WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2022

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,834 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    I wrote this in December 2009 and it came up in my FB memories:


    50 Things to Do Before I Die
    In July 1996, Wendy Swallow Williams published an article entitled "50 Things to Do Before I Die" in the Washington Post. I read that article some months later in the Readers Digest and it has stuck with me all this time.

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/1996/07/04/50-things-to-do-before-i-die/dc7e82e3-0b49-4d49-8f55-0e3e18c4e839/
    50 Things to Do Before I Die by Wendy Swallow Williams

    The idea behind the article was to create a list of the 50 things we want to do during our lifetimes. Some things might be more urgent than others ... things we might want to complete in the next few years, or things that might wait till retirement. Some things might be more important than others. Some things might be to advance a career, others might be for fun.

    But whenever we are bored, or think our lives are going nowhere, or want a change, or feel at loose ends ...... we dig out that list, pick something interesting, and start working on it.

    I was fascinated, and so I created my list. I did it a bit differently than the author did ... she just started writing, whereas I, as is my nature, created categories. So I had a category for Educational Pursuits, another for Cycling, another for Other Sports, Travel, Creative Activities, etc. Within each category, I had a short list of things I wanted to do or accomplish.

    I made this list back in 1996/1997 or so, and have managed to accomplish a large portion of the list in the past 13-ish years.

    I'm in a position now where I am at loose ends again, and so I am revisiting that list I created many years ago ... and since I've checked off many things on my previous list, and since I'm in a whole different place than I was when I created that first list, I am planning to recreate it.

    We're coming to the end of the first decade of 21st century. It's been 10 years since Year 2000!! Can you believe it!?

    But what better time than to create or recreate a list of 50 things we might want to accomplish. Not resolutions for the coming year, but rather things we would really like to do in the coming years.


    Machka in Oz
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    Machka- I read and saved the article "50 things to do before...." I currently have a paper beside me with that written at the top. I will make my list during my week off, next week. Not sure why that never occurred to me. I love lists. I might get more of the "want to dos" accomplished if I have them on a tangible list! Thank you!
    Beautiful pic of you and your DH. Your nose has healed wonderfully!
    KJ (Kelly)

    Thanks! At some angles my nose is still a little rough looking, but I am pleased with the way it has turned out.

    My most recent rendition of the list appears to be from 2013. I'll have to have a look at it and update it!!

    Machka in Oz

  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,432 Member
    Thanks for positive penguin feedback. I had wanted a tat for years but wasn't sure what to get or where to get it. I had thought of the Tasmanian devil figure (from cartoons). My ys and I both love penguins, He got this design on his forearm and I really liked the simplicity. He and wife have an artist they trust so I went for it.

    My sons have been talking about getting something to honor their father. I was thinking yesterday about a humming bird. He really loved them-so the five of us may get one design for that. I would, again, go with a smaller design-I don't plan on getting a full sleeve!

    Going to check a few emails today for work but that's it. Over weekend may work on some stuff for union negotiations which pick back up next week. I have really enjoyed the disconnecting the past two weeks. Retirement is indeed calling. Next Weds when I go to Columbus for a medical appointment I may drive by two of the places I am considering. Don't know how long doctor will take so don't want to set an appointment time.

    Off to do a few things before getting hair cut at 10-I totally missed my right before Christmas appointment! Need to get cash so I can pay for today and the missed appointment.

    Enjoy Thursday!

    Ginny in Ohio
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 688 Member
    <3
    Betsy in NW WA
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,760 Member
    edited December 2022
    Kim - LOL the boot discussion with your mom the "pimp". Enjoy the boots! And enjoy your NYE fondue party. Do you get crazy fireworks in your neighborhood and does it bother Levi?

    Ginny - I like that tattoo, very well done. So nice it has meaning with your kids - I think there are/were cultures where tattoos are familial custom. Anxious to hear what your final retirement plans will be as far as where/if you'll move.

    Rebecca - stunning news about your non-functioning kidney, and happy for you it hasn't been giving any trouble. Hoping Lee does well changing his eating and getting those numbers down.

