WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2023

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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,383 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Barbie— You are right that many angry people blame others. It is sad for family members who live with someone who is frequently angry. It is heartbreaking for those who become targets. 😢

    Dh isn't really angry but irritated all the time. Every little thing irritates him. Makes his bitter and hard to be around. And it is always someone elses action that cause it, in his opinion


    Was a productive first half of the day- Got up and helped dh fix the catio to repair the damage from the raccoon . He won't be getting back in, hopefully.
    Got laundry done
    Cleared off the fridge and freezer in the garage. Dumped a bunch of stuff that was expired or the rats got into. Totally cleared off now except one box of crackers that has a trap set inside of it with some crackers behind it. We have bait out that is pet friendly but the rats don't eat it, we have peppermint oil we have sprayed all over, traps are the only thing that work and not great. I am so tired of them getting into stuff and making a mess. I think they are in there now because of all the remodeling they did next door.

    Thankfully, the rain held off while we worked on the catio. Started again as we were finishing it up.


    My DH is the same way. My father was an abusive alcoholic and my first DH didn’t drink but was abusive. My current DH never did anything physical to me in anger the last 30 years, but your description fits mine perfectly.

    RVRita
  • LovePBandJ
    LovePBandJ Posts: 288 Member
    Trying to add some of you gals as friends. There first two profiles I went to were private.

    I’m looking for new active and fabulous friends. Just getting started again after a long hiatus.
  • LovePBandJ
    LovePBandJ Posts: 288 Member
    Is there a trick to adding friends? I can’t seem to find where to do that. Is it the “invite” feature?
  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,411 Member
    @LovePBandJ -welcome to the group. Many in this group don't use the friend function-we just communicate through here. That being said-it's been so long since I used it, I can't remember! One of the other ladies will give you clear instructions. In the meantime-feel free to join the conversation.

    Ginny in Ohio
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited January 2023
    Whidislander wrote: »
    Vicki, got your calendar package! Thank you so much! I have started making envelopes already! I appreciate it, and you taking the time to send them!
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    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    Rebecca, remind me again what size works for you?

    Karen in Virginia
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,980 Member
    @LovePBandJ , i tried to figure it out by inviting you and I got to a screen that asked for your email, so I am no help at all. I don’t think we should need emails! I am friends with some folks on here but not many. Like Ginny said, we mainly just visit this thread to keep up. The ones I am friends with must have invited me, because I am clueless. Or maybe it used to be easier. I’m so sorry I can’t help.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    suebdew wrote: »
    Got a little behind and caught up this morning. My sister who is less than a year older than me has been going through a terrible time. Her dh, who has had kidney disease for thirty years, fell in their bathroom Wednesday’ morning. She got 911 to take him to hospital. He is now on hospice and it is so sad. He went blind and doesn’t respond to anyone. They live in AL and I am trying to get flight information, hotel and car rental but I don’t know a date. She said the Celebration of Life will be the Saturday after he passes.

    Every time the ne ringsI think it will be my sister saying he had passed. 😢

    Suebdew in TX

    So sorry.

  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    (((/Suebdew/b])))

    Betsy in NW WA
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,354 Member
    7878
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    (((SueBDew))) I am sorry that your sister’s DH is failing. Prayers for them both. 🙏🏻
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,708 Member
    :)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Insomnia worked in my favor early this morning.
    Trying to get to sleep about 2:30AM, glance over at the window that is always open because it is the entrance to the catio. That is NOT one of the cats. A racoon had tore a big whole in the side of the catio and was in there to get their food. He was peaking his nose into the bedroom, less than 4 feet away from me. I jumped up, closed the window then run outside. Three of the cats are out in the catio. I had to get the coon out and get the cats in then close the window. Thankfully all the cats ran in the house and did not escape from the big whole. After the food was brought in and the window closed, I watched that coon come back in at least three more times.
    No catio time for the cats until we get it repaired.
    Finally got to sleep a little after 4. Tea now but sure I will be switching to coffee soon.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley Ca

    Would the raccoon hurt the cats?

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    He did build me a fire in the fireplace 00999999999999999909 before he left. <3 (The numbers are Egg walking across my keyboard. Not sure who she's sending a message to, possibly Rhody or the new kitties from @LeighAnn7777 B) )

    Back to my book,
    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    A cat version of binary!

