WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2022
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I am with DH in his nursing facility, and the nurses are very good. He is well cared for. We are watching TV. Many of you may remember Wagon Train. DH loves this show. I’m watching and remember it well.
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Well I had my mango smoothie and it was quite good.
3/4 Cup frozen mango chunks
1/2 banana
1/2 Cup fresh packed spinach
3/8 Cup of almond milk unsweetened
It was 141 calories, until I ate the rest of the banana. My mini blender did well, and rinsed clean. I used a straw, and that might take more cleaning. The smoothie wasn't much volume but it ought to be quite filling in half an hour or so. So lots of vitamins and lots of satisfaction in a fifteen minute meal. Yay!
It was quite cold, as you might imagine. But my mom likes to keep the house at 75 degrees these days, so it is actually refreshing.
Let's hope this kills the evening snacking cravings.
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Mary ~ I love that cartoon!
My son's dog completely destroyed a leather sofa at his house. Then, when I kept the two dogs during son's vacation, same dog destroyed my wicker sofa and table on the porch. 
Carol in GA4 -
Had a good Thanksgiving with family here. DD and I have decided we are getting pretty set in our ways. Having 2 teenage boys here for a week has been stressful. They are messy beyond belief and I cannot believe how much they eat. It is like a hoard of locusts decended. We had a ham on Thanksgiving, about 4.5 pounds boneless. Six of us were here and probably consumed about 1.5 pounds. I put the rest of it away planning to use it for meals later in the week. By Saturday morning it was completely gone. They also have been borrowing my car which worries me but so far everything has gone OK. They leave tomorrow and I will be glad to have my house to myself again. DD feels the same way and says we will not let them stay that long again but have them for shorter visits.
Count me with those who will not marry again. DH died 3 years ago just 3 months short of our 50th wedding anniversary but I am happy to be my own person now. I live in a large house with my DD. We each have our own space and some shared space and get along really well.
Rebecca - good luck with the surgery.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA6 -
Karen--Love the picture your brother did in his new apartment. I also have special feelings for my oldest DGD. I too always wanted a girl and she spent a lot of time with us while she was growing up.
Deb--Sorry about your fall. Sending healing prayers.
Karen--Sending HUGS!!
Cecillie--Welcome. This is a great group for support and friendship. Baby steps and it will get better.
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Went home early last Tuesday as was not feeling good and got hit with a good old fashion head cold and flu. For about 3 days was really out of it. Today first day back at work, still have a cough. But no fever. Tested so know it was not Covid. Now DH has it.
Sounds like we have a winter storm coming tomorrow. Been lucky so far with good weather.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE
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Hey all. Good conversations!
Weight loss/healthy choices- Making healthy choices like planning meals, meal times, exercise takes work. I think that is why my weight and habits fluctuate up and down, up and down, over and over. Months ago, Barbie shared how she figured out exactly how much "free" time she had each day/week, by writing down everything she did. I found out that I have 32 hours of free time each week (sleeping time is not free time). I have days and weeks where I can use that time efficiently and get things done or just relax. Some days/weeks that time is eaten away by caring for my DH. Some days/weeks that time is spent caring for myself. I know the weight that I have to lose will come off, as soon as I have the energy and heart to put into it. Some days I am there; some days I am not. I am hoping my upcoming trip will keep me on the better choices path and using my "free" time wisely.
caregiving- If my DH goes before me, I will not remarry. I might date. I might have a relationship. I might gift myself a toy and some alone time. BUT, I will not remarry. I have never had time to myself. I really think I need that. I have cared for many lifetimes worth of people. I just want time to care for myself. It feels selfish to think and as I read it, it looks selfish to see in print; but I think every one needs some point in their life to think about themselves and put themselves first. I was just going to say, "I'm not Mother Teresa". But even Mother Teresa did what she WANTED and was where she WANTED to be. Her choices. Mine aren't as noble, but if I don't take care of me, who will?
Regarding free time ...
We have 168 hours in the week.
If we sleep 8 hours a night, that's 56 hours.
168 - 56 = 112
My time from when I get up in the morning to get ready for work until I get home from work is 10 hour a day 4 or 5 days a week = 40-50 hours. Lunch can be sort of free time, but I'm often running errands or attending appointments. I consider it a good week if I can get 1 or 2 lunches where I don't have something to do.
112 - 45 = 67
Then there's walking Rhody and dinner. Walking Rhody is a relaxing time for me but now that he's in the habit, it must be done. That usually takes up 1.5 hours a day, 7 days a week = 10.5 hours.
67 - 10.5 = 56.5
Then there's housework, evening Zoom meetings, cycling club stuff, legal stuff, caring stuff, bills and other stuff that comes up and needs to be dealt with. I would guess I spend about 3 hours a day 7 days a week on that stuff = 21 hours a week.
56.5 - 21 = 35.5 hours
In those 35.5 hours, I work on my organising and simplifying projects, I work in the garden, I ride my bicycle, walk, run, row, do pilates and/or lift weights, and I colour.
Like you, I have days and weeks where I can use that time efficiently and get things done or just relax.
And some weeks are busier than others with caring, legal stuff, cycling club stuff, etc. This past week was a cycling club week, for example.
Regarding remarrying ... I also have absolutely no intention to remarry. I hope my husband will live on for many years yet, but when the time comes, I imagine myself moving into an independent living apartment (if I'm not there already) and amusing myself by returning to university to take another course ... or travelling.
Machka in Oz
Lolol, intention on remarrying is one thing, what actually happens in the future is another. Here I am 4 marriages later when I had every intention on making my 1st marriage my only marriage4 -
Didn’t take the dogs walking, stayed in bed til 8. Went to bed at 6:40pm the night before, my stomach wasn’t feeling well. Threw up last night, raging headache.10
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Pip That sounds like a nasty bug. Hope you feel better!
I am frustrated. I just fixed my eating routine, and then I strained my shoulder. I was just picking up almond milk, but it must have been an odd angle or something. So no yoga, no dumbbells for awhile. Maybe I can walk a bit instead.
Cooking was painful. I tried to use my left hand. I let my Dad do the dishes.
I thought the dumbbells would protect me from this kind of injury. I suppose I should be thankful it's not worse.
Annie in Delaware5 -
Pg 71
Too tired tonight
☘️ Terri1 -
Yup the creepin crud sure is going around..
Sorry for all that aren't feeling well
Miles I think might have a ear infection cranky as a mule today.. but don't know if Tracy will take him in or not..we shall see.. I am taking Carmine to get haircut tomorrow with me .the last few days I feel my hair has been super duper fine..will ask my hairdresser whats going on.. its supposed to pour on Wednesday and I have to drive down about 25 miles to the new Drs office..gosh how I hate driving in rain.. I'll stay in the slow lane.
Rebecca- sending love and good wishes for a quick and easy surgery tomorrow..xoxo
Can someone tell me how a 17 lb dog can hog a queen size bed laying horizontal across it and give me maybe 6 inches on the very edge lol.5 -
Rebecca: thinking of you and your surgery tomorrow. Get well soon!
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Rebecca - Thinking about you... Hope your surgery is quick and successful, and your recovery is swift and painfree. You will be fine, my friend, so glad Lee will be there to make sure of it.
My best friend landed in the emergency room in Alaska last night, couldn't breathe--ended up having the flu and a sinus infection. She was up visiting her grandkids; their daddy is stationed at Eileson AFB up near the Arctic Circle. She flies back home tomorrow. Worried about her, I can't imagine getting on a plane feeling like that.
Tried out the new Instant Pot again, this time with pork country-style ribs. Having fun doing something different--and Corey ate them, so would make those again...
Also got in about an hour's writing today, pleased with that.
Later y'all,
Love,
Lisa
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Praying for you and your surgery tomorrow, Rebecca. I promise that you will eventually feel better even if you initially feel like you've been hit by a truck. Keep the long game in mind. Love you, girl.
Had my four-week oncology appointment today. Boy, that waiting room is one of the most depressing places on earth. A lot of people are in really bad shape. Makes me thankful that I am doing as well as I am. I haven't seen my blood work yet, but the PA I met with today said everything looked wonderful, so I am good to continue treatment. I have my CT and bone scans next week. They will tell the whole story.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR7 -
Only had a can of soup and a slice of buttered bread, had to add 700 calories so the system can let me complete the day, I hate that4
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Worked. They told me that they wanted me to go back to working M, W, F, and Sat. So that means I can go to the gym early tomorrow. Yea! I hate feeling rushed. The only bad thing is that the Salvation Army isn’t opened yet. So I’ll do a body pump DVD tomorrow.
Rori – I’m so happy for you and your life now.
Anne DE – yea Teddy!
Well, the shingles for our roof were delivered today. Tomorrow the fun begins
katla – what happened to the bus that was going to be able to take you to dh on Tuesdays? Did they maybe cancel that bus?
Allie – I always said that kids are made of steel with a rubber coating!!!
Lisa – just what you and your daughter need! Why are people like this? How long will he be in Georgia? A long time, I hope
Went to ceramics and picked up Mickey and Minnie
pip – feel better fast
Rebecca – thinking of you and wishing you all the best for tomorrow
Michele NC6 -
Rebecca
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good thoughts to you Rebecca!!!0
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Rebecca I will be praying for you and your surgery tomorrow. I hope that you are able to rest tonight and you recover quickly.
