What's on your mind?

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  • BraydanTaffy
    BraydanTaffy Posts: 504 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    Recently, several women have been attacked when walking the perimeter of our apt complex. The same happened to me a couple of days ago, but as a lifelong big city girl & the most untrusting person I know, I could spot something not right & when the car stopped with 2 young men asking me for directions (men don't ask women for directions), my body became pins & needles... they exited the car, came at me as fast as they could & I took off like like a kitten on fire.

    Since my fitness center... a laughable description for a miniscule area with nothing but free weights & a couple of exercise bikes... is not to my liking, my workouts will now be indoors only... indoors, meaning my apt. YTube exercise vids are now my daily companion.

    I could walk with a baseball bat... but, I'd prefer to keep safe in a more enclosed area. I've had to live like this in dicey 'hoods for decades... this is not my first such incident. What did I do in a past life to incite the wrath of the violence gods...


    Fully charged taser. That's all I'm sayin'...

    But, jesus, that's scary.

    I do have a stungun, but... someone needs to be within arm's length. I always feel my best chance for protection is speed... running like a frightened deer away from danger. If someone's hands are on me, it's going to be a lot harder for me to stave off fright to act fast.

    And, I realize my nerves are on edge right now, but, jeez, I wish men would stop approaching women from behind. When we can't see you, it's a threat & you scare the bloody life out of us, when silence is suddenly cut by a big booming voice. Yesterday, a market employee walked up behind me & loudly say, "How ya' doin'!" from 6" away. Why? Firstly, don't yell & second, move back a foot or 2 okay, sir.

    After my pearl clutching gasp, I was putting groceries in the trunk & another employee in stealth mode came up behind me to loudly say, "How's it goin'?"... mother of Valhalla... I almost fell into the truck & my heart was pounding for an hour.
  • ExpressoLove11
    ExpressoLove11 Posts: 331 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    I cannot convey how sick and tired I am of not being a millionaire

    @ExpressoLove11

    *shrug

    It's overrated.

    You're intelligent, witty, healthy, educated, fit and beautiful. (a complete 'catch')

    Money comes and money goes; what you have.... no price tag can ever be attached.

    N'aww 🥰 you are such a good egg! I appreciate you motor man, you always make me smile.
  • BraydanTaffy
    BraydanTaffy Posts: 504 Member
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,361 Member
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    look for good weather and low taxes.

    I can think of a few places off the top of my head.....
  • honey_honey_12
    honey_honey_12 Posts: 7,103 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    look for good weather and low taxes.

    I can think of a few places off the top of my head.....

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    Low Taxes,,,,,,,,,,,, good one!
  • tmanfive
    tmanfive Posts: 1,365 Member
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    I’d tell you where but I don’t want neighbors. 🤷🏼‍♂️
  • BraydanTaffy
    BraydanTaffy Posts: 504 Member
    edited June 2021
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    look for good weather and low taxes.

    I can think of a few places off the top of my head.....

    Which places were you thinking, states with no income tax?

    FL has no income tax, but weather is brutal & COL/rents are very high... my rent is going up by at least $600, but I'd be leaving the apt/state, anyway. This Covid world has changed a lot (crime, homelessness, jobs)... it's doubtful I'd ever venture back to CA at this point, although it fulfills the weather desire & San Diego / N. Beach areas are my fave places to live.

    Austin had nice, dry heat, no income tax, but COL/rents are off the hook.

    Ah, well, anyone know a good yurt for rent?
  • BraydanTaffy
    BraydanTaffy Posts: 504 Member
    tmanfive wrote: »
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    I’d tell you where but I don’t want neighbors. 🤷🏼‍♂️

    If I want gator/frog eatin' neighbors, I could just stay in FL. :sunglasses:
  • Sweet_A
    Sweet_A Posts: 7,666 Member
    edited June 2021
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Sweet_A wrote: »
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    @Sweet_A

    Heck yeah!

    It appears that France now has their own version of Steve Bartman.

    Don't know what I'm talking about ?

    Look into the Stage 1 crash involving a spectator.

