WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2023

Ya'll will have to bear with me I'm still learning how this crazy comment thing works. Who knew I had a wall. Lol.

I'm hoping today is a quiet day! I really enjoyed yesterday with the grandchildren, but I can’t do it every day.
The girls are both very curious about why I broke up with their grandpa. They ask me about it every time. I said that adult relationships are very complicated and it's difficult to explain.
Edie asked, 'Who decided to break up first?' I said, truthfully, 'We decided it together'. I said, 'First I was happy about it and then I was sad.' 'But you met Johnny.' 'It was 9 years before I met Johnny.' Bea said, 'Were you lonely?' I said, 'Well, I had boyfriends. ' Her face! Edie said, 'Granny's had lots of boyfriends. '
Bea asked me if I got bored after being married for so long. I said I didn't think it was that. I told them I met my ex the day before I turned 18, on my first day at university. We were married 28 years. That sounds like forever to them! Edie worked out I would have to be with DH until he was 87 to equal that. Bea asked, 'Do you still love Grandpa R?' I said, 'Yes, I think I do.'
Then Edie asked me about my stillborn baby, Kate. We talked about how when one terrible thing happens, it can open the door to another beautiful thing happening. I would never have had their dad a year later, and then they would never have been born. She asked me when I told her dad about Kate. I said, right from when he was little.
So many questions. My cleaner was listening to all this as she was cleaning the kitchen. When they went off outside, she laughed and said, 'Wow, that was some conversation! Phew!'
Actually, I love 'deep talk', so I am happy to answer their questions. It has to be age appropriate, of course.
Of course Max isn't part of all this, but he might be listening with half an ear. He was reading a book in the living room.

Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

cyntdooley wrote: »

Ya'll will have to bear with me I'm still learning how this crazy comment thing works. Who knew I had a wall. Lol.

Cynthia - I'm not really sure what you're referring to as a wall, but no worries - just keep coming back and chiming in where you're comfortable!

Heather - I agree with Ginny that you did quite well both with the grands and your son. Age appropriate truths are actually really good for kids. We were a blended family, and we were aware from the beginning that many of us had different moms or dads, and that's why some of us had different names. In the insular society of deep East Texas, it made it a big shrug when someone asked why your brother's name was different than yours, rather than a secret to be hidden.

Ginny - I agree with you on the garden thing. I get tickled that Corey cites "being tied down here, without being able to leave," as a reason not to get chickens, when he has a garden that goes into a swoon if he's gone for a day, and if he's not caring for it by the second day, tries to die. Funny guy. Then again, I'm not sure he actually likes animals. Well, except for Egg.

Rebecca - woke up smiling thinking of you and your little family.

Survived my gassy-full night with only a few hours sleep. Don't get me wrong, it was well-deserved after Corey's wonderful dinner of tamales with chili con queso and sour cream. Still trying to decide if it was worth it...

Floors and other localized cleaning today is the plan.

It could happen.

It could!



Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa in AR

I was a half-hearted gardener until a couple years ago.

Previously, I put in a garden or two, then got bored with it. I tried a few things in pots, and got bored with that.

My husband likes gardening and horticulture, but he has had trouble keeping up with our garden, so 2 or 3 years ago, I started helping out by weeding. I found it relaxing! Then I had a go at planting a garden bed which didn't work out very well.

So I plunged in and started doing landscaping!!

After all, if you know practically nothing about growing stuff, gardens, what's a weed and what's not, what grows well and what doesn't ..... why not leap into the deep end!!

First, I planned and then helped my husband lay down gravel in several areas to make walking around the house easier and safer.




Then I decided to create a drystream garden. I'm still fiddling with it and adjusting things. I'll want to plant several more things in there soon.




This past late summer/early autumn I re-dug up another long garden bed. I had done it before and tried to plant some stuff there, but they didn't work. This time I decided to plant native bushes and so far so good. Early days yet, of course, but my hope is that the bushes will win over the weeds.

Now I'm embarking on a bulb garden. It's very late in the season, almost past the time for bulb flowers to bloom, but we'll see how it goes. My husband has started digging the area for me ... so I'm hoping to get the bulbs in this coming weekend and do a bit of landscaping.


He grows the fruit and veg ... I like getting creative with the soil, rocks and plants.


M in Oz

Rebecca, wonderful Owain called.
Allie, hope you get answers from the doctor.
Heather, I love to hear about your relationship with your grands.

The medical appointments for my sister are over until September 9. The immunotherapy she has been taking has caused secondary adrenal Insufficiency and hypothyroidism. The steroids cause her sleep/wake cycles to be totally out of whack. On Sunday she said she feels she is on borrowed time. We talked. I told her that really we all are on borrowed time and just have to make the most of each day. She agreed and she lives that philosophy. She is amazing. My heart is heavy. I hope we have lots more time together.

Betsy in NW WA