WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2023

kevrit wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Rita - I try to live my life with 'loving detachment'. I don't always succeed because I am an empath. Most spiritual principles require practice and discipline, and they get easier with practice. I am still practicing.

Love Heather, still recovering from her empathy with the poor pigeon. UK xxxxxxxx

I'm more of an "apath"

Although I feel more empathy toward animals than people.



But you took me by surprise. From your posts, I would have put you slightly closer to the apath end of the "empath---apath" scale than to the empath end. Of course, I don't know you in person.



M in Oz

I had to look up the difference between apath and empath. I think you are correct, I try to have empathy, I used to be good at that until the divorce, and some other things that happened during that time. That pushed me more toward apath. I am now trying to get my empathy back. Being on 3 depression/anxiety medications takes a lot of feeling away….

RVRita

Poerava14 wrote: »

Annie: You are so brave and compassionate to begin palliative care for your mother. I have had only amazing experiences with hospice care. I suggested it my friend Amy's husband in Poconos, but it was too late. She passed in the hospital ICU. 😥

Tina: My sympathies on the loss of your dear friend.

Rori
Colorado Foothills

grandmallie wrote: »

Debbie- all you have to do is dispute it with the credit card company and they will take care of the problem..thats what I did..only thing is they charged darn near 50.00 dollars for taxes and its coming from brooklyn n.y. to Connecticut through UPS.i won't get that back. But will hopefully get what I paid for the phone back..
Tina- so very sorry about your friend ,sure hope they find who hit him,and prosecute,vehicular manslaughter is no joke.
My prayers to him and his family.
Had a lovely dinner with my friends here tonight which is always nice.

exermom wrote: »

Worked then stopped at the church for my lector book since I’m supposed to lector Sat. and the book only goes up to Nov. 26. Anyway, the gal wasn’t there so I went to Sam’s. Needed gifts for the ceramic Christmas party, got some hors duerves (or however it’s spelled) cookie dough to make for Jess to take to the party (I just don’t feel like making it from scratch). Used our Sam’s bucks so only paid $33 for 3 party gifts, 4 boxes of hors duerves, container of cookie dough, and these cocoa bomb things that Jess might like. Went for my boob squeeze today. Then stopped at the Salvation Army (natch)

Tracey – we’re having our Christmas Eve on the 23rd, too, because Jess and Colby are flying out to Idaho on the 24th

Barbara – I don’t mind cleaning, but for some reason, and this I can’t explain, I just procrastinate making beds. But I do it and afterwards feel good about doing it So why do I procrastinate? I don’t know. It’s not like it’s a big deal

Ginny – I can’t help thinking that Denise has an “entitled” feeling. Also, I admit that there may not be anything to worry about, but I worry anyway (that’s a mother’s job, huh?). We know that Pete abused her cat, even tho neither of them admitted it. The SPCA told us when they seized the cat, he threw the cat to them. I do worry because someone who will abuse an animal is very likely to abuse a person. I also know that there’s nothing I can do about it. One of the signs of an abuser is that they separate their victim from their family. Is this what’s going on? I don’t know.

Annie – my car won’t start if I don’t have the key. Would your father get very upset if only YOU had the key? Regarding your daughter, remember “you only hurt the ones you love”

Well, we have all of the trees up (all nine). Vince has most of the lights on them. We started decorating outside this year early (like I’ve been suggesting we do for years). Now Vince is saying that he is going to try not having any commitments (MD appt. dentist appt) during Nov. and Dec. Guess he sees the wisdom in getting things done early. Also have most of the Christmas gift shopping done. Or at least I do, which is like 90% of the shopping.

Heather – how sad for that pigeon

Rita – a piece of cardboard works to keep the frost off? I think we have a cardboard sunshield that we don’t use (not sure why Vince insisted on keeping it) that I could probably use. I’m so not used to this frost on the windshield stuff. Really wish Hyundai would get their act together

Tina – I’m so sorry to read about your friend. Absolutely, go to the game. He would have wanted you to. I wouldn’t be surprised at all if he was at that game, too

Lisa – that pic of Egg and the fire looks like something out of Norman Rockwell

Oh Annie – how I wish I could be there to give you a real big hug. But since I can’t, just take the virtual one that I’m sending. My neighbor just had in-home hospice and it seemed to work out quite well for them. Of course, everyone is different

Joy – does your husband take uloric for his gout? Vince takes that

Rebecca – could there be a silver lining in your gum issue – you don’t want to eat????

They’re celebrating the birthdays at ceramics. To be honest, I really don’t care to. But I got some pigs in the blanket to take with me tonight. Vince will eat whatever is left over.

Michele NC

Rosemarie2972 wrote: »

Lisa: A husband who can make a picture-perfect fire. Now that is a great thing!

Margaret Turk: Your overdoer cousin in poor health reminds me that sometimes I work so hard to clean the house for Xmas that I am tired on Christmas day!

Kylia: I love your Christmas decorations ...hope Snowman is okay!

Heather: I love nature because it can be healing and spiritual. But the food chain idea is not my favorite
thing! Great about 2 bunches of flowers being delivered!

Carol: I use to cook Cornish hens regularly. I joined this de-cluttering Facebook group and realized I was not one to complain. I am cleaning out one storage room while others are cleaning out their parents homes while trying to work. I have more perspective now and am more grateful! Also mentioning that I am having a junk company come seems out of place. Many are cleaning by putting one bag a week into the trash or by loading carload on top of car load of junk. I will be doing this in the future now that I have room to move in the storage room.

Machka: I didn't know there was an empath/apath scale. I would probably be in the middle somewhere.
I didn't like some of Sharon Martin's ideas for saying no. I like some of the Wonder Cottage ideas better...
...I really appreciate you asking me, however\
....Thanks for thinking of me, unfortunately

Annie: Unfortunately my husband and I learned the difference between Palliative Care and Hospice as part of our journey. Most companies offer both. We did Palliative Care for some months and this was helpful because we could still treat any dehydration or pneumonia that arose. I feared Hospice might not want to treat these issues and my Husband was still alert and very interested in current events and the family and so forth. The Palliative care nurse was an NP and able to write out most of his scripts so doctor's visits stopped. When we did decide to do hospice it was very near the end and we were able to go to an inpatient hospice. Many people do outpatient hospice and speak highly of it.

Rebecca: An hour conversation every Monday...Wow! I don't know a lot of Moms receiving this from their adult son!

Vickie: I hope you feel better.

I have missed many of the episodes of All Creatures Great and Small. But I got interested and curious about the episode where Mrs Hall, played by Anna Madeley meets up with her estranged son. It is not an easy meeting. He is joining the military and war is possible. Anna Madeley does such an excellent job showing us the daily strain of having an estranged child.

Off to do meditation. I do Zoom meditation with a group every Tuesday evening!

Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia