (and at that time, just one was good enough for me). I had to talk myself down by reminding myself that those days of the innocent one little glass are long gone.
so yeah, i best not travel that road. yet again lol5 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »I was telling @JenT304 that my sister called me craving so badly for alcohol and she’s nearly 11 months sober. So I guess the cravings sneak up and tap you on the shoulder but I’m happy she called. Call someone when you’re craving and you can just chat - it’s so isolating sometimes to be on a sober journey but maybe we are just needing a friend that isn’t named “vodka” 😀
I'm glad your sister reached out to you. It's great that you have each other for support. Reaching out when tempted is key to fighting off the temptation. I remember when my bro died not long after my one year sober-versary and I was about to cave to the crave to numb it all out, but had decided to reach out here and ask for some words of wisdom and then I went on YouTube and watched Dick Van *kitten* interviewed...that is all I needed to shock myself out of what would have been a big regret.
Also happy for you that your "sobriety muscle" had a good workout with your gal pals.5 -
I'm proud of how far you have come, @RubyRed427
We have all come so far. Let's all keep vigilant. I know that I am one sip away from a spiral.
@lorrainequiche59 That must have been so awful when your brother died. I will watch that Dick V. D. video again!
@donimfp I'm so happy 10 days have passed and you are feeling so much better!
@wiigelec LOL That road is a dangerous one!!!
@dbanks80 Happy to hear from you, as always:)7 -
I'm re-doing the Sober School class on my own (using the materials we have permanent access to). In one of the readings today, Kate said the following: "Alcohol is really just a stress delayer. That same stress will come and tap you on the shoulder at 4am, when you're hungover and tired and therefore even less capable of dealing with it. " I knew that, of course, but I thought it was well said. When I'm tempted to drink because of stress, I need to remember that alcohol is not a stress reliever but a stress delayer. And like she says, mine usually is delayed until 3 or 4 a.m. when it's worse than anything I drank to avoid.8
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Way to go, @FeelinFooFoo !! We are proud of you!4
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@FeelinFooFoo, sending a virtual parade your way! 90 days is fabulous! Very nice list of benefits. It sounds like sobriety suits you. Of course, it suits everyone, but your joy at being sober is so apparent. Great job!!!!6
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@FeelinFooFoo What a wonderful list!!! So happy for you!!!3
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Here are some signs I recognized about myself that showed me that I needed to quit drinking:
1.Before I would go out , I would plan and promise myself I'd have only 2-3 drinks. Making deals with yourself.
2. I'd wear a bracelet as a reminder not to drink too much.
3. I would be monitoring other people's drinking glass to determine when I could go get another; I didn't want to get my drink too "soon" even though I gulped it down!
4. One day every weekend I would be so hungover and waste the day wishing I could just be normal and have a good day, but instead I'd lie in bed and wait to get some burger and soda to cure my hangover.
5. Turn down invitations to a night out, because the next day I would have somewhere special to be. I didn't want a guaranteed hangover!
6. I'd make rules for myself like I'll only drink on weekends, or I'll only buy two bottles of wine and that's it for the week. Making rules that you have a hard time sticking with.
7. Hiding bottles that I emptied too quickly. Hiding bottles in my closet or swigging right from the fridge wine bottle so no one would see me.
8. Waking up and cringing when I'd check my phone to see if I texted anyone.
9. Not being able to stop at just 2 drinks and obsessing over when I could get just one more drink.
10. When one bottle of wine was not enough, I would open a second and drink most of that in an evening.
11. Adding more vodka to a Truly because there wasn't enough in there.
12. Filling up a water bottle with vodka and soda and pretending it's just water. Going to the movies so I could drink the wine they sell.
13. Topping off my drink with alcohol without measuring or limiting myself.
So many more signs that it was best that I quit!
10 days away from 5 months sober. I still want to drink and really wish I could. That urge has not gone away but I just tell myself that nothing would be different if I drank today. I would just want to drink again tomorrow and then tomorrow. IT is never enough for me.10 -
@FeelinFooFoo, I'm so glad you were able to get the vaccine, and I hope you have minimal to no side effects. Our slow rollout is pretty frustrating. I'm 65 now, a teacher, and work in an incarceration facility. You'd think I'd have the vaccine, but we're not even close in my county. Oh well. I guess it will show up eventually.
Public service announcement: I laid out the money for a bottle of Askay AF vodka. To really test it, I mixed it as I used to mix the real stuff--with Perrier and a squeeze of lime. Guess what it tasted like! Perrier with lime. I had high hopes for a faux martini, but that's not happening. And it's pricey. I'm sticking to Perrier with grapefruit juice. Yum!4
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