WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2024

dlfk202000 · January 19

sh0tzz99 wrote: »

Rori-I’m on your route. I sent you a friend request so we can possibly meet up.

Debbi-I’ve tried lemon, lime and other enhancers to the water. It’s still water. Even tea can’t fool my brain.

I love the sponginess of the halloumi.

I made a fab butter chicken tonight for the mister to take to the desert with him this weekend. I don’t see the need for the heavy cream, so I left it out and I don’t miss it at all. The house smells wonderful!

Sleep well or good morning!

Tina in CA

Have you tried using seltzer/SodaStream with the fruit. I drink a lot of that during the summer.

Vickil57 · January 19

Lisa--The afghan is so pretty, I am thinking your daughter will love it. Glad to hear the VA is stepping up and taking care of things.
Annie--Glad you are having help and that you have a change to breathe.
Margaret--I saw your DH's obituray and that it was very nice. I pray all goes well and that the DB doesn't make problems for you.
Rosemarie--Sorry to hear you are having problems sleeping. I pray you feel better soon. Sometimes we just need to do nothing.
Rita--Thanks for sharing the unicorns and their stories. I think you did a fine time coloring them.
I am also one who has had trouble sleeping. I was up at 4:30 this morning and just gave up and got up and got ready for work. The dreams go in spells and are about the same thing most the time.
Well yesterday we went to Lincoln (which is 90 miles) to the care meeting for my friend. We checked the weather and it was to snow after 6pm, nothing much. Well the meeting went well as my friend acted like she understood a lot of what we were talking about. We did talk about what she wants done when she passes. It could be months or years but want some ideas so not at the last minute trying to figure it out. So now I have an idea about what I need to start working on for that. When we left the home it was starting to snow and by the time we got out of town the wind and snow was terrible. Ended up only going about 30-35 miles per hour. It took over 3 hours to get home, most the time watching the while and yellow lines on the highway and following the truck in front of us. Then at one point we were hit with a snow squall. The phones went off telling us about the time it hit. That was scary as we had to sit still and could not see anything and the car rocked from the wind. It lasted about 20 minutes and we were on our way again. About 20 miles from home saw 8 cars piled into each other and down the road another 4. We were very lucky and so glad to be home and safe. I do not remember being that scared in a long time. So glad to be home and safe.
Well take care ladies and be careful.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

Anniesquats100 · January 19

Vicki Wow glad you made it home safe! Such weather everywhere!

Annie in Delaware

pipcd34 · January 19

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dlfk202000 · January 19

anmlmzdiet wrote: »

Now for why I'm up so late/early; I have insomnia and, by extension, NES (Nighttime Eating Syndrome). Yesterday was a difficult day. I just couldn't get it together. Writing this helps; It keeps me occupied with something other than food. Actually, though, my real problem is that I am addicted to Dr. Pepper. My food numbers would come in reasonable if I could kick the soda, but it's so hard.

Well, If there is anyone up, drop me a note. I'll be here for a while.

Michelle in NV

just a suggestion- Get a SodaStream or buy seltzer and the Dr.Pepper syrup. You can control how much of the syrup you put in- slowly cut back on how much you add to each drink. Soon you may be able to just have a splash of it in your seltzer and still enjoy it.
My dh loves sodas but having the syrups lets him make it just the way he likes it

Debbie
Napa Valley,CA

1948CWB · January 19

cityjaneLondon · January 19

Wow, Vicki, that was some journey. Must have been terrifying. Glad you got home safe and sound.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

barbiecat · January 19

Tracey, I have always loved reading and have never been without a book to read. I didn't reach out to audio books until I was retired and walking the dogs for two hours every morning early. Listening to music was fine but I wanted something more. Someone suggested downloading an audio book from the library so I tried it. I was concerned that I wouldn't be able to keep track of what I was listening to so I started by listening to the audio version of a book I'd already read. The point of the audio book wasn't to take the place of a book but to allow me access to good book while walking or doing chores or doing exercise. Since then I've found that I can listen to a new book on audio. I started reading e books on my phone a few years ago when I had a serious back injury that required that I spend almost all day in bed. There is a limit to how much sleeping I could do and when my husband was in bed with me, I couldn't read in the dark so an e book on my phone was the answer. I still read books in bed at bedtime and in the bathroom. I don't ever just sit and read.