    Barbara - my dog is too big to stuff into a carry-on. Maybe I could put a dress and hat on her and say she's my grandchild and keep her swaddled in a baby carrier :D Not sure how I'd explain the barking and screaming other than keep her drugged. Seriously, I haven't flown for over 20 years. Maybe some day. My brother told me he has Zoom hooked up so perhaps I can connect with SIL that way soon. I've used it in the past to take classes.

    Machka - looking good! Great photo of you and your DH!

    KJ - have a good trip. Can't wait to see photos of your grands. :)

    Margaret - those rosemary trees are so nice. Gorgeous poinsettia's! I looked for a rosemary tree a few weeks ago, didn't see any, which is probably good. I already have 2 small potted rosemary plants that need to be repotted.

    Regarding Finances - getting this stuff figured out early next year is one of my goals. While I enjoy budgeting, investing is at the bottom of my list, not that I have much to invest. Had a very good phone consult last week with a rep from my Credit Union. I don't have a beneficiary set up for my account. Since it will only go "into effect" when I pass, I can list anyone or any institution I want and I think it will bypass probate, so I'm giving it serious consideration.

    Having Medical and Financial Powers of Attorney set up (plus the Community Property Agreement which is Ok for the State of Washington) was the best money we ever spent for peace of mind. DH's passing - no hassles, nothing "tied up". We had asked about a trust, our attorney said since we don't have children or anything complicated as far as inheritance, a trust isn't worth the bother.

    Prior to getting all of that paperwork done, DH and I kept putting it off. Until he got a bad case of diverticulitis and needed colon surgery. THEN we had the serious talk that we can't put if off any longer. The surgery was a success and many worries taken care of.

    Word for 2023 - I'm vacillating between Journey and Adventure. I continue my health and personal journey, but adventure has an air of fun and challenge. Maybe I'll just hyphenate since they'll go hand in hand for me as they have the past 6 months. :)

    I can't come up with any goals other than keep working on my health (never ending journey there) and making improvements/cleanup to the property as time and budget allows.

    Sugar and Inflammation - a final comment. Am I the only person in this group that had serious inflammation flares from hitting the sugary stuff and overeating over the past week? My broken toe/foot area has been really aching and swollen. Arthritis in right hand a bugger. Now, several days back into more healthful controlled eating and no junk food, everything is doing a lot better. Thankful.

    That's it for now. Make it a fabulous day! <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,351 Member
    <3 Thank you to all of you for sharing your one word theme for 2023. I have not figured out what to choose. Here are my words from past years.
    2014 mindful
    2015 now
    2016 alacrity
    2017 balance
    2018 tenacity
    2019 pause
    2020 flexible
    2021 lighten up
    2022 continue
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,834 Member
    SophieRosieMom wrote: »
    Sugar and Inflammation - a final comment. Am I the only person in this group that had serious inflammation flares from hitting the sugary stuff and overeating over the past week? My broken toe/foot area has been really aching and swollen. Arthritis in right hand a bugger. Now, several days back into more healthful controlled eating and no junk food, everything is doing a lot better. Thankful.

    That's it for now. Make it a fabulous day! <3

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

    I don't eat much differently at Christmas than any other time of the year so ... no.

    I did, however, have one extra ice cream bar one day, and my lactose intolerance told me that was one too many. Not doing that again!


    M in Oz

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,891 Member
    edited December 2022
    I've ordered the robins painting as a Christmas card from a different printing company to make a comparison. I hope it comes out more true. :D I did the first tree one as an experiment.
    This company also do proper high quality art printing if I paint something worth reproducing.
    You never know until you try!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,803 Member
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  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,732 Member
    :)<3:)
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,502 Member
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  • minicooper452
    minicooper452 Posts: 679 Member
    Good point Kim... most narcissists have a rudder somewhere and are lucky. You're obviously such a wonderful daughter to put up with that and you genuinely love her too. Has she ever tried counseling? I mean, I know it's a little late for that, but would it help at all to have someone else to talk to? Just a thought.
    OMG..... now I'm LAUGHING too!!! (can't jig anymore, but I would if I could!!! YAY!!!)


