WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2021

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,090 Member
    Had a long post and it went poof,will write more tomorrow. Night night
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    It's a little late for an actual anniversary date (May), but I have been cycling Audax/Randonneuring events for 20 years! Since 2001!

    I've been with Audax Australia since 2009 although I was the first woman to cycle the Great Southern Randonnee in 2004.
    https://audax.org.au/
    "Audax Australia Cycling Club is a non profit national cycling organisation specialising in non-competitive long distance bicycle rides from 50 to 1200 km, called “Randonnees”. The challenge of Audax is not in racing, but in pushing your own boundaries and experiencing great personal achievements."

    Prior to that, I've been a member of the Manitoba Randonneurs, Alberta Randonneurs and BC Randonneurs.


    Where it all began - the story of my cycling "career". :)
    http:// machka.net / about-me / (if you're interested, you'll have to close up the spaces to open that link)


    M in Oz
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,612 Member
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: take BP, Bethany cooking fun for food bank, fire district meeting prep.
    Bonus: 2 hr nap
    Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, drop off printouts at fire all after T’ai Chi, Farmers’ market for beets, radishes, Grocery outlet for snow peas, brie, dog group backup J for L, fire district board meeting, flagger course progress, figure out how to see what’s using all our mobile data, USE those torture bands/do that BB&B video, call S, fire district: research NFPA, grant NIMS requirements, ongoing: input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS mutual aid and other missing details, likewise Lee skills/tasks, ask for boots donator contact info, appreciation letter or certificate to boots donator, index mutual aid files; watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart,; Do Your Thing, practice dances: One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke, All Night, Pure Movies to Wine, Beer, Whiskey, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat),); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
    August
    9: Thank someone you’re grateful to and tell them why:
    10: Check in with someone who may be lonely or feeling anxious:

    Cooking with the gals for the hungry, mostly fun and a good thing to do once a month. But two hours in a kitchen with 3 other women, left me with a headache. Or, wait, was it the cookies more than the chatter/drama? Staggered home, took an aspirin, lay down and whomp! Slept for two hours.

    Machka your story about the last exercise in yoga class reminds me of the guy in our yoga class who not only fell asleep but snored loudly ! :laugh: Sorry to hear the support group is only focused on mindfulness/meditation as stress relief. Think you’d get more stress relief from respite and home health care worker referrals, workshops with practical tips on how to communicate with impaired beloveds, how to advocate for beloved and yourself with the healthcare (and insurance) systems, etc. What you said: agree “... it would cost "help" organisations time and money to arrange actual help for people (and likely some trial and error to get it right) but it's quick and easy and less expensive to have people do a mindfulness exercise.” So the organizers can feel better but the folks they’re intended to help don’t? That DOES seem a colossal waste.
    Lisa ((hugs)) even unwelcome answers can have good end results. Fingers X’d.
    Margaret agree about the “small accidents” signals. Definitely time to slow down, focus. Sometimes I need to “re-center” with a few breaths and a little prayer. Sorry to hear about your sister.
    Barbie love the Gretchen Rubin secrets to adulthood.
    Michele I really miss my aqua Zumba classes at the Meridian fitness center. They had 5 pools, each at different temperatures for different purposes. Aqua Zumba was in the warmest, which we shared with the physio folk. Nothing remotely like that here.
    Vicki which brand vaccine will you get? Pfizer here has had the least reported side effects.
    Tina (and Julie) it is not easy to find a therapist who is a good fit. We were lucky. The lawyer I consulted when considering divorce recommended a good one. He listened enough to observe our dynamics and get a handle on our issues, then provided practical tools we could use to improve our communications. We only saw him for about 3 months but he really made a difference in our lives.
    Pip :love: the pic.

    Worst step day in a long while. Could have walked in place to YouTube hikes but the lazy me won. This time.

