The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Hey Ladies!
For me, I do count months, not days. It gives me pride and a feeling of accomplishment. It also keeps me from breaking my "streak". That has definitely happened where I think I will have a drink and then I decide I just don't want to break my streak.
But to each his own.
@JenT304 I understand how unfair it is that your BIL who was so healthy is so sick. It is awful!
I still crave drinking like tonight I went to the tax accountant and afterwards I really wished I could stop for a glass or two of wine, but then that would lead to me buying a bottle on the way home and drinking that..... sigh. Broken record- I know how that tune ends.
Every morning I wake up soooo thankful I feel good and have no lingering hangovers. I know I say that to you often but it is in the forefront of every waking morning. Such gratitude for being sober.6 -
My sister will be celebrating one year this week! She is now on MFP and I am not sure if she will see this thread. I hope everything I have said regarding her would be ok with her. I love her so much. We are best friends. I am so proud of her. The last night she drank (one year ago) she nearly died from the alcohol and then had to work the very next day (she was on a business trip). I shudder at how awful that whole week must have been.6
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My girlfriend and I were reflecting at the mysterious occurrence that happened last year to her. She was at a family party and she had 2-3 glasses of wine and then suddenly she could not move. She was frozen. Her husband had to rush her to the hospital. It is still a mystery as to why her body reacted to alcohol like that.
She has drank several times since and never had that problem again.
Side note: She was kicked by a horse and her liver was lacerated nearly in half. After this accident, she says she doesn't feel that well when she drinks even a few glasses. She wondered if that is related to her accident. I wonder. I have no idea.4 -
@RubyRed427 Surely having your liver that damaged by a horse would cause any alcohol intake to affect her worse than someone that has not had that injury. One wonders why she indulges at all at this point!4
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@Up_n_Running You ARE modelling good behavior for your brother. He sees how much happier you are without alcohol and it is starting to sink in. That is so great.
I like kumbacha too. I tried AF gin, beer and wine, but they are a very slippery slope for me personally. I need to stay away from those I think.5 -
Up_n_Running wrote: »Hi everyone ☺ hope everyone is well.
My brother has been chatting to me about taking a break / cut down his drinking and has been genuinely listening to my tips and hints. He wanted to drink tonight but we agreed to bake a cake together, instead, and now we are sipping Sparkling water with a slice of lime (so super refreshing)
I pretensed to him it was a 'mojito' lol he is looking forward to waking up hangover free at the weekend for a change. Might go a run together tomorrow. I don't think he plans to quit alcohol completely, but it will be good for him to cut back how often / how much he drinks. 👍
I think that is incredible progress. Your positive influence is really helping so many people!3 -
@Up_n_Running That is terrific progress.
I'm in an AirBNB because I took a road trip to visit my daughter at college. We were at Target; have you seen how much wine they sell? There is a huge aisle of alcohol.
I did daydream for a moment that it would be so nice to buy a bottle and drink it at this Air BNB. But then again.... I would wake up nauseous and have a racing night heart beat.
So, I bought Fiji water and cashews.
I just know that nothing has changed. I still cannot stop at one drink. That's a fact. I am starting to accept it.
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Had a lovely evening watching Marcella on Netflix with the hubs. Both of us drinking seltzer with just a splash of ginger ale. It was quite refreshing. We rearranged the furniture and are amazed at the difference it makes! Just having and enjoyable and sober weekend.3
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Had a lovely evening watching Marcella on Netflix with the hubs. Both of us drinking seltzer with just a splash of ginger ale. It was quite refreshing. We rearranged the furniture and are amazed at the difference it makes! Just having and enjoyable and sober weekend.
I watched Marcella- very good show!!!
Happy you had a nice weekend!2 -
Hi guys! I made it a year!!! Now for the next hurdle!!!
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@Beka3695 Congratulations! You should be bursting with pride! Thank you for sharing your journey here with all of us. ~hugs~ Jen5
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Stopped at TJMaxx after work instead of a bar. I used to love sitting at a bar after work for two cocktails. But it always made me crave more.
I am having two friends over for dinner; she asked me what she should bring. I replied "your beverage of choice". They are big drinkers; I'll be ok because I am nearing 6 months on Thursday (the day they come) and I sure as heck do not want to ruin my streak. I have overcome so much sober. Like many of us, I never thought I could string along months of sobriety. The secret is simple: Just for today I will be sober.
For anyone struggling, it is hard and difficult but it can be done.
I rather hit high bottom and quit, than hit rock bottom and be forced to quit.7 -
Today is 6 months sober for me. It has gone quite fast in general, but some days are slow.
My friends came over; they shared a liter of wine. I said " I sure wish I could have some but I'm six months sober today." My friends kindly said "You don't want to ruin all that hard work!" He is right. It is hard work for me. I fight it sometimes, and other times I don't (it's easy). But there have been so many more positives than negatives from being sober, I will be sober one more day. Just for today... one day at a time.
p.s. It is a better life! I created a brand/apparel line for teachers and am building my own website; I definitely know that I would not have made this progress if I were still a drinker. Thanks to all of you on this thread; you keep me going!!!12 -
Outstanding work on your part!
Keep going!5 -
Congrats @RubyRed427 on the 6 months and to all the rest on here with milestones. Its hard work most of the time.
Im speaking for me personally--
I used to think I was an alcoholic. But I always thought it was a disease. I came from an alcoholic family so I always thought well now I have the disease. I guess thinking that when I was young made me feel somewhat better about the whole thing. Seeing my mother drunk day in and day out. I dont think that anymore. I know better. Im not slumped over in a hell that I was sure was my destiny. After all the prayer and hard work I now know I have a choice. Its simply after all the starts and stops my choice not to drink and that is a powerful choice to be lucky enough to make.
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Oh and I meant to say Im still counting my 2 years sober today even tho. I slipped up Jan 20th. But whos keeping track 😉8
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Congrats @RubyRed427 on the 6 months and to all the rest on here with milestones. Its hard work most of the time.
Im speaking for me personally--
I used to think I was an alcoholic. But I always thought it was a disease. I came from an alcoholic family so I always thought well now I have the disease. I guess thinking that when I was young made me feel somewhat better about the whole thing. Seeing my mother drunk day in and day out. I dont think that anymore. I know better. Im not slumped over in a hell that I was sure was my destiny. After all the prayer and hard work I now know I have a choice. Its simply after all the starts and stops my choice not to drink and that is a powerful choice to be lucky enough to make.
Bravo on 2 years! The days do add up. Sometimes, like tonight, I feel euphoric that I don't need to drink to enjoy life; I cooked some dinner , sang some songs playing on my speaker, and just felt damn good. Sober.
Sure, sometimes I miss the instant release alcohol gave me. But Do I miss the next five minutes after that that usually turned into an hour of binging? No!
It is a choice. And I'm grateful, like you, to make the choice every day not to drink.
Thanks for stopping by! I do enjoy seeing your posts
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@Up_n_Running I hear you! I am going to FLA at the end of the month; I was thinking maybe a little wine in the evening won't hurt! But then I know better - it would hurt a WHOLE lot. The next morning I'd be hungover, ruin my power walks on the beach, feel nauseous, etc. So not worth the initial burst of flavor and fulfillment.
How is your brother doing?3 -
689 days sober 9
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Soooo.... yesterday I ate a cherry cordial that contained alcohol.
I didn't realize till I felt the BITE of the alcohol. I didn't spit it out and kind of felt bad for not doing so. After swallowing, I read on the packaging "Contains alcohol. Not suitable for pregnant women and children."
I never thought about a chocolate candy containing alcohol!!!