    Glad you got some "good news" Rebecca. At least it's news you can deal with. We send gift cards too, Barbie. Sometimes they're the Visa cards, sometimes store-specific gift cards, depending on what the grands want. This year, for Christmas, the little grands wanted Dunkin and Applebees. No kidding. Those are their two favorite places to go with Mom! They've never had any problems with them. Always hold onto the receipt.

    Isn't the Conservatory just the most GORGEOUS place Margaret?!? Makes me glad to live in MN!!!

    WOOHOO Machka! So happy for you and you LOOK MAHVAHLOUS DAHLING!

    Good luck Heather. Karen has a quite reasonable suggestion. I think I'll take her up on it with my Freddy. He always suggests that we "talk about it", but we never do.

    29 A place you love to visit: used to be our cabin, that no longer exists, now it's "up north", Brainerd/Baxter area, MN
    Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,760 Member
    edited December 2022
    A thought on checks - I too use them to pay for donations, church, etc. Or big bills (like new heat pump) they prefer checks, not plastic.

    Also, I still send checks for birthdays and Christmas. It used to be that's the only way I'd know if they were received since the recipients often neglected to say anything. :s

    They have gotten better now that they are older adults.

    Lanette

  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,732 Member
    Heather ~ I like the card with the Christmas Balls but it would look better if you made it larger. The tree scene is very pretty. And, I think the robins on a card will be very pretty.

    Kim ~ If your mom is 93, there is probably nothing you can do to change her way of thinking. I'm glad she agreed to let you have the boots as your gift.

    Gift Cards ~ There was a long discussion on Nextdoor today about scammers using up gift cards before the recipient can use them. Somehow the scammers pick up gift cards in a store like Walmart's and copy the information after scratching out the $ amount. Then they glue a replacement strip over this and the recipient won't know until they go to use the card.

    Finances ~ After 53 yrs of marriage, we have no secrets...LOL. We each have our own bank account but our spouse has access to it. And, we know passwords to most every place we would visit online. I keep all of this on a sheet I devised.

    Pets ~ Like many of you, we would not leave our dog in the care of others so did not take a trip away from home for many years. We were able to take him to a LaQuinta hotel a couple of times that allowed you to bring a pet.

    Carol in GA

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,891 Member
    edited December 2022
    Carol - The balls are just a little logo on the back of the tree card. Not the front. I was showing the front, inside and back of the card on my collage. :) I'm a little disappointed with the colour saturation on the tree.

    I think I've created a design for my front cover photo for my next book, a poetry collection called MEMORY BOXES.This isn't the cover itself, just the photo I might use to create it. Still working on which neon sticker to use. DH doesn't like this one. :p
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    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx


  • Vickil57
    Vickil57 Posts: 1,910 Member
    Ginny--I love the tattoo. Looks like it was well done.
    Sleet and rain today. Glad I work inside.
    Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE <3
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,232 Member
    Afternoon ladies
    Watched the little guy today and then will have the next 4 days off from babysitting.. supposed to go to lunch with my friend that is up from N.C. tomorrow..
    Miles has a urology appointment tomorrow.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Did Denise Austin’s Quick Burn Cardio DVD, then went to BK just to peel and slice the onions, then to WalMart. Home and made sweet potato muffins for Sat., yogurt for the IP, a pork tenderloin for us for later in the week and the freezer, tried making the custard for a banana cream pie (it came out pretty good if I do say so myself. I’ll make the meringue Sat. shortly before they come)

    Ginny – what a nice tattoo

    I tend to use a card for most purchases mainly because it’s easier. I have one card that I can just grab and not even take my wallet out of my pocketbook.