💕Mary from Arizona/Minnesota1 -
(((Rebecca)))
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Michele—DH is in a good facility, and is getting good nursing care. I had dinner with him today. The nurses are skilled RN’s. He will likely be there for a while longer.
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Rebecca- Hope you have a speedy recovery! Will be thinking of you.
Pip - I hope you feel better soon
Remarrying - I’m not sure I would go looking for another husband, but I wouldn’t outright dismiss the idea. I guess it would depend on how old I was at the time too.
I am supposed to be off after tomorrow for the week, but I think I’ll have to work on Wednesday too.
I am working on stockings tonight, enjoying the Christmas decorations.
I’ll share some photos in a separate post.
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These are some pictures of our decorating weekend.
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Hi all, late start to November for me in this group.
My name is Cindy, live in Florida. Age 54. I’m Focusing on the last 5 weeks of this year with healthy eating choices, getting some exercise and better sleep habits.9 -
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Hey all. Good conversations!
Weight loss/healthy choices- Making healthy choices like planning meals, meal times, exercise takes work. I think that is why my weight and habits fluctuate up and down, up and down, over and over. Months ago, Barbie shared how she figured out exactly how much "free" time she had each day/week, by writing down everything she did. I found out that I have 32 hours of free time each week (sleeping time is not free time). I have days and weeks where I can use that time efficiently and get things done or just relax. Some days/weeks that time is eaten away by caring for my DH. Some days/weeks that time is spent caring for myself. I know the weight that I have to lose will come off, as soon as I have the energy and heart to put into it. Some days I am there; some days I am not. I am hoping my upcoming trip will keep me on the better choices path and using my "free" time wisely.
caregiving- If my DH goes before me, I will not remarry. I might date. I might have a relationship. I might gift myself a toy and some alone time. BUT, I will not remarry. I have never had time to myself. I really think I need that. I have cared for many lifetimes worth of people. I just want time to care for myself. It feels selfish to think and as I read it, it looks selfish to see in print; but I think every one needs some point in their life to think about themselves and put themselves first. I was just going to say, "I'm not Mother Teresa". But even Mother Teresa did what she WANTED and was where she WANTED to be. Her choices. Mine aren't as noble, but if I don't take care of me, who will?
Regarding free time ...
We have 168 hours in the week.
If we sleep 8 hours a night, that's 56 hours.
168 - 56 = 112
My time from when I get up in the morning to get ready for work until I get home from work is 10 hour a day 4 or 5 days a week = 40-50 hours. Lunch can be sort of free time, but I'm often running errands or attending appointments. I consider it a good week if I can get 1 or 2 lunches where I don't have something to do.
112 - 45 = 67
Then there's walking Rhody and dinner. Walking Rhody is a relaxing time for me but now that he's in the habit, it must be done. That usually takes up 1.5 hours a day, 7 days a week = 10.5 hours.
67 - 10.5 = 56.5
Then there's housework, evening Zoom meetings, cycling club stuff, legal stuff, caring stuff, bills and other stuff that comes up and needs to be dealt with. I would guess I spend about 3 hours a day 7 days a week on that stuff = 21 hours a week.
56.5 - 21 = 35.5 hours
In those 35.5 hours, I work on my organising and simplifying projects, I work in the garden, I ride my bicycle, walk, run, row, do pilates and/or lift weights, and I colour.
Like you, I have days and weeks where I can use that time efficiently and get things done or just relax.
And some weeks are busier than others with caring, legal stuff, cycling club stuff, etc. This past week was a cycling club week, for example.
Regarding remarrying ... I also have absolutely no intention to remarry. I hope my husband will live on for many years yet, but when the time comes, I imagine myself moving into an independent living apartment (if I'm not there already) and amusing myself by returning to university to take another course ... or travelling.
Machka in Oz
Lolol, intention on remarrying is one thing, what actually happens in the future is another. Here I am 4 marriages later when I had every intention on making my 1st marriage my only marriage
I was single for 10 years between my first and second. I decided that was what I wanted to do and I liked that. I would want to do at least that again and by then I'd probably be too old and tired for another relationship.
M in Oz2 -
KetoneKaren wrote: »a diagnosis would be helpful, but so far none is forthcoming from her neurologist.
Karen in Virginia
Has she had a neuropsychological assessment?
You should have answers with one of those.
M in Oz
Yes, she has! Good thought!
Details in spoiler: (long and boring, feel free to skip):This month, she is seeing a movement disorder specialist for the first time.
She has been evaluated by a neurologist, neuropsychologist, general internist, rheumatologist, endocrinologist, ENT/Balance specialist, and cardiologist. She is up to date on all screening tests for age and has had brain MRI, evoked potentials, EMG, EEG, event monitor, etc. Even so, there are a few tests/evaluations that she hasn't had. I am thinking of asking if a neuropharmacology assessment might clarify whether any of her medications are contributing to her movement disorder, gait and balance issues, and short term memory loss. She has some of the manifestations of Parkinson's, but certainly is not presenting classically, and her MRI showed no evidence, although she has not yet had a DaTscan.