Michelle in NV, Welcome, I hope you will come back and join in the conversations. You have many more challenges than I do. I am retired and live with my fabulous husband two sweet dogs. I gave up coffee and soft drinks a few years ago when I started on MFP. Everything I do now started with baby steps. Two books that helped me acquire new habits were "Atomic Habits" by James Clear and "Better Than Before" by Gretchen Rubin. I read the books first then listened to them as audio books. I was fortunate to find them at my local public library.

I wake up several times every night to pee and usually go right back to sleep using some practices I learned in meditation. Lying quietly in bed is a treasured time of solitude for me.

Barbie in NW WA 💖 👣

sh0tzz99 · January 19

Vicki-Glad you made it back safely!

Debbie-I actually was just thinking about a soda stream. I'll look into it.

Tina in CA where it's really warm today (75F/23.9C). The storms come this weekend.

grandmallie · January 19

Vicki that happened to Tom and I when we were driving back from Florida.. and we were towing a car.By the time we pulled in our driveway it was a foot high and of course we had to get the dogs inside and out and shovel a path out the back for them. I was white knuckling it all the way from New Jersey.
Waiting to hear from Tracy how Miles is..poor little guy slept alot today..

dlfk202000 · January 19

sh0tzz99 wrote: »

Vicki-Glad you made it back safely!

Debbie-I actually was just thinking about a soda stream. I'll look into it.

Tina in CA where it's really warm today (75F/23.9C). The storms come this weekend.

We all love ours. Son likes adding juice-his favorite is cranberry juice. He likes it half and half.
If I add anything to mine, usually don't, it is just a splash.
Dh will drink it just plain over ice or half and half with juice(his favorite is grapefruit) but does like the syrups.

Suggestion- start looking at the thrift stores for the machines. We have bought a few, some even have the carbonater in the box, sealed brand new. You can get refills at Target or online- there is a new company that is cheaper than SodaStream but you can get from them too.
Our first one was from Freecycle and it was one of the best things we have received over the years

dlfk202000 · January 19

grandmallie wrote: »

Vicki that happened to Tom and I when we were driving back from Florida.. and we were towing a car.By the time we pulled in our driveway it was a foot high and of course we had to get the dogs inside and out and shovel a path out the back for them. I was white knuckling it all the way from New Jersey.
Waiting to hear from Tracy how Miles is..poor little guy slept alot today..

My Tom and I got stuck coming back from Reno, seeing his parents a few times. The worst was the one that took us 12 hrs to get home on what should have been 5-6 hrs. We were driving our little Toyota Corrolla .
I used to drive that by myself. Only scary part was being between two big semi's. Wasn't as bad when we got the Blazer. It was the small ones(this was back in '84) but that was bigger than the Toyota

exermom · January 20

Worked then the soup kitchen. We were going to prebowl for when we go to FL, but there were so many school buses there that there weren’t any lanes available so we left. Then went to pick up Loki’s prescription and stopped at the place where they modified the insert, only they close at 1 on Fridays and I got there at 1:30. Then went to the Salvation Army.

It’s so so windy, when I came out of the soup kitchen the wind almost blew me over. Didn't take my walk. Realized that my friend's (the one in Switzerland) is next Friday so I really want to get the prayer blanket done and sent to her, at least so that she has something to open when she gets out of surgery.

Sliced up the last loaf of sourdough. I’m not going to make any more right now

Michelle – welcome!

Annie – I hope your sister gets stuck at your place if she has to get stuck anywhere

Michele NC

Machka9 · January 20

auntiebk wrote: »

Machka “Give things a go ... if you don't like them, no worries, you don't have to continue. But if you discover you do like them ... fantastic!” Brava! You give me food for thought. Really lgreat insights on the “too hard basket” (that would be deep cleaning the house so I could tackle some improvements, paint, getting pictures up on the walls, rearrange living room furniture, et cetera et cetera et cetera). Likewise your “to help others” sounds kind, gentle and helpful, if only I can keep the judgemental tone out of my voice. How dast I judge others when I can not keep my own standards. SMH.

Barbara

Being the sounding board is one where we might not even need to say anything!

