True Love ...Does it exist??
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I believe it does, and when it does take it for all it's worth cause it's not gonna last.....0
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Yes it does. Been married to my soul mate 22 years & we're still stupidly happy. But I kissed a fair few frogs till I found my prince.
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I have slim hope... lol
I'm cautiously optimistic, but your slim hope sounds better.0 -
Depends on your definition of it. I don't believe in soulmates, or that there's one person for everyone, but I do believe in real, deep love. If I didn't, I wouldn't be getting married this summer!
I love my OH with all my heart, I don't want to even think about life without him. We've been together 9 years and he's pretty much part of me. Now, this doesn't mean nothing can go wrong (we broke up before for a few weeks, we've been through tough times), and it doesn't mean I can say for sure this will last forever. But how I feel now, that's real, true love to me and I'm going to enjoy it as long as I can.0 -
I've never been divorced but I understand what you're asking and yes I do believe in true love. I broke up with my ex in august but I still feel exactly the same about him now as I did the day I met him. I love him but he doesn't love me. I never needed to have sex with him to love him, he meant so much more to me than that.
He took me for granted and walked all over me, but I was still there. He triggered my relapse in my eating disorder and just made me feel completely worthless, I have no confidence so why I stayed I don't know really. I stuck with him when his health problems got worse and told him I would always be there, I meant it, but when I had a miscarriage and he wasn't there for me, I couldn't deal with any of it anymore.
I regret walking away but he didn't exactly put up much of a fight for me, tells me everything really. It hurts so much, and everyone's telling me I should be over it by now but I'm not. I believe he is my soulmate, it's just hard when he doesn't act like he cares.
I'm a christian and I believe god has someone for everyone, I understand not everyone will agree with me but it's what I believe. It hurts I know, but have faith. We never know what the future may hold.0 -
I'm really sorry to hear about your divorce and all the trouble you've had. I have been divorced but in my case it was a good thing and thankfully, there were no kids to think about. Since then, I have met my soul mate. He also had a messy divorce to deal with before we could be together but we both agree its all worth it. When you find the right person, the relationship isnt hard - its easy, supportive and happy.
In the past all my relationship challenges have come from within the relationship but not anymore... Our only challenges now are from the world outside and we face them together - stronger to be two rather than one. My best friend (girlfriend) has also experienced this. She was married for 11 years with two little boys but she had to leave when she realised that her husbands treatment of her was a bad influence on the kids. It was the most terrifying thing she ever had to do to go it alone but since then she has also met her soulmate and she swears that leaving the Ex was the best thing she could have ever done.
Both my best friend, my husband and I all had rough roads to get to where we are but we all agree that every moment of pain was worth it... Its a waste of your life to stay in a unhappy relationship and it will only impact badly on you, your partner and your children in the long run. Don't those around you deserve to have a happy, fulfilled you rather than a miserable, resentful, trapped person?0 -
You have to love yourself first.
Oh... And this ^^^ is very true! I often think that life is a journey and everything that happens is a challenge you have to overcome before you can move up to the next 'level' of happiness... You must learn about who you are and what you want and learn to love yourself along this journey too... Self acceptance and self belief are an ongoing lesson but the more you learn, the further you go... Having a supportive, equal and loving relationship is something you have to grow to be able to accept - if your not a whole person when you go into it, then it will be much harder to deal with once your there. I know that sounds weird but I see so many relationships wherein one, or both, people are actually sabotaging this situation through their own insecurities... Dont underestimate how important you and your personal health (physical, mental and emotional) are to a successful partnership!
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A big YES! I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and we still act like we are in the "honeymoon period" a lot of the time. Our friends just don't understand it actually, but then again...some of their marriages are not going great...:(
Saying that, a lot of people mistake what love actually is. Its not about rescuing each other like a damsel in distress, it is not a fairy tale where life suddenly get better and nothing ever goes wrong again, its not about the other person knowing everything you like or reading your mind.
Its about sticking together as one united front. Its about being happy, rather then being right all the time. Its about knowing the other person enough to balance each other out when they need it. Its about taking the time to look at them and still see the good things that made you love them in the first place. Its about doing something nice for them EVERYDAY.I also believe people get complacent with each other and just stop trying. They stop having consideration for each other and its all "me me me". You cant do that. That's where resentment builds.
We have been through some tough times but losing any love for each other was never part of it. I truly believe when your down and out, that's when you will see what peoples true personalities and loyalty. Thank goodness life is going great for many years now, but I would have never made it without him and I am eternally grateful. I remember that almost every day.
It takes work but it pays off in the end. 0 -
yes, im on my second marriage and its finally the real thing) 0
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When most people say "true love" they tend to mean "romantic love" ~ agape exclusively as if it is the only type. I guess it is understandable as it is the notion of love which has made its way into the public consciousness in 20th century and has taken root.