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    August: leaner/stronger/kinder than July.
    daily: sit with Joe: 8, weigh/wii: 10/0/0; steps>6704=2945 :rage: vits=10, log=10, CI<CO=10, CI<250<CO=7, Tumble=6, Shadow=11, mfp=10, outside=13, up hill=11, clean 10=1.5.
    wkly: Sun: Mon: Tue:LD YH=1, Wed:TC=1, PW=1. Thurs: Fri:TC=1. Sat:PW=2. rX x4=1.
    wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/30:141.5 5/31:142.4 6/30:141.5 7/31:140.2!!! 8/1:141.3 8/8 140.4
    mnthly: board mtg=, grant=, plan=, waist=42.0
    bonus: AF=6 play= sew=
    2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,946 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    Machka - I can’t do those mindfulness things either. I’ve tried several different ways and like you, I feel I’m wasting time and if I just got done what needed to be done it would be fine. My biggest stress relief is cleaning. I’m struggling now since I can’t do too much of that.

    Tracey

    Cleaning is a big one for me too!

    When my husband had his accident, I got home that evening about 10 pm-ish and cleaned till 2 am, until I was so exhausted I couldn't do much more.

    And when he had his heart attack, I did something similar but not quite as much.

    But I find with cleaning, I do have to focus on the moment (whatever I'm cleaning) yet I can let random thoughts whirl around and get into lists or get out, it's physically active, I usually listen to loud music, and when I'm done or too exhausted to continue, the place is clean!


    M in Oz

    Exactly, you sure nailed it.
    Tracey
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    Machka “CT scan”?
    Thanks for mentioning about your lymph glands and the Pfizer vac, that explains my reaction. Olympic events? Sleeping, reading, and alphabetizing :laugh:
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

    Yes ... I've got a kidney stone in and cyst on my left kidney, and a cyst on my spleen (all left side stuff) ... and a lot of pain on the right side.

    My kidney stones don't show up in ultrasounds but always do on CT scans. It's high up so it won't likely pass for a while.

    We don't know what the right side pain is all about. Everything is testing normal.


    M in Oz
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,946 Member
    Peach1948 wrote: »
    Guess I'm an odd ball among you! I don't meditate, I'm not mindful, I don't read self help books or watch videos that are supposed to improve you! I do pray!

    Lisa ~ I hope your health improves greatly with the new prescription.


    Carol in GA

    I’m off with you Carol. :)
    Tracey
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,806 Member
    Made tapioca fluffy cream for son for his birthday! Serve it like warm soup. That was dinner.

    Husband bonked his monitor with his elbow while shutting his blinds. $445.40 new screen that takes 2 weeks to deliver, later. Dang it!

    Had edamame, 1/2 sandwich, small taco salad, and a bowl of tapioca. Came to 1,000 something calories. I am content.
    No I don't meditate, but I do listen to soothing music, and write letters.
    Hugs ladies
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
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  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    Hi Gals,
    Allie and Lisa – I love the idea of going “dark” even if you can’t go fully dark Allie, what a partial black out… Certainly there are folks you can black out…

    Mindfulness, meditation, and therapy –
    while I do not get anxious, mindfulness as it is often portrayed is not my jam…but from it idea of savoring each bite, truly listening, being quiet for a moment in nature to listen to the birds and other sounds… I do this, I think it just makes me more grateful and happy
    meditation – also not my jam, sounds good on paper, I also use the time to make lists sometimes to even write them down (guaranteed to annoy the meditation leader LOL)
    therapy – I completely agree that finding the right fit is critical, but my counselor saved my life, has given me guidance, homework to help me practice new skills. I found her through (EAP) Employee Assistance Program it was winter I was hiding in a creek with my abuser stalking me, afraid to call 911 (999 in UK) as my family had convinced me it would bring shame to the family – she called 911 got me help and was at the hospital when the ambulance brought me there. I’m stronger, I’m resilient, I can set boundaries, and I can go back to her when I need it. So as you can tell I am an advocate.

    Flea – so glad you got out into nature and had such a good hike. Are you getting support you need at work? If you need it could you work shortened hours for a few weeks?

    Michele – how tall is snow white? You do a very nice job.
    Rebecca – tapioca as dinner, we had tapioca growing up – a cold sweet dessert sorta a pudding like thing with lumps – I was not a fan, as a dinner is it savory?