This happens all the time at work ...

We go to our "sounding board" person and ask if that person might be able to help us.
We explain the problem including the whole "on the one hand, I could do this, but on the other hand ... " and we include the "one thing I want to avoid is ... " and so on.

So far the "sounding board" person hasn't said much of anything except maybe murmurs of agreement or "OK, I get that".

We might give examples of things that have been tried on this, or in the past.

And then, all of a sudden it all comes clear! Oh! We could do this!

We thank the "sounding board" person for their help ... and the "sounding board" person murmurs, "Glad I could be of assistance", even though they haven't actually said anything. We all have a little laugh and go on our way.

Just simply talking it out to someone can be hugely beneficial. It can help us come up with the first steps, or maybe even the whole plan.

I actually did that with my husband last night. I was struggling with how to do something with my work project and talked to him about it over dinner. At one point he apologised because he didn't know what I was talking about, so he couldn't offer advice. That's OK ... no worries. He didn't need to know what I was talking about. By the end of dinner, I had sorted it out in my mind.

And people at work use me as their "sounding board" from time to time too.

Machka in Oz
PS. Not sure if "sounding board" is the right term, but you get what I mean.

Machka9 · January 20

On Reading ...

I haven't got into Audio Books and the idea doesn't appeal to me. But that's possibly because part of my job is listening to Webinars and Podcasts which I do for an hour or two almost every day at work.

E-books are better than I thought they'd be and I read an e-book from time to time.

But my preference is still nice solid tangible paper books.

I usually read in bed before going to sleep, but over the past month, I've been reading in my chair for an hour or so some days.

What luxury!! It just amazes me that I've actually got the time for that. I can actually spend an hour reading because I don't have pressing deadlines just now!! It has been almost a decade since I've had this luxury.

Yesterday afternoon I spent about 3 hours reading in my chair. At first, I kept thinking through the things I need/want to do looking for something with a deadline ... at last, when I realised there isn't anything, I was able to just relax and read.

Machka in Oz

Poerava14 · January 20

Snowflake1968 · January 20

Heather - I need to start my diary project using tiny bites. I actually gathered the diaries of Mom’s and Grammie’s that I want to look at and put them in a box together today.

Machka - “Too much basket” I like that.

3am wake ups - I had a “spell” this Fall that lasted a few weeks where I very frequently woke up at 3:07 it was very frustrating. Now I’m back to the wake up 3 or 4 times per night for no reason whatsoever.

Dreams - I have a couple of recurrent dreams. One is strange. The downtown core of City of Edmonton has a pedestrian system that allows you to walk a few blocks inside. I dream frequently that I’m in that pedestal system but it opens up to different locations, once it opened up to a cruise ship. 😂 in those dreams I’m with a former boss quite frequently as well. Thankfully, it’s one I liked a lot.

The other frequent dream is one of family gathering, in different places. My extended family, I don’t dream about my DH, girls or grands very often at all.

I had a very special lady in my life, she frequently comes to me in dreams if I’m trying to work out a problem.

Annie - do you have actual vultures there? 😳

Rita - that was my daughter, no not catholic school. A teacher that should not have been teaching anymore. My daughter in grade 2 was reading at a grade 5 level. This same teacher never had her read to her for assessments. I actually found that out when the principal did a sit in in her class and Lauryn was trying to read to her and she shut her down. She told the principal she didn’t need it, she knew she could read. He pointed out that everyone like to be acknowledged for the accomplishments.

I love your colouring of the unicorns.

Rebecca - it’s so nice to have sisters to chat with.
I love the chocolate meme.

Allie - sweet picture of you and Miles. It’s such a shame you can’t enjoy shows you would like because of Alfie. How is he going to handle Siri?

Vicki - so glad that you made it home safe and sound. I hate drives like that.

Barbie - my husband used audio books when he drove truck. Truck stops at the time (early 90’s) had a network that you could rent in Florida and return in Toronto. It was very useful because it wasn’t often they would get back to the same location quick enough.
This summer he also downloaded Audible to listen while he is mowing.