However I think a relationship cannot survive over the long term if it is based on romantic love only without incorporating and balancing other types: friendship ~ philipia and sexual ~ eros.
Over time the combination of those three types of love change but a solid relationship will incorporate all three.
So does true love exist?
Yes, but not the Hollywood, romanticised version of it...0 -
I thought it did once, but i was wrong0
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When most people say "true love" they tend to mean "romantic love" ~ agape exclusively as if it is the only type. I guess it is understandable as it is the notion of love which has made its way into the public consciousness in 20th century and has taken root.
However I think a relationship cannot survive over the long term if it is based on romantic love only without incorporating and balancing other types: friendship ~ philipia and sexual ~ eros.
Over time the combination of those three types of love change but a solid relationship will incorporate all three.
So does true love exist?
Yes, but not the Hollywood, romanticised version of it...
This too. ^^^
I also believe passion has a huge play in why women don't feel like they are "in love". Everyone wants to feel desired and wants to be swept off their feet. My husband has been this way with me sometimes but it is not logical to think it would be an every day event. The more you ask for it, the less they want to do it. Just saying...0 -
I know true love exists, I am going threw a divorce right now also. My ex-husband asked for one two months after I had his first son. Broke my heart but its what he wanted so I let it go and moved forward. We've been separated since Jan,09. Like I explained to him he wanted this he can pay for it I'm not. I'll keep moving on with my life and take care of my boys.0
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it exists.. you just need to find that right person.. a friend and lover , a supporter and someone who respects you as well as you respect them. you will need to fully let go of your old baggage and start fresh and realize the new person is not the old person.. everyone is different and trust in your feelings0
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it exists.. you just need to find that right person.. a friend and lover , a supporter and someone who respects you as well as you respect them. you will need to fully let go of your old baggage and start fresh and realize the new person is not the old person.. everyone is different and trust in your feelings
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A big YES! I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and we still act like we are in the "honeymoon period" a lot of the time. Our friends just don't understand it actually, but then again...some of their marriages are not going great...:(
Saying that, a lot of people mistake what love actually is. Its not about rescuing each other like a damsel in distress, it is not a fairy tale where life suddenly get better and nothing ever goes wrong again, its not about the other person knowing everything you like or reading your mind.
Its about sticking together as one united front. Its about being happy, rather then being right all the time. Its about knowing the other person enough to balance each other out when they need it. Its about taking the time to look at them and still see the good things that made you love them in the first place. Its about doing something nice for them EVERYDAY.I also believe people get complacent with each other and just stop trying. They stop having consideration for each other and its all "me me me". You cant do that. That's where resentment builds.
We have been through some tough times but losing any love for each other was never part of it. I truly believe when your down and out, that's when you will see what peoples true personalities and loyalty. Thank goodness life is going great for many years now, but I would have never made it without him and I am eternally grateful. I remember that almost every day.
It takes work but it pays off in the end.
^^^ THIS .. Is what I believe true love should be all about !
I just haven't found it yet !0 -
I found my true love0
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Haven't made up my mind on this one yet. Back to my latte with real sugar now. Happy place.
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yup its out there.
my husband is HORIBLE with our children and a TOTALE *kitten* but i love him any way........wish i could explain it...realy realy do...
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Yes, it exists.0
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Sure it does. Whenever you go through any storm, you see the world through tinted glasses. I recommend focusing on completing this necessary severance in your life, heal your life and that of your kids --- then I think you can see the world more clearly. Divorce is hard... I have seen it before though thankfully, I am part of one of those happy couples you speak of and count myself blessed. The key is here, recovery. It will take some time but you can make it through it. Get through the storm and you will see things far more clearly. Best wishes to you and your children. 0
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Does true love exist yes it does I have been with my husband for 28 years and we have been through so much together. We are not only husband and wife but best friends. Just be patient the right person is out there for you and dont ever settle for less.0
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Believe it when i see it...that's if i ever see or meet it!!0
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I was divorced twice by same man who wants me back again ! No I'm not that crazy ! I did however find my soulmate and was forever feeling like it was just too good to be true. We were together almost six years when he died sept. 24 , 2008 ! I still am in love and wonder if I'll ever find this again.0
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I've experienced "true" love several times. I don't think that just because the relationship didn't work out that our love wasn't true. I've loved a lot of men in my life. It was always a little different with each one. I'm thankful for the capacity to have those experiences with them. I don't regret it or miss it. It'll come around again. It always does.0
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I Me, Myself & I and I sleep like a baby after-TyTy 0
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I thought it was bull**** until I found my significant other. We're super compatible and he's my best friend. I still get butterflies, 4 years later.0
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If you are with the person God made for you, then yes, for sure true love exists.
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These replys are so sweet, someone pass me a tissue, i feel a tear running down my cheek-TyTy0
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Not in my world !0
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