Can a Fit, Sexy Girl Like a Fat Guy?

My boyfriend (whom I'm madly in love with) is a little overweight and he had no problem getting me (and he says I'm slim and sexy, so hopefully I apply). You'd be surprised how women don't care about the body as much. But people who are "fat" and are gross are a no go; but if you're "fat" and well groomed and don't act like a slob, I think you're good to go!

How about guys going for "fat" girls? I feel like it is completely opposite in this situation. I have always been the "chubby girl with the cute face". I get attention from guys, but have a hard time finding a relationship. I'm the cute, funny fat friend haha I shouldn't laugh, because sometimes I wonder if I was skinny if I would have a boyfriend :-/

Haha we posted about this at the same time. :laugh: You're right on the money....I hit it off with many guys but never made it past a lot of first dates or hanging out. I think a lot of men, deep down, do not want to be seen with an overweight woman. It hurts....I went out with a guy a few times who said that I had such a pretty face, but more guys would want to date me if I lost weight. At least he was honest...

Oh hey there parallel life partners! Fat funny girl over here! Holler!

Yes! It's not all about looks, after all

(As long as he takes care of himself somewhat... I don't want someone who will be loading the house with super unhealthy foods. My will power isn't that good yet! :laugh: )

It's all in how they act.

There is a VERY chubby guy that's a friend with my husband (he was so big he looked pregnat no kidding) and he can't keep girls off him! He finally settled down and got married and she is so tiny I wonder if she eats!!

WTF! Next goal is to gain some fat!

Nobody wants to just admit that fat on our bodies is ugly to most of the world.
It's a sign that we do not have our act together.

And I would never want to be with any lady who found my rolls of fat sexy...lol
What breed of sicko is she?

if he is funny and self confident yes why not

believe me, people are more obsessed with their own body and often not notice imperfections on their partner's body

MY DH is overweight and I met him sight unseen after we "talked" for months. It just was not an issue with me then. Now I am afraid for his health and would like him to adapt healthy habits (being a healthy weight range will naturally follow suit).

I personally would not date a bodybuilder. I have seen to many players and men who ran out on their wives or long term girlfriends after acheiving their physique .... so they ruined it for all the good guys.

Strongmen on the other hand seemed to be more into their sport then into their looks.

Funny is the new sexy. I am happily married and crazy-in-love with my man. He's hands down the funniest person I know - He's not fat (but I am) and I'm pretty funny so I'm guessing it works either way.
I'll take funny over anything
and, look at every sit-com on TV - it started with the Flintstones - hot wife - fat bumbling hubby. other shows? Happy Days, King of Queens, According to Jim, Fresh Prince, the list goes on....
find a gal that loves you for you - not your body - even if you're rocking 6 pack abs, you won't be when you're 80

I dont mind dating someone a little overweight, but it would be hard for me to keep a healthy lifestyle if the person I'm with isnt doing the same. So I'd rather be with someone who enjoys working out and living healthier. Doesnt mean he has to be buff, just healthy in whatever form that is.

The one guy I knew in college who pulled the best ladies was a little over-weight. But his personality was one of the most dynamic I've seen in any walk of life. If I see him doing stand-up on Comedy Central I wouldn't be suprised, and if I see him on C-Span debating legislation I wouldn't be surprised.

It's more about personality that anything.

My husband is a big dude. I've dated skinny guys, ripped guys, average guys and big guys. It's the personality and compatibility that matters.

My fitness is MY thing. I don't need my husband to run with me any more than he needs me to play video games with him. We have plenty of common interests, goals, values, etc. We don't need to share everything. Like I said in another post, my goal is to win a trophy running a 5k. The closest goal he has to that is to snap my picture crossing that finish line. He can support me without running one step.

My parents were married 55 years, til death they did part. When my mom was in the hospital, puffy from medication, tubes and wires everywhere, you can tell that when my dad looked at her, he saw the gorgeous 19 year old he married, not the 73 year old in that bed. That's the kind of love I want, and the kind I have. The kind that lasts.

Yes, absolutely.

Absolutely! If a guy has great eyes, a great smile, a personality to match, and can make me laugh, that's all I need, regardless of size.

Sorry, but I would think it very difficult to be fit and date someone who is not. At some point the other person would feel like they were being looked down on all the time. Being physically fit is not just about the physical transformation, its about changing your attitude about your heath and that takes discipline. I know there are some people who may have a biological reason for being overweight, but I don't that's the case for most people. Physical fitness is lifestyle change, I can't imagine having a successful relationship with someone who could care less about about how important that is.