WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2023

One thing I have learnt over the years, is that you can't change other people. Nor are other people a 'project'. They are what they are. The only person you can change is yourself.
'When people show you who they are, believe them.' Maya Angelou.
Wishing, hoping, trying. How many of us keep on keeping on. It is most definitely 'sunk cost'.
The very least we should expect is respect, companionship, active love shown by actions.
The people we spend the most time with have the biggest influence on our mental health. Are we surrounded by love and respect? Are they making an effort to show they care for us? That is our right and we should not accept any less. Everyone has to put work into a marriage, and things are not always easy, but it always takes two to make the effort.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Welcome @nescalera2710 Nini! I’m 73 and my weight is finally beginning to microscopically creep down toward pre-menopausal ranges… maybe by next year Baby steps starting where you are, weighing and logging every bite lick or sip, finding an activity you enjoy, these are key for me. Weighing food was a real eye-opener, labels just lie. I’ve never been able to stick with “exercise” but I ‘love to line dance and walk with the dogs. Good luck!
Welcome @hessiondesign4 Christine. Bravissima for joining that fitness/swim center with your mom and daughter. Hope the chemicals they use are never those that caused that scary reaction. Well done!
Margaret, thank you very very much.
Debbie you are right, the black beans have been simmering all morning and are still hard as rocks Count me in with Tracey and others who are sorry your husband is so mean. Not surprising considering your MIL, but he is an adult, knows how she makes him feel, could see how he makes you feel, and choose to do otherwise. ((hugs))
Heather thank you for your kind words and your great heart. In truth, Joe is even more patient with me than I am with him. He’s just not online to share his frustrations with my: stuff everywhere; dog training style; preference for letting dishes dry in the drainer rather than toweling them and putting them away; junk he’s moved (four, no five times?) that really should be dumped if not donated. etc, etc, etc… There’s a lot of give and take here … ;} “…wet wipes” :hahaha: can just imagine the look on DDIL’s face… “they will attempt to get it through the house somehow”? What could possibly go wrong? It DOES seem last minute to have discovered the house is too tall for the allowable crane. How is the house kept dry while waiting for the skylight to be installed? Pity your DS. The architect will get what he deserves. :devil: Sounds like Johnny’s love language has a huge service vocabulary.
Pip forty miles then another forty miles down! Yay!!! You’ve got this, gal!
Carol your conversations with your DH sound very familiar ;} I’m trying to meet Joe where he is and not prod him to be where I want him to be, but not easy for a control freak like me ;} To be honest, I’m a little afraid of what any deep conversations might reveal as I tend toward over-emotionalizing and hypersensitivity to criticism ;{
Annie ((hugs)) and more (((hugs))). You are in such a hard place with your parents, to have worry about Teddy on top of it. (((gentle hugs held extra long)))
Tracey, I’ve only done it (sit with Joe while he plays Spider while eating) once. Will try it again the next time we eat at the same time (rare) :} I think you’re right about the importance of communication, asking Joe how he feels can sometimes feel like asking the wall. On the other hand I do respect his communication comfort level (low) and TRY to treasure when he initiates conversation, even when it’s before I’ve put my glasses on and had my tea :laugh: Bravo, supportive Rodger!
Lisa Your sorting saga is inspiring and the life-saving story, well, you GO Gal! . . . “It sounds like Joe cooked something for you that he knows you love before he hid behind his laptop screen. That's a pretty big thing for a guy that you're not sure even listens to you!” Aha! You are so very very right. Thank you for this insight, I completely overlooked. Joe’s love language is non-verbal, making sure we are safe, warm, protected, cars in good running order etc. I’ll try to remember this and how much I value it and him. “What else does Joe know about what you love? Might be worth asking...” Hmm. Thanks thanks THANKS.
Macha “Occasionally, I will get the urge to make something for dinner but it happens so rarely, he gets worried when I do that!!” made me smile!
Rebecca thanks for the offer, but we’re good ;} So happy for you and your chief, though to be honest I’d pass on the Sumo wrestling :laugh:
Vicki glad the scan was stable but WTH no call back or next step for your foot? Squeak, little wheel, or you’ll get no grease.
Tracey such sad news. Prayers for your daughter and her family in this grief-stricken time. ((gentle hugs held extra extra long))

Sunk cost fallacy. This is so me. DVR full of TV shows, stacks of periodicals, closets full of unwearable clothes and of unfinished crafts projects, Thanks Rita, Margaret, Heather et al for so much food for thought.

As usual this has been a most comforting and informative interlude. Thank you all so very much. Time to get up off my butt and take the pooches down to the powerline meadow to play some new nose touch games.
Today’s (8/9) gratitude: able to smell Lemon Lift tea, when I indulge Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2023: Be of good cheer. August: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live NOW.

Tracey: So sorry about your dear daughter. (((Hugs))) held extra long!!!

Did our usual weekly grocery shopping this morning.

Our roof needs some repairs done. The guys came and put up scaffolding mid morning and started work. It should take about 4 - 5 days to complete. It’s a company we have used in the past, and we were happy with the work done.

Yesterday’s trip out went well. It was such a lively day. We visited several places, all with new gardens. The King’s Coronation garden is on the shores of Belfast Louth. We also visited ER II Platinum Jubilee Garden in Antrim Castle, and a Heritage Garden on a viaduct on an old railway line. It was quite a tiring day as we did a lot of driving, and had lunch and coffee outdoors.

🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏 🙏 🙏

☘️ Terri