    Smiles, Kim in Northern California
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,043 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,188 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: take BP, Bethany cooking fun for food bank, fire district meeting prep.
    Bonus: 2 hr nap
    Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, drop off printouts at fire all after T’ai Chi, Farmers’ market for beets, radishes, Grocery outlet for snow peas, brie, dog group backup J for L, fire district board meeting, flagger course progress, figure out how to see what’s using all our mobile data, USE those torture bands/do that BB&B video, call S, fire district: research NFPA, grant NIMS requirements, ongoing: input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS mutual aid and other missing details, likewise Lee skills/tasks, ask for boots donator contact info, appreciation letter or certificate to boots donator, index mutual aid files; watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart,; Do Your Thing, practice dances: One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke, All Night, Pure Movies to Wine, Beer, Whiskey, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat),); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
    August
    9: Thank someone you’re grateful to and tell them why:
    10: Check in with someone who may be lonely or feeling anxious:

    Cooking with the gals for the hungry, mostly fun and a good thing to do once a month. But two hours in a kitchen with 3 other women, left me with a headache. Or, wait, was it the cookies more than the chatter/drama? Staggered home, took an aspirin, lay down and whomp! Slept for two hours.

    Machka your story about the last exercise in yoga class reminds me of the guy in our yoga class who not only fell asleep but snored loudly ! :laugh: Sorry to hear the support group is only focused on mindfulness/meditation as stress relief. Think you’d get more stress relief from respite and home health care worker referrals, workshops with practical tips on how to communicate with impaired beloveds, how to advocate for beloved and yourself with the healthcare (and insurance) systems, etc. What you said: agree “... it would cost "help" organisations time and money to arrange actual help for people (and likely some trial and error to get it right) but it's quick and easy and less expensive to have people do a mindfulness exercise.” So the organizers can feel better but the folks they’re intended to help don’t? That DOES seem a colossal waste.
    Lisa ((hugs)) even unwelcome answers can have good end results. Fingers X’d.
    Margaret agree about the “small accidents” signals. Definitely time to slow down, focus. Sometimes I need to “re-center” with a few breaths and a little prayer. Sorry to hear about your sister.
    Barbie love the Gretchen Rubin secrets to adulthood.
    Michele I really miss my aqua Zumba classes at the Meridian fitness center. They had 5 pools, each at different temperatures for different purposes. Aqua Zumba was in the warmest, which we shared with the physio folk. Nothing remotely like that here.
    Vicki which brand vaccine will you get? Pfizer here has had the least reported side effects.
    Tina (and Julie) it is not easy to find a therapist who is a good fit. We were lucky. The lawyer I consulted when considering divorce recommended a good one. He listened enough to observe our dynamics and get a handle on our issues, then provided practical tools we could use to improve our communications. We only saw him for about 3 months but he really made a difference in our lives.
    Pip :love: the pic.

    Worst step day in a long while. Could have walked in place to YouTube hikes but the lazy me won. This time.

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    August: leaner/stronger/kinder than July.
    daily: sit with Joe: 8, weigh/wii: 10/0/0; steps>6704=2945 :rage: vits=10, log=10, CI<CO=10, CI<250<CO=7, Tumble=6, Shadow=11, mfp=10, outside=13, up hill=11, clean 10=1.5.
    wkly: Sun: Mon: Tue:LD YH=1, Wed:TC=1, PW=1. Thurs: Fri:TC=1. Sat:PW=2. rX x4=1.
    wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/30:141.5 5/31:142.4 6/30:141.5 7/31:140.2!!! 8/1:141.3 8/8 140.4
    mnthly: board mtg=, grant=, plan=, waist=42.0
    bonus: AF=6 play= sew=
    2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW

    OHHH I would love a aqua zumba class-I love swimming and wish there was a place to swim around here and add in zumba sounds perfect. There are a couple pools but so limited right now.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    edited August 2021
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Rebecca – tapioca as dinner, we had tapioca growing up – a cold sweet dessert sorta a pudding like thing with lumps – I was not a fan, as a dinner is it savory?

    Smiles, Kim in Northern California

    We had the same thing growing up ... hated it!!

    Bubble tea is really popular here, but I think I'd hate it too because of that texture.


    What Is Tapioca and What Is It Good For?
    https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/tapioca

    "Tapioca is almost pure starch and has very limited nutritional value.

    However, it’s naturally gluten-free, so it can serve as a wheat substitute in cooking and baking for people who are on a gluten-free diet.

