WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2023
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Kylia - That's exactly how I left my first husband - only with the things I could fit in my car. It helps that I'd moved around from place to place all those years... things do begin to mean less and less. I probably packed and moved two thousand books to the last place we lived together--but took none with me when I fled.
I'm glad you're thinking about writing. When I sat down to write my autobiography, it helped a lot to have the framework of my own identities to hang them on, much like the word clouds. I just ignored the chronology, or trying to write it in order of time or place, and wrote down the stories of life as a daughter, a wife, a mother, a sister, a friend. I still add to it on occasion, but will probably never publish it. I just don't have a need to anymore.
Rosemarie - I'm glad to see you're finding ways to step outside your safety zone. Every step is a triumph, dear heart.
Another sunny, dry week ahead of us, but at least the highs are supposed to be in the 90s, not the 100s. Punishing, but not searingly hot.
Planting and caring for plants and stuffs:I have to remember to get out and give my new little tree some water every day to give it a chance to make it through the summer, so it can get an established root system before the winter. The little dwarf magnolias couldn't make it through last summer, even though they were more than a year old. The land here is so fertile, but weather will always be an issue.
Corey canned the last of the pickles he believed he needs for a year. He takes pickles every day in his lunch (and small carrots, cherry tomatoes, and an apple) along with his sandwich. He ripped out all but one of the cucumber plants - they will bear far more than he can use fresh in salads, etc., and take over the entire garden if allowed to continue growing.
Tomatoes and peppers are next--he will be canning salsa soon, as the tomatoes are near ripening, and the peppers are bearing already. He uses the wild onions and garlic that grow here to add to it. He's debating now what to put in the place of the cucumbers for end of summer harvesting... and the carrots and sweet potatoes are growing well. All these things are why we no longer live in the desert. He planted what he could, but the desert always won, in the end. He is a maker, and a grower, and for him, it's both a need and a joy. I never knew how much I would enjoy watching him do this--but it fills something in my heart to see him so happy about these things.
Time to get my meds set up for the week, but first, it's time for me to start closing the windows to keep the heat out, go water my tree and then come back in and do the meds. Need to send a message to the gastro nurse today to tell her the results of the two-week course of antibiotics, but I might have to wait another day or so, as it's not clear what has changed.
Cheers, y'all,
Love from
Lisa in Arkansas
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Good morning, ladies. Another rainy day today and cool. Turned the furnace from A/C to heat this morning as it was 17 degrees C in the house. Feels nice now as I finish my 2nd cut of coffee.
Weighed myself this morning and very pleased to see another 1 pound off! Now have 26 more to go to reach my goal weight. Feel it is an achievable goal and will continue to keep doing what I am doing to reach it. Have been able to incorporate a couple of my favorite snack items along with my healthy eating and it seems to be working.
Enjoy your day, ladies.
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I went back and looked - I lost 6.4 pounds in June. Yay! But July is not off to a great start. I think I am on one of the dreaded plateaus. It's quite possible I am building muscle. But it's disheartening. Nothing disastrous though. No police, no hospitals, so not such a bad thing.
I charged up my old laptop so I could work on it today. I think I can reset it, and maybe get back my book data, or at least reformat it and eliminate any personal or banking data. Then it will go live in the electronics dungeon under the bed. Much better than the pile in the middle of the floor.
I sat and listened to Mom this morning. Same old stories. She is doing pretty well, cheerful, no pain, but no exercise either. Her diet is getting worse; more ice cream, fewer veggies. She is 90 now.
Have a great day, my friends!
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The celebrity doctor was very good. Nice wife I chatted to. He was talking about aging and mortality. Sensible. I asked what he was doing in his practice to reach the UNconverted. Basically, not a lot, but when they do ask for help after some crisis, they often are the best patients.
He is talking again on Wednesday about below the waist.
Pouring with rain again.
Love Heather xxxxxxxx6 -
My son sent this photo of their house.
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July 2023 Jump Back Up
Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate my iPad.Meditation: daily. 8/30(82%(started Feb)94%,100%, 74%, 93%2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”. I try to never use those words. I follow Yoda’s ‘Do or not, there is no try”
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 2/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0%,0%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks /2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%, 100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 118/208—(100%,100%,100%,50%, 83%, 100% should be 137 by August 1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)46/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,(100%,100%,100%,0%,100%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 1/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%,100%,93%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 24/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 6/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107 (100%,100%,100%)
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met
August met
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December met—
1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry. I am working on helping my son through this tough time by being in contact with his case worker and tracking his location.