    Kylia – everything you said about being grateful for all the ladies here. Learning so much, getting such great ideas, getting a different perspective of things, and so much more. I am truly grateful

    Lately I’m getting to be more and more of the minimalist and Vince seems to be more and more of a “keep it just in case” person. I’m getting more of “if we don’t use it, sell it or give it away” I still haven’t gotten my stimulus money (remember Vince used it to pay down cc debt?. I was promised that I’d get it back. Last time I asked for it I was told how “inflation has really hit us”. I’m still a bit upset about this. He got his stimulus, he wanted a larger TV. I see a TV (that I don’t think we really needed) sitting downstairs, but I don’t have my money to spend on what I want. Well, I’ve decided that the next time we get a cc bill <I know of one who sends a bill>, I’m going to suggest we sell the coins that we have <I have no idea why Vince is holding onto them> and pay the debt down and maybe give me my money.

    KJ – have a great time in Texas. Looking forward to pics

    M – you’re healing so well.

    Lisa – be sure to post a pic of the cake. I wish I was a better cake decorator.

    Beth – I’m with you. No tattoos here and most likely won’t ever get one. That’s interesting that it costs the church more with online pay.

    Carla – Applebees was the one place where my cc was compromised and I have no desire to go to one again.

    This year we sent Denise and Pete gift cards. I’m thinking that in the future we’ll give them to them instead. We put them in the card, and they never checked their mail for the card. I have no idea if they ever got them or not. This way, if we give them to them, at least we know that they received them. If they checked their mail and got them, they haven’t said anything to us yet. So who knows if they ever got them?

    Don’t mind me, I’m feeling a little “blue” (pity party) right now and you gals are the recipients of it (aren’t you glad?) This is another great thing about this group. You can be “down” and no one judges you.

    Michele NC
    who thinks she’ll go for a walk now. I need it

    Michele—I like walking, too. Enjoy your walk.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,891 Member
    And this ?deo9222c4ydb.jpg
    Love Heather UK xxxxxx
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,351 Member
    :) We use credit cards for every purchase over ten dollars, and checks to mail to grandchildren for their birthdays. We pay the credit card bills in full every month
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,455 Member
    2023 GOALS
    Word of the year: Appreciate :Definition—Recognize the full worth of.

    cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week.
    Average 7,000 steps a week.
    Update budget every 2 weeks
    Contact close family every week (4x)
    Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)
    Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140.
    Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week.
    Read 12 books at least this year.
    Pay off credit card debt by January 2024
    Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)
    Grateful:
    1 What is something that makes you laugh? My two dogs, Wicket and Brownie every day the do something to make me laugh.
    2 Something about the current season you’re grateful for. The Christmas spirit making people nicer at this time of year.
    3 What about your body do you love/are you grateful for? My hair. It is white, pretty full with lots of body. Hairdressers always comment on how they like to work with my hair. Growing it out this winter. We will see how long I leave once the heat comes back!
    4 Who is someone in your life that you’re grateful for? My children and grandchildren.
    5 What is a book that changed your life? The Blooming of a Lotus by Thich Nhat Hann
    6 Think about something you’re good at. Customer service.
    7 What is a lesson you’re grateful you learned? To forgive myself.
    8 A basic need that has been met. My housing at the campground. Free for hosting
    9 What are you most grateful for in the city/town where you live? The blue skies and 300 days of sun!
    10 What rejection in your life are you most grateful for? Losing my job at the print shop. It allowed me to take early retirement, buy this camper after selling my house and travel!
    11 Something you use every day. My phone. I know I know, but like others, everything is on it!
    12 Something you don’t need anymore. A big house
    13 Refuge – space you love in your home: My bedroom
    14 Item of clothing—The coat I bought last January in TN
    December 15 Taste—sweets!
    December 16 Touch—The loving touches from my fur babies!
    December 17 Smell ——Baking bread
    December 18 Sound—birds singing
    December 19Sight —-Snow on the mountains (but not where I am! Lol)
    December 20 Texture—-The soft skin of a baby
    December 21 Color—Sky blue
    December 22 A song that makes you happy.—-Rock Around the Christmas Tree
    December 23 Type of weather you love. Sunshine and about 75 degrees
    December 24 —Professional who helps you. My therapist
    December 25 . Something you take for granted. The love of my family
    December 26 A TV show that you look forward to watching. The Simpson
    December 27 A movie you watch over and over.—Harry Potter
    December 28 An opportunity you’re grateful you had. To travel in June 2021 to visit families in TN and in New England.
    December 29 A place you love to visit.—The East Coast Ocean. I love to just walk the beaches.
    30 A tool you find incredibly useful.
    31 A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated.
    Kindness Calendar:
    December 1. “Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others”: Sharing on here and hope it helps someone.
    December 2.:Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are: to be determined. I ended up talking to my uncle and a friend, both who live 2,000 miles away!
    Decembrist 3. Offer to help someone who is having
    difficulty at the moment. - I helped a mom fix her son’s bicycle.
    December 4. Support a charity, cause, or campaign you really care about. - I use Amazon Smile to
    5contribute to St. Jude’s Children Hospital
    every time I buy something, including gifts
    December 5. Leave a positive message for someone
    else to find. Left a note for DH with a
    chocolate kiss!
    December 6.Give a gift to someone who is homeless or feeling lonely. I made a person smile who was having a very bad day trying to get a campsite. I gave them one.
    December 7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. Done! Campers and DH
    December 8. Do something helpful for a friend or family
    member- I made an appointment for DH to get new glasses.
    December 9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead.
    December 10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them.
    December 11. Buy an extra item and donate it to a local food bank.
    December 12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love, or kindness today!
    December 13. See how many different people you can smile at today.
    December 14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one
    December 15. Contact an elderly neighbor and brighten up their day.
    December 16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you speak to.
    December 17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you!
    December 18. Ask for help and let someone else discover the joy of giving.
    December 19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated. - Going to cal my Uncle
    December 20. Help others by giving away something that you don’t need
    December 21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you!
    December 22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed.
    December 23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness.
    December 24.Bring joy to others. Share something which made you laugh.
    December 25. Treat everyone with kindness today, including yourself!
    December 26. Get outside. Pick up litter or do something kind for nature. We give breadcrumbs to the Southern
    Meadowlarks that come around our RV every winter. And we pick up litter every day!
    December 27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat. (Did this yesterday. Called my uncle and talked to him for over 1.5 hrs)
    December 28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy.
    December 29.[/]Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.

    RVRita in NM
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 3,051 Member
    Back from Wally World, absolutely exhausted. But while I was there for gifts and such, picked up a cauliflower. If I can get my energy levels back up, I'll make a cauliflower gratin for dinner. One of the few vegetables I will actually eat willingly. The protein will be crunchy oven chicken tenders, one of Corey's favorites. If I don't get a dish together, he'll have the leftover mashed potatoes from the other night--thank goodness he's the leftover king, since neither one of us have figured out the knack of cooking for just two.

    Heather - It's a moody filter, very angsty, edging over into Sturm und Drang. From what you've said of your early poetry, probably very apt for your cover. The line under the eyes makes me uneasy, although I don't know why.

    Later, y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,455 Member
    Checks Very seldom use them. But in traveling and camping, if you don’t make a reservation online, most campgrounds want cash or a check. But we have been sitting still for a while so not necessary to use either. For gifts, I give gift cards to Amazon, Dunkin’ Donuts, restaurants, and simple Visa/Mastercard depending on the adult/child and their likes.

    Pets and trips I have never left my dogs with anyone for trips. DH doesn’t like to travel so he stays home with the dogs. When we had our RV roof repaired, we stayed at a hotel that allowed dogs for the 2 days it took for the roof.

    Finances I have a budget to track where my money goes, but it almost never stays in the black. My parents never discussed finances with us. We learned by hearing the fights they had about it. So, we have too much debt. I have consolidated all my debts, except the car and am working on getting back to debt free. Should take us 3 years. In our house, I do all the finances. I’ve tried showing DH the budget but he wants nothing to do with it. I need to learn to say no to home concerning money to help get us debt free. Worked on that this past year and am getting better. Will continue to work on that in the coming year.

    RVRita in NM

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