  • Rosemarie2972
    Rosemarie2972 Posts: 500 Member
    Karen,
    I have started several embroidery kits over the years and have never finished. The kits always had the picture pre-printed on the fabric.

    Are you drawing a picture on the fabric before you embroider it?

    Do you have a piece of fabric that says 2023?

    I am rather interested in this idea. I am not sure I could have as many pictures as the piece you are showing, but I would try and design something using the quadrant format.

    Best,
    Rosemarie from Georgia
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,553 Member
    The plan for tomorrow is to do Prevention’s Fit in 10 DVD. After work went to WalMart but they didn’t have what I want. So since I get a free ice cream at Publix, I think I’ll go to another walMart and stop at Publix while I’m at it.

    Jess left. Honestly, I thought she’d stay until tomorrow. Oh well…..

    Allie – Carmine had a good friend, I can’t remember his name off the bat. But you haven’t talked about him lately. Carmine seemed so happy when they were together. What’s up?

    Nicole – welcome! Come back often. We discuss everything under the sun, you will get some great ideas from the ladies here.

    LeighAnn – congrats on getting that treadmill. You won’t want to leave it just sitting, so I know you’ll use it Lovely family.

    KJ – good for you getting that spa day. Your daycare mother knows a good thing when she sees it

    Lisa – congrats on the win.

    Suebdew – how very sad for your sister!

    Did a lot of running around. Stopped at Kohl’s because I’d gotten an email saying that I had $5 off. Only evidently, I used it a week before I got it. Then went to a Dollar General, they were closed, went to the Salvation Army, another Dollar General who didn’t have the water, to Publix to get my free ice cream, then WalMart since Vince needed more milk. Now home and church in a bit. Looks like I’m not going to get a walk in (boo)

    lovepband – welcome.

    Going to take a shower then get to bed. Have a great evening everyone.

    Michele NC
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    edited January 2023
    barbiecat wrote: »
    <3 A sad thing about many angry people is they are convinced that they are angry because of what's happening outside of them. They believe that they wouldn't be angry if their kids would behave or their wives would keep the house clean or they had more money or the right candidates would get elected. Thus they think they can't improve until everyone else shapes up.

    Sometimes, the best thing is for a break in the relationship because something is just not working.

    With my ex-husband, it got so that in our last year or so together, every time I walked into the apartment and saw him there, I felt angry. Neither of us would have said anything, nothing would have happened. I would open the door, see our apartment and him, and WHAM, I was instantly angry. I'd leave the apartment to go to work, school or a bicycle ride, and I was fine ... happy, relaxed, etc. I was out of the apartment quite a bit in that time because I don't like feeling angry. I wouldn't always express the anger, often it would remain internal creating stress, illness, etc.

    When we separated, I knew it was the right move because one of the first times I walked into our apartment after he was gone, I realised I was not hit with a wave of anger. The anger was gone! And since then, I've rarely felt angry. And definitely not such a long, consistent anger.

    Sometimes people also try to stay together for the children, when it would be in the best interests of the children if they separated and if each parent were happier ... or at least if the parent they remain with is happier.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    Beekeeping club this morning. As always, very good. We always pick up tips. Today we had a quick lesson on how to start a smoker and then we discussed (and were shown) one way to harvest honey.

    Now I'm going to go out and move rocks around. With any luck, I'll have the dry stream itself pretty much finished. I will still need to do a bit of decorating and planting, but it will be good to have the stream done. So ... I'd better get to work.


    Machka in Oz
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,885 Member
    KetoneKaren wrote: »
    Whidislander wrote: »
    Vicki, got your calendar package! Thank you so much! I have started making envelopes already! I appreciate it, and you taking the time to send them!
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    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    Rebecca, remind me again what size works for you?

    Karen in Virginia

    Envelopes are best with the heavy gauge paper, and larger type calendars.👍🏻
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,553 Member
    M - a very dear friend of mine from college got a divorce. I was shocked she did, and that's putting it mildly. One time she was in Philly on business and I met her there. We were discussing how she and I were the only two from our college class that was still married to our first husband. When she got divorced, her daughters said to her "well, it's about time".