3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it. I will. My back hurts today so will easily ask for help when I need it.4. Find something to look forward to today.RVRita in NM
5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time.
6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground.
7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy.
8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today.
9. Put a problem in perspective by seeing the bigger picture.
10. Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them.
11. Look for something positive in a difficult situation.
12. Write you worries down and save them for a specific “worry time”.
13. Challenge negative thoughts. Find an alternative interpretation.
14. Get outside and move to help clear your head.
15. Set yourself an achievable goal and take the first step.
16. Find fun ways to distract yourself from unhelpful thoughts.
17. Use one of your strengths to overcome a challenge today.
18. Let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that matter.
19. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
20. When things go wrong, pause and be kind to yourself.
21. Identify what helped you get through a tough time in your life.
22. Find 3 things you feel hopeful about and write them down.
23. Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time.
24. Choose to see something good about what has gone wrong.
25. Notice when you are being judge mental and be kind instead.
26. Catch yourself over-reacting and take a deep breath.
27. Write down 3 things you are grateful for (even if today was hard).
28. Think about what you can learn about a recent problem.
29. Be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right.,
30. Reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague for support.
31. Remember we all struggle at times. It’s part of being human.
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margaretturk wrote: »This is one of my favorite pots this year. Just gets better and better. They are a type of phlox.
I was going to pull these out because a bit on the messy side in a garden. Then I smelled them. They smell like lilacs and make wonderful bouquets. You can see I changed my mind and kept them.
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Here they are in a bouquet...
What are the white ones called? They are pretty and imagine the smell is amazing.
I am hoping I can bring a few of my carnations in when they start to bloom. They are the old fashioned ones. Small but smell amazing, like cloves.
Before, I couldn't have any plants/flowers in the house because of one of the cats would eat them. He passed away so I will try again. Just another week at most and the carnations will start blooming.
They are my favorite- have been growing them off and on , since I was a kid.
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Update from Destiny's mom: This was posted last night
Sorry I have not updated you guys in awhile . Des is not doing too good she has and mini breathing episodes. Unfortunately, we do not think that she will make it very much longer. I hope that she will pass in her sleep rather then while she is awake and struggling to breath..
We did get her outside for a few min, even though she was in her bed.14 -
Today’s gratitude: Tumble squeaking me out of the chair.
Tracey exploding glitter sticks?
Glad everything came out ok. Horrific number of wildfires on that map. It seems most unusual to me, is it?
Machka, dragon’s tongue mustard grown last year has self-seeded so looks like I’ll have a good supply this summer. Arugula mysteriously overwintered the past two years. The leaves are getting smaller but are still tasty. I love watercress, wonder if it would grow along our stream? Dandelion greens, hmm, we have an abundance but since the dogs “fertilize” them. . . :laugh: I’d add “overwhelmed by things out of my control” to the list of kinds of tired.
Heather I’m with you on taking a pass from the cable car up the mountain :sick:
Lisa thanks for the two bras idea! I love mulberries, not just for the berries but for the fact that the birds will chose them over any cherries growing nearby
Hope you’re right about finding strength when tested. I fear any future where Joe needs care. Thankful for Rori’s, Lanette’s, Rosemarie’s, Barbie’s, Margaret’s, Beth’s, Kim’s, et al’s good examples but doubt my capabilities. Is that a hedgehog? 
Joy what you said about the taste of fresh homegrown lettuce. True of carrots too.
Kylia ((hug)) Sorry about the MD trip but glad your doctor is helping you. Yellow jackets, along with poison oak and mosquitos, whatever was the Creator thinking? Thinkng of word art I’m shifting focus from what my roles and activities are, to what I love. Helped me come up with more…
Annie yup that was me I haven’t gotten past 10 steps yet tho’ … congrats on your progress.
Debbie so glad you are taking steps to minimize your mom’s roommate-induced isolation. Grr. And prayers intensifying for Destiny and her family.
Allie hope Jean is telling you good, uplifting stories… but…
Rita
your word cloud!
Rebecca after seeing Rita’s art, and reading “Klondike fluffy power waffle” I thought that was going to be the name of your new kitty Sorry your sisters are putting you in the middle of their fight. Hope the book surfaces and tensions ease.
Lanette our dogs barked for hours last night at the neihbors’ cannonades. I dread Tuesday night when I’ll be trying to sleep early so I can leave for Medfort at 03:00. :{
Terri, Jolene, Barbie, love your word clouds too. So many good ideas, so well presented!
Kim you beat me to the paws I was going to use Glad your mom is starting to see reason about trying to keep up that big house and yard. Praying your brother won’t fight the sale of the house to finance her senior living situation.07/02: Move: ZERO sets PT. Steps: 2537Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar under mfp= -15
CI=1850 CO=152
Live: Joe, readings, BP, church, fellowship. Wt:132.3
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD (ageing hippie, mother-of-dogs)
2023: Be of good cheer. July: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live NOW
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Stats for the day-
Another start at 5am. Kirby rode, tomorrow, I ride.
Walk w/kids- 1hr 23min 57sec, 20elev, 2.90ap, 80ahr, 98mhr, 4.11mi= 407c
Strava app = 504c
Walk w/yogi and Chispa- 41.07min, 30elev, 2.95ap, 79ahr, 89mhr, 2.02mi= 175c
Strava app= 248c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 10min 3sec, 863elev, 116aw, 16.3amph, 101ahr, 134mhr, 19.07mi= 474c
Strava app = 464c
Zwift stats- 1hr 10min 5sec, 864elev, 115aw, 53arpm, 16.35amph, 19.1mi= 464c
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Going to an ABBA singalong tonight.
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Thanks Barbie for getting us started on the new month.
Rosemarie--Good for you getting out and they having a good time.
Heather--Thank you for sharing the pictures. Beautiful country.
Kylia--Glad you both are feeling better, how scary.
Margaret--HUGS!
Debbie--Prayers for Destiny and her family.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE 3 -
Debbie - so glad you had the opportunity to touch base with your mom's friend and neighbor about her roommate. Sometimes people will take suggestions better from others than their own family.
Barbara - will be thinking of you on your early trip to Medford July 5th. Hope the fireworks crowd has blown through everything by 9 pm on July 4th, or earlier. Last night I didn't hear a thing and Rosie slept in her own bed and I got a good sleep.
Joy - my neighbor gave me a few pots of lettuce a few weeks ago- she buys the teensy starts and puts them in 1 gallon pots. They are doing fine as long as I keep them in the shade most of the day and keep them watered. And yesterday I picked a few leaves off my container red beet crop. Tender and tasty as well - it too is shaded about half the day. You can't beat home-grown produce.
Margaret - love your flowers. I can smell them from here. My grandmother's house was like that - seems like every weed that sprouted was a fragrant flower. That reminds me, I need to call Elon Musk and ask him when the teleporter will be ready to go. It's been a couple years now! I think he got busy with Twitter or something. Wish he'd get back on course, lol. My list of people & places I'd like to visit for a couple hours is up to three pages.
Kim - sounds like your friends have a super place, and even with the heat it was a nice getaway. Crossing fingers all works out with your mom finding a place more suitable and the sale of her current house is trouble free and covers her expenses for as long as she needs them. That's a LOT of house to clean out when the time comes.
Machka - loved those "types of tired" memes, very true.
Heather - your son's house is getting there, slowly but surely. Do they have a "move back" date yet? Maybe they already have and are putting up with the rubble and construction busyness. When are you due back home? I'm anxious to hear more about what that doctor says.
Cleaner came and went. We always talk for a few minutes before I shut myself and Rosie in the office and get busy. She is losing clients - many moving away, some passed away. She is praying for a part-time job with benefits, but one that will allow her enough time off to keep a few clients. I'm on the list.
She always cheers me up - not only because the house looks and smells nice after she's done, but her bubbly and caring personality is so uplifting. She has become a good friend - again, I'm so lucky and grateful.
More on the next car repair:This morning I also called the car repair place that used to do major work on my Subaru. It was bought out by another firm several years ago. I found out they still had the prior owner's recordsWill close for now. , AND they have a shuttle service that will bring me home when I leave the car and come pick me up when it's done. Good news!!
I'm going to go in on Thursday or Friday and meet with the service writer and review what's been done at other shops. I'm probably looking at another 2 or 3 months worth of car payment for parts and labor this time, but after that I'm hoping to have many years of trouble-free driving. And no car payments. All in all, that little car hasn't been that expensive to maintain over the years. Definitely not a lemon.
