Nice/Romantic Gesture OR Trying Too Hard
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You've gotta be kidding me.
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I would have felt smothered and called off the date....0
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The flowers were nice....but maybe a little scaled down would have been better. Maybe just a mixed bouquet, or a single red rose. But if that's all he did, I don't think it was THAT overdone.
You know what's overdone? Dropping a long stem red rose at the door and then running away on the afternoon of the first date.....then giving a full bouqet later when coming over for the date.....showing up in a suit, renting a red mustang convertible for the evening.....having everything a surprise and having several plans made in case some didn't work out......making reservations at a nice restaurant....staring at the girl all night as if she is an angel that just fell from the sky....giving her excessive compliments all night...oye, yes this was a first date of mine.
I'm pretty cynical so I tried to shut up the voices in my head saying he was trying to hard, and tried to take it as nice gestures and trying really hard to be a gentlemen, but in retrospect he was trying way too hard. We ended up dating for two months, and one day he dumped me out of the blue, never to be heard from again.
I get the strong feeling that I was perhaps "the other woman", and it makes sense that someone might completely spoil and shower a girl with adoration if she's someone other than your long term girlfriend.0 -
Too much too soon?
Jesus, you would think he was asking her to be engaged or that he tried f*cking her. Hell, maybe he did *kitten* her on the first date ( you never know these days!) but the flowers are just too much.
This is a problem with some women. They are too picky. They b*tch, moan, and cry that they can't have a nice guy who is fond of them being thoughtful. Then when someone does something thoughtful like this, the b*tch, moan, and cry that it's too much.0 -
Yeah, I'm agreeing with the other posters who said there was something else. If she really liked him, the flowers would have been very cool. Something else put her off of him, and she's using that as an excuse!
I have one single friend in particular who complains she can't find a nice guy, but when she does go out with a nice one...he's "too nice" or some other stupid thing she picks out that is a deal breaker. I don't get it!
Man, it sure must suck to be a guy!!0 -
Honestly, if she liked him, it wouldn't have mattered if it was a dozen roses or if he showed up a half hour late, so high he could barely open his eyes.
Women will find something wrong with a man if they don't feel the "connection". If she was hot for him, NOTHING would have mattered.0 -
The answer to your question:
If it's a guy she finds attractive and wants to be with, it was a nice / romantic gesture.
If it's a guy she does not find attractive, he was trying too hard.
If a guy she finds attractive hits on her, it's flattering.
If a guy she does not find attractive hits on her, it's creepy.0 -
I bet you anything there was something else he said or did that made her decide she wasn't going to see him again. If she'd been REALLY into him, the flowers.... oh my.... the flowers..... "and he was stood there with this huge bunch of red roses.... oh my god, he's so sweet.... and his smile.... oh he's so cute..... the flowers... the flowers were amazing.... such a gentleman..... this could be The One....!!!"
And it's stuff like this that proves my point that women make dating difficult for men .... if she didn't like him for a reason other than the flowers, then why can't she just say the reason? Why does it have to be the flowers? Ladies, we all need to just be honest and clear and stop playing around. Say what you mean, shoot straight, and men will appreciate it.0 -
Chivalry is all but dead because women have kicked it in the balls, stabbed it in the heart, and left it bleeding on the sidewalk.0
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No offense, but your friend is a fool. Can I get that guy's number? Seriously... maybe he just really enjoyed their date and thought they had hit it off.0
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The roses were just an excuse She didn't want to go out with him again. It was just a romantic gesture, not a proposal of marriage. He probably walked into the florist, told her he wanted flowers for a date, and that's what they told him to get. He didn't know her well enough to get more personal, most likely.
I think it just wasn't meant to be.0 -
gosh what a f**king douche bag. flowers? seriously? who does this jerk think he is? i bet he even opened the car door for her. what a d!ckhead. man, some people. next thing you know he'll offer to pay for dinner. total *kitten*.0
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He just didn't know! He was trying to do something nice.
She should have accepted the flowers and then maybe on the third date or so told him that red roses are a bit over the top.
Poor guy!
This story is so sad!
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Poor guy. I'm sure he was just trying to do something nice. I didn't realize so many women were so judgmental, especially after only two dates.0
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Too much too soon?
Jesus, you would think he was asking her to be engaged or that he tried f*cking her. Hell, maybe he did *kitten* her on the first date ( you never know these days!) but the flowers are just too much.
This is a problem with some women. They are too picky. They b*tch, moan, and cry that they can't have a nice guy who is fond of them being thoughtful. Then when someone does something thoughtful like this, the b*tch, moan, and cry that it's too much.
So, tell us what you really think! :laugh:0 -
gosh what a f**king douche bag. flowers? seriously? who does this jerk think he is? i bet he even opened the car door for her. what a d!ckhead. man, some people. next thing you know he'll offer to pay for dinner. total *kitten*.
What do you want to bet that he opened the door for her when they went out the first time? F*cking a$sholes. Things like this is why women love bad boys.0 -
Well he better dang well better bring me flowers on the first date!!......expensive jewelery wouldnt hurt either......0
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Too much too soon?
Jesus, you would think he was asking her to be engaged or that he tried f*cking her. Hell, maybe he did *kitten* her on the first date ( you never know these days!) but the flowers are just too much.
This is a problem with some women. They are too picky. They b*tch, moan, and cry that they can't have a nice guy who is fond of them being thoughtful. Then when someone does something thoughtful like this, the b*tch, moan, and cry that it's too much.
