WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2021

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  • trucker743
    trucker743 Posts: 394 Member
    Julie, it’s very true that i don’t know how our relationship (my son and I) would have evolved over time. I meant what I said about my greatest involvement being with my three daughters because of distance and the closeness of having raised them. I had looked forward to hearing about his family as well as my other family members, but hadn’t envisioned anything like a yearly pilgrimage.

    I think you also may have something in the idea of concerns about fiscal responsibility for me should I not have the resources. Actually, my eldest and her spouse are very well off. He is foreman for major construction efforts such as shopping malls and industrial complexes. She is a masters in nursing with a background in administration. I’m sure they would not leave me wanting were it to come to that. As it is, I’m a retired teamster with a pension as well as social security, and reasonable insurance available that covers everything with little copayment except dental and vision. I don’t think my future is too bleak.

    My other two daughters might not be able to provide much financially, but they will both be capable of seeing to my needs physically should I need help.

    Oh, Rori! This was an awful lot for you to deal with in such a brief interval. Be very gentle with yourself. Allow yourself all the time you can. I’m so glad you have your wonderful cat to snuggle with and confide in and laugh at. Take every opportunity you get to laugh.

    Sharon Near Seattle
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    slept ok, declined a last minute late invitation out yesterday (it was already 8:30 pm here).

    still feeling unhappy about not being able to go freely in sun anymore.
    sun is also good for health in many ways.

    Good things done yesterday
    food shopping
    wee bit of cleaning
    little walk
    read some in depth article in paper (about how students in need are managing getting or not getting summer jobs, in and, in one case pre-pandemic)
    eat some fresh fruit and veggies and soy protein and fibre
    canceled trip to library and rested
    aiming for balance in exchanges (telephone, mail or text)
    listened to positive affirmations tape while sleeping
    a wee bit of time on recumbent while on phone
    being myself in conversations, speaking my mind in a peaceful way, even if I don't agree

    Grateful
    decent night of sleep
    healthy food easily available
    so quiet in the summer in august here
    it's supposed to be nice out on days I booked for beach
    comfy bed

    Today
    walk
    tidy/clean
    we'll see


  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited August 2021
    trucker743 wrote: »
    Julie, it’s very true that i don’t know how our relationship (my son and I) would have evolved over time. I meant what I said about my greatest involvement being with my three daughters because of distance and the closeness of having raised them. I had looked forward to hearing about his family as well as my other family members, but hadn’t envisioned anything like a yearly pilgrimage.

    I think you also may have something in the idea of concerns about fiscal responsibility for me should I not have the resources. Actually, my eldest and her spouse are very well off. He is foreman for major construction efforts such as shopping malls and industrial complexes. She is a masters in nursing with a background in administration. I’m sure they would not leave me wanting were it to come to that. As it is, I’m a retired teamster with a pension as well as social security, and reasonable insurance available that covers everything with little copayment except dental and vision. I don’t think my future is too bleak.

    My other two daughters might not be able to provide much financially, but they will both be capable of seeing to my needs physically should I need help.

    Oh, Rori! This was an awful lot for you to deal with in such a brief interval. Be very gentle with yourself. Allow yourself all the time you can. I’m so glad you have your wonderful cat to snuggle with and confide in and laugh at. Take every opportunity you get to laugh.

    Sharon Near Seattle

    It is wonderful that you had a nice moment with him, which I guess is never a given in such a context. That is worth a lot.

    It's great that your teamster retirement and your daughters mean that you will likely be well taken care of.

    It could (for example) be that he was deeply depressed and unbearable in the years after his adoptive parents died and that after meeting you he was emotionally moved (maybe in a good way but maybe he was shaken up too, and his spouse said, she couldn't take anymore upheavals, etc, etc. That is just an example of one possible scenario. People can be so emotionally fragile, especially these days in this long difficult pandemic. There is just no way of knowing. Sometimes people don't even know themselves why they make this or that choice.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited August 2021
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    Here's my big bandage! 7 more days!
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    KIM ~ Happy, Happy Birthday!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,792 Member
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    KIM!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,294 Member
    Kim great story and love how you set limits.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Happy Birthday, Kim!!!
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,360 Member
    Llll
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,954 Member
    Happy birthday, Kim!

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    We also celebrated my 63rd birthday which is tomorrow, I’ll be spending it with my “pandemic pod”.

    Smiles, Kim in Northern California

    Happy Birthday!

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    edited August 2021
    I have thoroughly enjoyed the Olympics this year. 🙂 And I watched all sorts of sports I don't normally watch!

    I'm probably going to feel a little bit lost for a few days like I do when the Tour de France ends.


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    Machka in Oz
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    🎈🔴🟥❤️
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,255 Member
    <3
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    Kim
    🎊🎁🎈 HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Happy birthday Kim!

    Annie in Delaware
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    Allie ~ Congrats getting your disability! I was wondering what has become of Jean's mom? Haven't heard about that once you became ill.

    Carol in GA
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Allie –- I hope your SS disability benefits start showing up. It sounds as though you should have been receiving them since last year. :star:

    Kim — Happy Birthday! I am happy to hear you are doing okay. Good news that your mom is able to spend time with you. She is lucky. :heart:

    Katla in NW Oregon
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,954 Member
    <3
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    I am knitting the baby blanket and have many rows to go before turn around lets each row get shorter. I am enjoying the process. 😁
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,792 Member
    Allie - I wouldn't have wanted to be hived off to god knows where with my grandmother, just for the convenience of my parents. It wasn’t her choice. I would have been totally p....d off. :laugh:

    I spent a couple of hours this afternoon looking for photographs of me in my teenage years. I don't have many, because my parents were into cine film by then, but I found a few. In the box I was looking in was all our yesteryears. Photos of my grandmother as a small child, my grandparents parents, my grandfather's war photos of him with one leg, my parents' wedding, my mother as a teenager with her first crush, and so much more. I have left them on the floor because I don't know how to sort them all. The ones I was looking for are me and the family in my grandmother's garden, when I was about 12 or 13. I will post one when I've taken a photo.
    My new memoir covers the years from 9 to 17. I have my teenage diaries. I remember so vividly what it was like to be 13. In my case a lot of it was hell.
    I'm still a bit shaken by looking at all the photos. But I feel very privileged to have them. So many lives are there. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,836 Member
    Rori… thinking of you … no words …

    Kim … Happy Birthday! You have great instincts with people.

    Allie … teenagers can be a handful. You did right to come home.

    Beth near Buffalo



  • Shatszi
    Shatszi Posts: 6 Member
    @auntiebk and @Machka9, Thanks very much for the tip! 🙏🏻😊
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,708 Member
    Thanks for the birthday wishes, so far it's been a very nice day.

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