The timing belt replacement should have been done at 105,000 miles, and I'm 8,000 miles past that. I'm normally good at keeping up with the manufacturer's recommendations and wondered why I slipped up. Caring for and worrying about DH for the past several years? Probably, but I realized we had around 3 years of pandemic. Stay home if you can, stay away, isolate. And I did, which was good. Just running to town for food essentials then back home safe and sound.
I think this car repair is the last "big thing" that needed to be caught up. Day by day, I'm getting there.
Make it a wonderful day!
Lanette
SW WA State
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Afternoon ladies
Well im home..
I got home around 1:30-1:45
Did a load of laundry and got the stuff in the house.
Still feeling yucky.but did do a covid test and it came back negative..
Tracy and Kyle took Miles to a little farm.7 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Morning, afternoon and evening all,
Karen - Different to so many of his, just love your brother's work. Have you thought of trying your hand at it yourself?
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
I will try painting again at a later date.
The instructor here was less than enthusiastic about what I produced so I took a hiatus.
I’m putting my creative energies into wood carving (whittling) and pottery-making right now.
Karen in Virginia
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The pink flowers are called soapwart because you can make soap from its roots. They do smell amazing. When I bought them from a catalog years ago they were called pinks so that is what I called them. I just learned their true name. They do spread and are a bit messy looking because they tend to flop over. Smell makes up for it with me1
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »Heather - I hope Johnny recovers quickly, but not quick enough to allow you a quieter day. 😉 What a beautiful area of the world you are travelling.
Annie - I had a chuckle over the visual you created of being trapped in Lycra.
Machka - I need to do a day of cleaning as well. It is cool today, for the first time in a few weeks, so I may make some banana bread and clean.
Our furnace came on this morning.
I do a lot of puttering when commercials come on too.
I need to be more active and watch more shows with commercials.
Lisa - thank you for the picture of the mulberry tree. Those berries are pretty.
Barbie - I admire how you and Jake eat and handle your groceries. I bet you have saved money in the long run shopping this way.
Joy - thank you for your encouragement. My Grandson and I may go buy some seeds today.
I would be up in the cable car too, DH would be waiting on the ground for me.
Kylia - I hope things get back in shape soon. What a terrible thing to have to deal with.
Debbie - I hope your Mom allows you and your sister to get that roommate out. You might need to be there for a bit to help her do it. I would worry about how she might be abusing her.
Allie - rain on a tin roof. Oh the memories!
Rebecca - I hate being in the middle of family squabbles. I hope they can sort it out and you are left unscathed.
Lanette - I grew up beside my maternal grandparents. As a grandmother I try to do for my Grands what she did for me. I loved her for her kindness, her generosity, her love. They always made sure we had fun things to do and helped my parents with clothing, back to school stuff and such. I try to emulate her. My DH told me one time that she was looking down being proud of me. It was one of the best compliments he could ever have given me.
I hope you’re able to get the next repair done on your car quickly and efficiently.
I too am enjoying all of the word art. I need to get onto the computer and do mine.
Jolene - I didn’t notice your house wasn’t level, but mine would be crooked in real life so it’s all good.
Flea - I would be beat too.
Kim - If anyone deserves a nice holiday with a friend it’s you. I’m so happy for you that you had that break.
I hope that your mom listens and makes the move she would be taken care of there I bet.
Jonah has decided to spend a few nights, he was planning on staying Monday and Tuesday anyway so he just stayed from last night. His parents are dropping clothes off for him on the way to taking Michaela to camp tomorrow. (She is having no ill effects from her incident last night. She even got up to go to Sunday School and church today with Daddy).
Tonight he was having an online chat with one of his school friends. They started singing “Staying Alive”, decided it would be a terrible funeral song. Then kept up with their theme. They went into “Another One Bites the Dust” ending with “Highway to He🏒🏒”.
They are 11, so of course thought they were hilarious.
I didn’t do much today I was pretty tired after yesterday, I did get the house tidied though.
Tracey in Edmonton
@Snowflake1968 As long as it’s yours, that’s all that counts.
Jolene
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Today’s gratitude: Tumble squeaking me out of the chair.
Tracey exploding glitter sticks? Glad everything came out ok. Horrific number of wildfires on that map. It seems most unusual to me, is it?