So, tell us what you really think! :laugh:
Just did
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guys can't win, can they? If they are not hopelessly romatic, we call them cold and distant. If they make a sweet gesture like bringing us flowers they are stalkers who try to hard. Give the guy a break- he did something nice for you- accept the nice gesture and get over yourself!!
I agree... I mean if he was a total creeper I can see saying the roses were too much because you're looking for more reasons to say "OMG can you believe this guy....". But if that was the only reason she didn't want to go out with him I think its rude. If someone gives you a gift you should appreciate it, he obviously thought it was a sweet gesture and her dumping him over it has probably ruined him for the next woman. I love getting flowers and I'm not picky about what kind they are lol or when they are given.0 -
Too much too soon?
Jesus, you would think he was asking her to be engaged or that he tried f*cking her. Hell, maybe he did *kitten* her on the first date ( you never know these days!) but the flowers are just too much.
This is a problem with some women. They are too picky. They b*tch, moan, and cry that they can't have a nice guy who is fond of them being thoughtful. Then when someone does something thoughtful like this, the b*tch, moan, and cry that it's too much.
I agree but I still think the chick is a fool. It had to be something else. I know if I liked a guy and he made a gesture that I thought was "too much" then I would just tell him. I wouldn't totally cut the guy off.0 -
Geez.....poor guy..0
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My bf (ex now) sent me 12 roses on valentines day, we had only met the day before and on the 3rd date he told me he loved me but we were together for over a year before he turned into a total prick. My current bf who is amazing on the other hand heard I like hello kitty and on our first date bought me some hello kitty badges (somehow I was with him but I didn't spot him doing it) which was lovely! I think I have to agree, the right man the flowers would be wonderful, the wrong man its a good excuse (to herself) to give up on him.0
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No offense, but your friend is a fool. Can I get that guy's number? Seriously... maybe he just really enjoyed their date and thought they had hit it off.
Ha! Is it bad that's what I was thinking? :laugh:0 -
it totally depends on teh type of person you are. some people suck that *kitten* up; other don't. some people want the roses on the first date. some people dont give a *kitten*.
poor *kitten*...at least he f*cking tried...all these people who say "oh, oh i want this kind of guy or that kind of guy" sure do *kitten* on a kid when he's trying...
and if she really dug him, she would have explained that she felt like the flowers were too much and he would have backed off maybe...but who knows...she'll never know cause the poor *kitten* didnt get a chance. now if she wasnt digging him, she never should have gone on a second date with him.
*shrug* im just a turd b*tch today cause im working on three hours sleep.0 -
guys can't win, can they? If they are not hopelessly romatic, we call them cold and distant. If they make a sweet gesture like bringing us flowers they are stalkers who try to hard. Give the guy a break- he did something nice for you- accept the nice gesture and get over yourself!!
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Depends if your first consideration is having a partner who has a highly polished understanding of the nuances of social etiquette.
Me, I prefer someone who is kind.
Frankly I couldn't give a flying *kitten* if he bought a dozen red roses on the spur of the moment, when perhaps a few yellow carnations would have been more appropriate, or never bought me flowers.
I feel so sorry for single guys, women are so bloody difficult sometimes.
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I personally would be flattered if a guy was in to me enough to give me flowers on the 2nd date, I'd be more impressed if he showed up with them on the first... I think some women are too harsh and shouldnt judge based of 1 factor of a personality.
With that said I've dumped guys for less :brokenheart: but everyone has their own pet peeves.0 -
Too much too soon?
Jesus, you would think he was asking her to be engaged or that he tried f*cking her. Hell, maybe he did *kitten* her on the first date ( you never know these days!) but the flowers are just too much.
This is a problem with some women. They are too picky. They b*tch, moan, and cry that they can't have a nice guy who is fond of them being thoughtful. Then when someone does something thoughtful like this, the b*tch, moan, and cry that it's too much.
I agree but I still think the chick is a fool. It had to be something else. I know if I liked a guy and he made a gesture that I thought was "too much" then I would just tell him. I wouldn't totally cut the guy off.
I totally disagree. after 12 years of marraige things that when we first met i though were kinda cute albiet a little annoying now are major issues that were just under the surface..... Just sayin... you cant be sucked in see it for what it is.0 -
One day I was making my daughter dinner. It was pouring rain outside and I glanced out the back door. Someone was standing outside! I go to the door, and here it is this guy who took me out a few times who I had pretty much blew off. He was too nice. He was too touchy--always wanted to hold my hand or have his hand on my leg. urg.. I open the door and askedwhy he was there. He held out a bottle of cranberry juice and said "I came here to give you this" (I had been having health issues and the doctor was having me drink a lot of cranberry juice. I asked him if he wanted to cvome in. He said "no. Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you". He lived an hour away from me!!
I was so blown away by it in a creepy, then not so creepy way. Yeah, it was creepy, but I knew he was just trying to be sweet.
He's my husband of 13years. We rarely argue and have an awesome family, business, house, etc.
I'd take the roses happily.0 -
The answer to your question:
If it's a guy she finds attractive and wants to be with, it was a nice / romantic gesture.
If it's a guy she does not find attractive, he was trying too hard.
If a guy she finds attractive hits on her, it's flattering.
If a guy she does not find attractive hits on her, it's creepy.
It's sad.. but this ^^ is true.0
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