After I had my moment, I began to think about the purchase... I bought this at TJ Maxx in the gourmet food section. 1. Do THEY realize they are selling alcohol? 2. Should I have been carded? It was quite stout. If a child had eaten several, I do believe they would get tipsy.3 -
Soooo.... yesterday I ate a cherry cordial that contained alcohol.
I didn't realize till I felt the BITE of the alcohol. I didn't spit it out and kind of felt bad for not doing so. After swallowing, I read on the packaging "Contains alcohol. Not suitable for pregnant women and children."
I never thought about a chocolate candy containing alcohol!!!
After I had my moment, I began to think about the purchase... I bought this at TJ Maxx in the gourmet food section. 1. Do THEY realize they are selling alcohol? 2. Should I have been carded? It was quite stout. If a child had eaten several, I do believe they would get tipsy.
That is interesting that it was sold At TJ's. You're right, the label should have been more overt about the alcohol.
I heard someone ask during AA whether it was ok to have things like beer battered chicken. The other person replied only you know if that's a good idea based on your intention. I liked that answer. You didn't realize it had alcohol and quite honestly it probably wasn't that much. I see no harm.5 -
I made an assumption today that was incorrect. I heard a relative of mine is getting a divorce. My first thought was his drinking probably got in the way..... I was wrong! The wife was a closet alcoholic- I never realized it. So, it was she who has the addiction, not he. He also has PTSD from being in the Afghanistan War so that probably was another issue. I always learn my lesson when I make assumption- most of the time we just don't know what goes on behind closed doors.4
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Up_n_Running wrote: »I drank.
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Please dont beat yourself up with disappointment. This was me in. January. You'll be ok.
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@Up_n_Running You are so much stronger than you know. Against overwhelming odds, you held that wolf at bay for a LONG time. Your brother and partner, with the constant alcohol around you, must have been extremely difficult. I am glad they have decided to finally help support you by not bringing it home again. You certainly know you are capable of getting right back on the wagon. Seeing a dr for whatever kind of support she can offer, is also a good idea.
We will always be here to listen. Sending a big hug. ~ Jen3 -
None of us are perfect- what you did was normal. That's why it's called relapse- it happens to the best of us. The positive from your experience Sunday is that it will push you to call and get help. You know the famous quote: "Sometimes you have to get knocked down to see the stars." Probably much more good will come from this experience. I agree with Jen. It is so difficult to have people around you who drink. You may need to set boundaries - it is your place too after all.
I think one of the main reasons I am going on vacation alone is because if my girlfriends go with me, they will drink all through the vacation, and I would be so tempted--- I know I'd drink.
Thank you for sharing your experience, because it really truly helps us all.
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In NYtimes, there is a big article about the connection between alcohol and cancer. They are thinking of labeling alcohol with the same label that they put on cigarettes.
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/03/04/well/alcohol-cancer-risk.html?surface=home-discovery-vi-prg&fellback=false&req_id=305805471&algo=identity&variant=no-exp&imp_id=22670579&action=click&module=Science Technology&pgtype=Homepage6 -
The only day that matters is today. Good for you on speaking to your Dr., no sense trying to white knuckle your way through it if professional help is needed and available...very brave5
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Hi, I'm back. @Up_n_Running good for you!
that was actually the reason for my hiatus. I had to have help from my doctor to detox from alcohol actually beginning of last month as well as a counselor. I went back and forth on quitting the last time I was on this message board and I was in denial how physically hooked I was. Took me 3 weeks off work to taper down and I had to start seeing a therapist/psychologist again. My Dr says for a 29 year old I have some pretty bad liver damage and in a month we'll do more tests. I was drinking a Fifth + a half pint of either Vodka or Whisky everyday, starting in the morning. Today marks 8 days for me. I started going to AA locally for accountability as well as some other groups and so far I've found a really amazing in person support system as well as you guys. I've been reading "Quit Like a Woman" by Holly Whitaker as well. It's a pretty awesome book. Anyways, I haven't been sober for this long in 2 years. That's my rant for today, but I'm back, one day at a time. 9
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