    Tapioca is a dried product and usually sold as white flour, flakes, or pearls."

    "Nutritional value
    Tapioca is almost pure starch, so it’s almost entirely made up of carbs.

    It contains only minor amounts of protein, fat, and fiber.

    Furthermore, it contains minor amounts of other nutrients. Most of them amount to less than 0.1% of the recommended daily amount in one serving.

    One cup of dry tapioca pearls contains 544 calories.

    Due to its lack of protein and nutrients, tapioca is nutritionally inferior to most grains and flours.

    In fact, tapioca can be considered a source of “empty” calories, since it provides energy but almost no essential nutrients."


    With that starch content, it sounds like it would be a good thickener. My husband and I are thinking of trying to make cauliflower pies. I love cauliflower pies!! I wonder if it would work to thicken the sauce.


    M in Oz
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,699 Member
    edited August 2021
    The right therapist can be, like Kim said, a life saver. I have had many over the years, and needed them. Desperately. One or two were rubbish, some were OK, and a two or three were wonderful. I have been so far down in the hole so many times that I thought I was never coming out. Other times I just needed some adjustment and a little 'tweak'. A new perspective.
    The right fit is essential. You will always know when someone 'hears' you and it isn't always comfortable. My best ever therapist was quite tough on me and I respected her because she didn't let me do my normal thing of running rings around them and thinking I was cleverer than they were. :laugh:
    I'm going to publish a book next, in fictional form, about an encounter with one therapist I had. I actually wrote it twenty or more years ago. At the time it was traumatic, but I'm so glad it happened. I learnt a lot about myself.
    These days I find books are amazing. A video or podcast can be great, soothing, encouraging company. I often find that I am pondering or thinking about something and the absolutely right video, or book, pops up. My favourite book these days, which I am rereading, is The Way of Integrity, by Martha Beck.
    I always hesitate to recommend books, because it is such a personal thing and depends on where you are in your life. Sometimes the right book just turns up at the right time. It jumps right out at you. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear."
    I do feel, and this is born out by sociological research, that people get happier as they get older. That may be true for the older folks on this thread. Just my feeling.
    I have pursued peace of mind all my life, instead of the 'pieces of mind' I used to have. I do feel I am getting there. :p Here, right now, I am happier than I have ever been.
    I wish all of you peace.

    Flea - I love your son and the cookie! <3 Your definition of Mindfulness is great. I used to teach Drama for self-empowerment and self-expression. One introductory exercise was to go around the room saying hello to all the things. Except you had to call them by the wrong name. So , to the ceiling, you'd say, hello piano! It certainly concentrated the mind and brought you present.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,884 Member
    edited August 2021
    Flea -
    I was wondering about your progress with your treatment, thank you for letting us know, and for your kind words. I think of you often and aspire to have even a tiny jot of the grace with which you're handling all of this. Your son and the cookie were hilarious. I also remember Silver Falls - Corey and I hiked up there more than once when we lived in Coos Bay.

    Re: Tapioca
    Much like raisins in chocolate chip cookies, tapioca (and bubble tea, popular here, too) remind me of bubble wrap, small blisters that explode in your mouth. Not my favorite texture.

    Re: Meditation, mindfulness, therapy
    I've tried meditation in most forms that are accessible, and the only part of it that was helpful was sleeping meditation when we stayed with our daughter for five months. My monkey mind goes absolutely ape (sorry, bad pun) whenever I try to get it to chill out. I get frustrated when "experts" tout mindfulness and meditation as the resolution for everyone when it's not. Therapy, on the other hand - three times it was a lifeline.
    1. When they were trying to get my head fixed after a suicide attempt, my early years in the Air Force (I was 19). Worked with her for six months, and she was great.
    2. The second one was actually a psychiatrist, and he ended up giving me away at my wedding. Nice guy. Should have told me not to get married, but you can't have everything.
    3. The therapist who, two years after my mother's death, pushed me to take my mother's journals, go away for a weekend, and read them all as a catharsis. It was definitely a turning point, and I'm ever grateful.