    If I'm her, I'm crawling under a rock for the next 1000 years.

    @Motorsheen
    It was definitely sad seeing them crash!
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  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,297 Member
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    Where’ve you been? I’m taking notes because I’m on the same wavelength right now. Looking at states to possibly settle in. I’ve only lived in both the Carolinas’ so far. California would be for if I ever struck it rich.
    I’m thinking for myself staying in the south as I’m not a fan of the cold. Not gonna catch me in Motorsheen desssert Arizona either! 🥵
  • tmanfive
    tmanfive Posts: 1,365 Member
    tmanfive wrote: »
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

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    I’d tell you where but I don’t want neighbors. 🤷🏼‍♂️

    If I want gator/frog eatin' neighbors, I could just stay in FL. :sunglasses:

    Touché, but the gator and frog legs was just to mix things up. In a couple days I’ll be back to smoking ribs and brisket. grilling Wagu (al be it fake wagu) burgers, and steaks and boiling lobster tails.
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 268,705 Member
    A juicy burger 🍔
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 268,705 Member
    Elcee2020 wrote: »
    A juicy burger 🍔

    Yumm, have one for me too. 😉

    Im flat out eating one.. Im getting a works burger, but I'd share with you. The local takeaway makes the best works burgers.
  • BraydanTaffy
    BraydanTaffy Posts: 504 Member
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

    giphy.gif

    Where’ve you been? I’m taking notes because I’m on the same wavelength right now. Looking at states to possibly settle in. I’ve only lived in both the Carolinas’ so far. California would be for if I ever struck it rich.
    I’m thinking for myself staying in the south as I’m not a fan of the cold. Not gonna catch me in Motorsheen desssert Arizona either! 🥵

    I've lived in every region of the country, always in big cities... from L.A. to San Diego, Seattle, Denver, Austin, Indy, Boston, NYC, Atlanta, several cities in FL, NC & a few more. I initially said 10 states... I think it's 12.

    Same as you, San Diego to Santa Barbara (lived in 4 cities between the 2) is perfect, but only if you have a good job. Off my list now, but SoCal is the only place I've ever lived that feels like home. I've also lived most of my life walking distance from one ocean or another, so do miss it horribly if I'm away from the beach. And, a lake doesn't cut it... I like the ocean.

    I've considered Scottsdale, where I've been several times, but COL is high & at least initially, I may need to take a hold-me-over type of job... rents are my biggest concern, atm.

    Also considered OKC, cuz I love the feel of the place, but upon research, I see it's a very religious place & although I'm not religious & don't care if others are, I don't want to be preached to, like I've found in the southeast. I don't know if that will be an issue... I don't want any issues at all being forced on me throughout the day, whether political, religious, lifestyle, like vegetarianism, etc... it's exhausting. But, rents are very affordable there.

    Boise, ID was another place I've considered. I've met & very much liked people from there, but again, upon research, there is something called the Boise smell from sewage plants & 170 landfills within city limits. I've got allergies/asthma & don't take drugs for either (allergic to an exhaustive list of meds)... I don't need rural fresh air (never experienced it anyway & I live quite well in pollution), but those smells must be awful, at least that's what I've read.

    Some places I can't live cuz the trees are too much & I just can never breath... like Indy. CO altitude gives me nosebleeds & a head like a water balloon everyday... even after 2-yrs. Also, any place where there are wood burning stoves... well, I can never go outside, cuz one whiff & I'm gasping for air.

    Safety is a big concern. Just this month my house has had attempted breakins twice & I live alone & was here both times. I need to feel safe.

    I don't want humidity, but financially, I don't have the luxury of the perfect weather of Santa Barbara, atm. I need to be in a place big enough where I can find a job. Warm is nice, but I lived most of my life in frigid cold & snow, so I can tolerate that, too. FL is too humid, COL is dreadfully high & rents are going up substantially, due to all the people coming here since Covid. Food's also more than I paid in CA.

    I'd also like to return to the PNW, but don't think I could afford that either.

