What nobody tells you about losing weight
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happimess01 wrote: »That sometimes you will go to bed sad. During my bingeing days, whenever I was feeling down, I would soothe myself with food. Whatever was troubling me didnt stand a chance in front of Ben and Jerrys and whatever carb fest I was craving that night. Now that I am watching what I eat, I sometimes have to sit with those feelings of stress and anger. Walking, taking a shower and all those other things help but still...
Oh man! This struck me so hard. I'm going to copy this and share it around if you don't mind? Bingeing is such a beast and any help to stave it off needs to be my arsenal! Thank you so much.15 -
happimess01 wrote: »That sometimes you will go to bed sad. During my bingeing days, whenever I was feeling down, I would soothe myself with food. Whatever was troubling me didnt stand a chance in front of Ben and Jerrys and whatever carb fest I was craving that night. Now that I am watching what I eat, I sometimes have to sit with those feelings of stress and anger. Walking, taking a shower and all those other things help but still...
Yes, but you won't wake up feeling sad! When you DIDN'T binge the night before you feel so PROUD of yourself the next morning! Kind of like... "Shwew! Thank God I made it through last night without blowing it!" You then don't face that morning hangover of food regret. So, that's a plus. But, I wish you well in learning how to not feel sad on those tough evenings too.20 -
Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
^^^ Not my words^^^^
But yes!! I completely agree23 -
joyanna2016 wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »That sometimes you will go to bed sad. During my bingeing days, whenever I was feeling down, I would soothe myself with food. Whatever was troubling me didnt stand a chance in front of Ben and Jerrys and whatever carb fest I was craving that night. Now that I am watching what I eat, I sometimes have to sit with those feelings of stress and anger. Walking, taking a shower and all those other things help but still...
Yes, but you won't wake up feeling sad! When you DIDN'T binge the night before you feel so PROUD of yourself the next morning! Kind of like... "Shwew! Thank God I made it through last night without blowing it!" You then don't face that morning hangover of food regret. So, that's a plus. But, I wish you well in learning how to not feel sad on those tough evenings too.
yep, couldn't agree more with you. You definitely feel like a winner in the morning.7 -
GigiDeborah wrote: »happimess01 wrote: »That sometimes you will go to bed sad. During my bingeing days, whenever I was feeling down, I would soothe myself with food. Whatever was troubling me didnt stand a chance in front of Ben and Jerrys and whatever carb fest I was craving that night. Now that I am watching what I eat, I sometimes have to sit with those feelings of stress and anger. Walking, taking a shower and all those other things help but still...
Oh man! This struck me so hard. I'm going to copy this and share it around if you don't mind? Bingeing is such a beast and any help to stave it off needs to be my arsenal! Thank you so much.
haah sure! I wish I had ended the post on a more positive note though4 -
That misery loves company and your friends and family will want you to "just have one" drink or bad food so they do not feel bad about eating or drinking unhealthy
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That misery loves company and your friends and family will want you to "just have one" drink or bad food so they do not feel bad about eating or drinking unhealthy
This was me! I was so proud of the changes I made (first time around 5 years ago) and happy with myself for the first time in a long time. I had stuck to and completed something that was very difficult. My husband at the time would tell me that I made him look bad and should "just get old, fat and happy like me''. I did not equate that with happy. I wanted to remain active and healthy as long as possible.17 -
That misery loves company and your friends and family will want you to "just have one" drink or bad food so they do not feel bad about eating or drinking unhealthy
Maybe for some, but I think that most people encourage others to have a drink or to eat snacks or desserts because they are enjoying those foods and want you to have the same enjoyment. Tbh, I am a glass half-full kind-of girl!
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BrightEyedAgain wrote: »Nobody told me how much of this journey is about facing fear and not letting it stop you. Fear of what it will mean to be thin, fear of failure, fear of change, fear of the gym, fear of looking stupid, fear of other people's responses, fear of injury, fear of being strong, fear of saying no. All these fears I didn't even know I had are now coming up along with memories/emotions from years back that I thought I'd already dealt with.