    Latest medications:
    The doc put me on a steroid application, where three times a day I treat every ulcer I can reach inside my mouth with a thin film of the ointment. Note - the mouth ulcers are everywhere, even the area of my throat that I can see, and a half dozen at the tip of my tongue. However, as I enter the third day of the steroid treatment, it's actually working somewhat--everything is less angry and hurty. Fingers crossed.

    More blood tests this morning at 7 a.m., so will go see if I can get some more sleep. It's not quite 3 a.m., so I'll get a couple hours, hopefully. Tests are at 7 a.m., next town over, so I'll need to leave by 6:15. Thank goodness they're not fasting labs, so I can have coffee when I get up again.

    Later,
    Love y'all,
    Lisa
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    edited August 2021
    Machka9 wrote: »
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »

    When I lie down or sit quietly, I fall asleep! :smiley:

    The last thing we used to do in a yoga class long ago was to lie down, close our eyes and tense then relax our feet, tense then relax our calves, and all the way up. That was OK because I usually got to the calves and fell asleep. I don't actually know what happens after the calves!

    Occasionally, if I haven't fallen asleep in the first minute or so in bed, I'll do that.

    Or I'll think, "What shoes should I wear tomorrow? They should be bla .... " and then I fall asleep.


    M in Oz
    how luck to fall asleep so quickly!

    I'm that tired. :neutral:


    But regarding the meditation thing, it's all the rage here and I constantly feel pressured into it.

    The brain injury association often does a meditation/mindfulness thing at the start or finish of the gatherings.

    The carer's organisations keep pressuring me to take a meditation/mindfulness class. I ask them for help and they send me heaps of information on medication/mindfulness. I've had texts and emails and all sorts about this one just recently ... they say, "If you feel you need a break and would like to learn a few tips on how to combat anxiety, stress and emotional set backs, join us in a 90 minute mindfulness session." It's like this mindfulness stuff is going to solve all my problems.
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    Pretty much everywhere I've turned for help around here offers me meditation/mindfulness.


    For a while, I thought it might help but it doesn't help me ... and that was disappointing in a way ... so I began to think of things that DO help me. :)

    There were two things that got me to thinking about things that DO help me:

    1) I was attending a Carer's session that was supposed to be an instructional session on "How to talk to Medical Professionals" and which dissolved quickly into mindfulness exercises. During that session various ones brought up issues they were having with the person they cared for and finally the instructor led us through an odd combination of how to communicate effectively with people (disregarding the fact that many of the people the group cared for had communication problems) and mindfulness and "letting it go". One of the examples used was getting the person we cared for to wash the dishes (?!?!) "It makes me sad when I come home and the dishes aren't done" and if that doesn't help, quiet the mind and let it go and all that.
    I was confused. I wondered why the person didn't just get a dishwasher and be done with it. Solve the problem instead of employing a whole bunch of calming techniques. That got me to thinking that a portion of our stressors can be solved with practical solutions.

    2) There is an ad on TV for a bank (I think). There are two older guys who look like twins and one is talking about how his work is stressful and he likes listening to heavy metal to relieve the stress. He says, "It isn't his cup of tea" and the other guy is making a cup of tea and has a book in hand and shakes his head and says, "It isn't my cup of tea" then goes to read. Meanwhile the first guy goes out into the yard, puts on headphones and listens to his heavy metal.



    Those two things helped me to put together that list I posted earlier of what does help me. :)

    The mindfulness stuff being pushed on me isn't my cup of tea ... but I have figured out what is. And that makes me feel happier. :)


    Machka in Oz

    Here it is. I didn't get the ad (insurance) quite right ... but same idea, I think ... :)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1Sgp7QOpdo


