In love with flatmate, what to do?

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  • nymphis
    nymphis Posts: 59 Member
    I am curious of the result as well! Good luck! Hope it all works out for you! :flowerforyou:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    he packs you lunch and gives you chocolates as a nice surprise?!!? thats man speak for "please notice me" I am 90% sure of it. You are smart AND pretty and he clearly cares for you - so sit him down and tell him how you feel. If not you are going to regret wasting so much time!

    and then come back and tell us all how it went :)

    Do I just tell him that I have strong feelings for him or can I be dead honest and tell him how much I love him? Don't want to scare him off either

    I'm pretty sure he is as crazy about you as you are about him. He packs you lunch AND gives you chocolate!! That is soooo a boyfriend kind of thing to do. Stop being so chicken, and just tell him... before its too late!!
  • TeutonicKnight
    TeutonicKnight Posts: 367 Member
    Unless you are up front about how you feel, your feelings will be transparent, invisible.

    Be true to your heart, and he will be with his own. If he wants to just be friends, respect that.

    You never know where the friend path may lead. He will know you care deeply about him and it will change the course he is on forever. If he never knows, you will never be a part of the current course he is on.
  • peachy782
    peachy782 Posts: 3
    I used to have someone exactly like this (well not a flatmate but I worked with him...), he used to taxi me around even though he lived in the opposite direction, once when I got totally trashed at a friends party he put me in a taxi, carried me indoors, put me into bed after holding back my hair lol, and then went home again about 20mins away and paid for both taxi's, used to do things for me and buy me little things, and it was only a few years later he told me he really liked me but was intimidated and knew I liked someone else so never said anything!!
    You're a stunner go for it, he'd be mad not to like you and you'll always wonder what if!
    but do it in a light hearted way, flirt lots, wear a cute dress (unless you know he likes certain looks or has complimented on specific outfits) men generally prefer natural looks so don't make too much of an effort,
    Good luck and keep us posted!!
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    Bumping so I can see the outcome! This is such a sweet thread. Good luck!
  • CouleeRunner
    CouleeRunner Posts: 256 Member
    I would tell him. Good luck...hope all goes well for you.
  • Elle408
    Elle408 Posts: 500 Member
    Hope it turns out ok! And I agree with the majority to gently approach him. This is such a lovely thread, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I wish a guy would do lovely things like that for me! lol
  • loveliisa
    loveliisa Posts: 47
    Bump to see the outcome!

    This is exciting! good luck!! just be yourself, he already seems to like you anyway!
  • kgillikin
    kgillikin Posts: 191 Member
    bump just to follow :)
  • TurtleRunnerNC
    TurtleRunnerNC Posts: 751 Member
    Good luck
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    I can understand your reservation. Honestly, If I lived with someone and was going that far out of my way to do things for you, I think you'd already know by now how interested I was...there shouldn't be any confusion. Best wishes \m/
  • amayzingamanda
    amayzingamanda Posts: 254 Member
    bump to follow
  • mylovelyhumps
    mylovelyhumps Posts: 16 Member
    Hope it turns out ok! And I agree with the majority to gently approach him. This is such a lovely thread, made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside! I wish a guy would do lovely things like that for me! lol
    Same here. Keep in mind I am married. I agree with the ” making him dinner” be honest but subtle. Try not to sound desperate.
  • galvestongal
    galvestongal Posts: 186 Member
    bump to follow
  • lolaburga
    lolaburga Posts: 11
    Life is too short go for it...but make sure you prepare yourself if he doesn't feel the same. But I'm sure he does...just make sure that is what you truly want!!! Good Luck!!!!
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    If you make the first move, be prepared to make the date plans and other decisions in your relationship. Faint heart never won fair lady. I like decisiveness.

    Then again, in his mind, the packing lunches and stuff could be what he considered the first move. You could just ask him, "So, I'm not great at reading signals from guys, and I was wondering if all this great stuff you do for me is your way of saying you want to be involved romantically, or if you're just being a good friend. Because I've had feelings for you for a while now, but if you don't have feelings for me, I don't want to read too much into it."
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    I've never given a woman chocolate that I didn't want to see naked, just sayin.
  • mrsrice86
    mrsrice86 Posts: 79 Member
    Just go for it and ask him. Never knowing is worse than him saying "no"!

    Good luck :)
  • 3ur3ka
    3ur3ka Posts: 230 Member
    I'd just tell him, honey.

    Before anything ever happened between me and my now fiance, he used to do all sorts of stuff like that. Rides back and forth to work, while refusing gas money. He constantly took me out to eat after work. He'd come over and sit through movies that he hates. Lots of cutesy crap. I tried just blowing it off at first, but eventually I just told him that I was dumb over him. We've been together ever since.
  • bluestarlight19
    bluestarlight19 Posts: 419 Member
    I would go with the drunken kiss thing, but that is me :)
    bump Following...
  • littletiger97
    littletiger97 Posts: 49 Member
    Bump following also! Good luck with whatever you decide!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    I'm so afraid that he might reject me :ohwell:
    Rejection is part of life. If you can't learn to deal with it now, you will have a very difficult life ahead because it doesn't just happen one time.


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  • kwehkweh
    kwehkweh Posts: 70 Member
    What if you sent him a text message that just said "I'm happy with how we are now but I was wondering if you ever thought about being more than friends?" That way he doesn't feel pressured to react right then.
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    If you make the first move, be prepared to make the date plans and other decisions in your relationship. Faint heart never won fair lady. I like decisiveness.

    I don't necessarily agree with this. When I first started dating my husband, I initiated quite a bit of it. He was just shy and had some bad experiences with women.
  • u2fergus
    u2fergus Posts: 422 Member
    Bump to follow the story... :)

    Good luck! I think it sounds promising, but definitely don't come on too strong or it could get awkward. I wouldn't introduce the word "love" in this conversation, but you definitely should let him know you appreciate him and that you have feelings for him. (No need to say quite how strong those feelings are...) :)
  • laughingnome
    laughingnome Posts: 259 Member
    Bump just wanna know what happens..good luck
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    Yeah I want to know what happens. I hope its a love connection! :)
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    move out before you make a move...don't *kitten* where you sleep
  • StacyAS999
    StacyAS999 Posts: 107 Member
    I can't wait to see, either! I'm waiting anxiously and sending good luck!
  • amcmillan730
    amcmillan730 Posts: 591 Member
    awww... good luck!
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