    Not sure any of this helps. I just keep researching & pulling up list after list of the Top 10 cities for this, that or the other.

    Good luck!
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,297 Member
    Relocation in 5-mos. I've lived in 11 US states.

    Change is good. But, where to go at this stage of life?

    Would be nice to settle someplace for good... my restless, gypsy genes always seem to toss themselves in the way.

    Sooo... toss a dart at a map?

    giphy.gif

    Where’ve you been? I’m taking notes because I’m on the same wavelength right now. Looking at states to possibly settle in. I’ve only lived in both the Carolinas’ so far. California would be for if I ever struck it rich.
    I’m thinking for myself staying in the south as I’m not a fan of the cold. Not gonna catch me in Motorsheen desssert Arizona either! 🥵

    I've lived in every region of the country, always in big cities... from L.A. to San Diego, Seattle, Denver, Austin, Indy, Boston, NYC, Atlanta, several cities in FL, NC & a few more. I initially said 10 states... I think it's 12.

    Same as you, San Diego to Santa Barbara (lived in 4 cities between the 2) is perfect, but only if you have a good job. Off my list now, but SoCal is the only place I've ever lived that feels like home. I've also lived most of my life walking distance from one ocean or another, so do miss it horribly if I'm away from the beach. And, a lake doesn't cut it... I like the ocean.

    I've considered Scottsdale, where I've been several times, but COL is high & at least initially, I may need to take a hold-me-over type of job... rents are my biggest concern, atm.

    Also considered OKC, cuz I love the feel of the place, but upon research, I see it's a very religious place & although I'm not religious & don't care if others are, I don't want to be preached to, like I've found in the southeast. I don't know if that will be an issue... I don't want any issues at all being forced on me throughout the day, whether political, religious, lifestyle, like vegetarianism, etc... it's exhausting. But, rents are very affordable there.

    Boise, ID was another place I've considered. I've met & very much liked people from there, but again, upon research, there is something called the Boise smell from sewage plants & 170 landfills within city limits. I've got allergies/asthma & don't take drugs for either (allergic to an exhaustive list of meds)... I don't need rural fresh air (never experienced it anyway & I live quite well in pollution), but those smells must be awful, at least that's what I've read.

    Some places I can't live cuz the trees are too much & I just can never breath... like Indy. CO altitude gives me nosebleeds & a head like a water balloon everyday... even after 2-yrs. Also, any place where there are wood burning stoves... well, I can never go outside, cuz one whiff & I'm gasping for air.

    Safety is a big concern. Just this month my house has had attempted breakins twice & I live alone & was here both times. I need to feel safe.

    I don't want humidity, but financially, I don't have the luxury of the perfect weather of Santa Barbara, atm. I need to be in a place big enough where I can find a job. Warm is nice, but I lived most of my life in frigid cold & snow, so I can tolerate that, too. FL is too humid, COL is dreadfully high & rents are going up substantially, due to all the people coming here since Covid. Food's also more than I paid in CA.

    I'd also like to return to the PNW, but don't think I could afford that either.

    Not sure any of this helps. I just keep researching & pulling up list after list of the Top 10 cities for this, that or the other.

    Good luck!

    Thanks for this response, it’s very thought out and helpful. Rent is skyrocketing in and around Charlotte NC where I am now too. Insane prices for bad neighborhoods and places not up to code.
    I’ve been eyeing GA recently. I feel the same about trying to stay coastal but a lake or river sounds good to me. I love the sound of the ocean and the general beach town vibes but for swimming purposes I prefer freshwater. I’ve never been a city girl but more like a convenience town. I’m always in the surrounding a city area.
    I don't know what life without humidity is like and when I’ve traveled in planes where the air is dry it’s wrecked my sinus. Could be nice though to not feel like you’re swimming everywhere you go.
    The focus for me is finding that decently priced cottage in the woods but close enough to civilization because what am I gonna do, make my own iced coffee!? Off grid sounds all fun and games until I have to do literally everything myself. 😅 I have a need for convenience.
    Good luck to both of us in our quests!
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 268,705 Member
    What movie to watch? 🤔