    M in Oz

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,090 Member
    Flea- glad you have some energy to hike-Evan and Amy are Jims son and daughter in lawand expected his grandson within the next couple of weeks,Jim has moved here to the condo complex i am in,and we have been good friends for many years...well i told him a few weeks ago rhat I think they had picked out a name and i didn't know it..and they were not saying.. so he contacted them and got all upset because they didnt tell him the name.. and now he isnt talking to me.. Evan and Amy are..Jim will have to get over it honestly.. i am over all the drama that goes on.. im jusr waiting to meet there new little son...
    Tracy finds out on the 19th what gender the baby is so that is exciting..
    Had a lovely time last night at the concert,so the band the lead is Evans uncle Michael who I grew up with same neighborhood he and his wife have been married 40 yrs,which is àmazing in its own right.Loretta is one of those down to earth never get angry, even keel kinda people.she had 4 kids Ben 2nd oldest Dans age came downstairs at 15 and had had a brain aneurysm they lifestared him to the childrens hospital where it was touch and go for quite a while..,he pulled through,a total personality change,diabetic, epilepsy, left arm paralyzed, but still smart as a whip and doing well.. because of him his mom ,2 aunts and 4 cousins have gone on to become nurses..and wonderdul nurses they are..they are one amazing family..
    My Tracy gets snarky because I am close with the family,i grew up with all of them ,they went on to higher education, i gave both my children the chance to do that,but Tracy thought she knew better and was drinking and doing drugs ang quit school at 16 and got pregnant at 18,she did straighten out and become a good mother but had i think always been jealous of how all her peers turned out.
    Dan is Dan..
    Good guy
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    Hmmm...therapy...I am not against therapy or psychiatry. Sometimes you need someone to just listen to you, perhaps help you find solutions to problems/issues. I have never been to a therapist; but in reflection, I probably should have been seeing one after my parents passed. I was in a dark place for about eight years; and my brain's way of defending/protecting itself from the pain was to put all memories of my parents into a box in a dusty corner of itself. The problem with that has been become clear, recently, as many of my childhood memories ended up getting "boxed up" along with memories of my parents. Now, things will trigger those memories and the box pops open and things ooze out into my brain and it is quite jarring sometimes. Nothing super traumatic or distressing, but things that will trigger emotion and tears in the middle of some menial task...yeah. I really should have seen a psychiatrist. But as a young, busy, mom with no support system close by (we had moved after my parents passed) and therapy being so costly and not covered by insurance, it never happened. Our brains tend to things regardless. Maybe not in the best way; but in my opinon, our bodies are designed to take care of themselves. It might not take care of things in the healthiest way, but it does take care of things. On a side note: I began keeping a journal after my parents passed. I think that helped.
    tapioca- I think I liked tapioca as a kid. We had it often enough that I remember eating it. I think I liked it, but it was not my favorite dessert. As a kid, I LOVED butterscotch pudding! I still like it as an adult; but haven't made it in many years (since my own kids were small). Butterscotch is Colin's favorite as well. Darren, Lauren, and Tim were/are chocolate lovers. Tapioca pearls have become quite popular as a sensory item for small children (because they are like water beads, except non-toxic).
    Pip- What a fantastic picture! I have seen the woman beside you, in pics you have posted before...old friend? co-worker/friend? Then, of course,there's that gorgeous hunk of a man next to you! Kirbywiththelonghair! lol Hugs to you both!
    Rebecca- Sorry to hear about the damage to the screen! Unexpected necessary expenses are horrible!

    Like a couple of you on this site, I have not had the vaccine. I am not anti-vax, I just don't like putting things into my body that might not belong there. lol I have always been like this about shots and meds. Hey, I live in the "land of money is more important than people" ( I believe that is the mantra of American healthcare/pharmaceuticals). Anywho...I gave myself a fall cut off point to decide on getting vaccinated. Can someone (Machka or someone up on the vaccine facts) give me a couple of websites with FACTS. Also, if it has a FAQ section, that would be good. I don't want to hear about anything being run by politics or any political side agenda. Just COVID facts. Delta variant as well. Tim has been sending me articles, but they are full of "fears", half truths, and political ranting/blaming. I can't read any more of those. I get angry. lol

    Well, it is another warm and humid morning. Overcast and the forecast has the temps up near 90 and chance of thunderstorms. It is going to be an interesting (and hot and sticky) day with the kiddos. I better scoot. Pancakes for breakfast (for the kids; yogurt smoothie for me). ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    edited August 2021
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    tapioca- I think I liked tapioca as a kid. We had it often enough that I remember eating it. I think I liked it, but it was not my favorite dessert. As a kid, I LOVED butterscotch pudding! I still like it as an adult; but haven't made it in many years (since my own kids were small). Butterscotch is Colin's favorite as well. Darren, Lauren, and Tim were/are chocolate lovers. Tapioca pearls have become quite popular as a sensory item for small children (because they are like water beads, except non-toxic).