I'm only 11 lbs down so far, but I already feel like a new person because of all the fears I've had to face and conquer just to DO this thing--especially the strength/fitness part. I've realized that most of my weight issues are really IDENTITY issues, and that a lot of what I'm doing is breaking off old agreements with family/friends to be a certain way. Now I'm finding out who I really am, one workout and one logged meal at a time, and it's incredible. I never ever want to go back to living with all those fears. Not ever.
As awesome as the weight loss is, discovering my true self is even better. Now I'm just eager to see what that person's body ends up looking like because I honestly don't know!! I've yo-yo'd weight before with various methods, but I've never logged calories and tracked macros. And I've nevered combined diet with consistent strength training/exercise. The combination is already producing VERY different results than I've seen before--both physical and mental. For the first time in my life, I'm starting to believe that I could be an honest-to-goodness ATHLETE, like nothing's off the table if I'm willing to work for it. And for once, I don't mind not being good at things initially because I know I will get better. And that maybe this really WILL be the final time I have to lose this weight. This is an inner shift I've never felt before, and I'm so excited to see my future unfold!!
Somebody around here said there comes a point where you're just READY to lose the weight, and I think I'm there. Reading this and the other MFP threads has helped me a lot, and I know that will continue. So thank you all for posting. It really does matter.
Thank you too for posting this!
It really hits home for me, and I honestly believe you're on the right path.
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Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
^^^ Not my words^^^^
But yes!! I completely agree
This has totally been what I've been learning in my journey. So true!!6 -
How great it feels to wear baggy jeans that you could not even squeeze into a few weeks before.19
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DussyHoppers wrote: »How great it feels to wear baggy jeans that you could not even squeeze into a few weeks before.
I am SOOOOOO looking forward to this!7 -
Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
^^^ Not my words^^^^
But yes!! I completely agree
YES YES YES my brain was completely disconnected from my body. Fixing my brain has been a long process but has netted me such improvements in my diet and relationship with food. I never ate because I was hungry, I didn't allow my body to feel hunger. I had to learn hunger and satiety cues all over again.9 -
azalea4175 wrote: »Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
^^^ Not my words^^^^
But yes!! I completely agree
YES YES YES my brain was completely disconnected from my body. Fixing my brain has been a long process but has netted me such improvements in my diet and relationship with food. I never ate because I was hungry, I didn't allow my body to feel hunger. I had to learn hunger and satiety cues all over again.
I went to therapy to learn that other's issues were not my problem since I used food to sedate my sadness and shame. In the past year I have lost 77 pounds and am working on self identity and emotional regulation skills because I have always thought of myself as a fat, lazy, incompetent slob. It saddens me to realize how long that I have held on to those words to describe myself. There is a great thread in the Maintainers forum called "Immediate Gratification" that really resonated with me. It is worth reading.15 -
@BrightEyedAgain , thank you for writing your insightful post. I have found that every word that you wrote is the truth. Wishing you much success in your health journey and discovering your new self identity.4
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Well, after some seriously great posts, I’m just going to stop by long enough to be crass and shallow and say, no one ever told me I’d be able to wear horizontal stripes.
And rock them.
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How your relationship with safety pins will change:
I used to never have enough safety pins around. I needed them to pin dresses shirts and blouses that buttoned up in the front to prevent the dreaded "gaposis". Now, my only use for safety pins is to pin my race bib to my shirt on race days.26 -
That it might take a while to start dropping sizes, but once you do it will be rapid and kind of annoying.
It's the onion thing, I think. The bigger around you are the more fat loss it takes to influence your size. The smaller you get the faster it happens.16 -
wunderkindking wrote: »That it might take a while to start dropping sizes, but once you do it will be rapid and kind of annoying.
It's the onion thing, I think. The bigger around you are the more fat loss it takes to influence your size. The smaller you get the faster it happens.
This is my hope! I am down 11 pounds and have not dropped any sizes yet, but am most definitely looking forward to it!14 -
How your relationship with safety pins will change:
I used to never have enough safety pins around. I needed them to pin dresses shirts and blouses that buttoned up in the front to prevent the dreaded "gaposis". Now, my only use for safety pins is to pin my race bib to my shirt on race days.
As a short person, safety pins are my "emergency hem" holders for pants...6
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