I know it sometimes takes time and lots of evaluations to pin down diagnoses. Nonetheless, it is hard not to know what is wrong and wonder if an accurate diagnosis would make a difference in treatment and outcome. I understand the reluctance to diagnose Parkinson's without solid evidence. It seems to me a trial of treatment for Parkinon's, even without a definite diagnosis, might be in order, given the progression in her signs & symptoms.
I am grateful we are moving into an apartment. The entire fiasco last year with the bait & switch that caused us to run run run from the other CCRC and the cottage we were so close to occupying was, in retrospect, a bullet dodged, because there is no way she could have walked from a cottage to the pool, communal dining areas, etc. without help or transportation. Where we are moving, although it is a challenge and requires a rest stop along the way, she can use her rolling walker to go to the dining area, lobby, pool, mailbox, etc.
I really think she will be given a diagnosis of Parkinson's at some point. Though I dread that diagnosis, it would, in actuality, be a relief to get on with treatment and support for Parkinson's. I should also mention that she was a fan of Round Up, and in my opinion, had significant exposure.
I am reminded of my 16-year-old grandson, who has autism. He was 12 before he was finally given that diagnosis, and since then, all kinds of doors have been opened for him, he is treated with dignity by his teachers for the first time, and he is thriving. Prior to that, he was seen by countless behavioral and neurological specialists, took all kinds of tests, and was given all kinds of diagnoses, including oppositional defiance disorder (which has a negative connotation, and he does not, in fact, have). He had such a rough time in elementary and middle school because of not being properly diagnosed. His teachers were, for the most part, irritated with him. When he was 10, I confronted my DIL (gently) and said simply, "he has autism, and it is doing him no favor to avoid that diagnosis". She said, to my surprise, "I know". She took him to a Faison center where his diagnosis was confirmed. My son got on board, thank goodness. When his parents told my grandson of his diagnosis, he said, "Well, that explains a lot". And I completely agree with him. It explains a lot.
At least in the USA, certain diagnoses, like autism and Parkinson's, are avoided until the writing is written on the wall in large bold red letters, to the detriment of the sufferer. Quality of life for my grandson and for my spouse are far more important than any stigma or fall-out from their diagnoses.
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We have a moving date! December 15th. Yay!
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Tomorrow we will load a few things in the car and spend part of the morning in the apartment puttering around. In the afternoon I will go to my brother's apartment. I ordered some meals from Daily Harvest for him, and I want to see the food and help him put it away. Also want to bring him a blender so he can make the smoothies I ordered for him. It's an ancient Osterizer blender, a vintage beast. Love that old blender.
My brother says he is doing well and sleeping OK. No nightmares recently. He has my old Tempurpedic bed, which is very comfortable.
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Karen in Virginia
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »
This is the dress I've chosen for Bea.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxx
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Hi Cindy! NEVER too late!
I remarried at 55, having met DH at 53. If he died, I have no idea what I would do. The big question is, is there anyone out there who could live up to my standards? !!!! :laugh: :laugh: I certainly don't want some random old man! I can safely say, that since I met DH, there is not another man, that would fancy me, that I could possibly fancy! But, as Pip said, you never know!
I can imagine, for those of you who have been carers, that you are burnt out with caring.
Annie - Lots of rest. It may be very temporary. My left knee decided to play up yesterday, for no apparent
reason.
It's Bea pick up day, so a long walk to school and on to their house. I think we may get a lift back as it's swimming day. I'm hoping it doesn't flare up, or I'll be Ubering and sending DH on alone.
Tracey - Great job on the decorating. So lovely that you did it with your lovers.
I especially like the miniature snow scenes.
I'm a sucker for miniatures. I actually made a doll's house once, with some dolls and furniture and bits, like cakes and hams. I then wrote a children's book about it, called 'Into the Night House ' and adapted it into a play called 'Changes In The Night'. Then I lost interest in the house and sold it. I got quite a good sum for it. I have happy memories of my father helping me with the electrics and wallpaper.
You have inspired me to see if the girls want to help me with the tree. I wasn't going to bother, but that would be a happy thing to do and make it worthwhile.
Rebecca- I know you are really nervous right now, because that's completely natural, but, as someone who has had the op, you will be fine. Bit sore and careful for a few days, but it should be a quick recovery. I have had no after effects.
I can hear the dustbinmen outside. It's recycling day. Glass bottles!
My friend G, that I was worried about, has had a lovely invitation for Christmas from an old friend's daughter. She sent me the email. There are a lot of good people in the world. Pity about the other messed up ones!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx4
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