    Can someone (Machka or someone up on the vaccine facts) give me a couple of websites with FACTS. Also, if it has a FAQ section, that would be good. I don't want to hear about anything being run by politics or any political side agenda. Just COVID facts. Delta variant as well. Tim has been sending me articles, but they are full of "fears", half truths, and political ranting/blaming. I can't read any more of those. I get angry. lol

    KJ (Kelly)

    Tapioca bubbles - when I was young, someone suggested to me that they were like caviar. Fish eggs. I was so grossed out by that, I couldn't eat it any more.

    I love chocolate pudding, especially dark chocolate pudding ... but it does not love me. Somewhere in my early 20s, I started feeling sick each time I ate it. Probably has something to do with the milk. I get the same way with hot chocolate made with milk. And chocolate milk.



    COVID - I follow these pages:
    https://www.coronavirus.tas.gov.au/
    https://www.health.gov.au/news/health-alerts/novel-coronavirus-2019-ncov-health-alert
    https://www.csiro.au/en/research/health-medical/diseases/covid-19-research
    https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/topic/coronavirus-coverage
    https://www.who.int/

    Like this:
    People who already had COVID-19 should still get vaccinated, scientists urge
    https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/people-who-already-had-covid-19-should-still-get-vaccinated-scientists-urge

    And the regular, almost daily email updates I get from my department.

    M in Oz
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,255 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    Hmmm...therapy...I am not against therapy or psychiatry. Sometimes you need someone to just listen to you, perhaps help you find solutions to problems/issues. I have never been to a therapist; but in reflection, I probably should have been seeing one after my parents passed. I was in a dark place for about eight years; and my brain's way of defending/protecting itself from the pain was to put all memories of my parents into a box in a dusty corner of itself. The problem with that has been become clear, recently, as many of my childhood memories ended up getting "boxed up" along with memories of my parents. Now, things will trigger those memories and the box pops open and things ooze out into my brain and it is quite jarring sometimes. Nothing super traumatic or distressing, but things that will trigger emotion and tears in the middle of some menial task...yeah. I really should have seen a psychiatrist. But as a young, busy, mom with no support system close by (we had moved after my parents passed) and therapy being so costly and not covered by insurance, it never happened. Our brains tend to things regardless. Maybe not in the best way; but in my opinon, our bodies are designed to take care of themselves. It might not take care of things in the healthiest way, but it does take care of things. On a side note: I began keeping a journal after my parents passed. I think that helped.
    tapioca- I think I liked tapioca as a kid. We had it often enough that I remember eating it. I think I liked it, but it was not my favorite dessert. As a kid, I LOVED butterscotch pudding! I still like it as an adult; but haven't made it in many years (since my own kids were small). Butterscotch is Colin's favorite as well. Darren, Lauren, and Tim were/are chocolate lovers. Tapioca pearls have become quite popular as a sensory item for small children (because they are like water beads, except non-toxic).
    Pip- What a fantastic picture! I have seen the woman beside you, in pics you have posted before...old friend? co-worker/friend? Then, of course,there's that gorgeous hunk of a man next to you! Kirbywiththelonghair! lol Hugs to you both!
    Rebecca- Sorry to hear about the damage to the screen! Unexpected necessary expenses are horrible!

    Like a couple of you on this site, I have not had the vaccine. I am not anti-vax, I just don't like putting things into my body that might not belong there. lol I have always been like this about shots and meds. Hey, I live in the "land of money is more important than people" ( I believe that is the mantra of American healthcare/pharmaceuticals). Anywho...I gave myself a fall cut off point to decide on getting vaccinated. Can someone (Machka or someone up on the vaccine facts) give me a couple of websites with FACTS. Also, if it has a FAQ section, that would be good. I don't want to hear about anything being run by politics or any political side agenda. Just COVID facts. Delta variant as well. Tim has been sending me articles, but they are full of "fears", half truths, and political ranting/blaming. I can't read any more of those. I get angry. lol

    Well, it is another warm and humid morning. Overcast and the forecast has the temps up near 90 and chance of thunderstorms. It is going to be an interesting (and hot and sticky) day with the kiddos. I better scoot. Pancakes for breakfast (for the kids; yogurt smoothie for me). ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