    Just viewed my W-2 online from BK. Is Vince ever mad!!! Seems they didn't withhold any federal tax. I'm sure that I said to withhold at married with 0 exemptions. But for some reason, they didn't withhold any federal tax. Looks like we're going to have to pay. I could almost see the steam coming out of his ears....lol

    Michele NC
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,251 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Insomnia worked in my favor early this morning.
    Trying to get to sleep about 2:30AM, glance over at the window that is always open because it is the entrance to the catio. That is NOT one of the cats. A racoon had tore a big whole in the side of the catio and was in there to get their food. He was peaking his nose into the bedroom, less than 4 feet away from me. I jumped up, closed the window then run outside. Three of the cats are out in the catio. I had to get the coon out and get the cats in then close the window. Thankfully all the cats ran in the house and did not escape from the big whole. After the food was brought in and the window closed, I watched that coon come back in at least three more times.
    No catio time for the cats until we get it repaired.
    Finally got to sleep a little after 4. Tea now but sure I will be switching to coffee soon.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley Ca

    Would the raccoon hurt the cats?
    they might, especially if they are cornered or if the cats stand up to them and they want the food. These things are not afraid of people. I may need to call and have him relocated. I can't legally do it myself but can call animal control

  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,071 Member
    <3
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,145 Member
    edited January 2023
    Suebedo: (((hugs))) for your sister.

    Karen Va: 🥰 The embroidery Journal.

    Mid January Review: What have I noticed?
    📍Many of my ‘new‘ habits are now automatic.
    📍Too much sugary food makes me feel sluggish.
    📍My weight hasn’t gone back up as much as I expected after Covid.

    So pleased that the mornings are beginning to noticeably lengthen again. Not a fan of the short days in December and January.

    Intentions for today:
    ♦️put laundry away
    ♦️write piece for Creative Writing for tomorrow
    ♦️look out fabric for embroidery journal
    ♦️declutter desk
    ♦️visit DED daughter
    ♦️solid habits

    MFP - Making Friends:
    🔹Go to <More> scroll down and select <Friends>
    🔹Click on + at top right, select <invite using email/MFP username>
    🔹Type MFP username in address bar
    🔹Write who you are and how you know the person (NB: many people are not looking for random friends, and/or do not accept friend requests)

    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    edited January 2023
    1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think. Does silently working in the garden count? Done! I sat silently for 7 minutes and prayed.

    2 List 5 things using each of your senses. Right now? I can see my Christmas decorations, I can hear Christmas songs, I can taste my coffee, I can smell my coffee, and I can feel a comfortable temperature in the room.

    3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house. I'm not in a downsizing or reducing mode so I've taken some lunch things to work, I will take an item to be mailed and another to be given to the people at work.

    4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever). I can't tell you what my favourite Christmas gift this year is yet. It's a secret.

    5 Move for at least 30 minutes today. Absolutely. It's a very rare day that I don't.

    6 Share a goal you achieved last year. We completed the longest bicycle ride since my husband's accident and the fastest.

    7 Slow down and savor one meal today. Mmmm ... pizza!

    8 Who was your favorite teacher. My father. :):) But I've had quite a few good teachers, in addition to him, over the years.

    9 Create something today. I finished creating my first work-related project plan today.

    10 What is your favorite lyric from a song. Difficult one given that I like so much music. But let's go with: "A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices"

    11 Send a card/note to someone today. Do emails count?

    12 What are you looking forward to in 2023? Can't tell you that! It's a secret ... same secret as my favourite Christmas gift. :)

    13 Tell a random person they look "good" today. It's a bit late in the day to read this and didn't meet too many random people today ... or people in general. But I smiled at some horses and told Rhody he's gorgeous.

    14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
    One is a secret ... I should be able to tell you by the end of the month.
    My skin cancer surgery went better than expected and all my margins are clear.
    I've been able to hold my granddaughter.

    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week. Well, I did email a couple people yesterday. :)
    16 What made you smile today
    17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
    18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
    19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
    20 Write down five things you like about yourself
    21 Pay it forward in some way
    22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
    23 Go an entire day without complaining
    24 What about you makes you special?
    25 Spend time with a loved one
    26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
    27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
    28 What fear have you overcome?
    29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
    30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
    31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...


    I think my dry stream is looking good. :) I still need to do the bottom end, where the dry pool will be.

    I'm hoping to be able to work on it a couple evenings this week.


    Exercise is coming along ...

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    Machka in Oz

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