Machka, dragon’s tongue mustard grown last year has self-seeded so looks like I’ll have a good supply this summer. Arugula mysteriously overwintered the past two years. The leaves are getting smaller but are still tasty. I love watercress, wonder if it would grow along our stream? Dandelion greens, hmm, we have an abundance but since the dogs “fertilize” them. . . :laugh: I’d add “overwhelmed by things out of my control” to the list of kinds of tired.
Heather I’m with you on taking a pass from the cable car up the mountain :sick:
Lisa thanks for the two bras idea! I love mulberries, not just for the berries but for the fact that the birds will chose them over any cherries growing nearby Hope you’re right about finding strength when tested. I fear any future where Joe needs care. Thankful for Rori’s, Lanette’s, Rosemarie’s, Barbie’s, Margaret’s, Beth’s, Kim’s, et al’s good examples but doubt my capabilities. Is that a hedgehog?
Joy what you said about the taste of fresh homegrown lettuce. True of carrots too.
Kylia ((hug)) Sorry about the MD trip but glad your doctor is helping you. Yellow jackets, along with poison oak and mosquitos, whatever was the Creator thinking? Thinkng of word art I’m shifting focus from what my roles and activities are, to what I love. Helped me come up with more…
Annie yup that was me I haven’t gotten past 10 steps yet tho’ … congrats on your progress.
Debbie so glad you are taking steps to minimize your mom’s roommate-induced isolation. Grr. And prayers intensifying for Destiny and her family.
Allie hope Jean is telling you good, uplifting stories… but…
Rita your word cloud!
Rebecca after seeing Rita’s art, and reading “Klondike fluffy power waffle” I thought that was going to be the name of your new kitty Sorry your sisters are putting you in the middle of their fight. Hope the book surfaces and tensions ease.
Lanette our dogs barked for hours last night at the neihbors’ cannonades. I dread Tuesday night when I’ll be trying to sleep early so I can leave for Medfort at 03:00. :{
Terri, Jolene, Barbie, love your word clouds too. So many good ideas, so well presented!
Kim you beat me to the paws I was going to use Glad your mom is starting to see reason about trying to keep up that big house and yard. Praying your brother won’t fight the sale of the house to finance her senior living situation.07/02: Move: ZERO sets PT. Steps: 2537Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar under mfp= -15
CI=1850 CO=152
Live: Joe, readings, BP, church, fellowship. Wt:132.3
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD (ageing hippie, mother-of-dogs)
2023: Be of good cheer. July: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live NOW
@auntiebk Are your working on a word cloud?
Jolene
CA
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Worked then stopped at CVS to get a prescription then to Hamrick’s and got a pair of white shorts. The ones I have are too big (I got them at a thrift store). I should probably have gotten a larger size, but this was the only pair they had. And for $1 I’ll live until I can find a pair at a decent price. Afterwards, I’m thinking I’ll take a walk and then work on stringing the popcorn
Rebecca – how I want to squeeze Athena’s cheeks!
Kim – wow, your friend’s house sounds wonderful. Does she rent out the cabins or are they just for guests?
Krkatie – if you walk one time 500 steps then are in a meeting, does your Fitbit count that as 2 hours?
BIG HUG AND PRAYER FOR DESTINY
Michele NC
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Good evening ladies!
Today I ate way too many calories. My aunt came over and brought banana bread. I didn't even like it much, but I wanted to eat it anyway. I need to think some more about exactly why. To be included? Because I love sweets and carbs? Was it an uncontrolled impulse or an adult decision? I don't know.
So tomorrow I'm going out to lunch, and I had planned on splurging a bit. This week's weigh-in is going to be sad. The sister challenge is hitting a big wall. But it's not over yet.
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I had a first this evening, I saw fireflies in the lawn outside my window. They were sparkling all over the lawn. What a treat!!!
Katla in Illinois12 -
Hope you all had a great Monday. Very rainy then torrential rains. We were dining on an outdoor deck with a roof so we stayed dry. It was raining so hard it was deafening but our scenery was beautiful. I did get my walk in later but nursing a lot of hip pain since I’ve been walking every day on vacation for 7000 steps. I keep pushing through. Last time the doctor said it was some arthritis but also a flare up of bursitis. Here are the pics of our view before and during the rainstorm.
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Got some lights for the fountain and hung up the lighted bike on the wall
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