    Thx. The girl in the last pic with us is a former coworker. We used to work at Amazon together and have remained friends ever since so from 1999 onward. She met me when I was big so she is in awe of my weight loss and the ability to have kept it off .
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,699 Member
    edited August 2021
    Treating myself to a meal delivery tonight. Persian. :D Feels weird not to be preparing food, but I'm happy to have a rest from cooking. Just one mixed grill kebab to share, with salad, rice and accompaniments, plus one aubergine and yogurt dip to share. A F red wine for me. I have a 25% off code for the meal.
    I forgot to share that I lost another pound this weekend. :drinker: That's 3 lbs in all. Soooooo happy! Hope to have shifted one more by Friday. I 'feel' much slimmer already. :p Ich habe gute Laune. B) One more to go and I'm back in 'normal' BMI.

    Now to row some more off and watch a French series.

    DH has been tinkering with his new laptop. He has a lot more patience than I do. :o>:)

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,307 Member
    Bananas “ And sports, crocheting, working CAN be meditative. Thich that hang (now he is not teaching but in the past) practices and taught all sorts of meditations:


    PEE MEDITATION !
    walking meditation(I saw him do leading the group to slow running meditation on a chilly winter morning, at age 80+)
    telephone meditation
    eating meditation
    peeing meditation
    tea meditation
    "deep listening"
    you name it.

    https://thichnhathanhfoundation.org/be-mindful-in-daily-life

    "We practice mindfulness throughout every moment of the day – not just in the meditation hall but also in the kitchen, the toilet, in our rooms, and on the path leading from one place to another."”

    Ive been reading his books recently and trying to follow some of his teachings.

    On meditation and mindfulness, I believe these are two different things for me. In my mind, mindfulness is being in the moment, being fully aware of what you are doing right in the moment, not thinking about the past or future but right now. And meditation is escaping from reality for a time to just shut your mind down for a bit to clear it of clutter.

    I also believe that these two things are different for everyone. I especially appreciated the post by Bananas that I quoted above.

    Off to work. Catch up later.

    RvRita on pg. 26
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
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    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    KELLY even if the issues were long ago IF you find a therapist who s a good match it can help sort out long ago things..
    I met a woman long ago who said something to the effect that she had worked through all (the garbage?) She was ready to work through and was composting the rest.

    COVID i also occasionally look at johnshopkins website on covid. I have looked at WHO.

    It can be helpful to look at reputable press in other countries. The guardian is free and is considered reliable accordong to mediabias measiring sites...

    HEATHER woohoo for thr SV!

    RITA i agree w you about mindfulness. Medition can be mindfulness or something else entirely(escape..?) I generally practice vipassana meditation as taught by the rather non-religious insight meditation traditions (wonderful philosophical author stephen batchelor, more well known more pop author jack cornfield and others). In that in one of the core practices the meditation involves observing breath body sensations emotions or thoughts or a combination... that seems very much like mindfulness or mikdfulness training TO ME. there is also loving kindness/metta meditation as an option and then different teachers have different approaches. (Some use koans asking an existential question but that doesnt work much for me.) there are so many types of meditation practice and not all are mindfulnese...i agree with you
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,806 Member
    Smiles, Kim in Northern California, the fluffy tapioca recipe is sweet. Its a double recipe of what's on the Minute Tapioca box. It involves 6 Tbsp of tapioca, 6 Tbsp of sugar, 2 egg yolks in a pan. Then 3 egg whites, 6 Tbsp sugar whipped up into a meringue. Simmer pot, until bubbly and thick, temper in the meringue, add 2 tsp vanilla. I serve it hot, and everyone eats it like its a soup.😂🙃👍
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,255 Member
    Morning peeps. Had to take a short walk today and be home by 7am. We had someone coming over to give us design ideas for pavers in the front patio. Yesterday our top roof rack and bike rack came. Kirby put it on. Now we can put stuff on the roof and free up the car space giving more room for yogi and free up the trailer too. This way when we get to where we are going there won’t be as much to take out of the trailer aka Bette.

    7:19am, not here yet and no phone call.. ughhhh. We make an effort to be on time, y can’t they.

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