A bit whiny of me:

I am so grateful to everyone that has donated to Kaitlyn’s fund, it will be over 8K tonight when Raquel matches. I am so thankful to some of you wonderful ladies that have donated. It is so appreciated. The response has been overwhelming. So,
this may sound incredibly ungrateful and selfish. No one in either Rodger’s immediate family or mine has donated. I’m so incredibly disappointed, I know this would not be the case if our Dad’s were still alive. My brother, SIL and nephew all have jobs and could at least drop $10 in, just something to show they support her.
Rodger’s sister texted her and I yesterday saying how sorry she was she couldn’t afford anything, but she has thousands of dollars of craft supplies kicking around she could sell a mug and donate $10. Kaitlyn was at a loss as to what to say, she was much more eloquent in her response than I. I love that girl so much.
Then they all get angry when we don’t get home every year, when I don’t send a birthday or Christmas card, and they wonder why. I have given up expecting a birthday or Christmas card. No one in Rodger’s family wished him a happy birthday through text or FB. We even pay for his Mother’s phone including long distance and she didn’t call him. So I shouldn’t be surprised, but it still hurts.
I know that it’s selfish and wrong of me to be disappointed in them but I needed to say it out loud so I don’t explode in anger.
Thanks for listening ladies, you are all so appreciated.

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Machka - I think sounding board is the right term.
Also, I’m so happy to read that you have time to read. Since I’ve joined this group you have been going just full speed ahead.

I almost have my craft room back in order. A few more hours tomorrow should do it. I have to take a bunch of stuff to the thrift store. I am waiting for a bit though because I want to make sure the baskets and bins I’m getting rid of I won’t need as I continue other areas. They may be a while because I was able to sit mostly doing the craft room but won’t be able to for the rest.

Tracey in Edmonton

skuehn48 · January 20

cityjaneLondon · January 20

Tracey - People can be very disappointing. I would be annoyed too.

It is true though, that part of the skill of asking for something is being able to accept the answer NO as well as yes. Most people are not on a journey of self-improvement and personal growth. They are just living their own little lives and trying to get by. I also believe that they might think $10 isn't enough and they should give a big sum. We know that every penny counts, but they might not see it like that. I think it is hard to understand other people's motives. No doubt they have their reasons and it's usually about them, not you. As Barbie says, 'Don't take it personally.'
Thinking of others expands our lives and gives us joy. Contracting is a defense mechanism and usually means the person is miserable and not able to live in generosity.

I know you have a big heart. I try the exercise of sending 'loving-kindness' compassion to those who don't. They need it.

I find that helps me enormously when I am frustrated with people.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

anmlmzdiet · January 20

@LisaInArkansas
Thank you for inviting me into your conversations. I love giving advice and talking general smack. All can be a source of humor if you take a moment not to take yourself seriously.

@auntiebk
Oh, don't worry about missing me at 3:30AM. I'm sure I'll be up soon and wondering why no one else is up at that ungodly hour to talk to me, lol.

@dlfk202000
I do believe that we have one of those soda streams. My husband got it as a gift from his daughter. It's still in the box, though. I guess I'll have to crack open that box and try it. Actually, my husband can do it for me. It always tastes better that way. hehe

@barbiecat
I believe I'll come back for more. It seems most everyone here has some type of sleeping issue, be it periods of insomnia or terrifying dreams. When I do sleep, I am overwhelmed with nightmares. Lots of them are about my job. Of course, I am retired now, but it's only been eight months. Those dreams will lessen eventually.

@exermom
Thanks for saying, "Hi." All this attention makes me feel warm and gooey. I think I could get used to it.

@Snowflake1968

Families are complicated. I feel and understand your pain. I am the oldest of three. My younger siblings are deceased. My mother and I have struggled with our relationship for years. At this time, and she is getting up there in years, she has made comments about how she wishes one of my siblings had not died instead of me. She tells people she is writing me out of her will, which she hasn't done yet, and that my girls are to get nothing. She says she wants everything, including her doll collection, to go to her grandsons.

I still go and visit her, she doesn't know that I have family members jumping to tell me what she says. I'm kind to her, but factual. I don't play into her fantasies, and I think it bothers her. I can't change her, and no one can figure out why she continues to be this way. There's so much more I could say here, but suffice it to say, it's pretty unfair. Family? You'll never understand all of their motives. It's enough that I have my husband and children.

Michelle in NV

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